The holiday season can bring up a lot!
For those without family or who are feeling isolated and alone, make sure that you do something nice for yourself; whatever that means to you. It can be extremely painful right now so any kindness you show yourself can go a long way.
For those who will be with families and are worried about family dynamics, refer to the last blog and start shifting the energy with forgiveness now. The other thing to do, is to set yourself up for success before you see family.
Steps to Success:
-Acknowledge that yes, your feelings are valid, AND your family may never be able to hear or see you in present time. They may be stuck in the past, but you don’t need to be. Don’t revert back to child or adolescent behaviors. Hear what thoughts and beliefs come up in your mind and change them in the now. Your family is not the boss of your reality creation, YOU ARE!
-Process your feelings and emotions when you're on your own, and give yourself what you need, versus expecting it to come externally from your family.
-Take your power back, especially if you tend to surrender it to your parents or other family members.
-Watch your expectations. Do not visualize worst-case scenarios. Choose what you want to see. Keep choosing to see peace or harmony. Don't let the part of your mind that goes negative rule the show. Create a positive outcome. You have the power of thought and the power of choice, never forget that!
-In that vein, acknowledge and release your negative ego before you walk in the door so that you don't fall into old patterns of victimhood or blame. Silence that negative voice and banish it to the outside. Release what you can of any shame, need to control, need for perfection, rage, self-pity, and martyr ahead of time.
-Boundaries are key. Don't surrender your energy to another; hold your energy around you. Put yourself in a protective energy bubble of gold or violet light. Emotionally, if someone asks you a question that you don't want to answer or that makes you uncomfortable, change the subject or say, “Why do you ask?” or “I prefer not to discuss that.” It’s OK to say “No,” literally or figuratively.
Immediately before seeing anyone:
-Ground yourself and get yourself in present time* and rooted into your body because family can spin you out. This is the best thing you can do to create an empowered experience.
-Remind yourself that you are safe. You, present time adult you, creates safety. Don’t give that power away externally. If it feels awful with family and truly isn’t a safe place, leave! You've got to remember your needs, especially if you're under any sort of duress. You have to take care of yourself and put that oxygen mask on first.
Now, that doesn’t give you an excuse to match their behavior and act badly. Release any righteousness or desire to punish. BE the adult.
-If you're getting triggered, leave the room. Excuse yourself and go breathe. If everyone else is melting down, you don't need to join. You're human so you may fall into old patterns of behavior; that's OK!! Forgive yourself and course correct.
And if you do all the above and it still goes sideways, try not to dive bomb. Sometimes energy and experiences shift immediately, and sometimes it takes time. Just keep doing your best to stay empowered in present time.
-Separate out energy! Give them back their energy and call yours back to you.
-Ground again. Whether you got triggered or not, get yourself back into your body in the now. Release any mental chatter. Imagine closing the door on all conversations from the night.
Be compassionate with yourself; it starts with you.
You got this!
Red words link to previous blogs.
*I updated this video from a prior blog; it's a specific tapping you can do that anchors you in present time.
Two other helpful blogs: Healing Your Nervous System and 12 Ways to Alleviate Anxiety and Panic
Sometimes after manifesting the creation of big dreams, there can be kickback from our negative ego and other lesser aspects of self. This happened to me last week.
I was able to create something huge I’d been working on for 7 years in my personal healing process. It was amazing! And yes, while it took 7 years, I don’t go into self-judgment.
If you’re working to heal a major issue that may even have aspects from past lives, it takes time.
Which is a reminder to those of you who want a quick fix or want to heal immediately. That doesn’t always happen, especially when there are layers.
It doesn’t mean I wasn’t impatient or angry at times; I certainly was. And I kept doing the emotional, mental, spiritual, and physical work necessary to achieve my goal.
The key is to focus on the end goal and how you’ll feel once you have the thing you desire. And never give up, even if things seem impossible. There’s always a way.
