I’ve told you this before, but it bears repeating, especially with the situation in the Ukraine:
Your thoughts matter.
Your words matter.
The vision you have for the world matters.
When you’re stuck in blaming and complaining, you perpetuate a frequency of powerlessness. But you’re not powerless.
Yes, you can get angry, yes express your fears, yes process through everything you’re feeling, and then take your power back. Be the light for those enmeshed in darkness; send them light, send the situation light.
Be in your center, and in your power. Watch your judgments and any desires to be righteous and let those go. Choose to hold the space for healing, for peaceful resolution. You are most effective when you emanate a frequency of love; do this for all involved. Declare what you desire to see instead of pain, instead of suffering, and feed that positive outcome.
You affect the whole. You can say you’re just one person but what if everyone said that? Instead, be the person who has hope. Who holds the light of hope even when things seem dark. Who sends the light to the places that most need it. Who imagines that light being like a flashlight, driving out the darkness.
It’s up to you how you create the future; it can be dark, or it can be filled with light. The choice is yours. Will you join me in the light?
With everything going on in the world right now, it’s easy to slip into despair, rage, and blame. You need to process through your pain underneath the emotions coming to the surface, because for a lot of us, those emotions are intense. Many of you have told me that your emotional responses lately aren’t rational. I know for myself, irrational levels of perfection energy fueled a rage response the other evening that was completely unwarranted to the actual situation at hand.
So, what to do? Recognize that you’re being impacted by the events in the world. Maybe it’s the fires, Covid, Afghanistan, Haiti, or elsewhere. Honor that you feel the pain from those situations, even if you're not consciously aware of it. That pain is triggering your own personal pain.
What about the issue that most upsets you, triggers you? If it’s Covid or the fires, maybe you feel fear which triggers a lack of safety. If it’s Afghanistan, maybe you acutely feel the loss of freedom for the people there, especially the women and girls, and the domination energy causes you rage.
Once you recognize what in you is being triggered, you can work on your personal issues so that you become part of the solution.
Take your power back and pull yourself out of blame. Remember that you matter and you’re on this planet at this time to add your voice and energy to a world becoming new. No, we didn’t know how intense this time would be when we signed up to come and be in a body, but you’re here so you agreed to it. You are not a victim. You agreed to bring your particular light and healing energies to the world the way only you can.
That might mean taking physical action by helping refugees or firefighters etc., or it might mean that you take a moment every morning to send healing light and support to the area that most draws you. It might seem minimal, but any way that you add your energy has impact. And that includes any negativity you put out.
If Covid has you riled up, focus on the virus disappearing.
With the fires and hurricanes, focus on balanced elements and healing the planet.
With Afghanistan, focus on the freedom of the people.
Whether it's these issues or others, focus on the solution. On the highest outcome for the good of all. Don’t get stuck on it turning out the way you fear it might, or on the way you think is best- that’s control. Focus on the peace behind the issue. The healing. The freedom. Then ultimately, bring in the love. Be the conduit for luminous change.
Breathe out your pain, and breathe in the light. Do that consistently.
If you need extra help with personal issues surfacing, here are some previous blogs to assist you:
The Ladder of Emotions
A Map for Calm in the Face of Chaos
Anger Release Techniques
7 Techniques to Help You Transcend Your Fears
12 Ways to Alleviate Anxiety and Panic
As dark as it may feel sometimes, the hope isn’t gone, it just might be covered up. Be the light, be the hope for the world. The more you vibrate there, the more there is for others.
I write a lot about being the light and the light being more powerful than the dark.
What I’ve been observing/learning more and more, is how a strong third chakra is necessary to creating a strong outer boundary. The third chakra is located in the stomach area, its color is yellow. The third chakra deals with issues of personal power.
The biggest obstacle to a healthy and vibrant third chakra is feeling powerless, which leads to a lack of boundaries and a more permeable energy field, whereby you take on everything in your surroundings. The antidote is being so fortified within yourself, that nothing penetrates in.
In regard to what I said at the top about the light being more powerful, it’s helpful to realize what may be stuck in your space that says the opposite. Sometimes it’s from past lives, or this one, of believing that you’re here to be a warrior against the dark. That it’s necessary for you to battle evil and put yourself in harm’s way in order to prove your worth. Think about religion telling you fight the devil. Remember, what you battle, sticks to you. If you were taught that Satan (darkness) is so powerful that you don’t stand a chance, no wonder you don’t believe in your power to change things.
Even if you didn’t grow up in a religious household, the idea of an all-powerful devil is in the collective consciousness, so you’re not immune to its influence.
Beyond that, many times powerlessness stems from when you were a child and you felt helpless against the adults or “authority” figures in your life. They felt so big and looming, and you were unable to protect yourself as they had all the control. That translated into being powerless to protect yourself against anything outside of you.
When you’re stuck in powerlessness, you’re outside the third chakra, off to the left. Outside the body on the right side of that chakra, is anger and rage. Sometimes you ping-pong between the two. And sometimes feeling powerless can create feelings of anger. When you’re stuck in either emotion, you’re not in your body.
One of the places intuition comes from is your gut, so you want to have your energy there. The third chakra also corresponds to the upper part of your digestion system so if you have repeated digestive distress, that’s another clue that you need to clean out what’s stuck in there emotionally or energetically.
I’ve talked about how to pull your power back, you can reference it here, and that’s something you need to do often. Think about how much you give your power away to anyone/anything in your reality. You give people the power to affect your mood. You give people you’ve never met on the news the power to shift how you perceive reality. When you're externally focused, you leak power left and right; call that power back.
Put your hand over your stomach right now. Feel your consciousness sinking into that space. Notice if you're critical of your stomach area and release those feelings. Send love there. Send your energy there. Imagine your energy as a ball of radiant yellow light, like a sun. Let that massive sun part of you expand into that space.
Recognize if part of your energy is off to the left or off to the right and pull it out of anger, pull it out of powerlessness- pull it into center. Be in your center. Be in your power.
As you come into that chakra, it might feel like that ball of radiance is very teeny tiny, or maybe nonexistent. Don’t judge it, start feeding it. If it’s nonexistent, call your power back from everywhere and everything you gave it away to throughout your life. Keep stoking that fire. The third chakra is also the seat of will. And if that fire has gone out, you’re not going to have the willpower to do what you want.
Imagine more and more of your light coming in and filling the space of your third chakra. You can create a shield around you like I’ve taught you, but you also need a radiant shield coming from within. Dark energy may still occasionally get through because as I like to remind you, you’re human. However, the more you can fortify and embody your third chakra, the more impenetrable your outer boundary will be.
There’s a big influx of light coming onto the planet and it’s been that way for a while now. Things are shifting and changing. How do you want to create this new earth? Do you want to continue giving your power away to everyone else’s images and maybe their dystopian ideas? Or do you want to claim your power and the vision you have of beauty and goodness and harmony? Stop giving away your power, and own your future. Your light is indeed more powerful than any dark.
I want to address a big fallacy: that the more filled with light you are, the more the dark will try to harm you.
When someone who’s seemingly so wonderful gets taken down, the consensus is that they were so bright, that that’s why they got attacked energetically. That their light attracted the darkness.
That’s a total lie! It’s your belief system that draws negative energies/people to you, not how light and bright you are.
What a perfect way to control a person; than to make them believe that their light attracts darkness. What a great way to keep someone feeling small and powerless.
The dark, energies and people, hate when you’re happy and laughing, they won’t want to be around you. Dark energies/people aren’t moths to a flame, that flame could burn away their darkness/pain and if someone is entrenched in theirs, they’ll avoid the light at all cost. They may try to tear you down at first, but if you don’t allow it, if you stay empowered and grounded in your light, they’ll go away.
When you own your light and your empowerment from your core, that becomes a radiance that is more powerful than any darkness around you. Think of a flashlight or a candle in a dark room: the darkness can't overtake the light; the light eradicates it.
Eileen McKusick says, “Let your radiance be like a bug zapper for bad energy.” This will also help you from getting into the victim mentality that other’s darkness can bring you down.
I’ve made a game of this at times; if someone’s super crabby, I’ll kill them with kindness and be extra happy. I used to do this a lot when I waited tables. Why? Because am I going to allow pissy people in my reality to ruin my mood? Hell no, I’m not giving them that power.
Look, that’s not always possible and sometimes people get under your skin, but when you can, in your head say, “No, I don’t allow you to ruin my day/energy.” And in those cases, just be happy as a clam. Either they’ll go away because they don’t want to be around you, or they’ll transform. Which is ultimately very satisfying, but not always possible. You can’t take someone else’s mood personally because you don’t know what’s going on in their reality.
Negativity cannot stick to you when you keep your vibration clear and strong. Yes it can impact you, but you can kick it out easily if you refuse to allow it to drag you down. You are in charge of your energy; don’t let someone else mess with it. Shine your light even brighter.
If I’ve done my job this year, then you’re starting to feel/own more of your light.
You realize that you’re not your body, but a magnificent being of light. You know that no one has power over you, except the power you give them. You realize to question everything and adapt it for you. You’re owning more of the truth that you are enough and you’re owning more of your worth. You’re understanding that The Divine is in you, not outside of you. That all of your answers are within. And it’s safe to trust your gut.
My hope is that you’re waking up to the beliefs and lies that have kept you enslaved and shackled in any form. That anything your mind or anyone/anything external says about you not being enough or being powerless or not mattering is a lie- one meant to keep you under control.
As you own your light and who you truly are, you’ll be free on a myriad of levels and that threatens your negative ego and anyone invested in your subservience. But you no longer fit in the box you’ve been in. You’re more than that. You don’t need to be defined by your limitations, instead begin to define yourself by your love, by your caring, by your desire to see/do good in the world.
Yes it’s great to achieve but you’re not your achievements; you’re your inner growth, conscious awareness and evolution. Your value lies within, not without.
And simultaneously to all this, you’re human so you will make mistakes. That used to be an idea of horror to me; the need for perfection to feel safe and not humiliated was huge. But that’s not life. The key is how you handle your mistakes and are they really mistakes or opportunities for growth? Can you change your perspective on that?
When you own all facets of you, your light and your dark, and you send more and more light to the dark places within, you shine like a diamond.
Yes you’ll still feel grief, pain, and anger etc. because you’re human!! It’s part of the package. And you can allow more fun, freedom, and love because that is part of it too.
Loosen the bonds around you, open to more of the light and what you do want to experience. Take your attention away from you don’t want and put all your focus on what you do want.
This is a time of increased consciousness, allow it in and shine.
I have absolute faith in the future. Unwavering and complete faith. I have total faith in the world becoming new.
How, you might ask? Because I have chosen it, over and over, and I feed the future I want to see for the world, with not only my energy and attention, but also with my love and light.
I know we didn’t come all this way to have things fail. And by “all this way,” I mean lifetimes of soul growth and conscious evolution. I certainly didn’t.
We’re birthing a new world. A NEW world. That doesn’t happen overnight. The old Piscean age model of “power over” needs to crumble and be cleared out to make way for a new way of being: one of co-creation and cooperation with each other, and with the planet.
I know some of you may not see this. Some of you only see darkness and destruction. You aren’t able to see the light of possibility. Fear has won over your imagination.
But it doesn’t have to be that way. Remember, you create your reality. You. Not government leaders, not anything external, you.
What do you want to see for the world? And do you want your negative ego/your fear to be in control? Or do you want to choose and consciously look for the light and let that win?
It’s a choice. You choose how you see the world. Do you choose to see the problems, or focus on the solutions?
I’m not in denial of all that needs healing in our country and the world- not even close. If you’ve followed me long enough, you know that I’m not all love and light. I absolutely remind you that you have got to deal with your own personal darkness and excavate your rage and pain etc.
You can’t just go right to a positive attitude if you don’t believe it. If you can only see through the eyes of fear, acknowledge that, work on it, and clear those energies out. If you feel dread, if you feel powerless, if you feel threatened - work through all of them. You’ll see in the world that which mirrors your beliefs.
If you’re tied to seeing the dark, what part of you has abdicated power? What part wants to, or is stuck in, seeing the nightmare? What do you get from that path? It might not be pretty:
Maybe self-pity- “Omg look how awful others are. Poor me, I live in this dark reality.”
Or blame- “I have no say, they’re doing it to me, to the world, it’s their fault.”
Or rage that feeds righteousness- “They’re bad and wrong so I need to fight them and punish them back.”
These are just a few examples, and none of them are pleasant, but you need to be honest with yourself as to what emotion is holding you, and your imagination, hostage to a negative world view and in a power struggle with darkness. What you struggle with persists, until it’s healed.
When you can heal that in you, there will be less of it in the world. That’s part of being the solution. Heal you first and have less darkness in you first.
Then go back to your empowerment and faith in what you DO want to see.
Of course, that’s not always going to be easy- hello- you’re human – and:
Stop giving your power away.
Own that you are powerful, and you choose which to feed: the light or the dark.
Own your light. And if that scares you, dive into why you’re stuck on you not mattering or being shameful etc.
What is the story you want to tell about the world? What is the story you want to tell about your place in the world? Are you a champion of the light, or perpetually fighting the dark, getting mired in it, and exhausting yourself? Just as turning on a light in a dark room eradicates the dark, the more light you are, the less dark that exists.
I’m standing for the light. Will you join me?
Everything comes down to your worth: what you think you’re worthy of. You will receive in direct proportion to how worthy you feel.
Your priorities are based on your worth: are you worthy of your dreams coming true? If so, you’ll make the time to create that which you desire. If not, as Marie Forleo says, “you’ll make excuses.”
Your worth is seen in the people you attract; especially romantic partners. If you don’t feel worthy of love, you’ll attract someone unavailable, distant, maybe someone who uses you or just doesn’t give you what you need. At the worst, you'll attract someone abusive.
Your worth shows in your health; do you care for your body and feed it healthy things, or do you punish/ignore/drive it?
Your worth shows in your self-care; do you care how you look and nurture yourself with niceties or do you think, “why bother?”
Your worth shows in how you’re treated at work. Are you respected, or ignored? Or worse, ridiculed?
Your worth shows in your finances; are you well compensated for the work you do, or do you allow yourself to be undervalued? Are you wise with your financial decisions, or do you spend/lose money constantly, thus keeping you in debt?
Your worth shows in the circumstances/people you attract into your life. Do you attract things/people that elevate your happiness and bring you joy, or are you mired in negativity and surrounded on all sides by unhappy people and circumstances?
Worth starts with you. No one can wave a wand and magically bestow worth on you. You need to own and claim it. It’s there, available for you. Only you can decide to receive and live it.
You may have been taught that you’re unworthy- that’s a lie by people too enmeshed in their own pain and shame to see the truth. Or by people who desired to control you and make you more easily follow what they said. Whatever “authority” figure told you that, they’re wrong; plain and simple. Do not believe them and keep living in your own pain. Rise above and claim your worth.
Everything comes back to worth- everything.
So right now, put your hands over your heart, close your eyes, feel into the center of yourself, breath and connect to you. When you’re ready, open your eyes and say to yourself:
“I am worthy.”
“I am worthy of love.”
“I am worthy of happiness.”
“I am worthy of financial wealth.”
“I am worthy of radiant health.”
“I am worthy of my dreams coming true.”
“I am worthy of ease and grace.”
“I am worthy of laughter and joy.”
“I am worthy of being loved and cherished.”
“I am worthy of pleasure.”
“I am worthy of freedom.”
“I am worthy of being heard.”
“I am worthy of being seen.”
“I am worthy of that job/promotion/raise.”
“I am worthy of nice things.”
“I am worthy of trustworthy friends and associates.”
"I am worthy of relaxation and inner peace."
“I am worthy of Divine assistance.”
"I am worthy of miracles."
“I am worthy of __________”- (fill in the blank with what you most want)
“I am worthy, simply because I am!”
Now repeat this daily.
Print it, and post it on your bathroom mirror.
Say it with conviction.
Claim what is rightfully yours.
You are absolutely worthy- own that!!!
Print out for your mirror:
We dove into the dark shadow- now how about the light?
Interestingly, the light can be as scary for some as the dark is for others. Some of you are hardwired to look at what’s not working. And you fix it and you work it, and you fix it some more. You’re always willing to look at your faults and what’s not working. You’re incredibly familiar with your shame and your anger etc. Yes, you may still have stuff in your shadow, but you consistently work at bettering yourself.
Now if I ask you about your beauty, your greatness, your gifts and talents, your generosity of spirit, your compassionate heart, or your light, you may dismiss it or deny it. You may want to believe it’s there, but it doesn’t feel right to claim it. Or you may truly think that there’s just so much wrong with you that you have no light.
Either way, all of that goodness is in the shadow. It is just as powerful to excavate the light shadow as it is the dark.
Try this for a moment, say this statement and let me know if it triggers you: “I am magnificent.”
Be aware if your negative ego wants to jump in and take it to the whole extreme of, “Oh yes, I am completely magnificent,” said with arrogance. That’s not what I’m talking about. I mean true ownership of your magnificence and light. You may giggle and think that’s silly- “Ok Tina sure, I’m magnificent.” Said with an eye roll.
Yes, you are. Can you own that?
Can you own your magnificence? Can you own who you are beyond this body? Can you truly own the light of you?
I tell you all the time to be the light, but if you refuse to acknowledge your own light, how can you bring more of the light into the world?
Let’s try this, look in the mirror. No excuses, pick up your reading device and walk to a mirror. Are you resisting me? Good- then you need this more than ever. Look yourself in the eyes, acknowledge yourself, and say:
“I see you. I see your light. I see your love. You are beautiful.”
That might be phenomenally difficult for some of you and it may even evoke tears or wanting to turn away. But it’s time to acknowledge it. And did you even do the exercise, or dismiss me outright and ignore what I asked of you? If so, you just got a big answer.
There’s so much darkness that we’re seeing in the world and yes absolutely we need to heal our own dark, but if we only heal our dark, we are lopsided if we don’t simultaneously bring forth and acknowledge the truth of our beauty, love, magnificence, joy, etc.
Remember, only the light can heal the darkness. Which means- only your light can heal your darkness. Sit with that.
Sometimes we shove aside the light to protect it, especially those who grew up in difficult or abusive households. But as I said last week, there are gradients to everything and it doesn’t take an overtly abusive household to make one hide their light. There’s also a lot of societal messages about not standing out and tamping down your light/uniqueness or, you may have heard, “who do you think you are?”- in relation to what makes you wonderfully you.
As you own your light, I’m not saying you suddenly have to be visible to everybody, but you do need to be visible to yourself. You need to be willing to see your magnificence. To tap into that and let that expand.
Again I say, in order to be the light, you need to actually be willing to see your light. Without caveat, without diminishing it or limiting how much you’ll see.
What about you is filled with light? Take a peek this week and pull it out of the shadow and into your consciousness. The world is waiting.
It seems that the worst of humanity is coming out right now. I’m watching friends get attacked for posts that are very calm and loving, people taking advantage of the protests by rioting, lots of shaming of others for trying to be supportive, and incredible righteousness over who’s right/wrong; it’s enough to make you lose faith…
I know many of you are overwhelmed. The energy is remarkably intense and destructive.
And yet, in the depths of darkness, in the dimness of the cocoon, the caterpillar is being dissolved to allow it to become the butterfly.
Do not give your power to impotence, to thinking there’s nothing you can do.
It may seem fluff, but the vision has to start with you; each of us individually owning the reality we want to see and then creating it, one step at a time, one election at a time, to create a revolutionary change at a core level.
Each of us healing ourselves and our own violent anger, rage, and pain so that there’s less of those energies in the world.
It starts with our individual hearts and minds choosing to see a reality of equality and inclusiveness.
Now more then ever, it’s important to use your voice. Your voice matters, you deserve to be heard. Speak for those who cannot speak. Use for your voice for those who have no voice or whose voices have been silenced.
You may not literally go out and speak, you can voice it through your art, through your acts of kindness, through the people and companies you support. Through the products you buy and the things you listen to. Through the love you send to the world. And through the declaration to the world, even if done in the privacy of your home, of saying:
“Enough! I refuse a reality of exclusiveness. I refuse a reality of domination. I refuse a reality of inequality.”
You may feel powerless but you’re not.
Never underestimate the power of the imagination. If you can see it in your imagination, you can believe it, and then you can create it and live it. If you don’t create it in your world, how will you see it in the world?
I wrote a blog that I posted on Instagram on Sunday and in it, I said that what I do doesn’t feel like enough. I recognized the next morning that I gave my power away to a false idea. My form of voice and power may not look like the way others express theirs, and that’s OK. We need a contrast of strengths to lift each other up.
So dream. Dream big. Be powerful in your dreams. Own your visions. Join me and together we can dream into being a world more phenomenal than we can even imagine.
Let’s be the visionaries for a new world. I’m holding the light of hope for you, will you accept it?
