Are you reading these words or already skimming them to move on to the next thing?
You need to ground and be here.
Many of you have heard me say that I noticed a trend when the Covid lockdown started, that I needed to clear these odd cords of energy I was seeing in people’s spaces, tying them more deeply to the news and to the world. And not in a positive way. I was also seeing psychic smacks, for lack of a better way of saying it, in everyone’s space, where the news/social media, was smacking people out of their core, out of themselves, and into fear. You may not have felt fear per se, however maybe you felt anxious, or amped up, and had the need to check your phone/news/social media, more than ever.
Which leads to the other thing I’ve been clearing more continually in everyone: disconnection from self and from Source energy.
With everything going on with the upcoming election, the above is at a fever pitch.
I spent the weekend on a news hiatus, zero social media (which isn’t totally unusual for me but nonetheless), only checking emails once a day, and only checking texts twice a day. I did a very specific grounding meditation in the mornings to make sure I was completely disconnected from the pull to see what was going on in the world. The fervor of news stories had really been knocking me off balance.
I spent the time being creative in a myriad of ways and reading books that I had been wanting to re-read, while actually doing the assignments they gave. I also took the time to simply be and follow the rhythm of the day. I became so present, so calm and very much at peace.
There’s a chapter in Untamed where Glennon Doyle talks about her son changing and not being his joyful, creative self anymore. It was his addiction to his phone that was the root cause.
Now, I don’t want to go on a rant about phones, but I do want you to begin to notice the energy that comes through them, pulling you into fear or rage etc., and out of peace. Getting you focused on all the bad, versus the positive of what you do want to see. Making you feel powerless, versus empowered. Notice if you feel crappy, or crabby, after looking at Facebook or Instagram. Find the places that make your energy drop, versus elevate, and consider looking at those less, or stopping them all together.
I’m not saying be uninformed, I’m saying, maybe you look at the news once a day. Some of you have to have your phones for work or family, but in your off time, do you still have notifications going off, always worried what about what “he’ll” say next, on edge with pandemic news, more engaged with friends or strangers on Facebook or Instagram than the people in front of you? If so, you've been ensnared. You need to disconnect from devices and the energy coming through them, and come back to you.
Some of you will balk at the idea of not looking at your phones for long periods of time, yet give it a try. The first step is to turn off notifications. That “ding” creates a Pavlovian response -they’ve done a myriad of studies on that.
Second, notice if when you're away from your phone you start feeling anxious or unsettled or ungrounded. If so, then there’s a cord from you to your phone. An energetic tie or link if you will. It doesn’t just come through your phone; it can come through your computer too. It’s a way to hook you to the news or social media etc.
The antidote to this is being grounded, disconnecting from externals and connecting deeply with yourself. Be creative. Be in nature. Take time for silence. Do something healing for you.
Next week I’ll be releasing a couple meditations to help you with this. In the meantime, I have other grounding meditations in previous blogs.
Take your power back this week and don’t allow yourself to be controlled by fear/the news/social media. Disconnect from all that makes you feel awful, and focus intently on what makes you happy and what you desire for the future. It starts with you!
As August is winding down, I want you to notice how much permission you give yourself.
You are allowed to:
Sleep in late.
Stay up late.
Read all day.
Have zero agenda for the day and just see how it unfolds.
Say no, when you usually say yes.
Say yes, when you usually say no.
Not be productive.
Release your to-dos and just stare at the flowers/ocean/trees.
For some of you, that list will trigger resistance. Your inner critic will not like those ideas. It prefers you to be in control. I know that when things externally feel out of control, you want to control what you can even more. But it’s safe to stop trying to control yourself/everything and allow yourself to be.
Control can be overt, or it can be subtle: the to-dos, the order of them, what you allow yourself to have. You’re not here to reach some intangible goal of being the best through suffering or righteous limitation. You’re here to participate in, and savor life. To have fun. To find freedom and joy in your physicality. To engage your senses.
You’re here for ease, not struggle.
No matter how serious it might seem in the world, that’s when you need to give yourself permission even more for the things you deny yourself: that bowl of ice cream, that glass of wine, cancelling your day for self-care, savoring a juicy piece of fruit or a pastry, lingering in bed after you wake up.
Now obviously, there’s a difference between over-indulgence and what I’m talking about. I’m talking to those of you who control yourselves so thoroughly that you don’t even realize how narrow your definition of what’s acceptable has become. Those who feel “good” when they restrict themselves. Those who’s inner critic is brutal and always beating them up to accomplish/do/achieve/deny.
