Part of what this time has shown a lot of you is where your priorities lie.
Many of you have told me that you’re feeling anxious not because of the stay at home order, but because you’re actually enjoying this reprieve and deeper level of self-care. It’s made you question your life and what’s important. Sometimes you have to acknowledge what you don’t want to discover what you do want.
Things don’t have to be the same for you. You can allow that you’re different from this experience. Your personal world can be different. You are the author of your reality; write it differently. You don’t need to subscribe to the same beliefs or attitudes; you can have new ones. Let this pause not be in vain. See things differently, spend more time in appreciation, and allow yourself more solitude.
When the world hits the play button again, you don’t need to fast forward. You don’t need to be the hare: you can be the tortoise. Absolutely give yourself permission to move at a pace that honors your inner cadence versus what the world tells you is acceptable.
Last week I spoke of not judging yourself, and this week I want to say: don’t judge anyone else for how they process their pain etc. This doesn’t just apply to the current situation in the world.
Some of you are fixers, you want to fix the problem and make it better. However, there are certain things you just can’t fix. There is tremendous power in holding space for another person; allowing them their grief, anger, fear, etc., while simply listening. You don’t need to make it better, in fact, doing so might take away from their ability to figure it out or process through their emotions. Saying, “You’re right, it is really hard. I’m so sorry for what you’re going through,” period, end of sentence, is such a beautiful expression of compassion.
Sometimes a person might actually want you to make it better. If you’re not sure, ask, “Do you just need an ear or do you want assistance and possible solutions?”
When you do that, you honor their needs without over-giving on your part. If you jump in and give first, you could end up feeling resentment or anger if the advice you’ve given is ignored.
I heard a fascinating discussion with Glennon Doyle in which she said that when you try to make it better for someone else by pointing out the positives when they’re in a dark place, all it does is shame them. As if their experience isn’t ok if it’s negative.
Everyone is going through a lot right now, light and dark. You, and they, are allowed to experience all of it: sometimes in the same moment.
Remember that this week and unless asked, don’t try to make it better for anyone else: allow them to be wherever they are.
Everyone is processing things the best way they can right now, so the key message today is:
whatever you are/are not doing, is absolutely perfect for you!
Do not judge it, and do not compare.
Some of you are organizing your houses: fantastic! Some of you are exercising and getting in better shape: fantastic! Some of you are disconnecting from the world and simply reading all day: fantastic! Some of you are unable to do anything because you’re so knocked out from all the chaos and so you just zone out: fantastic!
It’s all fantastic because you’re doing the best you can do for you!
Do not forget that, and do not think you should be doing anything or be anywhere emotionally/mentally other than where you are.
Where you are is exactly where you need to be.
What’s needed more than ever right now is compassion; both towards yourself, and others. People are struggling, they’re melting down, they’re anxious. So as much as you can, have compassion, and be understanding.
Watch your expectations. If they’re high, you need to remember that many people are overloaded; they can only do what they can do.
If a store is out of what you need, take a deep breath and try again another day, or order online. If you notice you’re irritated with someone who’s scared, maybe they’re triggering your own fears or where you feel impotent to help them. If you’re overwhelmed and having a rough day, disconnect from others. If you’re tired and having a meltdown, step back and do something self-nurturing. Be kind to yourself.
Now some of you are handling things brilliantly- huge bravo to you!! Truly! You are helping keep the energy high for everyone else so thank you. Your light is a powerful healer, please continue to shine it.
For those who are not in that place: it's time for extra self-care, and to go within to heal and love yourself. Just be with what is, with where you’re at emotionally and mentally. Don’t judge yourself, have gentleness, and tremendous compassion.
We’ll get through this, one day, sometimes simply one moment, at a time.
I got your back.
Sending you love.
Humanity is creating a new world, a new level of consciousness. This is what the Age of Aquarius is about. We are definitely in the unchartered of the new world, and as such, the old ways are crumbling. Ultimately for the good of all; even as the world dismantles, dramatically so recently.
We’re all searching for answers because answers make things a little less scary but at the end of the day, we don’t know anything. We can speculate, we can guess, we can hope, but we don’t know. And the unknown is scary to most people.
Many of you are exhausted; allow yourself to sleep as much as needed. Disconnect when the energy is too intense. Like a cell phone, you all need to recharge as well. And your batteries are being drained dealing with the intense fear and panic energies on the planet.
