You always have a choice as to how you see a situation that doesn’t go well or is harder or more difficult than you imagined, and when your best laid plans don’t turn out the way you’d hoped. You can either beat yourself up, or you can say, “I didn’t know what I didn’t know.”
I’m in the middle of a project in my personal reality and that is my current mantra when things don’t go as I thought they would.
You really can’t know what you don’t know until you’re going through it. There are things that won’t be perfect. There are things you’ll screw up. It doesn’t mean you’re bad and wrong, nor is it wise to use it as an excuse to let your negative ego beat the crap out of you and tell you how awful and stupid you are.
The most empowered way to handle missteps and “mistakes” is to forgive yourself, and to recognize that there’s a lot out there you don’t know, and you can only do the best you can with the knowledge and information you currently have. You will always learn more and have more insight the next time.
And let me tell you, not only is forgiveness the most self-loving response, it also helps you to find solutions to difficult issues.
The alternative is to dive bomb into the blame and regret of, “I should’ve...” And how does that help you move forward?
Forgiveness, lots of deep breaths, and grounding help. Because truly, you don’t know, what you don’t know.
Me, just sharing ways to make you the best you can be!