As 2018 is coming to a close, regardless of what the year brought, you made it, and you are more for it. Yes, at times it was it was like being in a washing machine, but while it threw many for a loop, it also taught you the need to pause, to surrender how it “should” look/go, and even if you aren’t quite there yet, to let go and trust. 
 
So let’s revisit the first lesson the year, “Everything is perfect, exactly as it is.”
 
“Ugh,” you might be thinking, “things are not perfect.” Ok, maybe, not as you would want/like them to be; I get it. But you have 2 options: fight what is or accept it. I’ve got to say; acceptance is a way more peaceful option. Not always easy, but peaceful. Yes, throw tantrums first if you need, that’s sometimes necessary. And then, claim what you do want and make that more powerful than what you don’t. (Recognizing themes yet? This is a reminder of what was said this year- it helps to hear it again!) You have the power, not anyone outside of yourself. You get to decide how to react emotionally, where you put your focus, and what you allow in your reality. You, no one else. 
 
So together, let’s choose, right here, right now, that 2019 is going to be spectacular. That’s right, spectacular. Why not? And I don’t mean in a, “I’m going to control it and make it happen” way, I mean in a, “I am a powerful manifestor and I choose to put my energy and attention into being the best version of me” way. No one else has power over you except the power you give them. No one makes you do, or not do, anything. Own your power, own your light. You are totally magnificent. Stop hiding that. You matter and you are worthy of greatness.

So jump up and down with me and proclaim in full volume, “2019 is going to be absolutely spectacular for me. I am choosing it, and I am creating it.”
 
Let’s do this!!!

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2018 is winding down; can you believe it?? You should all congratulate yourselves for making it through this tumultuous year. Yes it pushed everyone in ways we cannot fully comprehend yet, as we were all asked to stretch, grow, evolve, and clear out deep darknesses in our unconscious, which happened personally, and in the collective of the world. Sometimes that happened elegantly, and sometimes, not so much. (Note all the blogs I wrote about chaos and handling these trying times.). Today let’s shift focus to the year ahead. 
 
Those of you who have been with me since January will recognize this information; it’s time to pick your word for 2019. As a reminder for those who know, and to fill in those who are new, many years ago I read a blog by John Gordon. In it, he suggested picking one word for the upcoming year, versus creating resolutions that only make you feel badly if you can’t fulfill them. In his words, “just one word that gives meaning, mission, passion and purpose. One word that will help me be my best.”
 
I loved this idea and have been using it ever since. This past year I created 2 words, because I decided to be rebellious and do it my own way (lol), and the word that was my daily focus was self-love. Each morning I would ask how I could love and care for myself that day. It shifted me in subtle, and sometimes, profound ways. 
 
There are no wrong answers here. The word is not always something you choose; sometimes as you sit with it, a word comes in so loud and clear that you just know that that’s your word. Ask yourself where you want to place your focus this year. What will help you be the best you? You may find balance is your word, or self-confidence, maybe you need to stop taking things so seriously so fun is your word, or even play. What speaks to you? 
 
Once you have your word, write it in big letters somewhere that you will read it each day. And not just a passing glance, but truly, “how can I bring this word to fruition today?” As you focus on it, you will find that you may be lead to experiences, books, talks etc., that are exactly what you need to learn to help you grow and have more of that word in your reality. 
 
So give it a try. Pick your word or let it pick you. And if you want added support, write me back with your word and I’ll help infuse your year with it.
 
Happy choosing and remember to center, breathe, and ground yourself as often as possible as the energy is ramping up with holiday madness right now. Try to disengage from everyone’s last minute stress to get it all done. It is quite palpable so do what you can to support yourself. And allow your family, if you’ll be with them, to be who they are from a space of love and acceptance. You got this; I believe in you.
 

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It is not your job to judge; it is your job to love.
It is not your job to criticize; it is your job to empathize.
It is not your job to blame; it is your job to accept.
 
You cannot change anyone else; all you can do is change yourself. You cannot control anyone else; all you can do is work on yourself. They are who they are; your job is to accept that and to forgive where you find fault. It is not their job to change to suit you or your needs.
 
It is your job to fulfill your own needs, not dump that responsibility on someone else. They cannot fix you or make you whole. You must do that.
 
Your negative ego would love for you to find fault with those around you and lash out at, or be hurt by others for not fulfilling your expectations. But you, the true you, can rise above that and be more; you can be the love you desire in your reality. Admittedly it’s not always easy, especially when you are triggered by friends, family, and partners who can push our buttons like no other. But it was designed this way, they are showing you where you need healing within yourself. It takes time, it takes patience, it takes compassion, but if you are willing to release old resentments and stories of hurt, you can transform yourself and your reality by allowing love and light into those places of pain. 
 
So as you continue in this holiday season, love more, empathize more, and accept those around you for who they are. And while doing so, send those energies back to yourself. Be willing to be the change.


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It is what it is. Nothing is good or bad, but thinking makes it so.
How often do you judge what you are going thru versus simply allowing it to be? It is our assignment of a thing that gives it power. If you allow that what is happening simply is, then you take away it’s power. If you say it means xyz, you give it the power to ruin your mood/day/experience. 
You can prep for an event and create your reality to a degree, but ultimately, sometimes things happen and it doesn’t mean anything unless you say it does. You are not omnipotent; you can’t always control the outcome. In fact, you can never control it, you can simply visualize and do what you can, then let go, and surrender. How you handle things when they go “wrong” says a lot. The more you can center, breathe, and bring yourself back to the present moment, the more smooth the outcome can become. 
This does not mean abdicating responsibility and leaving everything to chance. You create your reality so be aware of your beliefs/thoughts/attitudes and change them where needed. However, sometimes no matter how much we prep, we need to allow that while we create our reality, there are circumstances outside of our control. And sometimes there are bigger picture issues happening. Do not take it personally when things don’t go your way and don’t make a story about it. Accept it and make the best of the situation, even if it’s upsetting. Especially if it’s upsetting! 
What is today can be very different tomorrow, but you can’t change it without accepting it first. It simply is, what it is.
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