So stop. Rest. Don’t make plans if you’re overwhelmed. You really can’t anyway so just surrender. Stop fighting what is.
There’s power in the unknown if you can stop, and quit trying to find answers. Create them instead. Focus as much as you can on what you do want in the new world, in your new world. Trust yourself, trust your inner guidance.
Remember, you’re a powerful creator or you wouldn’t have chosen to incarnate at this time.
Your light is needed more than ever. And, you need to step back when you’re running low to take care of you.
Now, let’s have fun this week!
I was drawn to picking Oracle cards for you all. Six decks jumped out with messages. I was actually shocked at what came through; the messages were spot on. I connected to each of your Higher Selves as I drew the cards, knowing the perfect card would go to the right person.
So, right now, close your eyes, center yourself, and ask your Higher Self to give you the message that you most need to hear. Then pick a number between 1 and 6.
Write me back with your number and I’ll send you the card and write up corresponding to your number.
Let’s see what the Universe wants to say to you!
I know you’re overloaded, so today, we’re focusing on what we can control and do during this time.
As much as you can, don’t feed the fear. Remember this brilliant quote:
“I will not let anyone walk through my mind with their dirty feet.”
― Mahatma Gandhi
Here’s what has helped me tons, may it bring you peace and sanity as well!
1: Say the Archangel Michael prayer:
You need to keep your space clear. Just going outside right now you will most likely pick up lower vibrational energies that feed on this panic. Use the prayer - especially if you feel angry. It could be yours or other people’s. Remember, people are angry because they’re scared.
Click here for the prayer.
2: Separate out energy:
You need to disconnect your energy from those around you. It takes only a few minutes and I highly recommend you do it often.
Here is the typical script I use. I added a few specifics for right now in parentheses. The visualizing below each part is part of the process:
“My Higher Self, please take everyone’s energy (fears, hysteria, terror, chaos) and power, out of my aura and body, send it all into the light of Divine Source to be cleansed, rinsed and healed, transmuted and transformed into pure love and light (peace and calm) and then returned to wherever it goes.”
(Imagine it all leaving your space, going into the light. Then see it flowing back out of the light as beautiful love and light, raining down on where/who it came from.)
“And please call all of my energy and power back from everybody’s auras and bodies, (if you’ve been out you can add: from any stores I was in, from driving) and send it all into the light of Divine Source to be cleansed, rinsed, and healed, transmuted and transformed into unconditional love and light, and then returned to me.”
As that is happening, add; "Cut all cords between me and anyone I was in contact with and shut down any energy exchange."
(Then see your energy and power being returned to you as pure love and light, filling your space to overflowing; every cell, every atom of your being, filled with pure light, energizing and replenishing you.)
I say this as often as needed throughout the day and for sure before bed.
I have a video on my resources page showing a way to do this but this script is more detailed for you.
3: Call your energy close to you:
Imagine all of the energy that you’re currently sending out, turning and facing in towards you. It’s yours, keep it. Once you feel it back around you then:
4: Put a bubble of protection around you:
I like violet, it repels negativity. You can use whatever color you prefer, all are fabulous: blue, rose pink, green, white, gold- do what appeals to you. I ask that my bubble vibrate at pure love. Pure love is a very strong shield.
5: Breathe, Connect to the planet, Feel the earth, and Ground:
More than ever you need to ground. The energy and hysteria is designed to keep you out of body. You have to connect to the earth. If you notice you can’t sit still or you’re wandering aimlessly without focus or you just want to watch the news- you’re ungrounded.
I have many previous blogs on this. Look in the category section under the archived blogs to read more.
It can be a super simple, just speak your own fears, angers, worries etc. while the tapping the points. Then switch to positive statements when you’ve released the negative.
I made you a video to help. Watch below at the bottom of the blog.
7: Epsom Salt Bath:
It’s a godsend to get people and negative energy out of your space. It works amazingly well when nothing else will or when negative energies are hiding in your space. Salt has a powerful cleansing effect.
8: Turn your attention off of yourself and help someone else:
Send love and light to someone you know who’s having a hard time, and then, send it to the whole world. Visualize the world being held in a bubble of healing and siphon all the pain, fear, and trauma up into the light of Source. Be part of the solution! Whenever you’re wrapped up in your own issues/problems, the fastest way through is to help someone else.
