Since this has come up multiple times in sessions recently, I wanted to point out that the greater the change you experience, the greater the potential disruption to your system. And by system I mean your body, your thoughts, your emotions, your energy levels- all parts of you.
 
It's not unusual to feel depression after a huge event, even if that event is good. Even if it's a positive. I learned this decades ago from Lazaris, a channeled entity similar to Abraham Hicks.
 
I first experienced this after getting married. Even though I knew what Lazaris had said, I couldn't quite reconcile why I was feeling a weird depression after such a beautiful wedding. But it was because for a year before the event, I expended a huge amount of energy, planning, imaginings, and focus on that event. When it was over, it was a letdown to my whole being. And I don't mean letdown as in it's a bad thing, I mean all my energy that had been so wrapped up in something, now needed to wind down. Sudden change, from massive planning to regular life, is disruptive, and that can cause depression.
 
This also came up when we moved back into our house after a nine-month remodel. It took me a full month to release the depression. And luckily that time, I understood where the depression was coming from and didn’t judge it. I simply needed to allow it and be in it. Which wasn’t fun but when we don’t fight what is and we surrender to it, it moves through much more quickly.
 
I know from the outside it doesn't look rational to feel depressed after amazing experiences. Remember that rational comes from logic and the mind, and that’s not where this depression originates. It comes from the emotions and energy systems. As I said above, when you’ve spent so much of your time, energy, and focus on creating something, once you get it, there’s a period of what feels like a void, where all your energy and focus doesn't have a new place to go yet.
 
It doesn't mean you don't want that incredible thing you worked so hard to create, it doesn't mean something’s wrong with it or you, it simply means you need to recalibrate. You need to sit in the newness and allow all parts of you to catch up.
 
I want you to be aware of this so you can remember it and so that you don’t judge yourself if you experience it. The depression will release and turn to joy, just give it time.


I made a video on this subject. Click Here to Watch.

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I'm a really good problem solver. It's why I love teaching you solutions and giving you tools. I think it's incredibly empowering to shift whatever’s going on in one's experience of reality.
 
What I'm not so great at, is sitting in the discomfort when things aren't clear. When I can't solve an issue. When an emotion or aspect of myself simply needs to be experienced, rather than moved through.
 
That’s tough for me. And I know I’m not alone in this.
 
It can be disconcerting to not figure out what’s going on energetically. Yet sometimes, the resolution can only come from getting out of the mind (the figuring out) and into the body, in the stillness with what is, rather than what we want it to be.
 
My inner child has been very vocal with her fears lately. And most days, I simply need to sit with and hold her. Do I want to fix the situation/her? Oh totally! However, I don’t want to train my subconscious that she (me) is broken when she simply needs to be held and supported. She needs to know I’m here, listening.
 
It’s not always the inner child being vocal, sometimes it’s an emotion such as sadness or anger that keeps taking your attention. Or your inner adolescent feeling rebellious.
 
So, if you've been in a similar situation lately or next time you are, put your hands over your heart. Breathe into your heart space for a moment. Settle your consciousness there.
 
Be present with yourself. Presence begins the healing process.
 
Keep breathing and hold space for yourself with kindness and compassion.
 
Then ask yourself what you most need. And don't expect that the answer will be to do something. Maybe what you must need is to take a walk, or just breathe more, or allow the discomfort and the feelings. Maybe what you most need is to be present with the parts of yourself that feel the angst.
 
If it feels appropriate, ask what it's trying to tell you. And again, maybe what it's most trying to tell you is just that it needs to be heard. That your feelings need to be validated in a way that they weren't validated when you were a child. Maybe parts of you simply need to be honored because they exist. All parts of you are valuable, even the parts that you would deem unworthy or as holding too much pain.
 
As you breathe into your heart, hold space for all those parts to be exactly as they are in the moment. Not trying to fix them or make them better, just letting them know that they're all lovable.
 
As I said earlier, easier said than done, but the more I've done that for myself, the more profound the changes are after allowing what is versus trying to fix myself.
 
To me, that’s the very definition of grace. Give yourself that grace as well.

​Acceptance…
 
That’s a doozy, isn’t it?!
Sometimes it’s the absolute hardest thing to do, and yet, it’s the thing that will release you.
 
Ask yourself what you can actually be responsible for changing in yourself and your reality, and where you need to accept a person or situation for exactly as it is, versus fighting to change/fix it.
 
