I’ve been hearing from so many of you that you’re in a crisis and that you’re having trouble coping.
 
A crisis can be mental, spiritual, emotional, or physical. It’s when nothing you do is working, when everything seems to be falling apart, and when your stress levels are off the chart.
 
For those in that situation, I made a new YouTube video taking you through many rounds of EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique, also known as Tapping) to release the crisis and anchor you to your Truer Self on the other side of crisis.

Some of what I say during the sequence you may not be feeling at the moment, but it might be present in your body. If some of my words really don’t resonate, then change them.

 If you aren't in a crisis, save this blog as a reminder for if/when you do need help.


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I'm a really good problem solver. It's why I love teaching you solutions and giving you tools. I think it's incredibly empowering to shift whatever’s going on in one's experience of reality.
 
What I'm not so great at, is sitting in the discomfort when things aren't clear. When I can't solve an issue. When an emotion or aspect of myself simply needs to be experienced, rather than moved through.
 
That’s tough for me. And I know I’m not alone in this.
 
It can be disconcerting to not figure out what’s going on energetically. Yet sometimes, the resolution can only come from getting out of the mind (the figuring out) and into the body, in the stillness with what is, rather than what we want it to be.
 
My inner child has been very vocal with her fears lately. And most days, I simply need to sit with and hold her. Do I want to fix the situation/her? Oh totally! However, I don’t want to train my subconscious that she (me) is broken when she simply needs to be held and supported. She needs to know I’m here, listening.
 
It’s not always the inner child being vocal, sometimes it’s an emotion such as sadness or anger that keeps taking your attention. Or your inner adolescent feeling rebellious.
 
So, if you've been in a similar situation lately or next time you are, put your hands over your heart. Breathe into your heart space for a moment. Settle your consciousness there.
 
Be present with yourself. Presence begins the healing process.
 
Keep breathing and hold space for yourself with kindness and compassion.
 
Then ask yourself what you most need. And don't expect that the answer will be to do something. Maybe what you must need is to take a walk, or just breathe more, or allow the discomfort and the feelings. Maybe what you most need is to be present with the parts of yourself that feel the angst.
 
If it feels appropriate, ask what it's trying to tell you. And again, maybe what it's most trying to tell you is just that it needs to be heard. That your feelings need to be validated in a way that they weren't validated when you were a child. Maybe parts of you simply need to be honored because they exist. All parts of you are valuable, even the parts that you would deem unworthy or as holding too much pain.
 
As you breathe into your heart, hold space for all those parts to be exactly as they are in the moment. Not trying to fix them or make them better, just letting them know that they're all lovable.
 
As I said earlier, easier said than done, but the more I've done that for myself, the more profound the changes are after allowing what is versus trying to fix myself.
 
To me, that’s the very definition of grace. Give yourself that grace as well.

With so many people on their phones all the time, we've stopped seeing the world. And when we do look up, we see what our belief system shows us. But is that really seeing or simply being aware of things that support our expectations?
 
We need a reset to see from a fresh perspective.
 
Sarah Tacy taught me the beginning part of this exercise in presence. It builds upon techniques I've shared before. 

​Right now, really see your surroundings from a neutral perspective, without story. Look around your room. What do the walls look like? Pause and notice the walls. Now notice something you like in your room. Really look at it and feel the feelings surrounding that item.
 
If you’re at work and nothing makes you smile in your environment, stick with what’s neutral.
 
If you have a window, look outside. Do you see nature? If not can you imagine nature? Observe nature for a moment. There’s no story with nature. The Oak tree isn’t hoping it becomes an Oak. The flowers live their individual purpose and beauty.
 
If you can, step outside and breathe the air. Notice if it's hot or cool and if there's a breeze. Look at the leaves if there are trees around you, or a flower, or the grass. Maybe it's more of a desert environment and you see a lot of brown. Calibrate yourself to nature, if and when you can.
 
Regardless of whether you’re outside or at your desk, now feel your feet on the ground. Take a moment to feel your body. Feel the temperature in the room. Pause for a moment and listen to the sounds around you.
 
Engaging the senses further enhances your presence and grounding, in addition to calming your nervous system. When we're on devices a lot, we stop tuning into our environment. We stopped seeing the little miracles that could be there. But if you attune yourself to seeing more, not only will you become more present, but you’ll actually see more that there is to see.
 
This week, step out of the stories, step into gentle neutral observation, and notice whole new worlds opening to you. Your Future Self thanks you.


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