9: Retreat from social media and the news, except in small snippets:
For the most part, those mediums amp up the issue without offering solutions or hope. It can dive-bomb you. Be selective. Don’t feed the fear!
10: Do a meditation to co-create a positive future:
I recorded this for you to not only co-create a positive future for the world, but also for yourself.
I’ve kept the meditation more general so that it can be used for any issues/crises going on in the world.
You can’t solve a problem if that’s all you see so hopefully this will help you gain perspective.
Listen at the bottom of the blog.
It can be hard to remember in the midst of this hysteria, but you create your reality. Personally, I refuse to allow a reality of limited freedom for much longer. I value freedom, I value peace. I refuse a reality of hysteria. Take your power back and do not feed the fear. It’s not being ignorant, you can be wise, and simultaneously, be empowered.
Everyday fill yourself with light from Source, as if being filled with a giant sun illuminating and shining from within, snuffing out any and all darkness. Literally be the light.
And since we are in a global pause, what is the world you would like to see as we come out of this?
I’ve often talked about the power of pause as a reset. What is it you would like to happen as the play button gets hit again? You can choose to see beauty, or you can choose to see darkness: the choice is yours.
Have a calm, empowered week!
Here is your guided meditation:
Here is your tapping video:
Since fear is incredibly high in the world right now, and the best way to alleviate fear in the world is to deal with your own deep fears, that’s what we’re going to do this week.
I want you to take a moment and think about some of your deep fears. Now maybe they won’t be immediately apparent, so let’s look at behaviors and patterns of being.
Maybe you over do and over give again and again. You find that no matter how much you try, you cannot sit still and just be. It seems that you always have to be doing or giving.
So let’s dive deeper into that: maybe your worth is in your giving and doing. Maybe there’s a secret fear that if you’re not doing, you have no value. Or maybe you think that if you don’t overdo, the deeper fear is that you won’t be loved.
This scenario can play out in multiple ways in which two people can have the same behavior, but both have a different deep core fear.
Taking that same behavior as an example, maybe the deepest fear is that you’re not good enough. And so you have to continually do to prove to yourself and the world, that you are enough.
With that as the deepest core fear, maybe you always do everything perfectly. Everything around you: the way you present yourself, your home, your family, all has to be perfect. This could also be how not good enough plays out. If you’re always try to control yourself or those around you to do it right, how much underneath that is the fear that you’re not good enough? Just sit with that. The deeper fear could also be that you won’t be loved unless you do it perfectly.
See how two people can have similar behaviors but different core issues?
Let’s look at a different behavior: maybe you find that you just can’t/won’t set boundaries. Every time you try, you acquiesce and don’t hold them. Let’s dive into some fears there: maybe you fear that the person will get mad at you. OK, what happens if they get mad at you? They pull the love away. If they pull the love away, you could potentially be alone. Maybe that fear of rejection is so deep that you will do anything; even let people override you and your wishes, to ultimately not be alone. For some, that’s the bottom, for others, it might be being be unloved. In either case, maybe the fear of rejection is what you’re aware of, yet more deeply; it’s the loss of love and being alone.
The fear of not being good enough, the fear of ultimately being alone, these are core fears. They will create behaviors that, even if you know they are harmful for you, sometimes you do them anyway because the fear controls you on a subconscious level and makes you feel so unsafe unless you continue the negative pattern.
Do not judge your fear; absolutely forgive yourself for it. You could get mad at it, but that will just hold it in place. You created the pattern and behavior at a point in your life where you truly thought this was the way to survive. Find some compassion and forgiveness towards yourself because those are the energies that will shift it. Anger and blame will only hold the fear in place more strongly.
Let’s look at one more example:
Maybe you’re an incredible achiever. You achieve, you reach goals, and you shine fabulously in everything you do. However, you feel that what drives you is trying to show that you do matter. Yes, maybe for you at first it’s that you’re good enough, but if you dive deeper, maybe the core is that you matter; that your presence matters. And so you spend your life proving that by being an overachiever and accomplishing things. Nothing wrong with those things inherently, I’m saying look at the why of what you do.
