Everything comes down to your worth: what you think you’re worthy of. You will receive in direct proportion to how worthy you feel. Your priorities are based on your worth: are you worthy of your dreams coming true? If so, you’ll make the time to create that which you desire. If not, as Marie Forleo says, “you’ll make excuses.” Your worth is seen in the people you attract; especially romantic partners. If you don’t feel worthy of love, you’ll attract someone unavailable, distant, maybe someone who uses you or just doesn’t give you what you need. At the worst, you'll attract someone abusive. Your worth shows in your health; do you care for your body and feed it healthy things, or do you punish/ignore/drive it? Your worth shows in your self-care; do you care how you look and nurture yourself with niceties or do you think, “why bother?” Your worth shows in how you’re treated at work. Are you respected, or ignored? Or worse, ridiculed? Your worth shows in your finances; are you well compensated for the work you do, or do you allow yourself to be undervalued? Are you wise with your financial decisions, or do you spend/lose money constantly, thus keeping you in debt? Your worth shows in the circumstances/people you attract into your life. Do you attract things/people that elevate your happiness and bring you joy, or are you mired in negativity and surrounded on all sides by unhappy people and circumstances? Worth starts with you. No one can wave a wand and magically bestow worth on you. You need to own and claim it. It’s there, available for you. Only you can decide to receive and live it. You may have been taught that you’re unworthy- that’s a lie by people too enmeshed in their own pain and shame to see the truth. Or by people who desired to control you and make you more easily follow what they said. Whatever “authority” figure told you that, they’re wrong; plain and simple. Do not believe them and keep living in your own pain. Rise above and claim your worth. Everything comes back to worth- everything. So right now, put your hands over your heart, close your eyes, feel into the center of yourself, breath and connect to you. When you’re ready, open your eyes and say to yourself: “I am worthy.” “I am worthy of love.” “I am worthy of happiness.” “I am worthy of financial wealth.” “I am worthy of radiant health.” “I am worthy of my dreams coming true.” “I am worthy of ease and grace.” “I am worthy of laughter and joy.” “I am worthy of being loved and cherished.” “I am worthy of pleasure.” “I am worthy of freedom.” “I am worthy of being heard.” “I am worthy of being seen.” “I am worthy of that job/promotion/raise.” “I am worthy of nice things.” “I am worthy of trustworthy friends and associates.” "I am worthy of relaxation and inner peace." “I am worthy of Divine assistance.” "I am worthy of miracles." “I am worthy of __________”- (fill in the blank with what you most want) “I am worthy, simply because I am!” Now repeat this daily. Print it, and post it on your bathroom mirror. Say it with conviction. Claim what is rightfully yours. You are absolutely worthy- own that!!! Print out for your mirror:
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It takes courage to listen to your gut and act on it, even when your rational mind tells you otherwise. It takes courage to voice your truth and the truth of who you are, even if you know you will be met with a lack of approval. It takes courage to follow your dreams, even when you fear failing. It takes courage to open your heart, especially when you’ve been hurt before. It takes courage to say, “No, I will not allow this,” in relation to either your own personal boundaries, or something you see going on in the world. To put your foot down and take a stand is courageous. It takes courage to leave your comfort zone and venture into the unknown. That can be with a new job, relationship, place to live, or simply expressing a different opinion than what you had always been taught. It takes courage to differ from your family of origin and to know that they may be disappointed. It takes courage to proclaim to yourself that you refuse to live a life defined by anyone else’s rules or expectations, and that you are going to follow your own path one step at a time, creating happiness each and every moment. Finding what brings you fulfillment versus what your family/society/religion tells you. It takes courage to find the answers within, versus acquiescing to, or parroting, everyone else's opinions and thoughts. It takes courage to be truthful with how we feel, versus people pleasing. It takes courage to admit you were wrong, and do what you can to make it right. It takes courage to think outside the box and look at things from a new perspective, or to create something that has never been imagined before. It takes courage to silence the loud ego mind, and to listen to/act from the still quiet voice within. It takes courage to stop defending against your actions/reactions, and really look at your part in a situation/conflict. It takes courage to forgive, when you want to punish. For ultimately, that is the gift that will set you free. Speaking of courage, I encourage you to seek out and read perspectives and information on racism and the subtle and insidious ways it shows itself in the collective consciousness. It’s not always overt, the subtle has done just as much damage. It’s easy to say, "I’m not racist," and dismiss what I’m saying, yet I ask you to look at it from a place of humility versus defending against your position. It takes courage to say, "Wow, where have I unconsciously contributed to, or even been unaware of, the situation? Where can I learn and uncover my issues to do better and be better?" It starts with you. It seems that the worst of humanity is coming out right now. I’m watching friends get attacked for posts that are very calm and loving, people taking advantage of the protests by rioting, lots of shaming of others for trying to be supportive, and incredible righteousness over who’s right/wrong; it’s enough to make you lose faith…
