We have a spiral staircase in our backyard and a few weeks ago, a little brown bird decided that that staircase was its mortal enemy. Throughout the day every day, it would loudly dive bomb the staircase and strike it. After over a week of this, I realized what a brilliant metaphor he was showing me by the fact that, in his perception, that staircase was bad, and he needed to attack it.

How many times do we see something as wrong or upsetting or bad and we focus all our attention and negative thoughts towards that thing. We attack it over and over. But those attack thoughts are the playground of the negative ego and only keep the thing that we think is the enemy in the forefront of our mind, so that we're not able to see anything else. It becomes an, “us versus them.” Which amplifies the lie of separation that the negative ego wants us to believe.
 
All it takes -and I completely get that sometimes the simplicity about what I'm about to say is not always easy- is a shift in perception. What if you could choose to release that which has become your enemy and see it as simply a neutral thing?
 
As this realization hit, A Course in Miracles called out from my bookshelf, and I found 2 lines that spoke to me that I started repeating: “I am determined to see things differently. I could see peace instead of this.”
 
Without a change in perception, our attack thoughts attack our own peace of mind, and ourselves. We become separate from our true beingness, who we really are outside of our body.
 
But we are more. Our truer self is infinite light.
 
Now, as we release our attack thoughts, we may also need to do an emotional release. Releasing the realness of the rage or grief or frustration that that thing or person is bringing up in us.
 
But ultimately, it’s not about the thing or person. It’s our continued negative focus on it that’s causing our distress.
 
Again, I get it, there are certain issues and people where this isn’t easy. I know that very well in my own reality. And simultaneously, I know that as I release my own feelings of attack and work through my emotions, attack energy can dissipate and ultimately disappear.
 
I began forgiving and releasing myself from the upsetting situation. I kept choosing peace instead.
 
After a couple days of this, the little bird disappeared and hasn’t come back. Giving myself freedom from my negative ego attack thoughts gave him the freedom he needed as well.
 
Choice is within your power. To set yourself free, release your attack thoughts and choose peace instead.

Let’s talk about the power of violet light.
 
Violet light is wonderfully protective and powerful. It negates and eradicates negativity.
 
If you're going into a situation and you're feeling that it might be overwhelming or there's a lot of chaos or negative people, shield yourself in violet. Fill and surround yourself in violet light.
 
If I’m traveling, I fill and surround my luggage, my purse, and my wallet in violet light. Every day I surround my car in violet light. And to show confirmation of its power, the other night, there was a drunk driver that hit some cars on our street and our car was fine. I absolutely know it was because the car was surrounded in a bubble of violet light. Talk about a validation!
 
Sometimes I mix violet with gold to raise the resonance to a Divine frequency for myself or something material again, such as the house, the car, or my purse.
 
If there's a stuck, negative, or limiting energy within yourself, saturate it with violet. If there's a blockage that you feel emotionally or mentally, saturate it with violet. And then follow with some beautiful gold. The violet will help clear the stuck energy and then the gold will anchor in a Divine frequency.
 
If you’re having a conflict some with someone, see and imagine the space between both of you being filled with violet light. Obviously you can't control them or how they respond, but you can fill the space between you both with violet, clearing any negative energy out of the communication and connection.
 
Violet light isn’t a one and done, so you’ll need to update it daily, or possibly a few times throughout the day.

There's a reason our crown chakras are violet- it connects us to the Divine and to our Higher Selves.

Think of St. Germain and his Violet Flame. It's transformative. 
 
Now, violet can be a tough color to imagine, so sometimes I will just go with a deeper purple with the intention that it's violet. Sometimes I can actually imagine violet, which is a lighter purple. It may not always be the easiest color to imagine, which is why sometimes I'll just start with a deep purple, and I'll imagine lightening it a bit. And it's all intention anyway. So, if I'm asking for violet light but I'm not able to quite tap into how that looks, it's still my intention that it's violet light.
 
Play with it because there's no end to how you can utilize the power of that color.  


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Dr. Nicole LePera talked about the asset of aging on Instagram, and I want to address it as well for anybody who feels that they are behind or not matching with what their peers are doing.
 
When I was in college, I assumed I would be married with kids by the time I turned 30. That was the goal. In fact, all my girlfriends had that goal. I was the “old maid” of the group who said I wanted to wait until 29. That cracks me up to see it in print now because I still have a napkin we all wrote on. In my worldview and what I saw around me, that was my perception of what I most wanted.
 
But as we know, life happens, perspectives shift, and things don’t always go according to our plans.
 
In my 20's I had other priorities. Personal growth and a deeper connection to myself became where I put my energy.
 
I still wasn’t ready for the life I imagined in my 30's, yet I felt the pressure of time and societal norms. I’m so grateful that in spite of that, I didn’t succumb to outside pressure because I was in a terribly codependent relationship that I needed to leave, while learning how to love myself and find my personal power and truths.
 
I also recognized that I’m a late bloomer. My cadence and my timing is my own and I didn’t judge that. That doesn’t mean I wasn’t sad at times or didn’t have moments of comparison, but I kept coming back to my self-trust and self-love.
 
I met my husband after I turned 40. I wouldn't have been ready for this kind of love earlier in my life. I had to clear out the codependence, rage, and my own emotional issues. I had to expand into a greater version of myself who could be in a true partnership.
 
I started my business when I was 43. Again, I needed to build confidence in myself and my abilities to be able to branch out. Along the way, I had to release other dreams of how I had always imagined my life to be. But even though some of that release was extremely painful, I have total peace and acceptance at how things have unfolded.
 
With a burst of creativity, I wrote a first draft of a book at age 53 and now at age 55, I'm finishing editing to publish that book.
 
Time is an illusion. It's never too late. You are not behind. The only one with whom your timing matters is with your own Soul.
 
Don’t allow your own negative ego or your family or society tell you you’re less than or not good enough because your timeline is different than others.  Don’t do anything for the sake of outward appearances. Pursue what’s right for YOU.
 
That might mean marriage in your 20's, or maybe marriage in your 50's. Or not at all! That might mean career as a priority, or maybe family is your priority. There’s no right or wrong, as long as you’re true to yourself.
 
We can try to control our lives (which never works btw) and want things to turn out a certain way, but your Higher Self and Soul know your perfect timing. As hard as it can be, and I know personally that it is, the more you lean back and trust, and the more you're in the flow, the more things elegantly manifest for you.
 
Trust your timing. Do what makes you happy. Follow your dreams. It's never too late!