It's been a doozy this past week hasn't it? Not only is there chaos in the world, but it seems that everyone's personal chaos and issues are front and center. If you're feeling this, know that you're not alone.
 
On an energetic level, we’re emotionally cleaning house on our deep wounds. From fear to self-pity, doubt to lack of worth, anger, questioning things, confusion and frustration, some of our biggest issues are surfacing to be healed. The most common word I've heard so far in sessions this week, is "depression."
 
Typically, depression would be anger that you don't think you have a right to have, yet this depression also seems to be coming from too much chaos and not being able to catch up to ourselves.
 
What I mean by that, is that as spirits, we move quickly. However, bodies move slowly. It’s why we can heal a physical issue emotionally, but it may take time to show up in our physical reality. (I’m launching something soon in which we dive into topics such as this in much more detail.)
 
Part of the surfacing of our personal emotional Achilles heels, is us as a collective literally birthing a new world. And it can get really dark and messy before things level out and become so much more filled with light.
 
We're seeing that on a global scale, especially as the old paradigm of patriarchy and patriarchal control is gripping as tightly and loudly as possible. Here’s the good news though- it’s on its way out. Even if you can’t see or imagine that right now, it is.
 
We’re here for a bigger purpose. We’re here to usher in a new age, a new frequency and new paradigms of co-creation between the masculine and the feminine, and of collective unity.
 
When things get especially rough, it can be hard to remember that. That's when you taking care of yourself is the most important thing.
 
So, back to the beginning, we are healing our own darkest issues to ultimately heal the world. Because it starts with individual work first. And that's not fun, nor comfortable at times.
 
What to do when you're absolutely melting down? I'm going to put links to various techniques below. Pick and choose what works for you because sometimes a technique that has worked wonders, won't do anything, and sometimes something that wasn’t a favorite before, works wonders now. If you need to do multiple techniques, that’s ok too. I sure did over the weekend!
 
Here are previous blogs and YouTube videos to help:
7 Techniques To Help You Transcend Your Fears
Defeating Doubt
Healing for Panic Attacks, Fear and Anxiety
Anger Release Techniques
The Ladder of Emotions
EFT Tapping to Alleviate a Crisis
Sensory Engagement for Greater Presence
 
Ultimately, you need to come back to your center. You need to ground into yourself. Either an actual deep grounding (I have you run mud in this one which is phenomenally soothing when you’re fried and amped up) or technique to calm your nervous system and get present. Never underestimate the power of being in nature either. Get outside if and when you can.
 
Plus, you need to connect to your heart. Put your hands over your heart and breathe and center your consciousness there. Because the power is within. It's underneath all of the noise and all of the emotional trauma.
 
It’s not fun to be the caterpillar dissolving in the chrysalis, but think of how beautiful your butterfly wings will be once you come out. You got this!

 
If you're struggling right now, reach out to schedule a session—I’m here to help.

I started the year working to be very mindful of my thoughts and emotions. Because of that, I was catching any time a negative thought or crabby feeling was present.
 
I knew I needed to shift that thought/feeling quickly into something else, so I came up with the image of a pink elephant. She looks a bit like dumbo, minus the ears, and she has wings.
 
Now, why a pink elephant you might ask? Because it makes me laugh and stop taking myself so seriously. It shifts my mood, even if I have to keep putting the pink elephant in my face as my object of focus.
 
To me, the pink elephant represents inner peace and freedom. Freedom and peace from whatever dark thoughts and feelings I'm experiencing. And wow has it worked wonders!
 
You can use any ridiculous image- a purple kangaroo with a top hat and cane, a giant bunny dressed and celebrating like it’s Mardi Gras- anything. It doesn't have to be an animal, but it needs to be silly enough to give you pause and get you out of your swirl of negativity and fears etc. Something to literally lighten your mood. If it makes you smile or laugh, all the better!
 
Because remember, nothing has power over you when you can laugh at it.
 
That’s how I learned to clear ghosts from haunted houses. No matter how awful the energy was, it couldn’t touch me when I was laughing at it.
 
And you may need to fake it 'til you make it at first. That’s why you choose an absurd, goofy image.
 
Try it this week and let me know how it goes and what image you come up with. I’ll tell you this, I’ve found incredible liberation already this year with my pink elephant. If I can do it, so can you!

