Every day, you have the opportunity to ask yourself: is what I’m about to do a priority, or a distraction?
We’re faced with that decision, multiple times, even if we never actually ask the question. However, becoming conscious of your actions helps you to truly know how you utilize your time and to recognize if what you’re doing is in support of bringing you closer to your goals and dreams, or away from them.
Sometimes the distractions are so insidious, you don’t even realize it. Social media is a fabulous distraction. As can be cleaning or organizing, or filling your calendar with things to do. But if you’re feeling unsatisfied or unrooted, then the distractions have overrun the priorities. It’s time to get clear.
What is it you’re wanting to accomplish in the near future? Write it down. Studies have shown the power of the written word. Post it somewhere you’ll see it daily. And then schedule your day and/or the way you spend money, to support that accomplishment.
Watch your excuses as well; “I’m so busy!” can be a total excuse to not spend the time doing something fulfilling, or that’s an action step towards your goal. If you truly think you’re too busy, then start noticing how much you distract yourself by checking email or going on social media or watching TV. Are you actually so busy, or are you avoiding pursing your dreams? If it’s really a priority, then you may need to get firm with yourself and with all of those distractions. Because the distractions will always be there; it’s how you handle them that makes all the difference.
You may not do it perfectly some days, and that’s OK. Some days you may absolutely need to disconnect and zone out. However, in general, consistent small acts can lead to huge shifts. Marie Forleo says, “Progress, not perfection.”
When you claim your priorities and take action, even little actions, the Universe shows up to support you with synchronicities and assistance.
So what is it you’re wanting to accomplish right now? And what captures most of your distractions timewise? The more conscious you can become of both, the more you’ll feel a sense of achievement when you hit your goals.
It’s that fun time again that you all love, Oracle Cards! They were chomping at the bit to be pulled for you all this week.
I simply asked what each person who picked, i.e. card number one, needed to know. So for you, as always, center yourself, breathe, ask your unseen team what you most need to know, get out of your head, trust your gut, then pick.
If you always go to a specific number, don’t just automatically go there. Allow yourself to be led to the message/number you most need today.
And as I’ve told you before, if your card doesn’t resonate, dig deeper. There’s a reason you pulled it, don’t just dismiss it. Why did you pick that one? What part of you has a message there? And if it does resonate, great!
May you gain insight through this!
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You all know how I harp on the benefits/power of being grounded, and I know that some of you desire a quick and easy way to do it. Especially because you can start the day grounded, and then something comes up that knocks you out. We all have ways we dissociate or go unconscious to what’s in front of us, so these techniques will bring you back into your body.
Some of us learn best with visuals, some through auditory means, and some through feeling. We’re all a combination of each, but most people tend to have one or two ways that they prefer. Finding out your way is extremely beneficial because then you’ll know how you best take in and comprehend information.
If you’re not sure, think about this: if I were giving you directions right now, would you understand best if I talked you through the way to go, or if I gave you visuals of what you’d pass? Also think about how much when you tell a story, you bring up how you felt in each moment. These are simplified ways to discover your preferences, but play with it and begin to notice where your strengths are.
That being said, here are techniques to appeal to each category:
Wherever you are, whatever’s going on, just take a moment to still yourself, and put your attention and focus on your body. Sit down, take a breath, and feel your legs sitting on the chair/couch. Really feel into the backs of your thighs being supported by the chair. Then take a moment to feel your back being supported by the chair. Keep breathing. Feel your feet on the ground. Take your time and feel these areas.
That in and of itself, taking those moments to feel into your body and to feel what you’re sitting on, can bring you into immediate presence. Feeling your feet and the base of your spine supported by the chair, brings focus to your first chakra which is all about safety and security.
Stop where you are and sit still for a moment. Then listen to the sounds around you. Really focus on the sounds that you hear. After doing that for 30 seconds to a minute, focus on the silence between the sounds. Now I know that sounds crazy, and you’re probably wondering how you focus on the silence between sounds, but don’t try to figure it out, get out of your thinking mind, and just put your focus on the space between the sounds. It’s not that you stop hearing the sounds, it’s that your focus moves to the space around the sounds.
Do that for 30 seconds to a minute. And then focus on any sounds again.
Again, this gets you remarkably present to what’s happening around you, and it gets you into your body.