Like the serenity prayer: 
(Substitute “God” for Universe, Source, Divinity, Goddess- whatever speaks to you)
 
God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, 
The courage to change the things I can, 
And wisdom to know the difference.
 
When you stop fighting what is, and you accept it for what it is, you can find your freedom. 
 
Not what you hope it will be, not what you wish it would be, simply acceptance of what is. 
 
Yeah, I get it- easier said than done sometimes! And I’m not saying roll over in apathy or don’t work to create a different outcome. You need the discernment to know what you need to accept and what you need to change.
 
Ask yourself what color you think acceptance is. There are no wrong answers. Right now, think of what color you think acceptance is.
 
Think of a situation or person in your personal life that you’re having a really hard time accepting.
 
Imagine flowing that color into that situation or person.
 
You’re not flowing it to change them, because they may not change. You’re flowing it to change your perception of them and where the lack of acceptance is holding you prisoner in your reality.
 
Once that’s complete, ask yourself what you most need, beyond acceptance. Maybe it’s rest, maybe it’s creative time, maybe it’s being out in nature or exercising, or maybe, it’s the strength and courage to take action to heal the situation or relationship. 
 
After all, nothing changes until you do. Accept that.
 
 
 
 

Everyone is processing things the best way they can right now, so the key message today is: 
​whatever you are/are not doing, is absolutely perfect for you! 

Do not judge it, and do not compare.
 
Some of you are organizing your houses: fantastic! Some of you are exercising and getting in better shape: fantastic! Some of you are disconnecting from the world and simply reading all day: fantastic! Some of you are unable to do anything because you’re so knocked out from all the chaos and so you just zone out: fantastic!
 
It’s all fantastic because you’re doing the best you can do for you! 
 
Do not forget that, and do not think you should be doing anything or be anywhere emotionally/mentally other than where you are. 
 
Where you are is exactly where you need to be. 

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It is not your job to judge; it is your job to love.
It is not your job to criticize; it is your job to empathize.
It is not your job to blame; it is your job to accept.
 
You cannot change anyone else; all you can do is change yourself. You cannot control anyone else; all you can do is work on yourself. They are who they are; your job is to accept that and to forgive where you find fault. It is not their job to change to suit you or your needs.
 
It is your job to fulfill your own needs, not dump that responsibility on someone else. They cannot fix you or make you whole. You must do that.
 
Your negative ego would love for you to find fault with those around you and lash out at, or be hurt by others for not fulfilling your expectations. But you, the true you, can rise above that and be more; you can be the love you desire in your reality. Admittedly it’s not always easy, especially when you are triggered by friends, family, and partners who can push our buttons like no other. But it was designed this way, they are showing you where you need healing within yourself. It takes time, it takes patience, it takes compassion, but if you are willing to release old resentments and stories of hurt, you can transform yourself and your reality by allowing love and light into those places of pain. 
 
So as you continue in this holiday season, love more, empathize more, and accept those around you for who they are. And while doing so, send those energies back to yourself. Be willing to be the change.


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Here’s a radical idea for you, total acceptance. Accepting everything that’s going on in your life, without judgment.
When you get angry about a situation and fight or resist it, you’re holding it in place. You’re not allowing the healing and the support you need.

How often do you criticize yourself for your anxiety, your weight, your emotions? What acceptance means is- “I’m ok even though I’m having a meltdown/panic attack/I’m angry.” It means, “I accept this as a part of me that is worthy of my love, without judgment.”

For example, one day I was having a panic attack. I was totally ungrounded and felt awful. I started trying to get out of the panic by condemning it- “I wish this would go away! Why am I panicking?!” Then I realized, what if, vs fighting this, I simply allow and accept that right now, I’m in a panic and that’s OK. Once I started giving myself permission to just “be” where I was, the panic began to dissipate. My non-judgment and total self-acceptance allowed a new reality, one of love and healing.

When you can step back from judging your behavior as bad or wrong and trying to change it, versus simply allowing that it exists, you give yourself the space to heal and transform. When you accept all of you, exactly as you are, you bring in a greater level of self-love.

The same holds true with others. Think of how much better our relationships would be if we accepted and allowed the other person to be who they truly are, vs trying to control them and mold them into what we want them to be. How do you know you’re controlling a person/situation? Again, you don’t accept what is. You want it to be your way. You don’t allow a possibility outside of what you feel is right and correct.
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When you practice acceptance, true acceptance, you release from the outcome. You trust that everything is perfect in this moment. Once you fully accept the now, then you can bring forth the changes you desire.