This has been a phenomenally tough year for most people; to put it mildly.
The state of the world, the state of the U.S., Covid, our election, the changing weather patterns, the economy – there has been incredible uncertainty. It has many of you feeling horribly unsettled and ungrounded. We’re being pushed and pulled to extreme levels.
On a bigger picture, the old ways of doing things are having to die to make room for the new. What I mean by that is as humans, we’re literally creating a New World. Think of the Mayan calendar: it’s ending didn’t mean the literal world would explode, it meant the end of the world as we knew it. We’re entering unchartered territory. There are no maps, no guideposts. We’re creating it consciously.
I’ve spoken about it before but for those who are new, we’re entering a new age, the Age of Aquarius. With that comes an elevation in consciousness and new levels of freedom, cooperation, technology, and social justice.
The patriarchy, and with it chauvinism, cannot exist in the New World. The feminine is equal to the masculine and the Divine feminine is beginning to return. That’s a threat to many who desire to continue the chauvinistic paradigm of having power over another or the men who choose to dominate women, see them as inferior, and tell us what to do with our own bodies. There are women who are at the effect of chauvinism as well; think of women who compete with other women, try to tear them down, emasculate men, or deny their own female energy. Chauvinism has negatively impacted men by teaching them to deny their feelings and to disconnect from any softness as it's considered weak. This cuts men off from the power of their own feminine energy.
Feminine energy is extraordinarily powerful and as that power rises, it terrifies those in opposition to it, thus their loud need to control it even more deeply.
Many of the young souls are not able to handle the shifts in rising energy right now. We’re seeing that in their blatant gripping of all patriarchal ideas and their desire for destruction towards anyone who disagrees with them.
In your personal realities, all the upheaval and uncertainties can be scary and disconcerting. Many of you are feeling tremendous fatigue. Not just physically, but emotionally; the, “when will it end?!” feelings. With more potential lockdowns coming, fear around the future is ramping up again.
A wonderful friend sent me an article about compassion fatigue. Where some people are so overwhelmed with their own stuff, that it’s hard to have compassion for others. If you’re feeling that way, that’s okay. It simply means you need to be extra compassionate with yourself first.
While on a big picture level life can feel like too much, I remind you that you have the power to shift your personal reality. I've written extensively in previous blogs of how to do so. And on the days that you just can’t deal with anything, disconnect, and do something nice for yourself. Don’t engage with people who upset you, and disengage from the amped up outrage in the world.
As dark as it seems, the light always wins. Hold the vision/space for the light, even when you can’t see/find it. It’s not easy sometimes. We have to get through the mud and the muck and the battles that we’ve been fighting for over 2000 years during the Piscean Age.
I understand the frustration: we want to step off the battlefield. Old souls came in to help usher in the New World, and yet these times echo the end days of Atlantis. I’ve seen in many of your spaces where that’s very distressing and fearful; it’s understandable that you’re fatigued by it all.
The way to help heal this collectively, and thereby consciously adding your light to the creation of the New World, is to step off the battlefield in your personal reality. What are you still fighting? What battles are you continually engaged in that it’s time to walk away from? That could be literal such as an addiction or a battle with someone, or things such as a battle with always needing to control, or with continually falling into self-pity and a victim mentality. Maybe your battle is always sacrificing yourself for others or indulging your own rage. Maybe you battle being physical and punish/disassociate from your body. Or maybe you battle with love itself and push it away at all costs.
By the way, for those whose role it is to bring the light to injustices, there’s a difference between being a champion against injustice, and needing to battle injustice. Sit with that and feel the difference.
Once again, I extend the light of hope. I have ultimate faith that we will get through these dark times and rise beautifully. I’m holding and sharing that hope with everyone who reads these words.
In the meantime, honor your immediate disappointment if you can’t be with family over Thanksgiving, honor yourself if you feel lonely or angry or fed up or frustrated. Honor where you’re at. I’m referencing some other blogs below that will help you to move through those emotions when you’re ready.
