Dr. Nicole LePera talked about the asset of aging on Instagram, and I want to address it as well for anybody who feels that they are behind or not matching with what their peers are doing.
 
When I was in college, I assumed I would be married with kids by the time I turned 30. That was the goal. In fact, all my girlfriends had that goal. I was the “old maid” of the group who said I wanted to wait until 29. That cracks me up to see it in print now because I still have a napkin we all wrote on. In my worldview and what I saw around me, that was my perception of what I most wanted.
 
But as we know, life happens, perspectives shift, and things don’t always go according to our plans.
 
In my 20's I had other priorities. Personal growth and a deeper connection to myself became where I put my energy.
 
I still wasn’t ready for the life I imagined in my 30's, yet I felt the pressure of time and societal norms. I’m so grateful that in spite of that, I didn’t succumb to outside pressure because I was in a terribly codependent relationship that I needed to leave, while learning how to love myself and find my personal power and truths.
 
I also recognized that I’m a late bloomer. My cadence and my timing is my own and I didn’t judge that. That doesn’t mean I wasn’t sad at times or didn’t have moments of comparison, but I kept coming back to my self-trust and self-love.
 
I met my husband after I turned 40. I wouldn't have been ready for this kind of love earlier in my life. I had to clear out the codependence, rage, and my own emotional issues. I had to expand into a greater version of myself who could be in a true partnership.
 
I started my business when I was 43. Again, I needed to build confidence in myself and my abilities to be able to branch out. Along the way, I had to release other dreams of how I had always imagined my life to be. But even though some of that release was extremely painful, I have total peace and acceptance at how things have unfolded.
 
With a burst of creativity, I wrote a first draft of a book at age 53 and now at age 55, I'm finishing editing to publish that book.
 
Time is an illusion. It's never too late. You are not behind. The only one with whom your timing matters is with your own Soul.
 
Don’t allow your own negative ego or your family or society tell you you’re less than or not good enough because your timeline is different than others.  Don’t do anything for the sake of outward appearances. Pursue what’s right for YOU.
 
That might mean marriage in your 20's, or maybe marriage in your 50's. Or not at all! That might mean career as a priority, or maybe family is your priority. There’s no right or wrong, as long as you’re true to yourself.
 
We can try to control our lives (which never works btw) and want things to turn out a certain way, but your Higher Self and Soul know your perfect timing. As hard as it can be, and I know personally that it is, the more you lean back and trust, and the more you're in the flow, the more things elegantly manifest for you.
 
Trust your timing. Do what makes you happy. Follow your dreams. It's never too late!

​This topic has been coming up a lot in sessions lately, so I wanted to talk about it:
 
Time is not a straight line; it circles and does loop de loops. Our minds want to believe it’s straight, but that concept was introduced post Celtic era. Prior to that, the circular nature of time was understood. Why is this important? Because when you tap into the true nature of time, you understand that you can expand or shrink it; it’s not static.
 
Think about this: for some people, a minute can take an eternity if they’re waiting to hear the news regarding certain results or a diagnosis, whereas for another person who has a deadline, that minute may fly by and not be enough time to get something done. 
 
On the flipside, somebody who knows how to utilize time may find that in that minute, they're so involved in their creativity that they’re shocked that it was only a minute because they expanded time to be more like five minutes within one minute.
 
You can play with this while driving as well. If you’re running late, ask your unseen team to please bend time to help you arrive safely on time. The key is to breathe and trust. If you stay too amped up trying to control it, your fear and panic will over-ride the support. Surrender to the fluidity of time and see yourself pulling up to your destination calmly, with a smile on your face.
 
If you’re stressed for time, step away from what you’re doing to breathe and ground for a few minutes. I know it seems counterintuitive, but stepping away for a moment is usually exactly what you need to gain clarity and insight. It re-sets your system and expands time, thereby helping you come back centered and working with time, versus forcing it.
 
When you say you can’t afford that mini reprieve, you’re telling yourself there’s “not enough” time and what do you think happens in a “not enough” mindset? You guessed it; you fulfill that prophecy. If instead you say, “I have more than enough time to…” then you open to abundance and time expands for you. 
 
As for utilizing time to actualize your goals, you need to get firm with yourself and prioritize what’s important so that you use time effectively and efficiently. Write down your list of what you want to accomplish and as you number your list in order of importance, start at number one and do not let yourself go to number two until your number one goal is complete. Maybe you have a few goals happening simultaneously, but always devote time to your main one first, before anything else. This is where you need to silence your phone, remove distractions, and concentrate your attention.
 
If your goal is more creative time, then schedule it just like you would schedule anything else. If it’s not written down, you may find an excuse to avoid it. When that time arrives, treat it with respect and focus, just like anything else that’s scheduled.
 
Only you can create a positive relationship to time, so even if there are some things that are set, such a work hours or family time, there are other hours that you can use for your enrichment. Notice where you waste time, where time flies (if in a negative way, ground yourself), where you get stressed by it, and take your power back. Then create a new way of looking at time, using it in your favor. 
 
As Marie Forleo says, “There’s always enough time for what matters most.”