There’s a widely held misconception that if you are involved in spiritual growth, you should always be healthy. That if you get sick or get any sort of major disease, you somehow failed or were not good enough. I used to think that. I totally did. In my 20s I’d wonder why my teachers who did all sorts of healing work, got sick. “They must not be very good,” I thought. Hahaha, ahhhh naïveté.
That could not be farther from the truth. Helloooo! Human bodies: fallible, susceptible to viruses and bacteria, no matter how “spiritual” you are or how much healing work you do or how evolved or metaphysical you are. You can clear your chakras, chant, meditate daily etc. and you still might get sick.
You. Are. Human.
Physical Bodies vibrate differently than spiritual ones and sometimes they need to stop. Sometimes they get overburdened. It does not mean anything about you, it means you got sick. You need rest.
I am brilliant at sussing out why something happens for me. I can usually pinpoint the exact emotional trauma that allowed in the physical expression. And sometimes, even knowing that and working on it, I still get sick.
At this point I’ve had the flu for well over a week. I’ve worked on myself, I’ve had others work on me, and ultimately, my body said, it just needs rest and to sleep. So without judgment, that is what I have been, and am, giving it. Rest.
Is that hard sometimes? Oh you bet! Especially after a week of doing nothing. But as I write this, I made the mistake of leaving the house and going to the grocery store after being home and in bed for 8 days, and it was too much. So, back in bed now. And I’ve made sure my week is minimal. Because ultimately, my health comes first: self-love and self-care are priorities.
When the healing you seek and the answers and the whys aren’t coming, surrender to it. Because really, what else can you do? Keep fighting what is? Easier said than done, I know. I surrendered for a week, then got bored and kept trying to “fix” it, only to find that I had to surrender again, without judgment or my timeline of what I wanted. Not easy, but necessary.
Remember, the thing itself doesn’t cause suffering, it’s our reaction to it that does. And ok, yes, I was pretty miserable so the thing, in this case the flu, did cause physical misery, but when I didn’t fight it and slept, read, and binge watched TV shows, I wasn’t emotionally suffering.
So if you’re reading this and you too feel under the weather and you’re wondering what’s wrong with you that you got sick, stop it. Absolutely nothing is wrong with you. May I remind you that Wayne Dyer, who was brilliant and definitely did all of his inner work, had leukemia. Sometimes things happen to bodies, so don’t make a judgment on it. Let it be what it is. And when you don’t feel well, give yourself the time and space to actually heal. See what your body needs and respond accordingly.
As for me, I’m going back to bed to read and relax because that is exactly what I need.
You both have all the answers you need inside of you, AND sometimes you can’t do it alone. You need an outside perspective if your face is smooshed up against an issue. Objectivity helps when it’s become too personal to see clearly.
Even the most capable of us can use a hand sometimes. So this week, ask yourself if you’re looking outward when really the answers are inside, or whether you truly have exhausted your inner search and need a new point of view. Then act accordingly.
There is power within, and in asking for help.
Never underestimate the power of laughter.
Back in my 20s when I was learning to house heal and clear negative spirits, we were told to laugh at them. Nothing can hold power over you if you can laugh at it, and I found that to be true. It would rile up the ghosts and make them extremely angry and threatening, but ultimately, the more I laughed at them, the more I could see their anger was an illusion and I held all the power. Then I could clear them quite easily.
If I ever tried to fight with a ghost or entity, forget it, it would stick like glue. No budging there.
Apply this to your life. If you can laugh at something, you take away its power over you. Once you take your power back from it, no matter how awful it seems, you can eventually step around/over/through it to find a solution.
When it’s super serious, it becomes super real and then it can become immovable. The more serious, the more frozen. But it doesn’t have to be that way. Everything is energy, everything can be changed, nothing is bound in stone.
The next time something upsetting comes your way, ask yourself if you want to give it your power and if the answer is no, then laugh. Even if you have to fake it at first, say, “ha ha ha” until you actually are laughing.
Laughter really is the best medicine. You’ll be amazed at how much the energy shifts when you allow the lightness of laughter to transform the dark.
Perfection? Oh please.
Real life is messy. Emotions are messy. Instagram isn’t always real. What?! Yes, I’m sorry to say.
Where’s the fun in perfection? Well it’s fun for your negative ego. Telling you everyone is judging you and making you scared to make a mistake. Telling you if it’s not perfect you won’t be valued, you won’t be enough, or that you’ll be humiliated. That’s a way to keep you stuck and in fear of moving forward.
Are there any projects or goals you have that you’re too paralyzed to start? Or maybe you’re too distracted. Check the perfection idea. That kills plans before they start. It also blocks creativity.
Where did the idea come from? Can you challenge it? Can you allow messy? And real?
It might be scary at first, “Omg what if they laugh? What if they don’t like me?” What if they don’t? Is that true or is it your misperception? And what’s more, if they don’t, good riddance. You’ll find your tribe that values you, for you: messy and real.
It takes so much effort to be perfect, is it worth it?
Now let me be clear, I’m not saying turn in shoddy work or be lazy on the job- no, no, no. Nor am I saying don’t try your best to do a great job. I’m saying- perfection as in static energy. As in being rigid in your views, emotions, and the way you show yourself to others for fear of showing a flaw.
I’m saying needing those around you to act a certain way because they “reflect on you.” No they don’t, they reflect on them. Your ego would like you to add control to the perfection mix so that everything appears just so, but hello, that’s not life. Anytime you see someone who seems perfect and has it all together, remember, looks are deceiving. You have no clue what’s going on beneath the surface. They show what they want to be seen, not necessarily the truth. Before feeling badly about yourself, question your perception and why you’re allowing others to dictate your emotional wellbeing.
Go back to your own self-worth and self-love and stop feeding into your negative ego’s desire to compare you to others.
You need to live for yourself, not for what others might think of you. No one is watching you closely, seeing where your flaws are; people are too busy looking at themselves. So are you living for them, or for you? Because it’ll get exhausting living for others, not to mention killing your self-worth and self-esteem.
We are here to have fun. We are here to be messy and make mistakes and learn and grow. We’re here to love and laugh.
If you really want to push the bounds, be silly. Skip. Be joyful.
It’s your life. Let me repeat, it’s your life! No one else’s. Acknowledge your views of perfection and if willing, let them go, as much as you can.
It doesn’t mean you’ll be a disheveled mess, it means if you’re tired, you’ll give yourself down time. If you’re overwhelmed, you’ll say no instead of sacrificing yourself. You won’t smile when you feel like crying. You won’t push when you need to retreat. You’ll honor yourself and your needs and your truth, kindly, and with compassion.
There is freedom in the messy, there is beauty in the flaws. Do you have the courage to discover that? I think you do.
Me, just sharing ways to make you the best you can be!