Forgiveness is a topic I speak of often and passionately about because I know its power. Forgiveness can shift stuck and negative energy unlike anything else. It helps you release your attachment to what’s happening and the meaning you’ve given it. Forgiveness releases you from whatever internal prisons bind you, to bring greater freedom to yourself and your relationships.
 
(Move your biggest traumas to the side with what I say below. That is a different and layered discussion.)
 
One of my favorite forgiveness techniques is the Ho’oponopono. I first spoke of this technique in a previous blog in 2019 and heard from my unseen team that it’s time for a refresher.
 
The first step though before we forgive, is to take responsibility for whatever is occurring in our life that's causing us upset because once we do, then we can change it. Feel the empowerment of, "If I created it, I can change it. This is in my reality, therefore I have the power to alter it.”
 
We each author and create our own reality through our thoughts, our emotions, our beliefs, how we act and respond in any given situation. Yes, much of it can be subconscious or unconscious, that's why we take responsibility first. It’s an illusion that anything outside of us is doing it to us. 
 
Now comes the forgiveness. The Ho’oponopono is such a brilliant technique for this. It consists of four lines:

“I love you, I’m sorry, Please forgive me, Thank you.”
 
You say these things to yourself, while visualizing or picturing the person or situation that’s causing you distress.
 
Let me detail the components:
 
“I love you.”
Everything starts with love. You have to start from a place of self-love to shift the energy, as love is the most powerful force there is.
 
“I’m sorry.”
Forgive yourself for whyever this is in your reality. Even if you don’t know why something is happening- it could be a faulty belief, a negative thought pattern, or something stuck deep in the unconscious – don’t worry about the details, the point is to genuinely feel sorry that you’re experiencing this pain or trauma.

 “Please forgive me.”
 Ask for, and be willing to receive forgiveness. It’s yours. 
 
“Thank you.”
Gratitude is a powerful energy for change. Truly be grateful that the energy can now shift. That you’re opening the door to your previous prison.
 
I’ve seen the Ho’oponopono completely transform negative situations and relationships. I use it myself regularly.  

Sometimes, I go into detail with it. For example, “I love you self. I'm so sorry this is causing us upset. Please forgive me for whyever we’re experiencing it. Thank you.”
 
You can change up the lines as well and give even more detail. For example, with a physical issue: “I'm so sorry we're going through (speak what it is). Please forgive me for whatever was involved in its creation. I love you so much self. Thank you for helping me release (fill in the blank).”
 
When using it towards another, you think of them while speaking the words to whatever is happening within you. Freeing yourself first, to shift the relationship.
 
It’s not necessary to detail it, but sometimes I like to start that way, to give my whole being a very specific message of what we’re healing. 

The Ho'oponopono is such an elegant way to free yourself and shift your reality. You can use it for anything! Health issues, financial issues, conflicts with another, job issues, recurring negative thoughts- struggles of any kind. Forgive to release them. 
 
Remember, it starts with you. You need to be the change. Take responsibility and then speak the self-forgiveness. A beautiful future awaits.


If you want to dive more deeply into forgiveness, check out my blogs on that topic under the "Forgiveness" category to the right.

Too often I think we equate success with money. We tie them together and then we feel less than or unworthy if we’re not earning what we’d like.
 
The same holds true with our careers. We feel like a failure not only if we don’t get that title at work, but also if we don’t have the number of followers or likes we desire on social media, or if our career doesn’t match how others are doing it.
 
But true success has nothing to do with income or the outer trappings. Seeing it myopically can be destructive to your self-worth and self-esteem. You don’t have to achieve some arbitrary goal or view yourself by society’s standards to be a success. That’s the old patriarchal limited view of achievements equating value.
 
What if we broaden the definition?
 
I want you to contemplate Ralph Waldo Emerson’s words in his poem, “Success,” to see if you can shift your perspective:
 
“To laugh often and love much;
To win the respect of intelligent people and the affection of children;
To earn the approval of honest critics and endure the betrayal of false friends;
To appreciate beauty;
To find the best in others;
To give of one's self;
To leave the world a bit better, whether by a healthy child, a garden patch, or a redeemed social condition;
To have played and laughed with enthusiasm and sung with exultation;
To know even one life has breathed easier because you have lived . . .
This is to have succeeded.”
 
By this definition, can you begin to see yourself as a success?
 
