Tomorrow is my Birthday & I love birthdays!! (I have a very magical inner child!)
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Sagittarius is ruled by Jupiter and astrologically, Jupiter is the planet of expansion, luck, and good fortune. 
 
One of the most expansive energies is gratitude. Meaning, the more you focus on it, the more there is to be grateful for. 
 
This is why so many people encourage gratitude. It opens your receiving.
 
It also brings us into present time. We're called to slow down and acknowledge what is working, while rooting into the now. Plus, it over-rides lack mentality by tuning you into the abundance that surrounds you.
 
To really amplify the expansiveness of gratitude, couple it with appreciation. On the Abraham Hicks Emotional Guidance Scale, appreciation has the highest emotional frequency, along with love and joy.
 
So- right now, think of even just a few things you're grateful for, but also feel your appreciation for those things. Notice how that opens your heart and lifts your energy.
 
Last year, I released a micro-meditation to amplify the feeling of appreciation. Click here to listen.
 
I’m super grateful and appreciative for you being in my life!

​There’s a misconception I’ve spoken about before, but it bears repeating:
 
Just because you’re on a spiritual or personal growth path, doesn’t mean you’re perfect. Doesn’t mean you have it all figured out. Doesn’t mean you’re flawless.
 
We’re human, which means we’ll make mistakes.
 
Thinking you have to be perfect or do everything perfectly is a disservice to yourself. It doesn’t allow for exploration, taking a chance, or a positive risk.
 
What if you reframed a “mistake” as an “Oops”—something forgivable? A lesson learned and released, rather than a punishment to carry?
 
Same with thinking you have to be perfect, so people won’t judge you. Psst—here’s a secret: they’ll judge you anyway. And that’s OK. You’ll survive. It might not feel like it at times, but you will.
 
Perfection is a trap of the negative ego. It keeps you small. It keeps you quiet.
 
It also keeps your dreams in the “ever-out-of-reach” future. The classic: When I ...[fill in the blank], then I’ll finally ...[fill in the blank]. 

​The subtext? When I’m perfect, then I’ll be worthy of what I desire. 

​But that mindset robs you of your joy and personal power in the present. It delays your dreams in service of an illusion.
 
I’m definitely not perfect. I judge. I get righteous. I blame. I lack compassion at times. I feel the full range of what it means to be human. And at the same time, I work to release and shift out of the constricting thoughts, emotions, and energy I fall into.
 
That’s what growth asks of you: not perfection—just the willingness to take responsibility and choose differently.
 
You’re not here to be perfect. You’re here to be real.

​To show up—flaws and all. Ever growing, ever learning, ever evolving. Living as your authentic self.
 
Because that realness? That’s your light: magnetic, honest, and incredibly sexy.
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​Many of us (yes, I’m raising my hand too) have an issue with over-thinking: going into a mental spin and working ourselves up. 
 
Sometimes it’s with the overwhelm of all we need to accomplish, sometimes it’s because we’re taking things personally that aren’t personal (nothing is personal by the way), and sometimes, it’s because we’re taking on too much/doing too much/trying to control everything. 
 
These are just a few examples, the point is, we over-think things to death. We harp on issues of, “What did he mean when he said that to me?” or “Everything must be done perfectly, or it’ll be a disaster!” or “I have so much to do, I don’t have time!” 
 
(By the way- lack of anything- time, money, energy- is a huge precursor to the mental spin.)
 
We think, think, think, trying to find the solution, but what does all that thinking bring about? Stress. Nervous system overload. Feelings of powerlessness.
 
Because in that swirl of mental energy, we lift out of our body, and into the fast-moving chaos of the mind. We become ungrounded.
 
When we’re ungrounded, we’re more apt to be reactive, unfocused, scattered, anxious, and fearful.
 
Maybe we forget where we put our keys, or we snap at someone asking us a question. Maybe we can’t seem to complete a simple task without getting overwhelmed, or we’re frozen in indecision.
  
There is an elegant solution though. 
 
When you’re in a spin and can’t quiet your mind, focus on your feet. 
 
“What?” you may be saying. “How is focusing on my feet going to help?”
 