With every example above, look at the motivation behind the behaviors, and find the deep fears. Maybe within my examples, when you look at your ability to achieve, you see that you actually do it from a positive place. Then fantastic! I’m not saying all of these examples are done from fear. I’m saying notice where your fear plays out for you. It will be different for everyone. One person’s positive behavior is another’s that is fear-based at the core. Two people can achieve a goal and one of them does it from the higher reason of expressing the more of themselves and bringing their gifts to the world, while the other person may do it because they need to prove to themselves that they really are good enough, that they really do matter, and that they have value. So that’s all I’m saying, simply notice.
By noticing, you take away the power of the negative and can start affirming the positive of what you do want in your reality.
Be observant this week, and do not feed your fears. The way the world has less fear is by you dealing with yours. It starts with you.
Recently a bunch of you have said to me that you don’t know how to meditate. It’s actually simpler than you think. There are so many ways; really you need to find what works best for you.
Regardless of which you choose, consistency is key. Personally I like to start my day in meditation. Not only am I much more present and centered when I do, but I also think more clearly and get things done more easily.
It’s up to you if you want music or no music while you’re meditating. You may even like bells (see Number 3 below).
Here are some ideas to get you started:
1: Focus on your breath.
This is the easiest form and can be done anywhere, anytime. Close your eyes and simply focus on your breathing. If any thoughts try to distract you, don’t fight them, let them move through you and refocus on your breath.
Ultimately, you want to get your breath down into your belly, not up in your lungs. It’s also more calming if you can breathe in through your nose, and out through your mouth.
The key is to be present to what you’re experiencing. Becoming the observer versus participating in what you’re thinking/feeling.
This particular category is huge and can branch out. Here are a few examples:
From a place of stillness, you focus on words or phrases.
3: Guided Meditation.
Beyond YouTube, there are great apps with guided meditations to help so that you simply follow along. I like Insight Timer and I’ve heard about Calm and Headspace but can’t speak to them.
Insight Timer has tons of free meditations for any issue you have, however my favorite part is the bells you can set to go off at intervals. I find it very peaceful and it helps me focus. There are 10 different bells in the timer section so that you can customize what you want.
4: Active Meditation.
This is what I do and what I’ve talked about with you all: grounding myself, running earth and cosmic energy, and doing chakra work. While I absolutely start from a place of focused stillness, I then move on. For me, it works best because my mind is super active so if I engage it to set up my space, then I feel much more present and empowered and can have those moments of quiet nothingness afterwards.
5: Movement Meditation.
Yoga, Tai Chi, and Qi Gong are all ways to get present and into your body with specific focused movements. Walking in nature can also be very meditative if you simply focus on the trees and the sky - all of your surroundings, and release all thoughts.
You can add-on to any form above that you like, such as being in the energy of gratitude and making a gratitude list or doing a chakra cleanse (more on that in an upcoming week). Also, any act of creativity can be meditative: painting, dancing, even cooking, provided you are present to it and enjoying it versus being in your head over thinking.
Ultimately, you need to surrender to an energy greater than you and allow yourself to relax and experience presence and peace. All of your power is in the now, and meditation is a way to bring you fully here.
Respite- the dictionary defines it as, “an interval of rest or relief.”
I think it’s what’s needed to function right now.
So even if you are busy, busy, busy, and just can’t stop (notice if you get a high from, or feel valuable by, being busy), in this moment, stop. Take a time out.
Don’t skim through this post hurrying to the next thing. Stop. Focus on your breath. Focus on your body. Feel into your tailbone. Feel your feet on the ground. Breathe.
Reset yourself. Reset your energy. Call all your energy back to you right here, right now. All that matters is this moment. Breathe.
Pause for a moment.
Now go about your day. And notice if there’s anything you can postpone today that would give you more space to heal and be.
If so, take the time to meditate, to read, to daydream, or to be creative. Your Soul is calling, will you listen?
I don’t know about you, but I have been triggered lately! Like, meltdown, panic attacks, triggered. Thankfully I just read the newest blog by Laurie Johnson, click here, that explains the intense energies going on.
I will say, before doing that, I really needed to practice what I tell you all and so, here’s what’s helped me tremendously. May it help you as well!
1: I took my favorite- Bach Flower Remedy Elm.
