It’s Oracle card time for the Summer Solstice!!
I know we did this recently, yet they were calling. So I asked what everyone needed to know during this time from the Summer Solstice, into the next few months.
Now interestingly, there was one deck that had messages for each of you, whichever number you choose between one and four. Here is a little bit about this deck:
“The White Light Oracle guides you into the luminous realm of the sacred. The sacred is your heart treasure. It is that which brings light into your life. The sacred is precious to you. It matters enough that you are willing to devote yourself to it even when that requires courage and growth. The sacred generates inner warmth. It brings you joy. The sacred is a healing mirror that shows you the truth of your experience, which can include a compassionate reflection of your own suffering. It shows you how to heal. It inspires and protects you. What is sacred for your heart is unique to you. Yet for every heart, the sacred is an experience of sublime love and deep meaning.”
Clearly with the Summer Solstice, everyone was ready to receive whatever information is needed to help you more deeply connect to the sacred in you.
As always, center yourself, breathe, ask your unseen team what you most need to know, get out of your head, trust your gut, then pick.
If you always go to a specific number, don’t just automatically go there. Allow yourself to be led to the message/number you most need today.
Happy picking and may your number bring you clarity and insight!
Oracle Card Number One
Oracle Card Number Two
Oracle Card Number Three
Oracle Card Number Four
For many people, pleasure isn’t something that’s actively sought daily, as there’s such judgment on pleasure equating being hedonistic. Pleasure also seems to be dismissed in the quest of being “spiritual.” But what is spirituality without pleasure?
We’re in bodies. We’re here to learn more by being in our bodies, not trying to elevate out of them. Many religions shame bodies as sinful, base things. They teach that Source/God frowns upon pleasure, therefore for some of you, when you feel pleasure, there’s guilt involved. But didn’t Source/God create bodies? Don’t you think pleasure was put in for a reason?
Here in the United States, the puritanical message from our forefathers is still strong. Even if your ancestors came over more recently, that puritanical vibration is still felt and causes subconscious restriction and judgment regarding pleasure.
The dictionary defines pleasure as, “An event or activity from which one derives enjoyment.” Joy is one of the highest vibrations we can have, so to be in joy, is a wonderful thing.
Instead of trying to be so “good” all the time and controlling your body, what if you gave yourself the freedom to enjoy the taste of, i.e. a piece of chocolate in your mouth, or a spoon full of that ice cream you love so much. There can be pleasure in lingering over your morning coffee/tea while looking at the sky or reading the paper. Pleasure can come from the books you read, being out in nature, doing something physical that feels good, being creative, listening to music, or even watching a sunset - the list is endless.
Anything that engages your senses (thus, sensuality)- what you see, what you feel, what you touch and hear- all of that can be phenomenally pleasurable if you allow it.
We’ve been taught there’s such nobility in restraint and self-control, how about instead looking for balance? Balance means a glass or two of wine versus a bottle, a piece of cake versus the whole thing, a run that feels good versus pushing your body to exhaustion and pain. We go overboard when we’ve been denying ourselves for too long. In rebellion, we say “screw it” and become over indulgent, which could lead to feeling worse the next hour, or morning, thus descending one into shame again. The solution is balance, balance, balance.
It’s beneficial to allow yourself to experience pleasure. It’s good to receive pleasure. Can you take that in or does that trigger you?
We have a pain body, but we also have a pleasure body. Is your pleasure body being fed? Or are you constantly starving it and keeping it locked away?
Here’s something to consider: If you’re more interested in controlling and keeping righteous guard over your body and spirit, over time you will siphon out all the joy in your life.
Our bodies are miraculous. And just like the plants and animals around you, you need to feed yours with kind words and beautiful thoughts and experiences, versus beating it down any chance you get. You will never fully thrive if you constantly berate and deny yourself. The way to elevate your consciousness and to have more bliss in your life, is to engage your senses and experience more pleasure. Hang up the need to control, kick out the shame and guilt, welcome in balance, and delight in your body and spirit. Pleasure awaits.
I write a lot about being the light and the light being more powerful than the dark.
What I’ve been observing/learning more and more, is how a strong third chakra is necessary to creating a strong outer boundary. The third chakra is located in the stomach area, its color is yellow. The third chakra deals with issues of personal power.
