If I’ve done my job in 2024 (highlighted words will bring you to a previous blog), you realize that you have the power to change your perception to create greater peace and to make new choices and goals.
 
You’re empowering yourself by using violet light, by knowing powerful words of support, and by using a technique to see the truth of another’s character.
 
You’re creating greater emotional cognizance by allowing vs. fixing, responding rather than reacting, and recalibrating after major changes.
 
You remember you now have a process for calming anxiety and fear, the antidote to anxiety, as well as an EFT script to alleviate a crisis.
 
You’re beginning to release self-judgment and your judgments of others to create a more beautiful reality.
 
You’re experiencing greater presence by using techniques to calm your nervous system and engage your senses.
 
You’re raising your resonance with an appreciation meditation, understanding that rest is love, and doing inner child healing.
 
You recognize that time is an illusion, and that you can make a powerful decision in how you see the world.
 
You’re more of a conduit for The Light and owning the power of your light to connect with your Soul.
 
And you see the truth that even through a loss, the love never dies.
 
May your 2024 end magically!! See you again in 2025!

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It’s that time of year again; time to find your word for 2025!
 
For those of you who are new to my blogs, this is based on a John Gordon blog I read over a decade ago. In it, he suggested picking one word for the upcoming year, versus creating resolutions that only make you feel badly if you can’t fulfill them.
 
In his words, “just one word that gives meaning, mission, passion and purpose. One word that will help me be my best.”

I love this idea and have been using it ever since.
 
For those who picked a word for 2024, was it successful? Did it help you grow and become more? Celebrate yourself if so. If not and you forgot about it, don’t beat yourself up. This isn’t something to add stress, it’s something to inspire you and help you create your reality.   
 
Your word(s) can be anything that you’re wanting to infuse into 2025: inner peace, self-actualization, fun, compassion, self-love, play, creative expression, being, surrender, stillness - the list is endless.
 
Make sure the word is actionable and not just a concept. 

I’ve made that mistake, lol. Twice I chose a word that I wanted to infuse into my year, but the word wasn’t easy to focus on daily. However, the year I choose “wisdom,” that was a perfect choice for me. Daily I could ask if the choices I was making were wise or not. I still use the word “wisdom’ constantly as a touch stone, as using it continually for a year had a profound effect on how I operate in the world.
 
Same with the year “self-love” was my word. I could easily check if my choices were loving towards myself, or discounting of what I needed.
 
So, sit with it. There are no wrong answers regarding your word; it’s very personal. Sometimes you’ll choose it, and sometimes it chooses you. Either way, you’ll know. You’ll feel in your gut that that word is the word for you.
 
And no pressure by the way, it doesn’t have to be perfect! You may even change it a couple times until you find the right fit; I have.

Once you have your word, write it in big letters somewhere that you’ll read it each day. And not just a passing glance, but truly, “how can I bring this word into action today?” 
 
Next, see that word infused throughout 2025. Imagine a calendar and visualize your word woven throughout the days and months. Imagine that word opening you up to possibilities, insights, changes, and personal growth. 

As you focus on it daily or weekly, you’ll find that you may be led to experiences, books, and talks etc., that are exactly what you need to learn and hear to help you grow and have more of that word in your reality. 
 
If you want, share your word with me and I’ll support you in your growth. 
 
Happy choosing and may your word transform your 2025 in extraordinary ways!!!


 

We talked about judgments and judging others two weeks ago, now how about healing self-judgment?
 
As a reminder, the problem with judgments, are that judgments separate.
 
Judgments separate you from the very thing you want. Judgments create a chasm, rather than a bridge.
 
I’m sure you’ve judged yourself; I sure have. I caught myself in the shower the other morning having the thoughts of, “Why did I do it that way? I knew better! I should’ve done it this other way.” Then fuming over my “mistake.”
 
That might be seemingly innocuous, but that self-judgment, that’s creating a rift between me and self-love. Its allowing a spiral of darker thoughts to enter. At its darkest, some of you may devolve into, “I’m so stupid. What’s wrong with me?” If you go to those thoughts, those words stem from deep shame. That shame needs to be addressed and released.
 
