This blog was intended to go out around the 4th of July, but the Dark and Light Shadows took precedence. So even though it’s belated, let’s talk about freedom.
You are only as free as you allow yourself to be. And you can always be freer. What I mean is that when you look at the stories you tell about your life and the people in it, do they expand your freedom or contract it? I recently looked at a story I had been telling about myself for years. Through a series of insights, I really began to acknowledge that my words were allowing the story to continue. To have the new reality I so desperately longed for, I needed to write a new story. So I did- literally. I wrote it out. Then I began visualizing it and making it real in the now. I see the outcome, feel the feelings of success, and focus on that daily. I also verbally only speak what I expect and want to see; as if it’s a done deal. And I feel happy when I think about it. It’s mine. I’m actively creating/allowing/receiving it now. I know these tools; they’ve helped me create brilliant miracles before, but I had forgotten. I forgot that I don’t have to put up with a hindrance to my freedom. That I can take my power back by seeing it differently, by telling a different story about it, by speaking new words. I have the creative power. After all, since I create my reality, why create more pain from an old wound? Yes, I did need to do another round of forgiveness work to release it; towards myself, the other, and the situation. I had done a ton so it was easy to forgive the hurtle that was blocking me. If you haven’t done previous forgiveness work, then I remind you that forgiveness is key! To change anything, you need to forgive yourself and everything/everyone involved. Look- it’s not always easy and sometimes you need to process through a myriad of emotions first, but ultimately, forgiveness is the gift you give yourself. They’re not suffering, you are. They’re not in jail, you are. Give yourself that freedom. As I was writing this, I looked up to see a red dragonfly perched near my garden. I have never seen one before. I looked up the symbolism: courage, strength, and happiness. There’s that word again from a few weeks ago: courage. Can you be courageous enough to forgive and allow yourself greater freedom? Can you be courageous enough to imagine something better for yourself and then take action by actively putting the pieces into motion? This week, focus on the freedom to. You know what you want to be free from, but what do you want to create? What would bring expanse and joy into your reality? Take the time to imagine it and then do something concrete to bring it into being. A new world is being birthed, don’t forget to birth yourself new as well.
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I’m always telling you to author your reality, but in a practical sense, how does one do that?
It’s actually both simple and it requires conscious recognition which might not always be easy. Yet it is absolutely doable and the results are fantastic. So how do you begin? Awareness is key. Here’s an exercise to start the process. It originated from my healer friend Rose Colarossi, with a modification from me. It reminds me of morning pages from Julia Cameron, but with a twist: 1- Each morning in your journal, on the left side of the page, vent away. Everything you really feel and think, no holding back or editing. Use the page to get it out of you and onto paper. 2- When you’re done, look back through what you wrote and in red ink, cross out all the negative words, sentences, shoulds, and have to’s, etc. 3- Rewrite the story of your venting in positive ways on the right side of the paper, even if it’s not true. For example, change, “I hated waking up this morning. I’m so crabby and tired” to “I woke up refreshed and filled with energy and enthusiasm for my day!” 4- As your rewrite most likely won’t take a full page, with the remainder of the paper, write what you’re grateful for, at least 5 things. You may discount this at first as being silly or stupid, but the more you do it, the more you’re showing your subconscious what you do want and the more you will find yourself shifting away from negative thoughts/feelings and into a more positive reality. Now with that, notice your thoughts/feelings not just in the morning, but throughout your day. If you’re grumbling and bitching, can you see the situation differently? Can you change those negatives into a new positive perspective? Yes you can and the more you do, the more of that positive you’ll attract. Now look, you’re human, some days you really need to allow yourself to go dark and process whatever is going on. I’ve written about that before to help you during those times. This isn’t that, this is, on a moment-by-moment basis, how am I choosing to see and respond to the world? Because it’s all a choice. No one is doing anything to you, you are not powerless. I’ll keep repeating that until you hear it. By your thoughts and emotions, you are attracting people/situations to you, so why not author a great reality? Anything can be changed, nothing is set in stone. You have the power to turn around a bad day. And if it’s really bad, then hide under the covers and give yourself a reprieve. Without judgment! However, daily get into a new habit: own your power, own your voice and own your authorship. Choose better thoughts and emotions that uplift you. Even if they’re not “true.” Who cares! Your subconscious won’t know the difference, it just brings to you what you’re asking for. Give yourself permission to write the story the way you want it to be. Stop battling your negative ego and monkey mind and over-ride them by raising your vibration and ignoring their “poor me story.” No one else has the power to write your story, so stop giving responsibility away to others. You are the author. Live from what you’re creating versus merely being in reaction to what’s happening. Challenge your thoughts: “Why do I think that? Is it really true? Challenge your emotions: “Is this feeling in present time or am I in reaction old pain and wounds? What is this emotion trying to tell me?” Then forgive the old thoughts and emotions and choose again. Write a kick ass novel you’re proud to share. Remember, your light is way more powerful than any dark, so for 2020, author an extraordinary new story filled with everything that makes your heart sing with joy. It is your reality after all. Last night there was a moth in our bedroom. I’m not talking about an ordinary moth, I’m talking the size of a butterfly, and I am not exaggerating in the slightest. This moth was desperate to get out, but while I had opened the door to the light outside, it just kept bashing around the ceiling over and over. It seemed to refuse the very thing it wanted most, it’s freedom. It preferred to smack against the ceiling, even though the door was open, and the light was right there.
