​You’ve heard me say that you create your reality, but for some of you, those are just words that have no meaning. So what does it actually mean? 
 
To simplify it, it’s both the beliefs you’re thinking and the thoughts you’re putting out, as well as the emotions you’re emanating. You could be saying something very nice, but if you both don’t believe it, and simultaneously you’re vibrating in the energy of, for example, despair or anger, those emotions are going to override the words. 
 
This is why emotional healing and emotional literacy are so important. Most people didn’t grow up learning how to identify and process through their emotions. The more you can own and acknowledge what you’re feeling, without judgment, the more you can work through everything attached to that feeling. Then as you heal it, you can raise up into an emotion that feels better. (See previous blog on “The Ladder of Emotions.”)
 
There are no good or bad emotions because even some “dark” emotions serve a purpose: anger might motivate you or give you boundaries. Frustration might cause you to innovate a new way of doing things. Granted some emotions are more difficult to see what their purpose is, but the less you judge them as bad and wrong, the freer you become, because acceptance can change everything. 
 
Even though there are no bad emotions, you don’t want to sit in the lower frequencies all the time because you’ll attract more of that lower energy back at you. It’s like if you’re in a really bad mood, and then you start having an even more bad day where everything keeps going wrong, that’s a prime example of what I’m talking about.
 
Thus, by your emotions and the vibrations you’re putting out, you create your reality.
 
Now listen, sometimes you need to process through your grief, anger, pain etc. so I’m not saying ignore those and just feel better. You have to take responsibility for your feelings and work through the issues/circumstances you’re in, and sometimes healing those emotions will take time. This blog is about the day to day emotions that you may visit often.
 
Back to the topic: when you’re desiring to create something, get into the feeling first. 
 
For example, last week I was stressing about something that I didn’t have an answer for, and I realized that that wasn’t helping the situation. I changed my thoughts to, “The Universe is always supporting me. The Universe has my back. The solution is now appearing.” 
 
However, I didn’t just say those things, I imagined that as I was repeating them, the energy of peace was infusing my body. I took deep breaths and allowed the feelings of calm and trust to wash through me. I then got the image from my unseen team, as if I had been in the water flailing around, smacking the water, and they told me to just ride the waves. The more I said that I was being supported and taken care of, the calmer I felt, and the more I could just ride the waves. 
 
Later on, a brilliant solution came to me to help with what was stressing me out.
 
I needed to create my reality differently than the swirling stress thoughts. It’s not always easy to do, but it’s the most empowering thing you can do. And the more I did it, the easier everything became, and help appeared from unexpected places.
 
Remember, own and process your emotions to shift your reality. You have the power to do so. 
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Back by popular demand- Oracle Cards!! I’m so happy I get such fantastic responses after doing these! I’m glad they speak to you all. 
 
So today, pre-Chinese New Year, I asked what you needed to know. 
 
I will say this, each card, after being pulled, switched positions. Meaning for example, the original number one is no longer in the number one spot. All of them switched it up. So if you always go for a certain number, sit with it and see what feels right. The energy in the switch was about shaking you out of your comfort zone, and getting you to really sit with which number feels correct for you today, versus the number you always gravitate to.

That being said: center yourself, breathe, ask your unseen team what you most need to know, and again, feel into each number, then pick.
 
Here are your choices:

Card Number 1

Card Number 2

Card Number 3


Happy picking!

We often think of self-love simply as nurturing ourselves and thinking loving thoughts about ourselves, but what if we expand the definition?
 
Letting things be easy is an act of self-love. When you force an issue, you’re controlling it and that usually create stress. That’s not loving to you, or the people around you. Instead if you allow things to be easy, meaning you consciously choose and then receive ease, there’s more flow and more time for you to put your energy elsewhere. It also creates more calm, versus chaos, in your reality.
 
Trusting things will work out in your favor is an act of self-love. Why? Because it says that you know you’re taken care of and you know the Universe has your back. It also says that regardless of what happens, you’ll be able to handle it. That’s  self-trust, which then augments more self-love.
 
How about letting yourself relax and recharge? It seems obvious that downtime is an expression of self-love and yet, do you give it to yourself or do you validate your existence through doing and busyness? Allowing yourself time to just be is self-loving. 
 
Creativity is an act of self-love because you’re connecting with your soul and expressing more of who you are.
 
Putting yourself first and making sure that all your needs are taken care of before taking care of others is an act of self-love. If this causes guilt, you have work to do. You cannot help others if you’re depleted or resentful. You need to put the oxygen mask on first.
 
Grounding yourself and meditating are acts of self-love. Why? Because in taking the time for either, you’re saying you value your sanity and peace of mind above all else. That’s incredibly self-loving. 
 
Boundaries are an act of self-love as is saying “no” when you really need the time for yourself. Both show that you matter to yourself and that you value your time and your energy. The more you can release the ideas that you’re supposed to sacrifice yourself for others, the more you can fill yourself with love.
 
Walking away from the phone/computer and stopping the spin of comparing yourself to others and what you see they’re doing, is an act of self-love. Remember, people are very deliberate in what they show on social media, it’s not always the truth. Know that you will find your way, your timing, and your path as you need for you, versus how anyone else did it.
 
Self-love doesn’t need to just be taking a bath when you want or reciting positive affirmations; if you expand the definition, you notice that your actions throughout the day all answer the question of how much love you give to yourself. If you continually put yourself in a situation that makes you miserable, that’s not self-loving, that’s self-punishing. Isn’t it time to stop the punishment? Who does it serve? No one. Least of all you. Stop trying to make amends for something you did, or for carrying on a pattern that got set from when you were little. Forgive yourself (another act of self-love), for the past and move forward with a new outlook on your reality, one that says you’re worthy and deserving of love towards yourself. 
 
You came to this planet to learn and grow and expand yourself as a soul. Not for hardship and struggle and to beat yourself up. Love yourself now the way you would a tiny kitten or a puppy or a baby. You are as deserving of that gentle love and consideration as anything/anyone else. Treat yourself as such.