And this week, step off your personal battlefield and focus on the self-care that you most need. You matter!
The Ladder of Emotions
Ways to Nurture Yourself as We Co-Create the New World
A Map for Calm in the Face of Chaos
Guided Meditation to Transcend Loneliness
Lately my introverted self has needed extra quiet, extra down time, and simultaneously, extra order; cleaning out closets, cupboards, the pantry- anything to bring order to the chaos I feel in the world and in my nervous system.
I’m a hermit by nature, you’d think I’d love this pause. But I value and love my freedom most and do not like it restricted at all. That being said, I'm getting much better at acceptance (see #11 below).
Ultimately do I think things will work out for the best?
Do I have a positive vision for the future?
Do I know this is the growing pains of a new world?
I also know- we all chose to be born for this: this monumental time in history where we are writing a new script: initiating new ways of being, rising to new levels of consciousness. It hasn’t been done before, thus no Mayan calendar, no predictions; it’s new. And together we are creating it. Exciting? Very. And sometimes not so fun to go through with all the necessary destruction of what we know, both good and bad, to make way for the new.
It’s not about the virus- it’s about clearing out the old. Giving the earth a much needed reprieve. Re-setting priorities. Shifting our relationships with each other and the world. Can we do that? Yes. Can it be elegant? I sure hope so. I don’t want a new reality of extreme caution, limited mobility, and staying away from each other. That to me would be a nightmare. If you believe in past lives, we chose the nightmare in Atlantis and it was destroyed. We don’t need to create that again.
So together, let’s dream this new world the way we want it to be: people communicating respectfully and engaging in dialogue versus dogma. The end of racism and vast economic disparity. People honoring Mother Earth by being conscious of their impact with more recycling, the oceans being cleaned up, and forests being expanded versus destroyed. Women being respected and treated as equals, the end of fathers forcing their daughters into marriage at an early age, and readily accessible education for all children. These are just some of my dreams for the world, I have many!
And in the meantime, if some days are super rough because you feel all the intensity and chaos acutely, then disconnect and do something nurturing to heal. Here are some of the things that work best for me, hopefully they inspire you!
1: Grounding myself. Yes that’s my normal anyway, but when I’m spinning, if I can ground and connect deeply to the planet, I can breathe again.
2: Speaking of breathing- deep belly breaths. Deep, in your abdomen, full breaths. It calms the nervous system.
3: Being in the moment. Not in the future or the past. Looking around and noticing present time and really taking it in.
4: Solitude. Turning off the phone and just disconnecting from the world.
5: Epsom Salt Baths. They’re a godsend to clear your space and calm your system.
6: Appreciation. Being in appreciation is key to raising your energy. Plus it feels so good to focus on what you appreciate.
I have a guided meditation from a previous blog here if you want to be in that energy more.
7: Being creative. In whatever form it takes: coloring, cooking, gardening, even re-organizing your closet can be creative. The possibilities are endless.
8: Going on walks. It’s been imperative to be outside and be in nature.
9: Reading a book. I’m doing very limited social media, very limited news, not even binging much TV. Reading can be very calming.
10: Chanting. The word “Om” really calms your system when you’re overloaded.
11: Surrender and Patience. Perhaps the most difficult but I remind myself that I can’t control this. I can’t fight it either, although sometimes I do. And when I do, I release my frustrations in healthy ways without judgment, so that ultimately I can accept it and allow it to teach me what I most need. It's necessary to surrender my need for answers and outcomes and have patience with what is. There's tremendous power in the unknown; some days I simply need to remind myself that. After all, it’s not about me. It’s not about you. It’s about creating a new world and that takes time.
We’re all in this together and together we’re going succeed this time. Let’s choose that now!
As Chani Nicholas says, “You were born for this!”
Me, just sharing ways to make you the best you can be!