Here’s a radical idea for you, total acceptance. Accepting everything that’s going on in your life, without judgment.
When you get angry about a situation and fight or resist it, you’re holding it in place. You’re not allowing the healing and the support you need. How often do you criticize yourself for your anxiety, your weight, your emotions? What acceptance means is- “I’m ok even though I’m having a meltdown/panic attack/I’m angry.” It means, “I accept this as a part of me that is worthy of my love, without judgment.” For example, one day I was having a panic attack. I was totally ungrounded and felt awful. I started trying to get out of the panic by condemning it- “I wish this would go away! Why am I panicking?!” Then I realized, what if, vs fighting this, I simply allow and accept that right now, I’m in a panic and that’s OK. Once I started giving myself permission to just “be” where I was, the panic began to dissipate. My non-judgment and total self-acceptance allowed a new reality, one of love and healing. When you can step back from judging your behavior as bad or wrong and trying to change it, versus simply allowing that it exists, you give yourself the space to heal and transform. When you accept all of you, exactly as you are, you bring in a greater level of self-love. The same holds true with others. Think of how much better our relationships would be if we accepted and allowed the other person to be who they truly are, vs trying to control them and mold them into what we want them to be. How do you know you’re controlling a person/situation? Again, you don’t accept what is. You want it to be your way. You don’t allow a possibility outside of what you feel is right and correct. When you practice acceptance, true acceptance, you release from the outcome. You trust that everything is perfect in this moment. Once you fully accept the now, then you can bring forth the changes you desire.
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6/7/2018 03:52:44 pm
I agree - and I wonder if perhaps we cannot forgive ourselves unless we first accept ourselves - self acceptance - or the lack of it - underlies so much misplaced shame, so much cruelty.
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