I found the next successive way each time I was ready to heal on a deeper level. Whenever I’d take a step up in receiving, a new way would open. Plus, I worked the layers and layers of shame that questioned why the issue was still happening and what was wrong with me that I wasn’t healing. Shame and judgment must be released because they’re roadblocks to recovery.
So back to my original premise - I achieved my goal; it was spectacular. And the next day, I got slammed with a physical infection. It knocked me out and at first, depressed the hell out of me and made me feel like a failure. There was that shame again. I achieved my goal so why did this happen?
Interestingly, two people, one being an Urgent Care Doctor, reflected back to me that it was just a blip, just old stuff releasing. It didn’t mean I was back to square one. Not at all.
As I took that in, I realized this was kickback. Kickback is when you create something fantastic and the next day or soon after, something negative happens. It can feel like 2 steps forward, one step back. But kickback can be cleared so that it’s full steam ahead.
Kickback occurs because you’ve stretched into becoming more. Think of yourself like a rubber band- you’re so used to being a certain shape that when you do something amazing and expand by leaps and bounds, your shape snaps back to close to where it was before as that’s your normal.
You’re not bad and wrong, you’re simply used to a specific frequency of being, one that your negative ego, inner child, or inner adolescent etc. are used to. When I became more of my light and my love in achieving my goal, parts of me couldn’t hold that expansion, they snapped back.
The next morning, as I grounded myself, which is super important to be IN your body, I expanded my space. I acknowledged the kickback, took my power back from it, forgave and released all the energies involved, and visualized and imagined expanding my space- my energy field and the energy in my body- to hold this new success. I saw myself stretching my boundaries and I even used my hands to push out more space around me. To hold my success and allow it to grow. To allow for more success- greater and grander success. Since I was rooted to the earth, I could help my body safely feel the expansiveness I was choosing to create. And it felt wonderful.
Illness wasn’t there to stop me, simply to remind me to release what no longer serves me and be more of my light. To forgive on a deeper level and own the reality I was choosing to create.
I will add a side note: I know some of you are beating yourselves up for getting sick; illness happens. It may not always be kickback, maybe it’s the need to stop and be for a while. Maybe it gives you space to focus on yourself versus others. Maybe there’s a deeper healing message that you need to receive. As I said above, let go of judgment and surrender to the self-love required.
As for me, I took time off last week and let myself rest and heal. I gently continued to visualize that I was expanding into more, while giving myself the time necessary to integrate my new change.
Whenever you create a fabulous personal healing or success, stretch your space immediately to help you hold that new reality, before kickback can happen. And if it does happen anyway, take it as a sign that you’ve really grown way beyond who you were before, which is a wonderful thing.
A little gentleness goes a long way when healing yourself. Give yourself that gift as you stretch and grow into more of your truer self.
I was at a very loud and overly crowded event the other night that didn’t have food I could eat, which wasn’t a good thing when I was already hangry.
It made me think: remember when you were little, and you’d have a meltdown if you were overly tired, hungry, or stimulated? The same happens now to our nervous systems but we ignore them or push ourselves harder, sometimes subbing caffeine or sugar for sustenance and sleep. We think our bodies should be able to handle it. But all that behavior does, is separate us from ourselves and rev up our bodies, sending them into consistent fight or flight. No wonder many people deal with adrenal fatigue or burnt-out energy systems.
So, how to help your nervous system when it’s overstimulated? Well, if you realize you’re somewhere that’s too much, do what I did and leave. Get yourself proper nourishment and then do some energy clearing:
1st- Breathe. Come back to yourself. Spending time deep breathing and connecting to your body will instantly start the calm.