As I said two weeks ago, catching those thoughts is step one, and the quicker the better. You can’t change what you’re unaware of. When you catch them, say “cancel/clear” to delete the energy.
 
Since judgments separate, what you need is connection. Connection to yourself. Take a deep breath and feel into your body. As you focus on your breathing, you can even put your hands over your heart since the disconnect is rooted here. Breathe: do an even count of breaths in and out.
 
This will begin to calm your system. Then ground yourself to the planet, in present time. Feel your feet on the ground. Become aware of and feel your body. Imagine the energy at your tailbone heading downward through the ground, to hook you deep into the planet.
 
Center your energy within yourself and breathe in love and compassion. Breathe in and speak words of forgiveness. For example, “I forgive myself for this thought. I forgive and release my self-judgment.”
 
Then move to what you’re choosing instead and since you were judging yourself, change that to, “I love and accept myself, exactly as I am.”
 
Notice if your inner critic pipes up as you say that. Can you silence her/him and activate your inner coach instead who says, “You’re good. You got this!”
 
It may not be easy at first but remember, the critic is never satisfied. That's its role- it judges, judges, judges. But have you ever found benefit from its barrage of negativity? No, because there’s nothing constructive about it. Whereas an inner coach can encourage and support you. You may not sense them yet so activate them. Invite them to speak and cheer you on.
 
The whole process of releasing self-judgment doesn’t have to take long and it’s hugely effective! I did this myself yesterday while driving. A really nasty, “what’s wrong with me” thought popped in and it felt so awful that I immediately said, “cancel clear” and then did the steps above.
 
Let’s look at some specifics:
If you're judging yourself for what you ate, how about instead, “It's safe for me to feel pleasure with food. It's safe for me to honor what my body needs.”
 
If you're feeling judgment because you didn't get through your to-do list, how about, “There’s plenty of time for me to do everything I need. I can move at a pace that is supportive of my system.”
 
If you’re judging yourself because you feel you’re not doing enough, first of all, that’s a big issue, reflective of competition in the Patriarchal paradigm we’re living in now. Especially for women. But that level of competition serves no purpose and only makes you exhaust yourself and again, separates you from self-care and self-acceptance. So, how about, “I’m enough. I do enough. Life is meant to be enjoyed, rather than being a race. It’s safe for me to slow down and rest when I need.”
 
Some of these may be difficult and feel like just words to start, but think of the phrase, “you catch more flys with honey.” You’re the same way. Compassion with yourself goes a longggg way to making a difference in every area of your life.
 
So remember, catch the judgment, cancel it, connect to yourself and your body, breathe in love, ground, forgive yourself, and choose self-love and self-acceptance. Don’t give your judgments the ability to make you feel badly. You have the power to release them and create a beautiful reality.
 
 

IT'S MY BIRTHDAY TODAY!!!


I'm like a kid when it comes to birthdays, I love them!!! 

This year, it popped into my head that it would be fun to do Oracle cards since everyone loves them and it's one of my favorite things to do. 

It came through very strongly that three particular decks had messages. Having just wrapped the Divine Feminine Course, I wasn't surprised that the Oracle decks were those of Kuan Yin, The White Light Oracle (which is a feminine deck), and Isis. And amazingly, each card chosen  speaks from an aspect of the Divine Feminine.

So, take a moment, put your hands over your heart, and breathe into your heart space. Ask how The Goddess wants to communicate with you today. Be open to which card appears, She may come through a different number than you're used to. 

They're not in the order listed above so that you tune into what your heart says, versus what card you think is where.

And for my fellow Sagittarians, in case you missed last week's Birthday Oracle, I put it below.

I'm super grateful for you and I hope you have a wonderful Thanksgiving!

Happy picking!

Card Number 1

Card Number 2

Card Number 3




Sagittarius Birthday Oracle

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If you're like me, you may find that judgments creep into your conscious awareness either every so often, or for some of you, every day. Judging how someone else is doing it and comparing yourself, judging how much you did do or didn't do, for some, judging how they look and what they ate- judgment, judgment, judgment.
 
