There's a very simple mindset shift that I want you to consider this week: I have to, versus, I get to.
 
When you have to do something, there’s a feeling of being forced and resistance can arise. 
 
When you get to, you’re in charge. You have the power of choice.
 
I hear you- you may say, “but I have to work, I have to pay bills.” Well, you don’t really. It’s just that the alternative is not something you’d like to experience.
 
If you can’t get behind it with bills, go to something easier. For example, a client said she had to go to a music recital and wasn’t looking forward to it. The I get to became, “I get to support my child which will make them happy, and I can even use the time to experience being fully present and focusing on the positive.
 
That simple shift changed everything. My client was more present, more grounded, and even enjoyed herself. She found herself silently cheering on the kids who couldn’t play well, rather than judging them and wishing she was elsewhere.
 
For most people, the, I have to, started in childhood- having to go to school and having to conform to what the adults said. But you get to choose now. So, if the I get to ever feels like too much of a stretch, switch to, “I choose to.”

Talk to your inner child if you need and give them the freedom to simply play and have fun. Then give yourself that gift as well. Reframe the I have to when you can, as the I get to allows for greater freedom and flow. 
 
What do you get to do today that could bring you more joy? Let that be your focus.

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In a two-day span on YouTube, I had to sit through one ad demonizing hot water and how awful it is for your body, and the next day, an ad for the benefits of drinking hot water. All I could do was laugh. 
 
It's insanity isn't it? “Don't do this, you're going to die!” Simultaneously with, “If you don't do it, you're going to die!” It's absolutely ridiculous! 
 
It's a way to control by using fear and it can keep us stuck in freeze and terror. Then we stop trusting ourselves and we look externally for more answers. And that to me is the unacceptable part. 
 
Do not give away your sovereignty. Do not give away your truth.
 
You will always find things in support of, or against, the very thing you're wondering about. 
 
It comes down to tapping into your gut and finding your inner truth regardless of what any study or so-called expert says. Because everyone has a bias.
 
YOU are your best authority. Always remember that!


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I'm reading a book right now by Abby Jimenez and one of the main characters repeatedly says, Grace costs you nothing.

I love the simplicity of that message- Grace costs you nothing.
 
Think about it: if you’re stuck in traffic and someone cuts you off, you can scream at them, or you can have the Grace to let it go. If you're in a mood and someone says something upsetting, you could react and lash out, or you can give them Grace—recognizing that everyone is doing the best they can right now.
 
You can also give yourself Grace, rather than judgment. Give yourself the Grace to move at your own pace, to make mistakes, to come at things with a beginner’s mindset, instead of thinking you should know it all and be perfect.
 
I was in an online workshop yesterday and the sound kept disappearing. I watched other people in the chat get really mad and upset by the technical issues. The girl in charge was very apologetic and clearly working to fix it. Because I’d been immersed in the resonance of Grace the past few days, without even trying, I was able to hold a space of Grace. I kept myself grounded and even found the technical issues amusing.
 
In that state of Grace, I trusted that the information I needed was there in the silence and I’d get it verbally if and when the time was right. Staying in a state of Grace felt like giving myself a gift.
 
Grace costs you nothing, and yet, it gives so very much. Open your heart to it. Let Grace expand you, soften you, and move through you.
 
With all the chaos in the world right now, choosing to walk with grace—for yourself and for others—is profoundly powerful. It's transformative. It's uplifting. Be Grace.
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