Here’s how- by focusing on your feet and really feeling them, you get out of your mind and back into your body. The feet are connected to the root or 1st chakra, which pertains to issues of safety and security. It’s the place from which we ground into the planet and anchor ourselves into our body. 
 
When we’re grounded, we can respond more truthfully and with wisdom to what we need to do. We become more clear-headed and decisive. We can let go of things that really don’t matter. We can be present to what’s in front of us, rather than being in old patterns of behavior or emotions, thereby making empowered choices. 
 
Slowing down and anchoring into the depth of your body brings the much-needed centered calm.
 
As a side note - if you’re used to moving fast, multitasking, and being out of your body, this may feel uncomfortable and off-putting at first, especially as you root into yourself. However, if you can stick with it and breathe through any discomfort, the benefits on every level are profound.

So, right now as you’re reading, pause, take some deep breaths, and drop your awareness into your feet.
 
Maybe you need to wiggle your toes to even sense them.
Feel them on the ground.
Don’t think about your feet, feel your feet.
 
Now, shift your focus between both feet, one at a time. 
Notice the temperature of each foot. 
Notice the width. 
Notice the weight of each foot.
 
Feel your big toes. Put your attention on each of your big toes. 
 
If you start feeling emotional, allow it, and keep focusing on your toes. 
 
Slowly move your attention to feeling your next toe, and the next, continuing until you reach the little toes.
 
Certain toes may be easier to sense than others. Don’t worry if you can’t quite feel some.
 
Now, feel the balls of your feet.
Feel the arches. 
Feel the heels. 
Feel the Earth below your feet. Not in theory, really feel gravity holding and supporting you.
 
Let your feet be heavy - as if they’re in sand or mud and it feels so good! 
 
Imagine roots growing downward from your arches, anchoring you to the planet - spreading wide and deep, steadying you like a tree, connecting you with the strength and calm of the Earth
 
Notice your breathing slows down. 
You begin to feel more settled. 
 
As you feel the soothing, healing, and calming frequency of the Earth- all the chaos releases, and inner quiet arises.
 
Because as you’re grounding your feet, you’re grounding any mental and emotional swirl you’re experiencing.
 
The more you’re settled in your body, the more you’re in your greatest place of empowerment, presence, and peace. 
 
Stay focused on your feet for as long as you need, and when you feel done, move forward bringing this grounded feeling with you into whatever comes next.

You can return to this meditation anytime you need to feel grounded and centered.
 
If you’d like to be guided through this practice, you can follow along with me here on YouTube.
 
Try this the next time you catch yourself spiraling and notice how different life feels when you’re rooted in your body, versus spinning in your head.
 
 
 

The existential crisis of the morning: whether or not to throw away bad fruit!
 
I joke, but seriously- cutting into some nectarines that were just bad brought back a childhood memory of being told not to waste food because of starving children in Africa. There’s so much pressure to follow through, to see things to completion, even when something no longer excites us.
 
It made me realize how often we put up with things simply because we should or because we don’t want to be wasteful.
 
And don’t get me wrong- I don’t like being wasteful. But I caught myself about to eat something that didn’t excite me, and why?
 
I ended up tossing four nectarines that morning and had to give up because they were just flavorless.
 
I think this is a perfect analogy for life. Rather than suffering through something that's just OK, what about holding out for what's fabulous? For what's exciting and pleasurable and flavorful? Releasing that old scarcity/guilt programming and giving yourself permission to have the thing that brings you joy? 
 
Life's too short for bad fruit. Let yourself hold out for the juiciness.🍑✨
 

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This popular piece was originally published here in 2023, but I tweaked it a little. It was calling to be revisited, as many others have been recently... 


​During my morning meditation recently, I found myself thinking about something I wanted to receive. As I thought about what I desired, I realized that nobody was holding me back, except for myself.
Without knowing the how’s or the details of manifesting what I wanted, I opened my heart and felt the energy of self-love, and then expanded the feeling to encompass me.

I sat in that resonance for a moment with the awareness that allowing the Universe to help me receive what I was desiring, was an act of incredible self-love.

