During my morning meditation recently, I found myself thinking about something I wanted to receive. As I thought about what I desired, I realized that nobody was holding me back, except for myself. Without knowing the how’s or the details of manifesting what I wanted, I opened my heart and felt the energy of self-love and then expanded the feeling to encompass me.
 
I sat in that resonance for a moment with the awareness that allowing the Universe to help me receive what I was desiring, was an act of incredible self-love.
 
Later that day, I was tired and started to create a somewhat half assed version of a shield for my space. As my morning insight popped in mid-creation, I realized that the most self-loving thing I could do in that moment, would be to create really strong boundaries. Which as I did, felt like a beautiful gift to myself. This led to me asking the question repeatedly throughout my day and listening to the response.
 
“The most self-loving thing I could do would be to (fill in the blank).”
 
The responses might be:
-Take a bath.
-Take a walk outside.
-Read a book.
-Exercise.
-Take a nap.
-Process my emotions.
-Bring the energy of enthusiasm to my workday.
-Motivate to do that creative project I’ve been wanting to do.
-Say no to that event. Or say yes.
 
It will change moment by moment. But notice how things shift when you honor your needs. Even if rational thought is telling you otherwise. For example, there was a day recently when I felt very strongly that I needed to go outside for a walk and take a bath after. However, my to-do list was huge that day. I listened to my heart, and I took a walk because it was calling to me so loudly. It felt amazing and I was grateful I listened to myself. However, when I came home, my rational mind started listing everything that needed to be done with the idea that I didn't have time for a bath. And yet, I could feel deeply again that taking the bath would be the most self-loving thing I could do.
 
I had to silence the opposition voice, even though it was extremely loud, and go to the self-loving voice that wisely knew that in that moment, a bath could do more for me than starting in on my to-do list. Sure enough, my to-do list was much easier to tackle after the bath because I had shifted my resonance after a morning of self-love.
 
If you want to take this a step farther, look at the bigger things you’re desiring and make a list.
 
“The most self-loving thing I could do would be to …”
 
For example:
-Free myself from the past.
-Create better health.
-Forgive myself for…
-Take my power back from...
-Heal my relationship with…
-Release myself from the energy of struggle.
-Allow more ease.
-Create more joy.
 
Keep the list somewhere that you can read daily for a month to reaffirm to your subconscious that this is what you're choosing to receive and create. Because you love yourself. Because you deserve what will augment that self-love.
 
Again, don’t worry about how it’ll manifest. Just sit in the frequency of self-love. Let it literally infuse every part of you. Feel your heart open and pour all that love that you're capable of, into yourself. If you can't imagine what that feels like, think of anything that opens your heart and turn that feeling towards yourself.
 
The most loving you can do, is to create self-love first.
 
 
 

I recently saw a quote, the beginning of which said, “You are the master of your destiny.”
 
I’ve always heard and subscribed to the belief that “you create your reality,” so the phrasing above really stood out to me as a different way of saying the same thing.
 
You are the master of your destiny.
 
Sit with this.
 
I hear you, “I get it but -” But what? You are the master of your destiny- and then things happen to you? You are the master of your destiny- but you're not really in charge, other people are? You are the master of your destiny- sometimes?
 
It can be hard if you grew up with the mindset that you can be subjugated by others or at the mercy of the world. Which is another way of saying, victimized by. That can be insidious. Maybe you don't consider yourself a victim, but there are certain areas in life that trip you up and that you feel you have no power over. But if you have no power, you're powerless which puts you in victim mode. Not pleasant to acknowledge but don't judge it, it just is. Almost everyone has those areas. The “I create my reality, except when...”
 
Theory and practice are two different things. You may understand this in theory, but as far as practical application, you're still sorting that out.
 
Start by observing and noticing. Where do you still lose your power? Where do you not feel that you are the master of your destiny? From a place of neutrality, question why that is. By your observation you bring attention and by your attention you start to heal it.
 
Then take your power back and create your reality moment by moment in your beliefs, your perspective, your attitude, and your emotions. Live from a new and empowered place.

As the full quote says:
“You Are The Master of Your Destiny
Be Unapologetic
Be Brave
Be Authentic
Be You.”
 

* Quote from The NOW Massage.