In addition to the above, you’re a success when you show up consciously and conscientiously. When you take the time to work on yourself, versus continuing negative behaviors. When you strive to be your best self. When you stretch and grow. When you help others or extend kindness. When you lead from love.
 
Feel the expansiveness of the truth of success. Let it shift you to become more and to own how truly successful you are. Because the more you can truly own that you’re a success, the wider and more varied your success will become.

Since Love day is coming up on Friday, I recorded a short series of affirmations for you, meant to inspire, uplift, and help you feel empowered. They will open you to greater alignment with yourself and The Universe.
 
Words can be just words, but frequency and resonance are everything. So, try to feel the energy behind the words. Feel that you are authoring a new reality as you speak the words into existence.
 
For added power, stand in front of the mirror and look yourself in the eye as you say them. You can stand in the super hero pose for an extra boost. (See my blog on that here)

Some of the affirmations are long, begin speaking them along with me.
 
When you’re done, give yourself a hug to signal to your body that you're choosing to anchor in these affirmations and say,“Yes please! Nervous system and subconscious, this is what I’m creating and choosing to experience. This is safe and good for me now!”

I kept it short, less than 4 minutes, so that you can repeat it as often as you desire. You can also play it in the background when you need to raise your energy.
 
And for those to whom Valentine’s day is not a fun day, or even if it is, give the love to yourself first. Let it be a Self-Love day. You’re very deserving of it!
 
 
YouTube Affirmations

First of all, to everyone who joined live, in replay, or just in spirit last Thursday, Thank You!! As a sign of the magic working, the Palisades and Eaton fires are more contained, and there were incredible amounts of moisture in the air the following few days. That was some fast feedback on the energy work!
 
And here’s the thing- if your mind/negative ego wants to poo poo that and say the moisture would’ve come regardless, challenge that negativity. Because in truth, we went from full dry Thursday to wonderful moisture on Friday. That to me, is a miracle and worth celebrating.
 
The more you celebrate the wins, the more wins there are to celebrate. With everything in your life!!
 
(I’m going to do another live next week, different topic. Details will be after the blog!)
 
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So- now to the blog that was slated for 2 weeks ago as it still holds true:
 
 
While some people hit the ground running on New Year's, others may be experiencing a slower start to the year. Especially after the craziness of the holidays!
 
In the northern hemisphere, winter is a time for hibernation and rest. It’s easier to recognize this for those getting hit with snow, but for those of us in warmer climates, we can forget that just because it's sunny, the resonance is still set for slow movements.
 
If you feel super motivated right now, absolutely go with it. If you feel the need to take it easy and do nothing, know that you're matching the season. Maybe you have a mix- you have something you're excited to be starting now or soon, and simultaneously, as things are incubating, you're feeling the need for downtime and quiet.
 
Beyond the season itself, from an Astrology perspective, Mars is retrograde until February, thus forward motion is stalled. Therefore, prepping behind the scenes but not taking active action may feel right for you. For some, Chinese New Year is when they feel the year really starting. And yet for others, Spring is when they truly blossom.
 
There's not a single right or wrong way to do it. Simply honor your cadence.
 
The key is to not feel pressure or guilt by how others are doing it. You know what works best for you so follow your rhythm and be your best authority. Trust your needs. That’s the perfect way to start the year!
 
 
 
 
 

What I'm good at is energy work. I may not be one of those people who can show up as ground crew, helping and supporting that way, but I can work the energy, I can work the trauma, and I can work with the elements. 
 
So, tomorrow, Thursday the 16th @ 5:30pm PST, I’m going live on my YouTube channel to guide you in energy work to help the fires, to help the people, and to call in the rain. Plus you’ll receive healing as well!

 We'll go even deeper than we did in the meditation I released last week. 
 
If you want to support Los Angeles energetically, and do not diminish the importance and value of that, join me tomorrow night. (The link will be at the bottom of the today's blog)

It’ll be recorded and available on my YouTube channel for those who can’t make it live!
 
Now to this week’s blog…
 

It's been an emotional roller-coaster being in LA. I'm sure many of you who’ve had to deal with hurricanes, floods, or tornadoes understand the impact of trauma that is palpably felt. 
 
Everyone I've talked to feels tense and anxious- because the fires aren't contained yet. The uncertainty is very disconcerting. 
 