The biggest obstacle to a healthy and vibrant third chakra is feeling powerless, which leads to a lack of boundaries and a more permeable energy field, whereby you take on everything in your surroundings. The antidote is being so fortified within yourself, that nothing penetrates in.
In regard to what I said at the top about the light being more powerful, it’s helpful to realize what may be stuck in your space that says the opposite. Sometimes it’s from past lives, or this one, of believing that you’re here to be a warrior against the dark. That it’s necessary for you to battle evil and put yourself in harm’s way in order to prove your worth. Think about religion telling you fight the devil. Remember, what you battle, sticks to you. If you were taught that Satan (darkness) is so powerful that you don’t stand a chance, no wonder you don’t believe in your power to change things.
Even if you didn’t grow up in a religious household, the idea of an all-powerful devil is in the collective consciousness, so you’re not immune to its influence.
Beyond that, many times powerlessness stems from when you were a child and you felt helpless against the adults or “authority” figures in your life. They felt so big and looming, and you were unable to protect yourself as they had all the control. That translated into being powerless to protect yourself against anything outside of you.
When you’re stuck in powerlessness, you’re outside the third chakra, off to the left. Outside the body on the right side of that chakra, is anger and rage. Sometimes you ping-pong between the two. And sometimes feeling powerless can create feelings of anger. When you’re stuck in either emotion, you’re not in your body.
One of the places intuition comes from is your gut, so you want to have your energy there. The third chakra also corresponds to the upper part of your digestion system so if you have repeated digestive distress, that’s another clue that you need to clean out what’s stuck in there emotionally or energetically.
I’ve talked about how to pull your power back, you can reference it here, and that’s something you need to do often. Think about how much you give your power away to anyone/anything in your reality. You give people the power to affect your mood. You give people you’ve never met on the news the power to shift how you perceive reality. When you're externally focused, you leak power left and right; call that power back.
Put your hand over your stomach right now. Feel your consciousness sinking into that space. Notice if you're critical of your stomach area and release those feelings. Send love there. Send your energy there. Imagine your energy as a ball of radiant yellow light, like a sun. Let that massive sun part of you expand into that space.
Recognize if part of your energy is off to the left or off to the right and pull it out of anger, pull it out of powerlessness- pull it into center. Be in your center. Be in your power.
As you come into that chakra, it might feel like that ball of radiance is very teeny tiny, or maybe nonexistent. Don’t judge it, start feeding it. If it’s nonexistent, call your power back from everywhere and everything you gave it away to throughout your life. Keep stoking that fire. The third chakra is also the seat of will. And if that fire has gone out, you’re not going to have the willpower to do what you want.
Imagine more and more of your light coming in and filling the space of your third chakra. You can create a shield around you like I’ve taught you, but you also need a radiant shield coming from within. Dark energy may still occasionally get through because as I like to remind you, you’re human. However, the more you can fortify and embody your third chakra, the more impenetrable your outer boundary will be.
There’s a big influx of light coming onto the planet and it’s been that way for a while now. Things are shifting and changing. How do you want to create this new earth? Do you want to continue giving your power away to everyone else’s images and maybe their dystopian ideas? Or do you want to claim your power and the vision you have of beauty and goodness and harmony? Stop giving away your power, and own your future. Your light is indeed more powerful than any dark.
I don’t think we’re ever truly confused when it comes to making choices. We may say we are, but underneath, it’s usually because there’s fear blocking what we think we can have. Of our choices, one choice is the “shoulds” that speak to what’s expected of us or our duties and obligations, and the other choice is our true desire. For a myriad of reasons, we don’t think we can claim that which we truly desire, and so we create confusion.
It can be scary to follow your dreams or to walk away from something/someone. It can be scary to declare the path you’re drawn to taking. So as a subconscious protection from stepping out and owning what we really want, and potentially disappointing/upsetting our family/friends, we get confused. But all that confusion is just noise. Noise preventing us from knowing the truth of what our gut really says. You need to drop out of the noise and go down into the gut.
Start with this: the next time you feel confused when faced with a choice, get out of your head, out of what everyone else says and what you think is “right,” and ask in the quiet stillness of your gut what direction to take/what your answer is. Be still and listen. It may not come at first. There may be programming to unravel of all the times you acquiesced or surrendered your will. But the answer is there. As is the knowing. They’re not in your head, they’re in your gut.