Those of you who've been following me since the beginning know I swear by it. It's for when you feel overwhelmed. 4 drops in water, chug, 4 more drops in a glass of water, sip. And I actually needed three doses back to back one day to get calm. It works brilliantly.
2: Ground yourself.
Yes, I will be that one person who is always bugging you about this, and I can’t stress it enough. When you’re ungrounded, everything gets amped up and you can’t think straight, nor can you respond appropriately to what’s in front of you. Ground, ground, ground!!
Here are some helpful reminders:
Meditation for Grounding
Meditation for Safety
The Power of Being Grounded
Really it should be number one but we forget sometimes don’t we? Breathe. Call your energy into your body. Call it back from the future. Call it out of your to-dos. Breathe. Feel into your feet. Feel yourself sitting on your chair/bed. Feel gravity. Breathe.
4: Mantra yourself.
I had a steady stream of, “I am safe. Everything is ok even if it’s not perfect. If I make a mistake, it can be fixed. I have more than enough time; there is no need to rush. Everything is falling into place in its Divine timing. Everything is working out in my favor. I am Divinely supported. I can trust that I am safe.”
5: Use EFT or tapping.
YouTube it, it’s fabulous. Literally just tap all the points while speaking your discomfort/panic/fears and keep going until you start to be able to say things like, “I’m willing to let this go. I’m willing to see this differently.” Email me if you need more detailed help.
6: Notice if it’s you in present time that is freaking out or if you are being triggered from an event in childhood/adolescence.
For me, I was totally in childhood. I found deep wounds that were churning up to be healed. I had to acknowledge my inner child and her fears etc., then talk to her, let her vent, and hold her to help her feel safe. I also had to consciously release a pattern of behavior I always thought was mine, but saw clearly that I took on from one of my parents. Their way of reacting was one I had adopted as my own because it was what I saw and experienced. A light bulb went off as I realized an emotional response and belief I had been living wasn’t mine at all!!! My 6 year old had taken it on as truth. So I needed to separate out from that, release that belief, build a new one, and have incredible compassion for myself: both in present time, and at age 6.
Which leads to:
7: Ho’oponopono yourself and the situation/person.
I needed to do this for me in present time, for my 6 year old self, and for the parent who triggered me. Not from a place of blame, they were doing the best they could and you might’ve been a sponge. But you’re not a victim, you learned something. Take your power back, and forgive. Now if we’re talking abuse, that’s a whole nother issue and not something I am addressing in this. I am talking about the beliefs and patterns of behavior we take on from our parents without even realizing how deeply we do it.
Taking Your Power Back
8: Make a new choice.
I needed to choose a different response in the moment versus what I had been trained/conditioned to do. And that takes conscious awareness. So you need to pause and ask how you want to respond in present time, without responding from a programmed habit of behavior.
9: Put on soothing music and talk to yourself.
Talk to your panic. Ask it what it needs to say or vent. Then listen. Let it be irrational with non sequiturs. Journal it, speak it- get it out of you.
And remember, you are not your body, you are not your panic and fear.
Yes, that’s right- just stop. Stop all doing, stop all planning. Stop and take a reprieve. Even if there’s so much to do, stop. That was my mistake last week. I didn’t stop. I kept pushing through it and guess what? It got worse. Until I stopped. Until I cleared time in my calendar for me. Until I demanded healing time for myself. No one was blocking me, I overscheduled myself. No blame, again, it’s on me. Boundaries!!! So I claimed some and stopped. Once I did, anytime the anxiety came up again, it was easier to move through.
11: Accept and allow.
If you try to make it go away or judge it as bad or wrong, it’s gonna stick like glue. Accept yourself fully, even when you’re an emotional mess.
12: Ask for help.
From your unseen team of helpers (Higher Self, guides, angels, etc.) and from people in the seen world. Build a support team you can rely on when you’re not neutral enough to help yourself. I know I needed that!
Now I won’t lie and say the anxiety is gone because it still pops up occasionally, just much less. Reading the blog I referenced at the beginning helped tons to understand the greater energetic shifts happening in the world. Also, I am taking my power back and being in present time as much as possible. I have the tools to more elegantly move through any more panic moments versus letting them control me. Until then, I am being extra gentle with, and not pushing, myself. I am good exactly as I am, as are you. This too shall pass.
Me, just sharing ways to make you the best you can be!