2nd- Clear the energy. You know I love the Archangel Michael prayer (here) and definitely separate out energy. Make sure you call your energy back to your body, give back what you took on, and energetically disconnect from the night. Either imagine closing the door on it or visualize unhooking from it, seeing yourself drop the hook out of your space. Do something to signify the evening is done
3rd- Ground yourself. You need to be in your body so that your nervous system stops panicking that you’ve left it. Sit on a chair/couch. Put your attention on and feel your feet on the ground. Breathe with your focus on your feet. Slowly move your attention up and feel the backs of your legs on the chair, being supported by the chair. Breathe and sink into your legs. When you're ready, slowly move your attention higher and feel your back resting against the chair/couch. Let your whole body relax, being held and supported by that chair/couch. Allow the energy of gravity to pull your personal energy lower, thus enveloping you in a slower frequency in which you can commune with yourself and release any frenetic energy. Imagine it dropping out of your body and energy field.
Creating a grounding cord thus connecting to the core of earth, and running earth energy will take it a step further if you desire (reminder here).
4th- Imagine a beautiful blue, like the ocean or a waterfall, pouring down your spine, calming all your nerves and your entire nervous system. Allow this peaceful blue to continue streaming in while grounding and breathing. You can even imagine that blue sweeping out anything that’s not yours, sending it down that grounding cord and into the planet to be neutralized. Expand the blue to move throughout your whole body, not just your nervous system. Then imagine the blue filling your aura as well. Be cocooned in soothing blue energy.
Do this until you settle down, feel present, and at peace. Then imagine above your head, a gentle rain of warm golden light coming in to fill, balance, and heal you.
Once everything is complete, make sure you don’t pick up any devices or go online; that could knock you out again. Stay in quiet peace, reading a book, taking a bath or a shower, or going to bed.
Know when you’ve hit your limit and nurture your body versus chastise or push it. Treat it with compassion. The more you do, the more your body and subconscious understand that your body is your ally, thus the more self-love that’s generated.
The first few years of planting a vegetable garden after going through miscarriages and infertility, I was an emotional wreck if anything happened to my plants. I would meltdown in fury or grief if a plant died or got sick or didn’t grow correctly. If there were insects eating my plants, I would go into a violent rage. It was all because the garden couldn’t just be a garden; I made the garden a symbol for my ability/inability to create life.
I would go quite dark during the times my garden was having issues; I was not fun to be around. I wasn’t able to allow the garden to simply be, I tried to control it in order to heal my own pain.
Anyone who gardens knows that there’s only so much you can do. You hope for a great crop, but some things are out of your control, and you need to go with the flow.
Flow I could not do. I created an image in my mind of what it would mean about me as a person if I had a thriving, abundant garden. Anything less than that meant I was a personal failure.
I bring this up today because it came up a in few sessions this past week; taking a neutral item and giving it tremendous symbolism, so much so that it’s very existence, or lack thereof, defined a person’s value and worth.
Is that fair? No. Do we all do it sometimes? Yes.
So, how do you heal this?
First, recognition is key; you can’t heal what you’re unaware of.
Next, you need to untangle the negative associations between you and what it symbolizes. Release the meaning; allow the item to simply “be” without your added input. This is a hard step because you really need to separate out all implications and significance around the item and instead, look within to see what you need to heal. Sometimes it’s easier to point the blame/upset outward than acknowledge and release the torrent of emotions within. But they won’t go away until they’re released, which means facing them.
It’s up to you how you do that: you can work them out with a professional, you can journal them, or speak them out. Whatever your method, give them voice, even if it’s scary.
I spent so much time in rage bubbles (method here) during those years, but I refused to release the symbology. That’s the next step: disengage. The thing that happened needs healing, and the item is neutral. They aren’t combined. The plant your loved one gave you that you killed doesn’t mean you’re a terrible person who doesn’t deserve love. That city you love can be a joyous place to visit, versus it being a symbol of love lost. That house can be redesigned and updated, instead of a constant reminder of past pain.
You disengage by imagining the item before you becoming devoid of your energy and power; call it all back to you. Then fill it, and yourself, with pure golden light. Again, see it as separate from you, not part of, or attached to you.
It may take repeated times of allowing the item its energy and calling yours back to you. Don’t give up, do it as often as you need.