When you get your answer, then act on it. Even if it’s out of your comfort zone, even if it’s scary. Change your perception and translate the fear as excitement and good nervousness for all the amazing things coming your way as you follow your truth.
Don’t worry how others will react. It’s your reality, you need to create a life you’re proud of.
When people are dying, they regret the things they didn’t pursue, the courage they didn’t call upon. Don’t create a regret, create what you most desire. Move out of confusion, allow and receive clarity, and then move forward in the direction of your dreams.
Every day, you have the opportunity to ask yourself: is what I’m about to do a priority, or a distraction?
We’re faced with that decision, multiple times, even if we never actually ask the question. However, becoming conscious of your actions helps you to truly know how you utilize your time and to recognize if what you’re doing is in support of bringing you closer to your goals and dreams, or away from them.
Sometimes the distractions are so insidious, you don’t even realize it. Social media is a fabulous distraction. As can be cleaning or organizing, or filling your calendar with things to do. But if you’re feeling unsatisfied or unrooted, then the distractions have overrun the priorities. It’s time to get clear.
What is it you’re wanting to accomplish in the near future? Write it down. Studies have shown the power of the written word. Post it somewhere you’ll see it daily. And then schedule your day and/or the way you spend money, to support that accomplishment.
Watch your excuses as well; “I’m so busy!” can be a total excuse to not spend the time doing something fulfilling, or that’s an action step towards your goal. If you truly think you’re too busy, then start noticing how much you distract yourself by checking email or going on social media or watching TV. Are you actually so busy, or are you avoiding pursing your dreams? If it’s really a priority, then you may need to get firm with yourself and with all of those distractions. Because the distractions will always be there; it’s how you handle them that makes all the difference.
You may not do it perfectly some days, and that’s OK. Some days you may absolutely need to disconnect and zone out. However, in general, consistent small acts can lead to huge shifts. Marie Forleo says, “Progress, not perfection.”
When you claim your priorities and take action, even little actions, the Universe shows up to support you with synchronicities and assistance.
So what is it you’re wanting to accomplish right now? And what captures most of your distractions timewise? The more conscious you can become of both, the more you’ll feel a sense of achievement when you hit your goals.
It’s that fun time again that you all love, Oracle Cards! They were chomping at the bit to be pulled for you all this week.
I simply asked what each person who picked, i.e. card number one, needed to know. So for you, as always, center yourself, breathe, ask your unseen team what you most need to know, get out of your head, trust your gut, then pick.
If you always go to a specific number, don’t just automatically go there. Allow yourself to be led to the message/number you most need today.
And as I’ve told you before, if your card doesn’t resonate, dig deeper. There’s a reason you pulled it, don’t just dismiss it. Why did you pick that one? What part of you has a message there? And if it does resonate, great!
May you gain insight through this!
Card Number One
Card Number Two
Card Number Three
Card Number Four
You all know how I harp on the benefits/power of being grounded, and I know that some of you desire a quick and easy way to do it. Especially because you can start the day grounded, and then something comes up that knocks you out. We all have ways we dissociate or go unconscious to what’s in front of us, so these techniques will bring you back into your body.
Some of us learn best with visuals, some through auditory means, and some through feeling. We’re all a combination of each, but most people tend to have one or two ways that they prefer. Finding out your way is extremely beneficial because then you’ll know how you best take in and comprehend information.
If you’re not sure, think about this: if I were giving you directions right now, would you understand best if I talked you through the way to go, or if I gave you visuals of what you’d pass? Also think about how much when you tell a story, you bring up how you felt in each moment. These are simplified ways to discover your preferences, but play with it and begin to notice where your strengths are.
That being said, here are techniques to appeal to each category:
Wherever you are, whatever’s going on, just take a moment to still yourself, and put your attention and focus on your body. Sit down, take a breath, and feel your legs sitting on the chair/couch. Really feel into the backs of your thighs being supported by the chair. Then take a moment to feel your back being supported by the chair. Keep breathing. Feel your feet on the ground. Take your time and feel these areas.
That in and of itself, taking those moments to feel into your body and to feel what you’re sitting on, can bring you into immediate presence. Feeling your feet and the base of your spine supported by the chair, brings focus to your first chakra which is all about safety and security.