To those of you, I encourage you to say, “Not today, thank you.”
Many people tend to drive themselves- I know I can. And yet, part of the spiritual lesson right now is to pause. Yes there’s global work to be done, yes the world needs your attention and light, but if you aren’t giving yourself permission to take the time to pause, to be, to disengage and care for yourself, you’ll burn out.
Pause doesn’t mean you don’t care, quite the opposite: you care about what’s happening and you recognize that you’ll be more effective when replenished.
Stop placing limits on yourself and give yourself permission to do the things that would augment your life: hug a tree, walk barefoot in the grass, listen to really good music, color, savor the feel of the sun on your face or a cool breeze on a hot day, bask in the smell of freshly baked bread or fresh brewed coffee- engage all your senses. Give yourself permission to experience life.
Respite- the dictionary defines it as, “an interval of rest or relief.”
I think it’s what’s needed to function right now.
So even if you are busy, busy, busy, and just can’t stop (notice if you get a high from, or feel valuable by, being busy), in this moment, stop. Take a time out.
Don’t skim through this post hurrying to the next thing. Stop. Focus on your breath. Focus on your body. Feel into your tailbone. Feel your feet on the ground. Breathe.
Reset yourself. Reset your energy. Call all your energy back to you right here, right now. All that matters is this moment. Breathe.
Pause for a moment.
Now go about your day. And notice if there’s anything you can postpone today that would give you more space to heal and be.
If so, take the time to meditate, to read, to daydream, or to be creative. Your Soul is calling, will you listen?
When the chaos gets high, the most important thing you can do is pause. I know it seems counter-intuitive to stop all doing, especially when there is so much to do, but that is when it is absolutely imperative to step back and do nothing.
Believe me, I know how hard this is to implement. This past week I had a list that had to be completed in a certain time frame. With one of my to-dos, I pushed, and ended up wasting hours of my time trying to make it work. I even had the passing thought to pause, but I ignored it and I pushed harder because I felt the external pressure of time constraints. When it clearly wasn’t working, in exasperation, I finally stepped back, let go, and asked for help. The next morning, I woke up with a clear vision of a complete change in plans that created an elegant solution. Then as I went to complete part 2 of that to-do, I could feel the need to step back and pause again, and so I did. The final result was so much more perfect than I could have ever imagined, plus it saved me money, and most importantly, it felt so good and right.
You’re human, you want to get things done and checked off your list, but if you can pause, breathe, ask for help and walk away for a little, the results will be better than what you thought you needed/wanted. Step out of the mental chaos, trust when your gut says something feels wrong, and then listen to the need to pause. The pause is the Universe protecting and supporting you, and that is when miracles can occur.
There is so much chaos in the air right now, and I know you’re feeling it. There is a frenetic energy that many of you are getting swept up in, not to mention how many of you are going through major life changes right now, especially the group of you who are moving in the midst of this. So this week, we’re going to keep it very simple:
I want you to close your eyes, put your hand on your heart, and take a few deep breaths. This will center you and get you back to yourself.
Stop all doing and just be for a moment.
Do this as often as you need throughout your day, and if you get too overwhelmed, remember to take Bach Flower Remedy “Elm.”
According to a myriad of things I’ve read from different astrologers, this chaos should quell as September moves on. So for now, self-care is key. As is not judging anything you are feeling or going through. Have compassion for yourself and take those few moments to center and breathe.
You’re not alone, you’ve got this.
“When you own your breath, nobody can steal your peace”
Life is busy. The pace seems to be speeding up. Your sanity and peace are the priority. You can only do what you can do. You can’t beat yourself up if you have to postpone things, or if you have a list of things to do and they don’t all get done. At any moment, you may need to put aside your to-do’s and focus on self care instead. Calm that voice telling you that, “there’s not enough time, you can’t stop, it has to get done now,” etc. and do as I’ve stressed, put the oxygen mask on first. And that might mean that you may feel like you are falling behind in certain areas, but that’s an illusion. It’s not a race; you don’t have to prove how good you are by getting everything done in record time. You simply have to show up and do your best.
The irony is that the best way to show up, is by taking the time to slow down, and pause. Catch up to yourself. Take a breather. It’s summer, go outside, do something nice for yourself, give yourself permission to just be (yes I may sound like a broken record but I need you all to not only understand, but to actually implement times of beingness). Then you can more easily conquer your list one thing at a time, without stress, and without pressure.
The world needs you. You matter. Pause. Take care of yourself and allow a joyful summer.
Me, just sharing ways to make you the best you can be!