The universe is always expanding, there’s always more.
You may think that Source/The Universe/God is punishing you by not giving you love or money, but Source is there with open arms. It’s about something blocked inside of you, versus something happening outside of you.
If you feel angry at the Universe for not giving to you, recognize that the Universe is not sitting there with some arbitrary stick judging who gets to receive and who doesn’t. You need to look at what beliefs, thoughts, ideas, etc. in you that are in resistance, or in opposition, to receiving.
Maybe you’re tied to a story of lack and limitation, or struggle and suffering. Maybe you don’t feel worthy to receive. Is there a part of you that believes there’s a fixed amount of anything, versus an abundance?
Many were raised to see God as a parental/authority figure versus an energy of love. When you personify the Universe to be like your parents or other authority figures were, then anywhere that they withheld love, affection, money, etc., you will subconsciously attribute to the Universe/Source/God. Remember, the old testament god was pretty vengeful. How much did that infiltrate your mind? And even if you’ve worked to overcome that programming, does it still subconsciously influence you?
This is the origin of worth issues that you can’t identify. Especially after you’ve cleared issues from childhood. What better way to control someone, then tell them that they’re not worthy of God’s love and need to spend their life trying to make up for that?
If that triggers you, then you know there’s issues to be cleared.
Really sit with the idea of a loving Universe/Goddess/God/Source that wants you to succeed, wants you to shine, wants you to have your deepest dreams and desires. Can you accept that, or do you dismiss it and go into resistance? Is any part of your body right now tight and shutting down, or are you feeling open and expansive? Your body won’t lie. It’ll tell you whether that’s true for you based on how you feel.
Play with these ideas, and allow yourself to shift perspective. Challenge yourself when you hear yourself spouting beliefs that may have come from your family, your religion, or society. Ask yourself, “Is this true?” And if you do believe it to be true, ask yourself, “Why?”
Truly observe through your words, feelings, and behaviors, if you see the world as finite, or infinite. If you see Source/Divinity/The Universe as withholding/punishing or accepting and loving.
You are incredibly worthy of joy, money, abundance, and love, simply because you exist.
Sit with that this week.
What you believe shapes your world; how about opening to a new set of beliefs around the Universe supporting you, cheering you on, giving to you freely, and your worthiness of love, money, and abundance. It's time to create a new world for yourself.
Right now, with many losing their minds, it’s important to remember to not engage crazy. There are those who thrive on drama, who want to sweep you into their mess, who want to amp up discord. However, as I’ve reminded you often lately, you don’t need to participate.
One of my favorite metaphors comes from my friend Linda Foley. She always told me to stay off the crazy playground. What is the crazy playground you ask?
The way I think of the crazy playground is as if imagining yourself stuck on a carousel, and you just keep circling around and around with either a person or an issue. It doesn’t stop moving, it’s up to you to step off.
How do you know you’re on the crazy playground? When you’re engaging in a battle. When a fight has escalated beyond what it’s even really about. When someone has no interest in looking at their part of their mess and simply wants to blame. When someone is sinking into their own story and refuses any bit of sane advice. When you’re arguing over and over and over and getting nowhere.
It’s anytime you can tell the other person doesn’t hear you, or you’re mired in an old pattern, or with somebody who’s stuck in their negative ego- and you just keep circling around and around and around, and refuse to take the highroad and walk away.
Here’s an example: a client of mine has a mother that always has a crisis going on, always needing something. The mother thrives on drama. She dumps it on my client and expects my client to fix it all. Eventually, through talking about this metaphor, my client realized that she’s constantly on the crazy playground with her mother. Always engaging the crazy by responding to it, and/or resisting it. Resistance still keeps you on the playground. It wasn’t until she took her power back one day and realized that:
A: she was not at her mother’s beck and call and could simply not answer the phone – to which to some of you might say, “well duh,” but to others who know what it’s like when somebody needs you and is continually looking to you for something, that’s not always easy.
And B: when her mom started dumping all of the issues on her, she simply said, “I cannot help you today. I hope you’re able to fix that problem. I have to go now, we’ll talk soon.”
She let her mom know that she would not be there to solve that particular problem, nor any other problems coming up. She held the boundary of her sanity being more important than being on that merry go round of crazy.
There’s not just a merry go round on the crazy playground, there’s also a teeter totter- where someone is always up and the other is always down- a swing set, the monkey bars – they can all be metaphors for however the crazy is playing out.
You won’t always recognize that you’re stuck there. Sometimes you simply think you’re engaging in dialogue or discussion. But notice if it keeps going in circles. Notice if there always has to be a winner and a loser. Notice if you’re so used to it that you don’t realize that you are worthy and deserving of peace and serenity.
Regardless of which vehicle you’re on in the playground, ultimately, sanity comes from disengaging and walking away. Do you want to be right, or do you want to be happy? Do you want tranquility, or do you want conflict?
You take your power back by not only stepping off the merry-go-round, but actually walking to the edge of the playground, opening the gate, and closing it behind you to completely detach and liberate yourself.
In my imagination, the land outside the gate of the crazy playground is serene, peaceful, and beautiful.
You deserve to be there. When you find yourself in the crazy playground, use the imagery of walking out, closing the gate, and then set the boundaries needed, cut the cords, and choose peace instead of chaos. Focus on being the best you that you can be, and don’t give your power away to anything/anyone that disrupts your calm.
If it helps, in your head say, “Not my circus, not my monkeys.”