What's the problem with judgment? Judgments separate.
 
Judgments separate you from the very thing you want. Judgments create a chasm, rather than a bridge.
 
And let's say you're judging someone close to you – that judgment has now set up a subconscious rift that will be palpable to them and to you. It will diminish intimacy and connection, and overtime, love.
 
Today, let’s talk about judging others and in two weeks, we’ll focus on self-judgment.
 
So, what to do? First, catch yourself. When you catch yourself, you can stop the judgment cycle.
 
My favorite thing to say is, “cancel/clear” to clear the negative thought I just had. This works for all negative thoughts by the way!
 
Catch yourself, then forgive the judgment.
 
Because let's say for example, you're judging how someone spends their money. Subconsciously you may not let yourself receive all the money you desire because you’ve judged it as bad. You’re not going to give yourself that which you deem bad. Nor would you want the judgement you sent others, sent your way.
 
You could say, “I forgive myself for this thought. I forgive myself for creating a rift between me and X (that which you desire).”  
 
Forgiveness, and then shift the energy.
 
Along the lines of the example above, let's say you're wanting to create money, and judgmental of the way i.e. Joe did it.
 
The energy of judgment is like a harsh schoolmarm with a ruler that she smacks you with. So, you've got that schoolmarm frequency, but that’s going to repel the very thing you want.
 
Now here’s the thing- sometimes a judgment comes in to show you what you don't want in your reality. For example, you can observe the way someone does something and have a thought of, "I definitely wouldn't want that” or “I wouldn't do it that way.”
 
That's normal. That's showing yourself what you do and do not want which is part of how you create your reality as an expression of you.
 
Where judgment gets stuck and becomes the schoolmarm, is when you continue with it and amplify it through repeating the judgments over and over. Also, where the righteous “shoulds” appear, i.e., “they should… they shouldn’t…” These are where the rifts form.
 
Release all the righteous “shoulds” and forgive and release the judgments.
 
Using the above, you could say, “I forgive myself for my judgments of Joe. Joe has nothing to do with how I create my reality. I choose to tap into the frequency of wealth, knowing that how I choose to spend it will be my own expression. How he chooses, is his. We can both coexist. I forgive and release whatever rift I have put between myself and wealth.”
 
Then sit in that frequency of what you want- using the example above, that would be wealth. Imagine what that will look and feel like. Not in resistance to how Joe did it, simply in your own creation of it. Feel the energy of wealth from a joyful place.
 
This isn’t always easy, especially when the judgement comes from seeing someone do something rude. But remember, you’re not the boss of others. Turn your focus back to you, back to what you want to create for yourself. Maybe with rudeness, you imagine yourself surrounded in, and by, conscientiousness and kindness.
 
Will it shift the rudeness right away? Maybe not, but you’d be surprised. Having played with this myself many times, I've absolutely seen people shift simply by my forgiving my judgments, forgiving and releasing them, and being in the frequency of courtesy.
 
So remember:
Catch the judgment, cancel it, forgive it, then shift the energy into what you're wanting to experience. You'll be amazed by how the things you desire begin to flow more elegantly to you.

 

I'd been very disheartened to hear personal stories of increased hatred and attack this last week. It's mind boggling to me that people feel the permission to allow the worst versions of themselves to come forward and attack.
 
And yet, there’s profound beauty if you look for it. Remember, what you focus on expands.
 
One of the stories that enraged me the most, the story of little kids who were targeted with texts telling them they’d been chosen to pick cotton, showed the transformative power of love through their actions.
 
My client is a recess volunteer at that school. On Friday, a group of eight 6 and 7-year-olds, boys and girls, gathered around my client, and asked her to sit and meditate with them. That had never happened before. The teachers were stunned. Then, when she went back on Monday, the group had grown and asked her to sit and meditate again with them.
 
My client isn’t a meditation teacher, nor had she spoken of meditation. They chose her because they felt her energy. They knew what they needed, they knew what she needed, and they knew she could anchor healing energy for them.
 
She said, “It’s wild to see so many rambunctious boys lead this. In the middle of the “chaos” of recess with its loud noises, they keep opting out for a minute of quiet and breath work.”
 
