Everything comes down to your worth: what you think you’re worthy of. You will receive in direct proportion to how worthy you feel.
Your priorities are based on your worth: are you worthy of your dreams coming true? If so, you’ll make the time to create that which you desire. If not, as Marie Forleo says, “you’ll make excuses.”
Your worth is seen in the people you attract; especially romantic partners. If you don’t feel worthy of love, you’ll attract someone unavailable, distant, maybe someone who uses you or just doesn’t give you what you need. At the worst, you'll attract someone abusive.
Your worth shows in your health; do you care for your body and feed it healthy things, or do you punish/ignore/drive it?
Your worth shows in your self-care; do you care how you look and nurture yourself with niceties or do you think, “why bother?”
Your worth shows in how you’re treated at work. Are you respected, or ignored? Or worse, ridiculed?
Your worth shows in your finances; are you well compensated for the work you do, or do you allow yourself to be undervalued? Are you wise with your financial decisions, or do you spend/lose money constantly, thus keeping you in debt?
Your worth shows in the circumstances/people you attract into your life. Do you attract things/people that elevate your happiness and bring you joy, or are you mired in negativity and surrounded on all sides by unhappy people and circumstances?
Worth starts with you. No one can wave a wand and magically bestow worth on you. You need to own and claim it. It’s there, available for you. Only you can decide to receive and live it.
You may have been taught that you’re unworthy- that’s a lie by people too enmeshed in their own pain and shame to see the truth. Or by people who desired to control you and make you more easily follow what they said. Whatever “authority” figure told you that, they’re wrong; plain and simple. Do not believe them and keep living in your own pain. Rise above and claim your worth.
Everything comes back to worth- everything.
So right now, put your hands over your heart, close your eyes, feel into the center of yourself, breath and connect to you. When you’re ready, open your eyes and say to yourself:
“I am worthy.”
“I am worthy of love.”
“I am worthy of happiness.”
“I am worthy of financial wealth.”
“I am worthy of radiant health.”
“I am worthy of my dreams coming true.”
“I am worthy of ease and grace.”
“I am worthy of laughter and joy.”
“I am worthy of being loved and cherished.”
“I am worthy of pleasure.”
“I am worthy of freedom.”
“I am worthy of being heard.”
“I am worthy of being seen.”
“I am worthy of that job/promotion/raise.”
“I am worthy of nice things.”
“I am worthy of trustworthy friends and associates.”
"I am worthy of relaxation and inner peace."
“I am worthy of Divine assistance.”
"I am worthy of miracles."
“I am worthy of __________”- (fill in the blank with what you most want)
“I am worthy, simply because I am!”
Now repeat this daily.
Print it, and post it on your bathroom mirror.
Say it with conviction.
Claim what is rightfully yours.
You are absolutely worthy- own that!!!
Print out for your mirror:
We dove into the dark shadow- now how about the light?
Interestingly, the light can be as scary for some as the dark is for others. Some of you are hardwired to look at what’s not working. And you fix it and you work it, and you fix it some more. You’re always willing to look at your faults and what’s not working. You’re incredibly familiar with your shame and your anger etc. Yes, you may still have stuff in your shadow, but you consistently work at bettering yourself.
Now if I ask you about your beauty, your greatness, your gifts and talents, your generosity of spirit, your compassionate heart, or your light, you may dismiss it or deny it. You may want to believe it’s there, but it doesn’t feel right to claim it. Or you may truly think that there’s just so much wrong with you that you have no light.
Either way, all of that goodness is in the shadow. It is just as powerful to excavate the light shadow as it is the dark.
Try this for a moment, say this statement and let me know if it triggers you: “I am magnificent.”
Be aware if your negative ego wants to jump in and take it to the whole extreme of, “Oh yes, I am completely magnificent,” said with arrogance. That’s not what I’m talking about. I mean true ownership of your magnificence and light. You may giggle and think that’s silly- “Ok Tina sure, I’m magnificent.” Said with an eye roll.
Yes, you are. Can you own that?