I know many of you are overwhelmed. The energy is remarkably intense and destructive. And yet, in the depths of darkness, in the dimness of the cocoon, the caterpillar is being dissolved to allow it to become the butterfly. Do not give your power to impotence, to thinking there’s nothing you can do. It may seem fluff, but the vision has to start with you; each of us individually owning the reality we want to see and then creating it, one step at a time, one election at a time, to create a revolutionary change at a core level. Each of us healing ourselves and our own violent anger, rage, and pain so that there’s less of those energies in the world. It starts with our individual hearts and minds choosing to see a reality of equality and inclusiveness. Now more then ever, it’s important to use your voice. Your voice matters, you deserve to be heard. Speak for those who cannot speak. Use for your voice for those who have no voice or whose voices have been silenced. You may not literally go out and speak, you can voice it through your art, through your acts of kindness, through the people and companies you support. Through the products you buy and the things you listen to. Through the love you send to the world. And through the declaration to the world, even if done in the privacy of your home, of saying: “Enough! I refuse a reality of exclusiveness. I refuse a reality of domination. I refuse a reality of inequality.” You may feel powerless but you’re not. Never underestimate the power of the imagination. If you can see it in your imagination, you can believe it, and then you can create it and live it. If you don’t create it in your world, how will you see it in the world? I wrote a blog that I posted on Instagram on Sunday and in it, I said that what I do doesn’t feel like enough. I recognized the next morning that I gave my power away to a false idea. My form of voice and power may not look like the way others express theirs, and that’s OK. We need a contrast of strengths to lift each other up. So dream. Dream big. Be powerful in your dreams. Own your visions. Join me and together we can dream into being a world more phenomenal than we can even imagine. Let’s be the visionaries for a new world. I’m holding the light of hope for you, will you accept it? To listen to the audio version of this blog, click here. I’ve had to really take my power back lately: from externals- such as the global crisis and Covid restrictions, to internals- my inner child, adolescent, and negative ego. I've also had to pull my power and energy back from wanting to future trip and think about something farther off in my day/week, and worry about it. It’s been more obvious to me lately when I do this, and thus, when I do and take my power back, I am so much more present, centered, calm, and empowered.
Which leads me to today's topic: I want to address something that has been coming up a lot lately: the idea that an issue you have can’t be fixed or that nothing can help you. These are beliefs. They are only as true as the energy that you give them. They do not need to be true. Repetitive thought makes them true. Then the universe shows you the very thing that you keep repeating to yourself. You can argue with me that truly nothing you do seems to shift an issue. Let’s break that apart then: First, you believe it. You believe it fully. The universe is complying with that belief and making sure that nothing you do works. Let’s just play with the idea that that belief could be faulty. I get it, I really do. I hear the angst in your voice; I know the frustration. You’re at your wits end. Things don’t seem to shift. So humor me for a moment. Are you willing to own that your thought could be a lie? Just open to it. Do you know for certain that the universe has not been trying to help you only to have it be rebounded back? You don’t, so let’s say that’s the case. You may not be receiving/allowing the help you need because of the paradigm in which you grew up where when you asked for help, either you didn’t receive what you wanted, bad things happened, or you were hurt etc. Have you personified the universe to be exactly like the authority figures when you were growing up? Is the universe benevolent and generous or withholding and limiting? Next step: where have you given away your power to believe that your statement is true? That is the core of it, that is the frustration of it: the idea that you keep doing everything and nothing is working. You are essentially powerless. That my friends is an enormous lie. I think probably the biggest one out there. What better way to control somebody than to make them think they’re powerless? Yes, you were powerless as a child. As an adolescent too. You had to follow the rules or the consequences could be severe. Especially as a little child. However, those