If it’s too intense, don’t participate in, or go to the place that holds the symbol. I probably shouldn’t have created a vegetable garden year after year, instead letting myself grieve and heal without added pressure. Alas, hindsight…
Release all those old symbols and own a new level of personal power by allowing things to simply be, without the emotional baggage. Give yourself the healing and freedom you desire and deserve.
In 2005, Lazaris (a channeled entity) gave us a map for healing emotions called, "The Tiers of Emotion." It’s a process by which you climb the ladder of emotions from the most constrictive and heavy, to the most light and freeing. It’s a tool for acknowledging and healing what you’re feeling in order to raise your emotional vibration. Some of you may be familiar with the Abraham-Hicks Emotional Guidance scale. It’s very similar to the Lazaris one: slight differences, same concept.
The Tiers of Emotion©
Happiness & Wonder
Passion & Compassion
Trust & Hope
Boredom & Impatience
Frustration & Confusion
Worry & Doubt
Guilt & Sadness
How to use:
Whenever you’re in the throes of an emotion, look at the scale and determine where you are. Name the feeling. Naming it helps you to own it.
The key is not to judge where you are emotionally, but to accept it: don’t see the emotion as bad or wrong. When you can accept and own what you’re feeling, then you’re able to give it a voice in order to more easily move through it. Plus, in owning it, you release your resistance to feeling it.
Simply state for example, “Right now I feel despair.”
Now you have to feel the emotion; let yourself go there fully. You can only heal emotions by diving into them completely. What is the despair about? Feel it, experience it, vent it. You can talk about it to yourself or write about it; go fully in. This doesn’t have to take long, but you do need to honor what it’s trying to express.
When you’ve released the despair thoroughly, you can climb the ladder to either loneliness or rage. As you climb, you can only do so one or two steps at a time; never more than two. Why? Because you wouldn’t be able to authentically jump vibrations faster. If you tried, you’d be denying the truth of what each step is trying to show you. Plus, if you’re truly in a rage, there is no way you could jump immediately to optimism. That is why the statement, “Just be positive!” can be discounting of what you’re experiencing.
Back to our example: let’s say loneliness really doesn’t resonate with you but oh, rage does. And remember, rage isn't always loud, sometimes it can be silent; a rage that’s so powerful there are no words. That rage can play out in apathy or exhaustion.
So now at rage, vent it. What about this situation/experience causes rage? Feel it fully.
When it’s complete, climb to the next emotion, and maybe it’s blame. Within blame is sense of powerlessness- "it’s their fault." This is also where you may find your victim story, your feelings of righteousness against others, or maybe self-blame. Whatever comes up, delve into it.
Now be aware that as you excavate emotions, you may hear a voice saying for example, that blame isn’t enlightened or whatever other excuses it comes up with. Do not listen. That is the ego mind trying to stop you from diving deep into the feeling to clear it. This scale is designed to heal the emotions. Get out of your head and into your feelings.
In the lower tier, blame is a numbing agent. We sometimes stay stuck there to not feel our other emotions, especially the rage, loneliness and despair below it. Just be conscious that if you start there, make sure you aren’t denying a deeper emotion.
As you climb, once you’ve released hurt or fear, you can leap to the middle tier, into anger. Even though anger may feel heavy, it’s a much lighter vibration than rage or jealousy etc. If you’re not feeling anger and you cleared fear, you can go to pessimism. Honor what’s true for you; again, one or two steps at a time.
In the 2nd tier, self-pity is the numbing agent. Similar to blame, it’s a place where powerlessness and your victim story can thrive. If you feel self-pity first, check if you’re avoiding what’s below it. And maybe you’re not, maybe self-pity truly is what you feel. If so, go into the “poor me” feelings you have. Self-denial, and the, “it’s fine” when it’s really not, hides here as does overwhelm, refusing to receive, and self-punishment.