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Perspective is an interesting thing. Sometimes we don’t gain it until after the fact and sometimes we need to have someone point out a different way of looking at a situation other than how we’d been seeing it. Regardless, a change in perspective can be a powerful thing.
I had two different clients one day recently who both had very specific perspectives on their parent’s behavior towards them and on what they thought their parent’s actions meant. Neither was true. And yet their stories were defining them and how they lived their lives.
Sometimes we tell ourselves a story because it’s the thing that helps life makes sense. Or it keeps us “safe.” But what are we protecting if we don’t show ourselves the truth? Maybe we’ve hidden the truth of our power, or the fact that we are loved underneath a lie we’ve told ourselves. Also, how much have we needed our parents to be perfect instead of seeing them as fallible human beings doing the best they could? Are we still blaming them versus taking a risk and creating a new way of being?
As an example, one client was adopted at birth and assumed they weren’t wanted. They built a life around the idea of not mattering. The truth was, their mom loved them so much, she was willing to have the child in her life for only 9 months before having to give them away to a better family as she lived in an impoverished country and couldn’t care for an infant. Her love was so powerful and the child mattered so much that she was willing to endure the pain of loss to have simply 9 months together.
Another person’s dad was always angry and they saw his anger to mean they weren’t good enough. They had a whole story attached to that when really, the dad felt profoundly inadequate that he couldn’t provide properly for his wife and children and since he felt like he was always failing, he lashed out. I’ll add by the way, I’m not condoning his behavior in any way, I’m simply pointing out that he was the one who didn’t feel good enough. My client took on his wounds subconsciously and made them their own.
Sometimes we learn the reason’s why and sometimes we don’t. When we don’t, we need to look at it from a different vantage point and contemplate what might’ve actually been going on versus the story we’ve told ourselves.
I bring this up now because your light is needed more than ever. It is no longer viable for you to pretend to be other than your luminous self. You came here to bring the light and in order to do that, you need to acknowledge yours first and foremost.
Maybe you’ve hidden from yourself the truth that either you truly are lovable, or that you are indeed good enough. Maybe it’s that you do matter or you are powerful. What faulty belief keeps circling your head or actions, obscuring the truth?
It’s so much easier to continue believing the lie and putting the blame outward versus having to truly look at what it is about you that makes you radiant. Discover the lie and own the opposite; when you do you become unstoppable. Then you can own the idea that maybe the Universe actually is on your side supporting you.
Can you be courageous enough today to start believing a new truth? Just experiment- for the next 30 days truly put everything into the new belief, including forgiving yourself, forgiving the past, and releasing all those involved. Then focus on what you do want to see. You may need to have a talk with your subconscious (click here to remember how), and truly be willing to see your light. In order to bring light to the world, you need to own yours first.
Now, on a different note but still on the same topic: in the last week many of you have asked me about some of the conspiracy theories out there. Here’s my perspective:
Some might well be true. I say "might" because who knows for certain. I will say for me personally, I've been choosing to feed the light versus delving into the darkness. I did a deep dark dive one evening weeks ago into all kinds of conspiracy theories and man it made me feel awful. I truly felt powerless and dark. That’s when I decided to choose the light. Yes the dark exists. We live in a duality so to think it’s all love and light is deceiving yourself, HOWEVER you can choose to be the light. I am choosing to bring more light and be part of the solution versus going deep into the darkness to fight it or feed it. The light is infinitely more powerful than the dark. The way to defeat the dark is simply to shine more light so it can’t hide, and ultimately dissipates.
Do I think that's possible? Absolutely. Remember, you see what you believe. I choose to see a world in which I have power. In which the Universe supports me versus bad guys always coming after me. Some will see the nightmare and some the beautiful dream. There’s room for everyone to co-exist. Which are you choosing?
To give you a perspective shift beyond what I wrote about 2 weeks ago, what if you see what’s happening now as the unconscious of the world falling apart? Where all the places people have been unconscious now coming to the light so we can become more conscious and thus, more powerful. Just think about it.
That perspective about the unconscious came from Matt Kahn as does this idea: “I help the world find peace faster by focusing on being at peace with myself.”
As I always remind you, it starts with you. Find what brings you peace and focus there. Open to new perspectives, release the grips of the past, and start a new story. The world is waiting.
Me, Tina Germain, just sharing ways to make you the best you can be!