That, right there, is going to change the world for the better. Inclusiveness, connection, and group calm.
 
What a beautiful future these children are showing us. Let’s continue to anchor in the light for them.
 

It's hard to know what to say today, as half this country is in shock and trauma. 
 
For those feeling the shock, or the numb, honor your feelings. You may not be able to ground yourself, I sure haven't been able to, and you may feel “unmoored and restless” as a friend described- that’s understandable. Don't push it.
 
Do as little as you can, disconnect- especially from social media, grieve, release rage safely (ideas here), and give yourself the time and space you need to process. 
 
If you’re not in that camp, have compassion for those who are. 
 
This week (the timing isn’t lost on me), I'm teaching you a technique to calm your nervous system. It's super easy to implement, especially whenever you feel stressed, unsafe, and out of sorts. 
 
From inaction and freeze, to fight or flight and over doing, all are signs of a dysregulated nervous system.
 
This technique brings you back to an inner place of rooted safety so you can feel calm, grounded, and empowered in present time.
 
Now I will say, some of you won’t be able to do this today, nor will you have the desire to calm your nervous system and that’s OK!! Keep this in your back pocket for when you’re ready.
 
Wrapping everyone in massive love.

Nervous System Technique

I want to sing the praises of the animated film Inside Out 2 this week.
 
Now before you tune out or dismiss me, hear me out…
 
Starting with the original, the writers did a brilliant job showing the personification of each emotion to help anyone watching recognize that while we have all the emotions, we’re not whatever emotion we’re experiencing. It’s temporary.
 
In the second version, the character of Anxiety is introduced. I know anxiety is a big issue for many of us, myself included, and I have to share with you something profound from that movie so spoiler alert, if you're going to watch, stop reading!
 
In the movie, Anxiety is showing the main character Riley all the worst-case scenarios that could happen. Anxiety is so amped up in terror over the worst possible outcomes, that she begins moving so fast, she blurs. The character of Joy comes over and puts her hand on Anxiety to begin to calm that frenetic energy. Then Joy says, “You don't get to determine who Riley is.”
 
That line made me burst into tears. Why? Because when we’re in an anxiety attack, it feels like that's who we are. It feels like we can't slow down or calm down. All the catastrophic scenarios, conscious or subconscious, are ruling us. And yet, anxiety doesn't get to determine who we are. It's a state of being that’s amplified from fear.
 
I find it fascinating that it's Joy that can alleviate Anxiety. And I get it, it's almost impossible to jump from fear to joy on an emotional scale during an anxiety attack. But, what if you do imagine something uplifting- either a memory or something you’d like to experience? Even if you’re making it up! For me, that can pull me out of the spin- imagining something fantastical in my reality.

Then, put your hands over your heart and as much as you can, breathe. Let your exhale be slightly longer than your inhale, to begin to calm the internal cyclone of thoughts and feelings. Feel your feet on the ground and come into present time. As you do that, remind yourself that you’re not your anxiety. This is temporary. This state of being doesn't determine who you really are.
 

As this goes out, I have many clients anxiously awaiting the path of the current hurricane or dealing with the destruction from the last one.

While wrapping all of them in support and protection, I want to remind you that when tragedy strikes an area of the world and you’re feeling compassion for all the people going through the trauma, never underestimate the power of sending light to the area impacted. To the people, the animals, and the land. 
 
It can feel like that's doing nothing, but everything is made up of energy. By your intention to support those in need, the uplifting energy flows to them beautifully. 
 
If you’re feeling great fear or worry, pause and release those energies first. You don’t want to add to the discord. Think of it this way, if you were in the dark and somebody offered you a hand with a light, it would be a soothing, hopeful balm to your system. But if they were scared for you, you’d both be in the dark, feeling fear.
 
So, for all those negatively impacted by the hurricane that just went through and the one that's coming, for all the people in war torn areas, for the people struggling with famine, and any other world issue that speaks to your Soul, send them all some light today. Be the conduit for The Light.
 
May they be elevated, even on a subconscious level, knowing there are those who care.