parts of you are no longer allowed to run the show. They may have colored your current worldview based on the past, and are still getting something by keeping the pattern going. You can talk to those aspects and let them know you’re creating a new reality. You may need to do deeper work with them, but ultimately you the adult makes the conscious present moment choice. You have the power in the now to choose differently. You may also have given your power away to your negative ego. The negative ego seduces you with fear, worry, and anxiety. It wants you scared and afraid of everything. It will convince you that they’re doing it to you. Or even that there are dark forces looming over you, just waiting to attack. Both of these perpetuate the idea of powerlessness. I get that when you feel so powerless it makes sense that it’s external. However, when you do a deep dive into your own negative ego and shadow, you uncover the truth; that the answer is within. That’s where the lie of powerlessness festers. As you look to these areas, the more aware you become, the more you can take your power back. And to deepen what I’m saying, as I said above, your power is in your choice. Even if you’re in an unpleasant situation and it seems that your options aren’t great, you still have the power to choose how to respond. You can respond from your child, negative ego or adolescent, or you the adult can choose a higher response. You have the power to change any situation by your thoughts and attitudes about it. That’s power. To not give anything external, or even the internal monkey mind, the ability to ruin your serenity. Personal power is taking the tools at your disposal and making the best of them. The universe actually is on your side, so stop fighting for your limitations. You have to be the light first and that entails owning your personal power so call it back. You’re not your mind, not your body, not your thoughts, not your ego. You are a powerful infinite being of light, never forget this. (For further help in taking your power back, click here.) Absolutely everything is a choice.
I tell you that all the time and yet, I recently fell into “poor me,” meltdown rage, and feeling like rebelling against authority. I’m doing a major physical detox for healing and having to limit foods has caused me crazy rebellion at times. But who am I really rebelling against? It’s my choice to follow this protocol. It was my desire for healing and asking for help from my unseen team that brought me to this person I’m now working with. So while I could bitch and moan, I needed a reality check of - “No one is forcing me to do this. I am choosing based on the future I desire to create: one of incredibly radiant health and physical wellness.” I did need to have a talk with my inner child and more significantly, my inner adolescent- the one who rebels against everything and thinks many things are stupid. I needed to take my power back from her and move her to her safe place (I can teach you how to do this), which needed to be updated. There was a noticeable difference when I did that, I was immediately more accepting and could act like an adult, making adult decisions. You are never powerless. At any given moment you have a choice as to how to respond. You can choose to rise above and respond as the adult, or be reactive and act out from your child or adolescent. You make choices constantly by how you respond to the things and people around you. There is no one to blame. No one is doing anything to you. Take responsibility and make the choice you want and then do not bitch and moan when you do. Or if it the pity/rage/blame etc. is really loud for you, then do as I did and dive into it fully, hearing it out so that you can release it. Then call your power back to you the adult in present time, and find out what you need to move forward in confidence and healing. Look at your thoughts, look at your feelings, you choose continually all day. If you don’t like the outcomes, choose differently; choose more empowering and motivating thoughts/words/feelings because remember, what you focus on expands. In the midst of a mini meltdown one particularly intense day of detox when old issues were surfacing, I did just that. I’d had enough of my self-pity and these words came flowing out of me. Wow did they change my perspective fast and bring me back to a place of empowerment: “I am free! Do not put myself in a prison of my own making. I choose the energies of what I want to feel today. I choose how to respond to and experience my day. Me- no one else. No one is doing anything to me. I have conscious choice which is the most powerful choice - and I choose to have fun and feel free, without restriction or limitation. I am only as limited as I allow myself to believe I am. I am not my body. I am unlimited. I am limitless light and love. Remember who I really am. I am powerful!!!!” May these words help you as well to overcome any obstacles you butt up against. We are in a time of extraordinary growth and ever increasing consciousness and sometimes that can get uncomfortable. If you remember your power and make strong choices, you can overcome anything. For many of us, struggle has become so normal that we don’t even recognize it. We struggle to find love, find a career we love, be creative, move past old pain, heal our wounds, be healthy, we struggle to find joy, to feel fulfilled, to be our best selves.