The more you disengage from crazy, the more you teach your subconscious that you won't allow it in your reality, thereby creating more harmonious people/circumstances in your life.
You are worthy of contentment and well-being.
May you find peace and sanity this week!
I want to remind you that many people are under incredible stress right now and just doing the best they can. Some are overwhelmed with the “simplest” of tasks. Now more than ever, compassion and understanding are needed- for yourself and others.
Everyone has a different reality, watch your judgments.
You don’t know who has a pre-existing condition and is very scared regarding Covid; for themselves or their family. You don’t know who’s lost their job or who still has a job but has taken a massive pay cut. You don’t know who’s trying to work from home while simultaneously helping their kids with zoom classes.
A little empathy goes a long way.
If you’re short tempered, don’t respond. There are many right now who are amping up arguments and negativity; don’t feed into it. Walk away. Read last week’s blog if you need ideas.
Don’t take things personally.
Own your reality and what you want to see. As I reminded you last week, take responsibility for your reality by how you respond. Feed the world, and yourself, your light, your love, your compassion, and your understanding. It starts with you.
For those on the West Coast, and anywhere that you're feeling the effects of the fires out here- which I've heard the smoke has moved across the US and into Europe - the stress, strain, and exhaustion is palpable. Sleep as much as needed, ground yourself when you can, and use a salt bath for your body, or simply your feet, to clear your feet chakras. The energy is thick out here. The smoke is affecting everyone’s ability to connect to the earth. Do what you can, and go easy on yourself and others.
Today I’m sharing a story to illustrate why I’m always telling you that you are responsible for your reality and your personal power:
This past week I was having a lovely Wednesday, everything was falling into place effortlessly and every errand was easy. Then I got to a grocery store that I hadn’t been to since the start of the pandemic. I was in a line for a bit, didn’t see any door monitor, and watched as a person would enter the store when someone else would come out. When it was my turn, as I was about to enter the store, the person who was supposed to be monitoring the door came running over and screamed at me because unbeknownst to me, the person who walked out was an employee dressed in regular street clothes. She did not say this nicely, she laid into me. It was shocking, and I calmly explained that how could I know the situation? She stormed off. Then I went into the store and asked an employee a question and the employee was phenomenally rude. At that point, I lost all neutrality; I was furious and just wanted out of there. I grabbed the few items I needed and left.
I knew I had to clear my space, as I remind all of you, as I could still feel the attack energy from the first person. I said the Archangel Michael prayer and separated out energy, but I still felt awful. I was grumbling and bitching to myself and to my husband via text, that they just ruined my day. And then it occurred to me, why was I giving them the power to ruin my day? It was MY day and it had been going wonderfully. I needed to take responsibility.
Now, am I saying I was responsible for her flying off the handle at me? No! Clearly, she and the other girl were going through something and taking it out on me. I could have continued to take it personally and let it ruin more of my day, but then I would be giving them the keys to my sanity. Uh, no thanks! Neither of them were worth it.
1: Started smacking them all out of my space- literally smacking their energy out, while saying authoritatively to, "Get out of my space!" Remember- own your crown chakra, own your authority. No one else can be in your space unless you let them.
I lobbed both their energies out of my space and back to them (I first cleared it nicely, sent it to the Universe, but that didn’t do it. Sometimes a person leaves their imprint on you and you need to send it back, like you’re playing tennis/baseball/golf).
I then imagined cutting all cords of energy between us- all communications, all energy exchange.
I started sucking my power back in, repeatedly, until I felt lighter.
(I wrote extensively about taking your power back in my previous blog. Read here to learn the technique.)
I started proclaiming that it was my day and therefore I was choosing that the rest of it would be easy and elegant.
After doing these, I completely shifted the remainder of my day; it was back to being wonderful. I owned/created my reality by my response. That’s what I mean by taking responsibility and taking your power back (which is being empowered).
I think this is important to remember because it’s not only in big ways that you give your power away, it’s the daily little things.
You choose how you react in circumstances and who you give the keys to your peace of mind. Choose wisely! If someone awful comes in and tries to take your peace, don’t let them! You are responsible for your reaction and your energy.
Same with the past: are you still letting someone/something in the past determine your reality now? Do the techniques listed; stop dragging the past forward.
And if the four steps above aren’t enough, go into a rage bubble, journal it, scream it in a safe way or beat your bed with a pillow. Get it out of you.
Remind yourself – “I create my reality."
Own your personal power now.
Let’s have fun this week!
This was a packed summer excavating your light and dark shadows, remembering your worth, owning that you’re enough, transcending loneliness, giving yourself permission, recognizing your courage, creating greater freedom, as well as owning your authority. (click on any of those topics to read the blogs if you missed them)
So today- oracle card time!
You have 4 choices. Close your eyes, ask for guidance from your Higher Self, center into yourself, breathe, and then pick the number from 1-4 that most calls to you. Trust that you’ll get the right card for you right now.
If your card doesn’t resonate, dig deeper. There’s a reason you pulled it, don’t just dismiss it. Why did you pick that one? What part of you has a message there? It’s easy to say it doesn’t mean anything, but you picked it; so why?
And if it does resonate, great!
So have fun and choose:
Card number 1
Card number 2
Card number 3
Card number 4
And do something else fun this week. Labor Day is almost here (What?!!! Where did summer go?? Oh right- it wasn’t a typical summer- lol), so what’s fun that you can do for yourself this week??
Fun is a great precursor to creativity, not to mention love and joy.
So go have fun!!
Me, just sharing ways to make you the best you can be!