In the 2nd tier, some of the emotions have two names; see which is most true for you in the moment. Maybe you’re not feeling sadness but you sure feel guilt. Or maybe worry is what you can tap into versus doubt. It’ll change depending on the situation so honor the truth of the moment.
As you climb into the upper tier, you need to stop at well-being first. Now, that might be as far as you can go on a certain day. That’s fantastic, at least you raised your resonance high enough to get up there. If you can keep going, wonderful, if you can’t, feel into well-being/contentment and just let that live in you.
On a side note, apropos to right now, if you’re feeling anxiety that could mean you have too much energy in the future, or it could also be the denial of an emotion. For today’s discussion, let’s excavate the emotion: most likely it’s fear. What fear are you not acknowledging? Go to fear on the tier, and dive into it. When you’re done, climb up to anger and see if maybe what you’re really angry at is that you don’t feel safe, or that your safety is being threatened.
It may not always be fear, but the majority of the time that's what’s below the anxiety. It could also be worry, or anger: it could be the denial of a myriad of emotions. Feel into the anxiety and see what it wants to say. And if you get no response, start with fear.
Back to the Tiers, there is one addition I would add that while not in the Lazaris version, it is in Abraham-Hicks one: on the upper tier, along with love are the emotions of joy and appreciation. While there are subtle differences in those energies, ultimately joy and appreciation open the heart the way love does. They are incredibly high resonances. So if you can’t tap into love, tap into joy or appreciation.
The more you use this ladder to climb from wherever you are on the bottom to the top, the more elegantly you'll process and move through your emotions. Some days it may take awhile to climb, and other days you’ll be able to climb up quite quickly. Allow this to be a powerful tool you can add to your tool belt to help you release the constricting emotions holding you down so that you can raise your energy and vibration to experience a more joyful reality.
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Lately my introverted self has needed extra quiet, extra down time, and simultaneously, extra order; cleaning out closets, cupboards, the pantry- anything to bring order to the chaos I feel in the world and in my nervous system.
I’m a hermit by nature, you’d think I’d love this pause. But I value and love my freedom most and do not like it restricted at all. That being said, I'm getting much better at acceptance (see #11 below).
Ultimately do I think things will work out for the best?
Do I have a positive vision for the future?
Do I know this is the growing pains of a new world?
I also know- we all chose to be born for this: this monumental time in history where we are writing a new script: initiating new ways of being, rising to new levels of consciousness. It hasn’t been done before, thus no Mayan calendar, no predictions; it’s new. And together we are creating it. Exciting? Very. And sometimes not so fun to go through with all the necessary destruction of what we know, both good and bad, to make way for the new.
It’s not about the virus- it’s about clearing out the old. Giving the earth a much needed reprieve. Re-setting priorities. Shifting our relationships with each other and the world. Can we do that? Yes. Can it be elegant? I sure hope so. I don’t want a new reality of extreme caution, limited mobility, and staying away from each other. That to me would be a nightmare. If you believe in past lives, we chose the nightmare in Atlantis and it was destroyed. We don’t need to create that again.
So together, let’s dream this new world the way we want it to be: people communicating respectfully and engaging in dialogue versus dogma. The end of racism and vast economic disparity. People honoring Mother Earth by being conscious of their impact with more recycling, the oceans being cleaned up, and forests being expanded versus destroyed. Women being respected and treated as equals, the end of fathers forcing their daughters into marriage at an early age, and readily accessible education for all children. These are just some of my dreams for the world, I have many!
And in the meantime, if some days are super rough because you feel all the intensity and chaos acutely, then disconnect and do something nurturing to heal. Here are some of the things that work best for me, hopefully they inspire you!
1: Grounding myself. Yes that’s my normal anyway, but when I’m spinning, if I can ground and connect deeply to the planet, I can breathe again.
2: Speaking of breathing- deep belly breaths. Deep, in your abdomen, full breaths. It calms the nervous system.
3: Being in the moment. Not in the future or the past. Looking around and noticing present time and really taking it in.
