In today’s busy world, how often do you stop to just be? Stopping all doing and just… be; be present, be in the moment, be still, be. For most of us, the answer is rarely, for some, never. Yet there is immense power in being. For one thing, it brings you into present time, into the now. That’s where your power lies, as does your ability to manifest. It can also activate or enhance your imagination. All creation begins in your imagination. If you allow yourself to just be, this area can get stimulated, leading to greater clarity and wisdom for when you eventually do.
One of the greatest obstacles to being is the lack of value society has given to it. All value is placed on what you did, what you accomplished, how much you got done. But without the balance of being in all that doing, you can get overwhelmed or burnt out. Being is necessary for sanity and peace. It can be difficult for people to understand, who want to know how to do being; “ok, I’ll just be. But how do I do that?” We’re conditioned to go, go go.
If you are willing, stop for a moment and just breathe. Notice your body, notice your breath. Maybe go to the beach and stare at the waves or the sunset. Or sit outside and watch the trees move in the wind, or the hummingbird as it flits from flower to flower. If you want to get super crazy with it, spend hours just daydreaming; staring at the clouds or off into space, just imagining. Can you do that? Can you give yourself that gift of beingness? The rewards will be extraordinary if you can. Because in that state of being, you align yourself with the more of you, and with your dreams, desires, and wishes. It is from that yin state of being that you can more easily receive the answers you are looking for, as well as the way to move forward.
So the next time you’re stumped as to your next step or why something keeps occurring, and especially when you’re overloaded, stop, take a breath, disengage with the doing and enter the being. Allow your Soul that quiet space to speak to you. From here, once you’re ready, you’ll be able to re-engage the world with confidence, and clarity.
Let’s talk about kickback. You’ve just had a great session, class, or meditation and you feel brand new and the next day, bam, it’s like all the old yuck came back. What just happened?! Your first thought is – “Oh my God it’s all back, nothing has changed!” Before you freak out, no, it’s actually your negative ego trying to get you to reenter the very thing you just worked to clear.
First, forgive yourself. Forgive yourself for anywhere that that old habit/pattern/addiction, etc. had such a hold on you that it feels like it will always be there. Say, as often as is needed, “I forgive myself for this pattern/way of thinking, etc., and I release it. I forgive myself and I am willing to be new. I am willing to see things differently.” Forgiveness is key. You can’t change without it.
Next, stretch your image. Can you imagine yourself new? Can you see yourself as healed, different, and more vibrant? If you can’t, the old can more easily creep in. So take a moment and feel new feelings, think new thoughts, allow yourself to be different. Even if you don’t quite know what that looks like, pretend. Use your imagination. What would you look and feel like without the issue? Maybe you simply look brighter and happier. Maybe you would feel a sense of freedom and joy. Allow whatever comes to you to be the very image and feelings that you need.
Then, final step, feel and see that new image of yourself stretching to hold the success that you just created and making room for all the success that is coming.
Do this every time you make changes and not only will they hold, but the changes will grow exponentially, bringing you greater and grander success.
My favorite quote is “be the change.” And along with that, “nothing changes until you do.” Both have been circling my mind for a week now. Be the change. Be different. Show up differently. The “be” might be a change of perspective, or a willingness to see a situation differently. Maybe every time you interact with a certain person it feels like an attack. What if you show up willing to see their goodness, their light, their humanity? You allow that maybe the attack thoughts are your own negative ego trying to separate you and instead, you choose to see through the eyes of love. You “be” the change in that moment. You can’t control how they’ll react, but you can control the energy you feed to the situation. The more you react from a place of peace and love, the less they have to react and fight against. So notice, are you contributing chaos, angst, and upset, or are you contributing understanding, harmony, and compassion?
What if you’re sure they’re in the wrong and you shouldn’t have to change. Ok, well, would you rather be right or would you rather be happy? It’s all a choice. Always. You are never a victim, in any situation or with any person. You choose how you respond and react, regardless of what they’re doing/saying. You get to be the change. Just because something has always gone a certain way, doesn’t mean it always will. You have the power, nothing changes until you do. And maybe the “do” in that statement is what you no longer participate in. Not participating in anger or judgment, or control. You can never control another anyway, all you can control is your reaction and response. Be the change. Choose love. Choose kindness. There’s a perception that that’ll make you weak. Ahhhh what a wonderful lie of the negative ego designed to keep you engaged in battle and attack. What if there was a different way, leading to peace and happiness. Would you take it? Would you really? Maybe not. Maybe you like the battle and are addicted to the drama/trauma. Be honest with yourself if you are. But if you want a new reality, new experiences of love, joy, and freedom, be the change. Nothing changes until you do. That doesn’t mean nothing changes until my spouse/boss/coworker changes. That means you. Only you. Stop looking externally and see how you can show up differently. It’s your reality, why not write a beautiful new chapter. Be the love. Be the peace. Be the harmony. Simply be willing to be the change.
When was the last time you let your magical child out to play? I’m in Cleveland right now and there’s nothing like snowfall, especially at night, to bring out the giddy, happy, magical child in me. Standing in the snow, watching it fall, feels like being in the middle of a snow globe; the silence at night, seeing snow swirling around me, there’s nothing like it.
We all have a magical child within us. The part that believes in magic. That thinks wardrobes are secret portals, stickers are the best thing in the world, and keys are a total find because who knows what secrets you’ll unlock. How about you? What feels magical? Or have you lost touch with that side of you. Maybe you never fully had it. But it’s not too late to connect to that part. To let her/him out to play and start to look at the world through their eyes. Maybe you’ll go find a swing to swing as high as you can, maybe you’ll head down to the beach, throw off your shoes and go splash in the water, getting soaking wet, or maybe you’ll find a tree to climb, and play pretend. The only limit is your imagination.
Now if this sounds frivolous, I can assure you, it’s not. Life is meant to be fun, that’s the point. How much do you take things too seriously? Do you ever let yourself play? If the answer is no, consider why. Who told you to stop goofing around? Who wouldn’t let you experience your joy? Whoever once dampened you is no longer allowed to design your present and future. Life is so much more joyful when you infuse it with play and fun. How boring is it to be “adult” all the time.
Let your magical child out to play, you’ll be amazed at how much more Technicolor life becomes.
Me, just sharing ways to make you the best you can be!