Stop where you are and sit still for a moment. Then listen to the sounds around you. Really focus on the sounds that you hear. After doing that for 30 seconds to a minute, focus on the silence between the sounds. Now I know that sounds crazy, and you’re probably wondering how you focus on the silence between sounds, but don’t try to figure it out, get out of your thinking mind, and just put your focus on the space between the sounds. It’s not that you stop hearing the sounds, it’s that your focus moves to the space around the sounds.
Do that for 30 seconds to a minute. And then focus on any sounds again.
Again, this gets you remarkably present to what’s happening around you, and it gets you into your body.
Most times, I combine the two above: I’ll feel into my body, and then I’ll listen to the sounds. When I used to act, my acting teacher Stuart Rogers was the one who taught these techniques to be used together. They’re incredibly effective.
Either sitting or standing, eyes opened or closed, imagine/visualize a thick root/tree trunk/cord going from your first chakra (base of spine) down to the center of the planet where it will anchor in. Then imagine roots going from your feet chakras down to the center of the planet. Release all the excess energy you’re holding- yours and others that you’ve picked up. Take a deep breath and on the exhale, blow the energy out, seeing it/letting it all go down that cord.
Now visualize all of your energy condensing into the center of your body, into that central channel that runs from the base of your spine to the top of your head. Call all of your energy and power back to you. As you do this, imagine yourself being held and supported by the earth.
Then visualize/imagine a thick violet (or other color) bubble around you that acts as a shield, to keep your energy in, and everyone else’s energies out, giving your space boundary. (There’s a guided meditation here if you have time and want a more thorough experience. And here is a blog on taking your power back.)
Even if you don't/can't visualize clearly, use the power of your imagination to bring it into being. This will anchor you into present time and bring you back to yourself
With all of the above techniques, it’s important to slow down and pay attention to your breathing. Focused breathing is a technique in and of itself. Notice if your breaths are shallow and if so, keep releasing what you’re worried about/holding onto, and try to get your breath deep into your abdomen. Keep going as long as you need.
My friend Sheva Carr, who is a Director at HeartMath, says to breathe slowly to the count of five and then exhale slowly to the count of five. It doesn't have to be five, especially if you're too stressed to breathe so slowly; as long as the inhale and exhale are at an even count. Not only does that get you present, but it gets you calm and centered.
There are many breathing techniques you can try, explore and see what works best for you.
We don’t live in a bubble, neither are we perfect, so there will always be things that knock you out of balance. The important thing is, how quickly do you come back to center? Because the more present and empowered you are, the more you will make wise decisions, the more you will not be impacted by the negative energies around you, and the more you will react consciously as an adult, versus falling into childhood/adolescent patterns of behavior.
You have the power to shift your experiences throughout your day by your conscious presence. Choose to show up fully.
I want to address a big fallacy: that the more filled with light you are, the more the dark will try to harm you.
When someone who’s seemingly so wonderful gets taken down, the consensus is that they were so bright, that that’s why they got attacked energetically. That their light attracted the darkness.
That’s a total lie! It’s your belief system that draws negative energies/people to you, not how light and bright you are.
What a perfect way to control a person; than to make them believe that their light attracts darkness. What a great way to keep someone feeling small and powerless.
The dark, energies and people, hate when you’re happy and laughing, they won’t want to be around you. Dark energies/people aren’t moths to a flame, that flame could burn away their darkness/pain and if someone is entrenched in theirs, they’ll avoid the light at all cost. They may try to tear you down at first, but if you don’t allow it, if you stay empowered and grounded in your light, they’ll go away.
When you own your light and your empowerment from your core, that becomes a radiance that is more powerful than any darkness around you. Think of a flashlight or a candle in a dark room: the darkness can't overtake the light; the light eradicates it.
Eileen McKusick says, “Let your radiance be like a bug zapper for bad energy.” This will also help you from getting into the victim mentality that other’s darkness can bring you down.
I’ve made a game of this at times; if someone’s super crabby, I’ll kill them with kindness and be extra happy. I used to do this a lot when I waited tables. Why? Because am I going to allow pissy people in my reality to ruin my mood? Hell no, I’m not giving them that power.
