Respite- the dictionary defines it as, “an interval of rest or relief.”
I think it’s what’s needed to function right now.
So even if you are busy, busy, busy, and just can’t stop (notice if you get a high from, or feel valuable by, being busy), in this moment, stop. Take a time out.
Don’t skim through this post hurrying to the next thing. Stop. Focus on your breath. Focus on your body. Feel into your tailbone. Feel your feet on the ground. Breathe.
Reset yourself. Reset your energy. Call all your energy back to you right here, right now. All that matters is this moment. Breathe.
Pause for a moment.
Now go about your day. And notice if there’s anything you can postpone today that would give you more space to heal and be.
If so, take the time to meditate, to read, to daydream, or to be creative. Your Soul is calling, will you listen?
I don’t know about you, but I have been triggered lately! Like, meltdown, panic attacks, triggered. Thankfully I just read the newest blog by Laurie Johnson, click here, that explains the intense energies going on.
I will say, before doing that, I really needed to practice what I tell you all and so, here’s what’s helped me tremendously. May it help you as well!
1: I took my favorite- Bach Flower Remedy Elm.
Those of you who've been following me since the beginning know I swear by it. It's for when you feel overwhelmed. 4 drops in water, chug, 4 more drops in a glass of water, sip. And I actually needed three doses back to back one day to get calm. It works brilliantly.
2: Ground yourself.
Yes, I will be that one person who is always bugging you about this, and I can’t stress it enough. When you’re ungrounded, everything gets amped up and you can’t think straight, nor can you respond appropriately to what’s in front of you. Ground, ground, ground!!
Here are some helpful reminders:
Meditation for Grounding
Meditation for Safety
The Power of Being Grounded
Really it should be number one but we forget sometimes don’t we? Breathe. Call your energy into your body. Call it back from the future. Call it out of your to-dos. Breathe. Feel into your feet. Feel yourself sitting on your chair/bed. Feel gravity. Breathe.
4: Mantra yourself.
I had a steady stream of, “I am safe. Everything is ok even if it’s not perfect. If I make a mistake, it can be fixed. I have more than enough time; there is no need to rush. Everything is falling into place in its Divine timing. Everything is working out in my favor. I am Divinely supported. I can trust that I am safe.”
5: Use EFT or tapping.
YouTube it, it’s fabulous. Literally just tap all the points while speaking your discomfort/panic/fears and keep going until you start to be able to say things like, “I’m willing to let this go. I’m willing to see this differently.” Email me if you need more detailed help.
6: Notice if it’s you in present time that is freaking out or if you are being triggered from an event in childhood/adolescence.
For me, I was totally in childhood. I found deep wounds that were churning up to be healed. I had to acknowledge my inner child and her fears etc., then talk to her, let her vent, and hold her to help her feel safe. I also had to consciously release a pattern of behavior I always thought was mine, but saw clearly that I took on from one of my parents. Their way of reacting was one I had adopted as my own because it was what I saw and experienced. A light bulb went off as I realized an emotional response and belief I had been living wasn’t mine at all!!! My 6 year old had taken it on as truth. So I needed to separate out from that, release that belief, build a new one, and have incredible compassion for myself: both in present time, and at age 6.
Which leads to:
7: Ho’oponopono yourself and the situation/person.
I needed to do this for me in present time, for my 6 year old self, and for the parent who triggered me. Not from a place of blame, they were doing the best they could and you might’ve been a sponge. But you’re not a victim, you learned something. Take your power back, and forgive. Now if we’re talking abuse, that’s a whole nother issue and not something I am addressing in this. I am talking about the beliefs and patterns of behavior we take on from our parents without even realizing how deeply we do it.
Taking Your Power Back
8: Make a new choice.
I needed to choose a different response in the moment versus what I had been trained/conditioned to do. And that takes conscious awareness. So you need to pause and ask how you want to respond in present time, without responding from a programmed habit of behavior.
9: Put on soothing music and talk to yourself.
Talk to your panic. Ask it what it needs to say or vent. Then listen. Let it be irrational with non sequiturs. Journal it, speak it- get it out of you.
And remember, you are not your body, you are not your panic and fear.
Yes, that’s right- just stop. Stop all doing, stop all planning. Stop and take a reprieve. Even if there’s so much to do, stop. That was my mistake last week. I didn’t stop. I kept pushing through it and guess what? It got worse. Until I stopped. Until I cleared time in my calendar for me. Until I demanded healing time for myself. No one was blocking me, I overscheduled myself. No blame, again, it’s on me. Boundaries!!! So I claimed some and stopped. Once I did, anytime the anxiety came up again, it was easier to move through.
11: Accept and allow.
If you try to make it go away or judge it as bad or wrong, it’s gonna stick like glue. Accept yourself fully, even when you’re an emotional mess.
12: Ask for help.
From your unseen team of helpers (Higher Self, guides, angels, etc.) and from people in the seen world. Build a support team you can rely on when you’re not neutral enough to help yourself. I know I needed that!
Now I won’t lie and say the anxiety is gone because it still pops up occasionally, just much less. Reading the blog I referenced at the beginning helped tons to understand the greater energetic shifts happening in the world. Also, I am taking my power back and being in present time as much as possible. I have the tools to more elegantly move through any more panic moments versus letting them control me. Until then, I am being extra gentle with, and not pushing, myself. I am good exactly as I am, as are you. This too shall pass.
When the world is filled with uncertainty and it seems like the dark and negative are everywhere, your dreams and visions for yourself have the incredible ability to change not only your world, but also the world.
By spending time dreaming and imagining a fabulous future, you raise your vibration and in doing so, bring more light and joy into the world.