Can you own your magnificence? Can you own who you are beyond this body? Can you truly own the light of you?
I tell you all the time to be the light, but if you refuse to acknowledge your own light, how can you bring more of the light into the world?
Let’s try this, look in the mirror. No excuses, pick up your reading device and walk to a mirror. Are you resisting me? Good- then you need this more than ever. Look yourself in the eyes, acknowledge yourself, and say:
“I see you. I see your light. I see your love. You are beautiful.”
That might be phenomenally difficult for some of you and it may even evoke tears or wanting to turn away. But it’s time to acknowledge it. And did you even do the exercise, or dismiss me outright and ignore what I asked of you? If so, you just got a big answer.
There’s so much darkness that we’re seeing in the world and yes absolutely we need to heal our own dark, but if we only heal our dark, we are lopsided if we don’t simultaneously bring forth and acknowledge the truth of our beauty, love, magnificence, joy, etc.
Remember, only the light can heal the darkness. Which means- only your light can heal your darkness. Sit with that.
Sometimes we shove aside the light to protect it, especially those who grew up in difficult or abusive households. But as I said last week, there are gradients to everything and it doesn’t take an overtly abusive household to make one hide their light. There’s also a lot of societal messages about not standing out and tamping down your light/uniqueness or, you may have heard, “who do you think you are?”- in relation to what makes you wonderfully you.
As you own your light, I’m not saying you suddenly have to be visible to everybody, but you do need to be visible to yourself. You need to be willing to see your magnificence. To tap into that and let that expand.
Again I say, in order to be the light, you need to actually be willing to see your light. Without caveat, without diminishing it or limiting how much you’ll see.
What about you is filled with light? Take a peek this week and pull it out of the shadow and into your consciousness. The world is waiting.
It seems that the worst of humanity is coming out right now. I’m watching friends get attacked for posts that are very calm and loving, people taking advantage of the protests by rioting, lots of shaming of others for trying to be supportive, and incredible righteousness over who’s right/wrong; it’s enough to make you lose faith…
I know many of you are overwhelmed. The energy is remarkably intense and destructive.
And yet, in the depths of darkness, in the dimness of the cocoon, the caterpillar is being dissolved to allow it to become the butterfly.
Do not give your power to impotence, to thinking there’s nothing you can do.
It may seem fluff, but the vision has to start with you; each of us individually owning the reality we want to see and then creating it, one step at a time, one election at a time, to create a revolutionary change at a core level.
Each of us healing ourselves and our own violent anger, rage, and pain so that there’s less of those energies in the world.
It starts with our individual hearts and minds choosing to see a reality of equality and inclusiveness.
Now more then ever, it’s important to use your voice. Your voice matters, you deserve to be heard. Speak for those who cannot speak. Use for your voice for those who have no voice or whose voices have been silenced.
You may not literally go out and speak, you can voice it through your art, through your acts of kindness, through the people and companies you support. Through the products you buy and the things you listen to. Through the love you send to the world. And through the declaration to the world, even if done in the privacy of your home, of saying:
“Enough! I refuse a reality of exclusiveness. I refuse a reality of domination. I refuse a reality of inequality.”
You may feel powerless but you’re not.
Never underestimate the power of the imagination. If you can see it in your imagination, you can believe it, and then you can create it and live it. If you don’t create it in your world, how will you see it in the world?
I wrote a blog that I posted on Instagram on Sunday and in it, I said that what I do doesn’t feel like enough. I recognized the next morning that I gave my power away to a false idea. My form of voice and power may not look like the way others express theirs, and that’s OK. We need a contrast of strengths to lift each other up.
So dream. Dream big. Be powerful in your dreams. Own your visions. Join me and together we can dream into being a world more phenomenal than we can even imagine.
Let’s be the visionaries for a new world. I’m holding the light of hope for you, will you accept it?
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Perspective is an interesting thing. Sometimes we don’t gain it until after the fact and sometimes we need to have someone point out a different way of looking at a situation other than how we’d been seeing it. Regardless, a change in perspective can be a powerful thing.