Most times, I combine the two above: I’ll feel into my body, and then I’ll listen to the sounds. When I used to act, my acting teacher Stuart Rogers was the one who taught these techniques to be used together. They’re incredibly effective.
Either sitting or standing, eyes opened or closed, imagine/visualize a thick root/tree trunk/cord going from your first chakra (base of spine) down to the center of the planet where it will anchor in. Then imagine roots going from your feet chakras down to the center of the planet. Release all the excess energy you’re holding- yours and others that you’ve picked up. Take a deep breath and on the exhale, blow the energy out, seeing it/letting it all go down that cord.
Now visualize all of your energy condensing into the center of your body, into that central channel that runs from the base of your spine to the top of your head. Call all of your energy and power back to you. As you do this, imagine yourself being held and supported by the earth.
Then visualize/imagine a thick violet (or other color) bubble around you that acts as a shield, to keep your energy in, and everyone else’s energies out, giving your space boundary. (There’s a guided meditation here if you have time and want a more thorough experience. And here is a blog on taking your power back.)
Even if you don't/can't visualize clearly, use the power of your imagination to bring it into being. This will anchor you into present time and bring you back to yourself
With all of the above techniques, it’s important to slow down and pay attention to your breathing. Focused breathing is a technique in and of itself. Notice if your breaths are shallow and if so, keep releasing what you’re worried about/holding onto, and try to get your breath deep into your abdomen. Keep going as long as you need.
My friend Sheva Carr, who is a Director at HeartMath, says to breathe slowly to the count of five and then exhale slowly to the count of five. It doesn't have to be five, especially if you're too stressed to breathe so slowly; as long as the inhale and exhale are at an even count. Not only does that get you present, but it gets you calm and centered.
There are many breathing techniques you can try, explore and see what works best for you.
We don’t live in a bubble, neither are we perfect, so there will always be things that knock you out of balance. The important thing is, how quickly do you come back to center? Because the more present and empowered you are, the more you will make wise decisions, the more you will not be impacted by the negative energies around you, and the more you will react consciously as an adult, versus falling into childhood/adolescent patterns of behavior.
You have the power to shift your experiences throughout your day by your conscious presence. Choose to show up fully.
I want to address a big fallacy: that the more filled with light you are, the more the dark will try to harm you.
When someone who’s seemingly so wonderful gets taken down, the consensus is that they were so bright, that that’s why they got attacked energetically. That their light attracted the darkness.
That’s a total lie! It’s your belief system that draws negative energies/people to you, not how light and bright you are.
What a perfect way to control a person; than to make them believe that their light attracts darkness. What a great way to keep someone feeling small and powerless.
The dark, energies and people, hate when you’re happy and laughing, they won’t want to be around you. Dark energies/people aren’t moths to a flame, that flame could burn away their darkness/pain and if someone is entrenched in theirs, they’ll avoid the light at all cost. They may try to tear you down at first, but if you don’t allow it, if you stay empowered and grounded in your light, they’ll go away.
When you own your light and your empowerment from your core, that becomes a radiance that is more powerful than any darkness around you. Think of a flashlight or a candle in a dark room: the darkness can't overtake the light; the light eradicates it.
Eileen McKusick says, “Let your radiance be like a bug zapper for bad energy.” This will also help you from getting into the victim mentality that other’s darkness can bring you down.
I’ve made a game of this at times; if someone’s super crabby, I’ll kill them with kindness and be extra happy. I used to do this a lot when I waited tables. Why? Because am I going to allow pissy people in my reality to ruin my mood? Hell no, I’m not giving them that power.
Look, that’s not always possible and sometimes people get under your skin, but when you can, in your head say, “No, I don’t allow you to ruin my day/energy.” And in those cases, just be happy as a clam. Either they’ll go away because they don’t want to be around you, or they’ll transform. Which is ultimately very satisfying, but not always possible. You can’t take someone else’s mood personally because you don’t know what’s going on in their reality.
Negativity cannot stick to you when you keep your vibration clear and strong. Yes it can impact you, but you can kick it out easily if you refuse to allow it to drag you down. You are in charge of your energy; don’t let someone else mess with it. Shine your light even brighter.
Me, just sharing ways to make you the best you can be!