So as an antidote to chaos and worry, let’s spend some time imagining and creating this week…
What are those big dreams you have? Not necessarily even specifics- what do you want to experience or feel? Maybe it’s freedom or adventure; maybe family is your priority or changing the world through your ingenuity.
If you have specific dreams, what do you think they’ll bring you? What’s the energy under the dream? For example- let’s say you have big visions for your business. What will the manifestation of those things bring to you? Again, maybe it’s freedom, or maybe it’s empowerment, maybe you want a sense of accomplishment or you desire to give back. What is the feeling of the end goal coming to fruition?
Once you identify the feeling(s), sit in that feeling. Feel it, right here, right now. If it’s i.e. freedom, where do you feel it in your body? How does it make you feel to experience that?
Don’t wait for the goal to manifest to give yourself that energy, start doing it daily now. Being in the energy of the goal will more easily pull the manifestation of it towards you.
Now let’s look at bigger picture energies. Ask yourself, what is it that I truly feel will help me to experience more happiness and joy in my life? Then close your eyes and connect deeply to yourself. Allow whatever images, feelings, or thoughts that appear, no matter how seemingly random; just see what pops up. Maybe it’ll be a memory, maybe a future vision. What comes to you?
Let’s go deeper, back to bigger dreams: what do you want for yourself? Not what you think you should want- what do you want for you??
Now if nothing comes, don’t panic. You may have been conditioned to live your life for others or to follow certain life guidelines, so it might take time to connect in authentically with yourself.
For example, because I know many of you deal with this one: just because everyone tells you that you have to get married in your 20s, have babies in your 20s or 30s, doesn’t mean that’s right for you. Maybe that’s not your path at all no matter how much your family or society pressures you. So again, what kind of life would make you happy?
Let’s daydream. Really let go. No boundaries. What sounds like a fun life? No limits. If you could do anything, be anything and go anywhere, what would you do/be?
Again, pay attention to what emerges and do not dismiss anything. Everything you fantasize about is a clue to where your Soul is calling you. Don’t dismiss that nagging desire to take a cooking class, or learn to play piano, maybe you want to live in a foreign city for 6 months- whatever is calling you is where there is tremendous possibility for growth and soul evolution so listen to those desires.
What’s one thing you keep dismissing that sounds interesting to you? Can you give yourself that by taking action? Start slowly and commit to pursuing something that, for no other reason than that you desire it, you pursue it. Even if it has no intrinsic value (by other people’s standards), it will be life altering; even something so seemingly simple as taking a pottery class. Everything has value when you feel a pull to explore it.
I lived in Paris for 4 months in college- why, because I wanted to. I had no interest in school or it furthering any educational purposes; I wanted the life experience of living there. Ironically I almost failed my French class while I was there (I got a D), but I didn’t care- I lived in Paris! I wanted to feel Parisian for 4 months. I wanted the adventure and joy. I wanted it with every part of me. And I’m so grateful I gave that to myself.
So this week, dream new dreams or augment the ones you already know: both big and small ones. Get into the feeling of having them manifest now. Let them fill you with joy. And then take an action to bring them into your reality.
Remember, when people are on their deathbeds, it’s the regrets of what they didn’t do that haunt them. Build a life you can be proud of and in the process, you heal the world.
So much of your angst and trauma is because you’ve bought into the lies that somehow you aren’t deserving or good enough to receive love and support. There are people in your life who may have even told you those very things. Are they Divinity? I think not. I think they're human and therefore quite fallible with their own personal traumas and wounds and they were acting out from them. And you've made their wounds personal and given them the power to construct your reality, when in actuality; they were as broken as you may feel. More so!
Maybe you’ve turned your back on the Universe in your pain, but the Universe has always been waiting with open arms to love you again: to show you your value and your worth. To help you own your beauty and your light. The truth of love is expansive and joyful and filled with freedom. The human expression can sometimes be filled with darkness and trauma. But that’s not real love.
As children we were taught never to question our parents or authority, so of course we believed what they said and took it to heart; especially the negatives. But you’re no longer a child, so why are you still believing what they said to you? Why aren’t you questioning it instead of taking it as the gospel truth?
Look at the people whose lies towards you you took on as facts. The ones who may have said you would never be good enough, or you didn’t matter, maybe they said you weren’t smart enough or they filled your head with self-doubt and fear- are they worth your revering them and believing them?
Think about some of the crazy things they said that you dismissed outright because you knew they were false. You didn’t allow those to take up space in your mind/body, so why allow some of the negatives? Sit with that.
Maybe you honor and respect those people so part of you is afraid they’re right. Well they’re not. I can say that definitively. How do I know? They’re human and they spoke from their pain, not from love. Love doesn’t make you feel less than, it builds you up and supports you.
Question everything. There is no truth except the truth you give something. You can choose to believe today that you actually do matter. That the universe is a hospitable and welcoming place. That you are always being supported and loved. That you are good enough.
You can choose to believe those, or you can continue to hold true the lies that were told to you by wounded people.
The world is speeding up, there’s less time to play in the playground of darkness. Your light is needed more than you could even fathom. You do a disservice by continuing to hold these things as true, not only to yourself, but to the world.
You’re here for a greater reason, to bring light through you. To be love. Stop giving your power away to anything that tries to extinguish that.
Close your eyes, and feel into your heart, and simply open the space for source energy to enter. Allow yourself to align with source energy today, and let that energy clear out all resistance to flow and joy, receiving, and love. Stop believing the lies that the darkness whispers to you in your mind, thus letting the darkness win. It’s time to come out of hiding and into the light. The world needs you.
Me, just sharing ways to make you the best you can be!