I had two different clients one day recently who both had very specific perspectives on their parent’s behavior towards them and on what they thought their parent’s actions meant. Neither was true. And yet their stories were defining them and how they lived their lives.
Sometimes we tell ourselves a story because it’s the thing that helps life makes sense. Or it keeps us “safe.” But what are we protecting if we don’t show ourselves the truth? Maybe we’ve hidden the truth of our power, or the fact that we are loved underneath a lie we’ve told ourselves. Also, how much have we needed our parents to be perfect instead of seeing them as fallible human beings doing the best they could? Are we still blaming them versus taking a risk and creating a new way of being?
As an example, one client was adopted at birth and assumed they weren’t wanted. They built a life around the idea of not mattering. The truth was, their mom loved them so much, she was willing to have the child in her life for only 9 months before having to give them away to a better family as she lived in an impoverished country and couldn’t care for an infant. Her love was so powerful and the child mattered so much that she was willing to endure the pain of loss to have simply 9 months together.
Another person’s dad was always angry and they saw his anger to mean they weren’t good enough. They had a whole story attached to that when really, the dad felt profoundly inadequate that he couldn’t provide properly for his wife and children and since he felt like he was always failing, he lashed out. I’ll add by the way, I’m not condoning his behavior in any way, I’m simply pointing out that he was the one who didn’t feel good enough. My client took on his wounds subconsciously and made them their own.
Sometimes we learn the reason’s why and sometimes we don’t. When we don’t, we need to look at it from a different vantage point and contemplate what might’ve actually been going on versus the story we’ve told ourselves.
I bring this up now because your light is needed more than ever. It is no longer viable for you to pretend to be other than your luminous self. You came here to bring the light and in order to do that, you need to acknowledge yours first and foremost.
Maybe you’ve hidden from yourself the truth that either you truly are lovable, or that you are indeed good enough. Maybe it’s that you do matter or you are powerful. What faulty belief keeps circling your head or actions, obscuring the truth?
It’s so much easier to continue believing the lie and putting the blame outward versus having to truly look at what it is about you that makes you radiant. Discover the lie and own the opposite; when you do you become unstoppable. Then you can own the idea that maybe the Universe actually is on your side supporting you.
Can you be courageous enough today to start believing a new truth? Just experiment- for the next 30 days truly put everything into the new belief, including forgiving yourself, forgiving the past, and releasing all those involved. Then focus on what you do want to see. You may need to have a talk with your subconscious (click here to remember how), and truly be willing to see your light. In order to bring light to the world, you need to own yours first.
Now, on a different note but still on the same topic: in the last week many of you have asked me about some of the conspiracy theories out there. Here’s my perspective:
Some might well be true. I say "might" because who knows for certain. I will say for me personally, I've been choosing to feed the light versus delving into the darkness. I did a deep dark dive one evening weeks ago into all kinds of conspiracy theories and man it made me feel awful. I truly felt powerless and dark. That’s when I decided to choose the light. Yes the dark exists. We live in a duality so to think it’s all love and light is deceiving yourself, HOWEVER you can choose to be the light. I am choosing to bring more light and be part of the solution versus going deep into the darkness to fight it or feed it. The light is infinitely more powerful than the dark. The way to defeat the dark is simply to shine more light so it can’t hide, and ultimately dissipates.
Do I think that's possible? Absolutely. Remember, you see what you believe. I choose to see a world in which I have power. In which the Universe supports me versus bad guys always coming after me. Some will see the nightmare and some the beautiful dream. There’s room for everyone to co-exist. Which are you choosing?
To give you a perspective shift beyond what I wrote about 2 weeks ago, what if you see what’s happening now as the unconscious of the world falling apart? Where all the places people have been unconscious now coming to the light so we can become more conscious and thus, more powerful. Just think about it.
That perspective about the unconscious came from Matt Kahn as does this idea: “I help the world find peace faster by focusing on being at peace with myself.”
As I always remind you, it starts with you. Find what brings you peace and focus there. Open to new perspectives, release the grips of the past, and start a new story. The world is waiting.
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