We’re so embroiled in struggle, that we’ve begun to create our reality from a reactionary place, rather than a purely creative one; reacting to the hardships and difficulties, rather than creating what we want from a place of joy and freedom. We don’t trust that it can be easy. We think we have to suffer and be in circumstances that make us miserable because stepping out of them feels like too much of a struggle. But we’re already struggling within those painful circumstances! Struggle has become such a way of life that we don’t realize it anymore, it just is. But it doesn’t have to be that way. Nor does it have to be a struggle to release struggle. This week, simply notice anywhere that you struggle in your reality and instead, play with the idea that the Universe is actually here to help you. Release resistance and instead, allow in, “I can let this be easy.” At its core, the Universe is made of love. So any lies you’ve been telling yourself that somehow you are separate from that love or you don’t deserve that love, are just that, lies. Your soul was made from love, and it’s only your stubborn opposition to that truth that keeps you stuck in struggle. What if you allow that all the times that you felt that the Universe let you down and wasn’t there for you, were really your own need to learn lessons and grow on a soul level and out of love, and free will, the Universe supported you in those decisions to go dark, and separate from that very love. Now it’s time to stop pretending that you are anything other than love. Own the truth that you were made from love, you are part of love, and the Universe actually does want to help you. Your negative ego will balk at this, because to change this within you, means that you have immense power at your disposal. And yes, we’ve all lived some brutal past lives and so there is ingrained fear in fully opening to the depth and truth of Universal love again. But we’re at a crossroads of evolution, and the old ways no longer apply. Can you find the courage within yourself to hold the possibility that you truly are love incarnate? That through you the Universe gets to experience joy, fun, freedom etc. so why would it not want you to have those things? Even if you don’t fully believe it yet, just allow those seeds to germinate in your mind. Forgive yourself for all the struggle and all of the misguided perceptions of struggle, and simply hold a new belief that you allow it to be easy. That you are a being of love, you are an aspect of God/Goddess/All That Is/Source/Universe and as that aspect, you are now allowing more elegance and ease into your life. Play with this concept. Write it on post it notes and put them around the house. Don’t read this blog and then let it go, only to be forgotten. Follow the brilliant advice of AA and simply one day at a time, keep owning this new truth about yourself. Those little steps every day, will lead to incredible results over time. Forgive yourself for the struggle, and without struggling, simply turn your attention to the ease. This has come up a lot lately so I want to remind you all: sometimes it takes time to see the changes in your reality that you’ve been working to create.
After you’ve made big changes, something may appear to trigger old wounds. Negative ego kickback? Possibly. Or, your subconscious is so used to showing you a reality reflective of your wound, that it hasn’t quite gotten the memo yet. There are mounds of corroborating evidence for the old belief/pattern/way of being, and not much yet to support the new. Here’s an example: let’s say you’ve worked to overcome a belief that you have to do it all yourself and that you can’t rely on others. You’ve instilled a belief; “It’s safe for me to be. I now elegantly receive all the help and support I need.” You’ve done the work to clear the old and implement the new. You’re excited for your new reality. You really feel ready to receive support. And then, you ask for help, and … crickets… no one steps up. Maybe you go right to anger: “See, I knew I’d have to do it all. No one is there for me!” Ok- that’s not helping and all it does is affirm the old that you so diligently worked to change. Instead, stop, breathe, and say gently or with humor (humor always defuses the intense emotion), “Hey subconscious, I know my whole life I’ve had this pattern/belief but we’re changing that. Remember I instilled a new program. What I’m choosing to see is a reality of X (in the example above, it would be that of being supported). Show me a reality in which that manifests.” It’s vital to catch it; you cannot allow the old emotions to triumph. That will simply feed your negative ego and hook you back into the past. Thus, doing it with humor if needed. By saying, “Show me a reality in which…,” you’re affirming the new and where you want to head. It pulls you into the future and out of past traumas. You’re also bringing in the power of choice, “I choose to see a reality in which…” Conscious choice always beats subconscious programming. Think of it like this: it’s as if your subconscious was always a garbage collector and suddenly you want it to be an impressionist painter. Do-able? Absolutely. But again, sometimes it takes time and repeated focus on what you do want, versus what you don’t. So the next time an old wound surfaces, stop, breathe, and talk to your subconscious. Empower yourself in your reality and in the future you’re creating. |
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