How often do we do that in our own lives? The answer is there, the doorway is open to change, but we prefer to smack our heads up against the ceiling of our own limiting and stuck beliefs, thoughts, attitudes, and habits. It’s safer to keep beating up against what we know, than simply walking through that open doorway into our light. The light can be scary, even though rationally we say we want the light, because the light is filled with our beauty, our gifts, and our radiance. We’ve been so trained to believe that we are our struggles, our lack, and our limits. What would happen if we dared to walk through that open door? It’s right there, just shift where you’ve been focusing and change your perspective. Maybe “up until now,” brilliant phrasing by the way, it’s always been ..., but what if today, you approach it differently? You own your light, your radiance, your expansiveness, and then you decide how it’s going to turn out. You make a new choice and move forward with faith. Now, sometimes when you do that, that negative ego voice is silently stalking in the background, just waiting to say- “see, I knew it wouldn’t work!” So don’t give it the opportunity. Before you start, own that this time will be different and consciously release any part of you waiting to prove yourself wrong for wanting to expand. Wanting to prove that you were right all these years for holding onto that belief etc. Gather your courage, tell all parts of you that you are stepping through that doorway, forgive any part of you in resistance, and take a step. Imagine all the wondrous things you can discover in the light. Let that motivate, versus scare you. You deserve a life of your dreams. You deserve complete happiness. Make a new choice today. Shift your perspective. Stop beating your head against the old ceiling, it’s time to turn and walk out into your new life. As for that moth, he finally made it into the light, and so can you. Freedom awaits. Some of you know that I adore my husband; I’m not shy in owning that. It took me 40 years to meet him and wow did I create a perfect man, but that’s another story! So earlier last year, we found out my husband’s name was being submitted for an Emmy for Score Mixing for Season 3 of “Mozart in the Jungle.” We were ecstatic. I immediately began visualizing texting everyone saying, “He won!!!”
Well the day of the Emmy nominations, his show was announced but they omitted his name. Now, I’m pretty fiery as you know, and I immediately went to anger- “this is an injustice! WTF!” etc., etc. I vented, I railed, I worked that anger until it was spent. I did all of the techniques that I teach you all. Once I worked through that, I calmed myself down and started focusing on the oversight being corrected. I put all of my attention into visualizing that correction, with absolute conviction that it would happen. Sure enough, the next day, he got word from his co-nominee that it was being reviewed by the Academy. During that time of review, I held fast to my faith in my husband and his deserving of the award. And I forgave everything I could think of; why I allowed a reality of injustice, what in me had issues with visibility, etc. A few days later, we got the word that yes indeed, he was officially nominated. Now it was time for the big work. Everyday for months I visualized sending those texts, while seeing him onstage. It was a super powerful image for me and I put all of my energy into that. I knew exactly who would receive those texts and I refused to allow any reality except that one. Neither fear, nor negative ego, were allowed a voice, ever. I would not give them space in my creation. I owned my power and the truth that I create my reality and I would only allow positive support. I wouldn’t give my power away to anyone who was jealous or who was unsupportive, nor would I entertain fears of them. I visualized moving anyone like that out of the way and focused on my end goal. Only supportive people, and unseen helpers allowed. Most importantly, I focused on my love for my husband everyday before visualizing. Love can move mountains and I wanted to put my love into action. So while visualizing those texts, I felt the love, I felt the joy, I felt the bliss. I owned out loud what I wanted and I refused any contradictory thoughts. Right before Labor Day, we got word that the Emmys would be Sept 10th, our Anniversary. That to me was confirmation of the love I’d been putting out there around this event. The night of the Creative Arts Emmys, I’ve got to own that I was nervous. Sitting in that auditorium, for the first time, I had doubts. I didn’t judge them though, I let them speak for a few minutes and then a small voice said, “trust,” and I let go and trusted. I went right back to what I did want and felt that joy. About 15 min later, he won an Emmy, and I got to send those texts and scream for joy. The key components illustrated by this story and how to really empower your manifestations are:
As a P.S.: I do need to specify that my husband was in complete agreement to co-creating this success with me and was doing his own work simultaneously. I was coming at it from what I wanted in my reality, not forcing a reality on him. I wanted that experience, as did he, which made it more powerful because we were aligned. You cannot force your vision on anyone else, nor can you do the work for them. Use these tools for yourself first and foremost. |
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