4: Solitude. Turning off the phone and just disconnecting from the world.
5: Epsom Salt Baths. They’re a godsend to clear your space and calm your system.
6: Appreciation. Being in appreciation is key to raising your energy. Plus it feels so good to focus on what you appreciate.
I have a guided meditation from a previous blog here if you want to be in that energy more.
7: Being creative. In whatever form it takes: coloring, cooking, gardening, even re-organizing your closet can be creative. The possibilities are endless.
8: Going on walks. It’s been imperative to be outside and be in nature.
9: Reading a book. I’m doing very limited social media, very limited news, not even binging much TV. Reading can be very calming.
10: Chanting. The word “Om” really calms your system when you’re overloaded.
11: Surrender and Patience. Perhaps the most difficult but I remind myself that I can’t control this. I can’t fight it either, although sometimes I do. And when I do, I release my frustrations in healthy ways without judgment, so that ultimately I can accept it and allow it to teach me what I most need. It's necessary to surrender my need for answers and outcomes and have patience with what is. There's tremendous power in the unknown; some days I simply need to remind myself that. After all, it’s not about me. It’s not about you. It’s about creating a new world and that takes time.
We’re all in this together and together we’re going succeed this time. Let’s choose that now!
As Chani Nicholas says, “You were born for this!”
I know you’re overloaded, so today, we’re focusing on what we can control and do during this time.
As much as you can, don’t feed the fear. Remember this brilliant quote:
“I will not let anyone walk through my mind with their dirty feet.”
― Mahatma Gandhi
Here’s what has helped me tons, may it bring you peace and sanity as well!
1: Say the Archangel Michael prayer:
You need to keep your space clear. Just going outside right now you will most likely pick up lower vibrational energies that feed on this panic. Use the prayer - especially if you feel angry. It could be yours or other people’s. Remember, people are angry because they’re scared.
Click here for the prayer.
2: Separate out energy:
You need to disconnect your energy from those around you. It takes only a few minutes and I highly recommend you do it often.
Here is the typical script I use. I added a few specifics for right now in parentheses. The visualizing below each part is part of the process:
“My Higher Self, please take everyone’s energy (fears, hysteria, terror, chaos) and power, out of my aura and body, send it all into the light of Divine Source to be cleansed, rinsed and healed, transmuted and transformed into pure love and light (peace and calm) and then returned to wherever it goes.”
(Imagine it all leaving your space, going into the light. Then see it flowing back out of the light as beautiful love and light, raining down on where/who it came from.)
“And please call all of my energy and power back from everybody’s auras and bodies, (if you’ve been out you can add: from any stores I was in, from driving) and send it all into the light of Divine Source to be cleansed, rinsed, and healed, transmuted and transformed into unconditional love and light, and then returned to me.”
As that is happening, add; "Cut all cords between me and anyone I was in contact with and shut down any energy exchange."
(Then see your energy and power being returned to you as pure love and light, filling your space to overflowing; every cell, every atom of your being, filled with pure light, energizing and replenishing you.)
I say this as often as needed throughout the day and for sure before bed.
I have a video on my resources page showing a way to do this but this script is more detailed for you.
3: Call your energy close to you:
Imagine all of the energy that you’re currently sending out, turning and facing in towards you. It’s yours, keep it. Once you feel it back around you then:
4: Put a bubble of protection around you:
I like violet, it repels negativity. You can use whatever color you prefer, all are fabulous: blue, rose pink, green, white, gold- do what appeals to you. I ask that my bubble vibrate at pure love. Pure love is a very strong shield.
5: Breathe, Connect to the planet, Feel the earth, and Ground:
More than ever you need to ground. The energy and hysteria is designed to keep you out of body. You have to connect to the earth. If you notice you can’t sit still or you’re wandering aimlessly without focus or you just want to watch the news- you’re ungrounded.
I have many previous blogs on this. Look in the category section under the archived blogs to read more.
