If I’ve done my job in 2024 (highlighted words will bring you to a previous blog), you realize that you have the power to change your perception to create greater peace and to make new choices and goals.
 
You’re empowering yourself by using violet light, by knowing powerful words of support, and by using a technique to see the truth of another’s character.
 
You’re creating greater emotional cognizance by allowing vs. fixing, responding rather than reacting, and recalibrating after major changes.
 
You remember you now have a process for calming anxiety and fear, the antidote to anxiety, as well as an EFT script to alleviate a crisis.
 
You’re beginning to release self-judgment and your judgments of others to create a more beautiful reality.
 
You’re experiencing greater presence by using techniques to calm your nervous system and engage your senses.
 
You’re raising your resonance with an appreciation meditation, understanding that rest is love, and doing inner child healing.
 
You recognize that time is an illusion, and that you can make a powerful decision in how you see the world.
 
You’re more of a conduit for The Light and owning the power of your light to connect with your Soul.
 
And you see the truth that even through a loss, the love never dies.
 
May your 2024 end magically!! See you again in 2025!

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It’s that time of year again; time to find your word for 2025!
 
For those of you who are new to my blogs, this is based on a John Gordon blog I read over a decade ago. In it, he suggested picking one word for the upcoming year, versus creating resolutions that only make you feel badly if you can’t fulfill them.
 
In his words, “just one word that gives meaning, mission, passion and purpose. One word that will help me be my best.”

I love this idea and have been using it ever since.
 
For those who picked a word for 2024, was it successful? Did it help you grow and become more? Celebrate yourself if so. If not and you forgot about it, don’t beat yourself up. This isn’t something to add stress, it’s something to inspire you and help you create your reality.   
 
Your word(s) can be anything that you’re wanting to infuse into 2025: inner peace, self-actualization, fun, compassion, self-love, play, creative expression, being, surrender, stillness - the list is endless.
 
Make sure the word is actionable and not just a concept. 

I’ve made that mistake, lol. Twice I chose a word that I wanted to infuse into my year, but the word wasn’t easy to focus on daily. However, the year I choose “wisdom,” that was a perfect choice for me. Daily I could ask if the choices I was making were wise or not. I still use the word “wisdom’ constantly as a touch stone, as using it continually for a year had a profound effect on how I operate in the world.
 
Same with the year “self-love” was my word. I could easily check if my choices were loving towards myself, or discounting of what I needed.
 
So, sit with it. There are no wrong answers regarding your word; it’s very personal. Sometimes you’ll choose it, and sometimes it chooses you. Either way, you’ll know. You’ll feel in your gut that that word is the word for you.
 
And no pressure by the way, it doesn’t have to be perfect! You may even change it a couple times until you find the right fit; I have.

Once you have your word, write it in big letters somewhere that you’ll read it each day. And not just a passing glance, but truly, “how can I bring this word into action today?” 
 
Next, see that word infused throughout 2025. Imagine a calendar and visualize your word woven throughout the days and months. Imagine that word opening you up to possibilities, insights, changes, and personal growth. 

As you focus on it daily or weekly, you’ll find that you may be led to experiences, books, and talks etc., that are exactly what you need to learn and hear to help you grow and have more of that word in your reality. 
 
If you want, share your word with me and I’ll support you in your growth. 
 
Happy choosing and may your word transform your 2025 in extraordinary ways!!!


 

We talked about judgments and judging others two weeks ago, now how about healing self-judgment?
 
As a reminder, the problem with judgments, are that judgments separate.
 
Judgments separate you from the very thing you want. Judgments create a chasm, rather than a bridge.
 
I’m sure you’ve judged yourself; I sure have. I caught myself in the shower the other morning having the thoughts of, “Why did I do it that way? I knew better! I should’ve done it this other way.” Then fuming over my “mistake.”
 
That might be seemingly innocuous, but that self-judgment, that’s creating a rift between me and self-love. Its allowing a spiral of darker thoughts to enter. At its darkest, some of you may devolve into, “I’m so stupid. What’s wrong with me?” If you go to those thoughts, those words stem from deep shame. That shame needs to be addressed and released.
 
As I said two weeks ago, catching those thoughts is step one, and the quicker the better. You can’t change what you’re unaware of. When you catch them, say “cancel/clear” to delete the energy.
 
Since judgments separate, what you need is connection. Connection to yourself. Take a deep breath and feel into your body. As you focus on your breathing, you can even put your hands over your heart since the disconnect is rooted here. Breathe: do an even count of breaths in and out.
 
This will begin to calm your system. Then ground yourself to the planet, in present time. Feel your feet on the ground. Become aware of and feel your body. Imagine the energy at your tailbone heading downward through the ground, to hook you deep into the planet.
 
Center your energy within yourself and breathe in love and compassion. Breathe in and speak words of forgiveness. For example, “I forgive myself for this thought. I forgive and release my self-judgment.”
 
Then move to what you’re choosing instead and since you were judging yourself, change that to, “I love and accept myself, exactly as I am.”
 
Notice if your inner critic pipes up as you say that. Can you silence her/him and activate your inner coach instead who says, “You’re good. You got this!”
 
It may not be easy at first but remember, the critic is never satisfied. That's its role- it judges, judges, judges. But have you ever found benefit from its barrage of negativity? No, because there’s nothing constructive about it. Whereas an inner coach can encourage and support you. You may not sense them yet so activate them. Invite them to speak and cheer you on.
 
The whole process of releasing self-judgment doesn’t have to take long and it’s hugely effective! I did this myself yesterday while driving. A really nasty, “what’s wrong with me” thought popped in and it felt so awful that I immediately said, “cancel clear” and then did the steps above.
 
Let’s look at some specifics:
If you're judging yourself for what you ate, how about instead, “It's safe for me to feel pleasure with food. It's safe for me to honor what my body needs.”
 
If you're feeling judgment because you didn't get through your to-do list, how about, “There’s plenty of time for me to do everything I need. I can move at a pace that is supportive of my system.”
 
If you’re judging yourself because you feel you’re not doing enough, first of all, that’s a big issue, reflective of competition in the Patriarchal paradigm we’re living in now. Especially for women. But that level of competition serves no purpose and only makes you exhaust yourself and again, separates you from self-care and self-acceptance. So, how about, “I’m enough. I do enough. Life is meant to be enjoyed, rather than being a race. It’s safe for me to slow down and rest when I need.”
 
Some of these may be difficult and feel like just words to start, but think of the phrase, “you catch more flys with honey.” You’re the same way. Compassion with yourself goes a longggg way to making a difference in every area of your life.
 
So remember, catch the judgment, cancel it, connect to yourself and your body, breathe in love, ground, forgive yourself, and choose self-love and self-acceptance. Don’t give your judgments the ability to make you feel badly. You have the power to release them and create a beautiful reality.