Look, that’s not always possible and sometimes people get under your skin, but when you can, in your head say, “No, I don’t allow you to ruin my day/energy.” And in those cases, just be happy as a clam. Either they’ll go away because they don’t want to be around you, or they’ll transform. Which is ultimately very satisfying, but not always possible. You can’t take someone else’s mood personally because you don’t know what’s going on in their reality.
Negativity cannot stick to you when you keep your vibration clear and strong. Yes it can impact you, but you can kick it out easily if you refuse to allow it to drag you down. You are in charge of your energy; don’t let someone else mess with it. Shine your light even brighter.
My dear friend Linda Foley liked to use the analogy of a classroom and it’s always stuck with me. I took it and ran with it, thus the details below. I’ve used this analogy with some of you, but for some, this will be new…
This lifetime you came into a specific classroom; there were certain lessons you wanted to learn. Think of it this way: maybe you came in this lifetime to learn i.e., advanced algebra. Now for the sake of this metaphor, advanced algebra could be anything- from forgiveness and compassion, to personal growth and advanced consciousness. (Don’t get hung up on what the course entails, just follow my analogy.) So this lifetime, your course lessons are all in regard to advanced algebra. Those lessons will help you graduate to the next level.
There’s no right or wrong in your course load, everyone chooses based on the soul growth they most need.
Sometimes those around you are taking similar classes but with different professors, so you recognize a shared language in the growth you’re each achieving.
Sometimes the lessons may overlap; maybe someone you love is taking geometry and you’re taking algebra, so there’s a basic understanding of math, but you’re both going to see things a little differently.
Now, the issue comes in when you have a relative, a friend, or a partner whom you adore and who you see struggling with their course load. To “help,” you leave your classroom and head down the hall to theirs. Maybe they decided to take beginning biology this time. So you’re sitting in a biology class, even though those are not your lessons, while trying to whisper the algebra lessons to them. Not only are you disrupting their lessons that they came in to learn, but you’re not learning your own lessons because you’re sitting in the wrong class.
This is what happens when you think you know better than someone else what they need. When you try to fix them or change them or make it better for them.
You’re not making it better; you’re actually hindering their progress. And not only that, if you continue to do it and they don’t get to pass their biology class, guess what, they have to come back in and do it again. And so do you because you didn’t learn your own lessons!
Do you really want to do that to someone else? Make them potentially have to repeat a lifetime to learn the lessons that they really wanted to learn? If you keep trying to control them and how they learn and what they learn, that’s exactly what you’re doing. You’re taking away their free will and you’re trying to lecture them into a class that was not something they wanted to take in the first place.
Sometimes, as I said in the example above, you are in a completely different field from those you love. You may be in advanced physics and they are in English 101. Or vice versa. Just because you may have decided to take an AP or advanced class, doesn’t mean you’re better than them, it just means you’ve been around the block and you wanted/could handle a harder course load. But maybe in their previous lifetime they had a hard course load and so this time, they wanted more ease. You can’t force them to learn what they didn’t sign up for. Just like you wouldn’t want someone trying to force/control you and your lessons.
If you keep trying to carry them along and do it for them, that’s codependence. You need to take your classes, and trust that they're doing things the way they need, to learn the lessons they need.
Can you love someone enough to let them make a “mistake?” They are learning from what they do, just like you learn from what you do. If they ask for your advice, then you can offer it. But you cannot protect others from potential pain- it might be what their soul needs to grow.
That's actually the greatest act of love that there is; giving others the space to do what they need to do, in the way they need to do it.
And remember, just because you might’ve chosen tough courses with difficult people, it doesn’t mean you made a mistake or that you’re being punished or that you’re bad or wrong or undeserving. It simply means you wanted to challenge yourself. It doesn’t take away from the fact that you are inherently worthy and deserving of love. You are incredibly worthy and deserving, because you exist. Sit with this.
Healing is a consistent act. It’s not in the grandiose sudden change, it’s in the daily training yourself to catch your negative thoughts and reframe them. To observe and process your emotions and release them (or dive in if needed). To watch if you’re in present time or in reaction to something from the past.
Don’t get me wrong, sometimes there is a sudden and amazing shift. And sometimes, it’s the little victories that lead to profound changes.
Me, just sharing ways to make you the best you can be!