It can be a super simple, just speak your own fears, angers, worries etc. while the tapping the points. Then switch to positive statements when you’ve released the negative.
I made you a video to help. Watch below at the bottom of the blog.
7: Epsom Salt Bath:
It’s a godsend to get people and negative energy out of your space. It works amazingly well when nothing else will or when negative energies are hiding in your space. Salt has a powerful cleansing effect.
8: Turn your attention off of yourself and help someone else:
Send love and light to someone you know who’s having a hard time, and then, send it to the whole world. Visualize the world being held in a bubble of healing and siphon all the pain, fear, and trauma up into the light of Source. Be part of the solution! Whenever you’re wrapped up in your own issues/problems, the fastest way through is to help someone else.
9: Retreat from social media and the news, except in small snippets:
For the most part, those mediums amp up the issue without offering solutions or hope. It can dive-bomb you. Be selective. Don’t feed the fear!
10: Do a meditation to co-create a positive future:
I recorded this for you to not only co-create a positive future for the world, but also for yourself.
I’ve kept the meditation more general so that it can be used for any issues/crises going on in the world.
You can’t solve a problem if that’s all you see so hopefully this will help you gain perspective.
Listen at the bottom of the blog.
It can be hard to remember in the midst of this hysteria, but you create your reality. Personally, I refuse to allow a reality of limited freedom for much longer. I value freedom, I value peace. I refuse a reality of hysteria. Take your power back and do not feed the fear. It’s not being ignorant, you can be wise, and simultaneously, be empowered.
Everyday fill yourself with light from Source, as if being filled with a giant sun illuminating and shining from within, snuffing out any and all darkness. Literally be the light.
And since we are in a global pause, what is the world you would like to see as we come out of this?
I’ve often talked about the power of pause as a reset. What is it you would like to happen as the play button gets hit again? You can choose to see beauty, or you can choose to see darkness: the choice is yours.
Have a calm, empowered week!
Here is your guided meditation:
Here is your tapping video:
Fear is up hard core right now for those across my state of California and for those in the world.
Fear serves both the positive purposes of keeping you safe and giving you messages, and it can also become negative and spiral you into panic, knocking you out of your body and into darkness.
As hard as it can be when fear is high, the more present you are and the more you can ground yourself, the better you’ll respond to what’s happening. Now I understand that’s not always possible. Sometimes fight or flight is absolutely necessary. I’m talking here about the times that you can do something other than meltdown and feed the panic.
Here are seven techniques to help:
1: Take your power back.
Do not give it to your fear; do not feed your fears. As a present time example that you can apply to anything in your life, I have chosen to glance at the news only a couple times throughout the day to get my fire updates, and then I ignore it and take my power back and re-write the headlines as I choose to see them. I am not being ignorant; I am deliberately choosing to stay empowered in the face of hysteria and rising dread. I literally call my power back and own what I do want versus what I don’t. I become even more determined in my end goal when I do this.
To read a previous blog on how to take your power back, click here.
2: Transform fear.
This is based on a Lazaris technique.
Close your eyes and ask your Higher Self to join you and to help you, even if you have no concept of them. Now imagine that you can take your fear out of your body and place it in front of you. See what it looks like: see its shape and color. Really get into seeing it, imagine it fully; maybe it has a texture, maybe it has a sound. Notice this. Now ask your Higher Self to help you transform your fear. Imagine all the color and the shape being pulled apart and suctioned up into the light of Divinity. Don’t get stuck on how to do it, simply watch it breaking apart, watch the threads being dismantled as it goes into the light.
Now imagine your Higher Self reaching into the light and bringing down raw, shapeless, colorless energy. The raw power that was once your fear, is now able to be transformed into new energy. See it transforming into its new shape and new color. See it growing and become aware if it has sound and texture. Allow the new shape and color to be one that opens your heart and helps you feel strong. When it is complete, bring the new shape into your space and feel yourself standing tall and empowered as you embody all that raw beautiful love and light.