Later that day, I was tired and started to create a flimsy energy shield for my space before doing client healing sessions. As my morning insight popped in mid-creation, I realized that the most self-loving thing I could do in that moment, would be to create really strong boundaries.
As I created strong boundaries, it felt like a beautiful gift to myself. This led me to ask the question repeatedly throughout my day, and listen to the response.

“The most self-loving thing I could do would be to (fill in the blank).”

The responses might be:
-Take a bath.
-Take a walk outside.
-Read a book.
-Exercise.
-Take a nap.
-Process my emotions.
-Bring the energy of enthusiasm to my workday.
-Motivate to do that creative project I’ve been wanting to do.
-Say no to that event. Or say yes.

It will change moment by moment. But notice how things shift when you honor your needs. Even if rational thought is telling you otherwise.
For example, the day after I began using this question, I felt very strongly that I needed to go outside for a walk and then take a bath. However, my to-do list was huge that day. I listened to my heart, and I took a walk because it was calling to me so loudly. It felt amazing and I was grateful I listened to myself.
When I came home though, I started thinking about everything that needed to be done, with the idea that I didn’t have time for a bath. And yet, I could feel deeply again that taking the bath would be the most self-loving thing I could do.

I had to silence the opposition voice, even though it was extremely loud, and go to the self-loving voice that wisely knew that in that moment, a bath could do more for me than starting in on my to-do list.
Sure enough, my to-do list was much easier to tackle after the bath because I had shifted my resonance after a morning of self-love.

If you want to take this a step further, look at the bigger things you’re desiring and make a list.

“The most self-loving thing I could do would be to …”

For example:
-Free myself from the past.
-Create better health.
-Forgive myself for…
-Take my power back from…
-Heal my relationship with…
-Release myself from the energy of struggle.
-Allow more ease.
-Create more joy.

Keep the list somewhere that you can read daily for a month to reaffirm to your subconscious that this is what you’re choosing to receive and create. Because you love yourself. Because you deserve what will augment that self-love.

Again, don’t worry about how it’ll manifest. Just sit in the frequency of self-love. Let it literally infuse every part of you. Feel your heart open and pour all that love that you’re capable of, into yourself.
If self-love has been a hurdle and you can’t quite connect to that feeling, think of anything that opens your heart — a baby, an animal, a sunset — and turn that feeling towards yourself.

Imagine what would change in your life if you asked yourself this question every day. Because the most loving you can do, for yourself, for your inner peace, for your life, and even for others, is to create self-love first.
 

 

As many of you have noticed, the energy in the world has felt amped up this past week. There’s a lot of noise, both energetically, and in our physical realities. 
 
Noise can show as literal sound and arguments/conflicts, or as over-active thoughts or emotions. 
 
Many of you have expressed feeling hyper-sensitive, raw, exhausted, and experiencing old wounds surfacing.
 
I definitely think something is going on beyond the scenes- meaning energy shifts in the ethers- and on a physical reality level, there are a couple things going on:
 
1-This is a time of transition for many. 
We’re shifting from summer to fall, from vacations to school schedules. A lot of people are kicking and screaming at that shift, wanting summer to last forever.
 
In that resistance, the energy of “lack” can get stirred up- feeling like there’s not enough time, time is moving too fast, or like you have to hustle to adjust to a new routine. All of that can leave you feeling irritable and ungrounded, even if it’s not happening directly in your personal reality.
 
2-The weather.
There’s been an increase recently in solar flares, heat waves, plus the hurricane that’s about to hit the Caribbean. All the extreme weather is stirring up intense amounts of electromagnetic energy, which can also be noisy in your energy field and knock you out. 
 
The antidote to all of it is grounding yourself in present time. Either do the deep grounding meditation I have on YouTube (here) if you want something meditative, or be outside, sitting on the Earth, hugging a tree, walking in nature. Something very rooting.
 
If you’re feeling the effects of the electromagnetic energy, make sure you correct your electromagnetic point (here), and grounding will help. You can also release fear that’s trapped in the body (here).
 
Gentleness with yourself goes a long way. Pause, recalibrate, and do some deep breathing or chanting to soothe your vagus nerve and any fight, flight, or freeze that’s activated (Nervous system technique here).
 
Ultimately, this too shall pass, and in the meantime, stay rooted in your truth and your body, not the noise. That’s where your power is.