We live a few blocks away from where the mandatory evacuation area was last Wednesday with the fire in Hollywood. It's very surreal to pack up a car when you don't know if it'll be the last time you see your home. My heart goes out to those who didn't have the luxury of being able to run through and grab what was most valuable to them. When you do have that time, you recognize that it's the sentimental things that you grab first. What matters comes into sharp focus.
 
A bunch of my readers have lost their homes and it’s heartbreaking. And in that, I want to remind everybody that the most powerful thing you can do for somebody going through a tragedy, and this extends beyond just what's happening right now in LA, is to simply hold space for them. To allow them to be in all their emotions and not offer advice and not try to make it better. 
 
Ask how you can best support them right now. Because that's a powerful question. And they may not know, so you listen and let them talk or not talk.
 
Many people have expressed to me that they feel like they're not doing enough, or they wish they could do more. Everyone does what's right for them and don't underestimate simply sending love or holding the intention of miraculous rain. Sending the bubble of rose-pink light I guided you through last week, to the firefighters and those impacted. Any bit of positive focus is phenomenally powerful.
 
Don't feed into any blame or finger-pointing. Don't add fuel to rage. Simply be in compassion. I know that's hard because many people would rather go to blame than feel the pain, but yet that's the way through any crisis, is to acknowledge and release the grief and pain. 
 
Wrapping everyone in love and healing, no matter where you live!


YouTube Live Link
 

This is a very different blog than what I was expecting to send today. But given the state of Los Angeles (for those not in the area, there are two major fires burning and two smaller ones), many of you are feeling the threat from the winds and fires and have been evacuated. I want to take a moment to do group energy work.
 
The beauty is, what we’re about to do, anyone can do regardless of where you live. We’re all connected, and intention is extremely influential. Plus, you’ll be healing yourself in the process.
 
All you need is your imagination and desire to assist.
 
So, if you're so inclined, put your hands over your heart. (There's an audio version below if you prefer to be guided)
Begin to breathe in and out in equal measure. Meaning if you inhale to a 3 count, exhale to a 3 count.
 
Now focus on someone or something you love. Keep breathing and let that love amplify your heart energy.
 
Begin to send that love towards all of those negatively impacted by the fires. With every inhale, fill yourself with love and with every exhale, send it to those in need. Don’t worry about where it’s going, as I said above, just hold the intention.
 
Shift your attention to yourself and acknowledge your own inner fire and passion. As you focus on your breathing, ask those energies to come into balance within you.
 
Now imagine a beautiful cooling blue light settling over all of Los Angeles, especially the areas in and around both the Pacific Palisades and Pasadena. Imagine that blue light is like water, cooling the rage of the fires.
 
See moisture coming from the ocean to create actual water. Ask for your own inner water to be balanced. Water represents emotions, so imagine soothing and calming your own emotions right now.
 
Now visualize the winds dissipating and calming. Since the wind represents freedom and personal power, breathe in and siphon some of that energy towards yourself and allow it to amplify your own inner freedom and your own personal power.
 
Inhale the power of the wind and exhale it down through your body and into the planet so you can ground it and use it to your benefit. So that there’s less chaos in Los Angeles and more power able to be used for you.
 
Feel the earth below your feet and ask it to further ground out of you and out of the areas affected, anything else that needs releasing. Feel your feet sinking into the planet and feel the slow, steady rhythm of the planet. Let it ground any chaos out of the land and out of you.
 
As that’s grounded out, see those that have been misplaced surrounded in beautiful rose pink bubbles of compassion and support. Allow that beautiful pink light to be filled with golden sparkles as well, to rain into everyone who is currently in fear and being evacuated as I write.
 
Imagine the fires are being contained and stopping their spread, as if we can literally put a wall around them. Visualize those walls now.
 
Now release all focus on Los Angeles and come back to yourself. Feel your feet on the ground, feel your whole body. Rub your arms and legs. Fill yourself with Divine radiant golden light that streams through the top of your head, filling every cell in your body. Fill your body and energy field with this Divine golden light.
 
Make sure you drink water as well to replenish yourself.
 
This process can be altered and used for those who are getting hit with snowstorms on the East Coast.
 
As we balance ourselves, we can bring more balance to the world. Thank you for your love and participation!
 

If you prefer a guided audio of the above, here you go: