The Lie of Perfection
There’s a misconception I’ve spoken about before, but it bears repeating:
Just because you’re on a spiritual or personal growth path, doesn’t mean you’re perfect. Doesn’t mean you have it all figured out. Doesn’t mean you’re flawless.
We’re human, which means we’ll make mistakes.
Thinking you have to be perfect or do everything perfectly is a disservice to yourself. It doesn’t allow for exploration, taking a chance, or a positive risk.
What if you reframed a “mistake” as an “Oops”—something forgivable? A lesson learned and released, rather than a punishment to carry?
Same with thinking you have to be perfect, so people won’t judge you. Psst—here’s a secret: they’ll judge you anyway. And that’s OK. You’ll survive. It might not feel like it at times, but you will.
Perfection is a trap of the negative ego. It keeps you small. It keeps you quiet.
It also keeps your dreams in the “ever-out-of-reach” future. The classic: When I ...[fill in the blank], then I’ll finally ...[fill in the blank].
The subtext? When I’m perfect, then I’ll be worthy of what I desire.
But that mindset robs you of your joy and personal power in the present. It delays your dreams in service of an illusion.
I’m definitely not perfect. I judge. I get righteous. I blame. I lack compassion at times. I feel the full range of what it means to be human. And at the same time, I work to release and shift out of the constricting thoughts, emotions, and energy I fall into.
That’s what growth asks of you: not perfection—just the willingness to take responsibility and choose differently.
You’re not here to be perfect. You’re here to be real.
To show up—flaws and all. Ever growing, ever learning, ever evolving. Living as your authentic self.
Because that realness? That’s your light: magnetic, honest, and incredibly sexy.