3: Ground yourself.
Your personal fear and panic will knock you out of your body. If you’re in an area with collective rising panic and terror, that will knock you out as well. If you have the wherewithal and are not directly impacted, then the more grounded you are, the more you can help ground the fear and panic in the area. Listen to last week’s meditation and add in a part where you literally ground the panic in your area. Imagine a grounding cord under the areas of trauma and ground all of that panic and fear floating in the air. Imagine the white light raining into those places, soothing and calming people. You be the one to do it when others can’t. You be the change. For those who are empathic, you especially need to be grounded.
4: Hold the vision of the reality you are choosing.
Yes you are part of the collective, but you are also an individual. Use your will and your determination to stay strong in the outcome that you are choosing. Even in the face of obstacles and people that tell you otherwise, keep owning what you do want regardless of how many people are panicking and telling you it’s not possible. Everything is possible. Do not get swept up in adding your voice to the fear chorus. Own a different reality even if you are the only one holding that vision. There is tremendous power in taking a stand for the light.
5: Face your fears:
What’s the worst that could happen? Go there. Imagine it in detail. Confront it. Play it out. When you get down to the deepest, worst bottom that could happen, look around and notice that you’re still there, you’re still standing, you aren’t destroyed, you are more than that imagined outcome. In that core of destruction, find the kernel of your light hidden amongst the ruins. It’s there, look for it. Find it. Grab it. Own it. Allow it to expand. It’s the truth of you. Feel it fill you with power, fill you with light, fill you with the truth of who you really are. You are not this body, you are not this reality. You are infinite. When you step into that truth, you are unstoppable. Feel into that. Own yourself as an expansive being of light and move forward from there, imagining what you do want to create for your reality.
6: Breathe into your solar plexus
This is a technique that Dr. Sue Morter teaches. Solar plexus breathing helps stabilize the mind and is very effective when you’re afraid something big is coming your way and when you feel overwhelmed. It helps you transcend your fears.
First, do the deep belly breathing I had you do in last week’s meditation. That’ll calm the emotional body. Next, I want you to focus on the area of your body above the naval where the ribs splay apart. You are going to isolate your breath to this area. It takes practice. You will not want any movement in either your upper body, nor in your belly.
In that solar plexus area, as you inhale, imagine that area expanding to the size of a grapefruit, and as you exhale, imagine the area becoming the size of a baseball. Continue breathing this way until you notice a calm come over you.
If it’s hard to isolate that area, you can pull your shoulder blades together and down and contract your pecs, like you’re going to do a push-up.
Again, there should be zero movement in the shoulders or lower abdomen.
Keep practicing until you get it, it’s extremely effective.
7: Be in the present moment.
My kinesiologist taught me this years ago, it’s a way to physically anchor a statement into the subconscious and the body. The statement we’re going to use is, “I choose present moment, present time.” You’ll say that at least three times in a row and up to ten times if need be, tapping around your left ear. You can say it as often as needed. I made a video to help explain it, watch it here.
I wrote this blog because of the palpable panic in Los Angeles, but these techniques can apply to any situations of natural disasters or personal illnesses and fears. Again, sometimes if you are directly impacted you will not have the wherewithal to do these things, which is why it’s important to always reach out for help when you know that you’re swept up in terror and can’t step into a place of power.
Do not make fear your enemy, befriend it, because sometimes its lessons are very important, and sometimes, you must take your power back from it.
It seems a lot of people are having a rough time right now. The chaos and intensity are high and it can be easy to get swept up in the collective stress of the world, in addition to any personal trauma and crisis you are going through. Here are some tools to help you take your power back and heal.
-I love Bach remedy Elm. Elm helps with overwhelm. I cannot recommend it enough. Mix it with Bach Rescue Remedy if you need extra support. 4 drops each in a glass of water, chug, then 4 drops each again & sip the next glass.
-Ground yourself. Get yourself into present time and breathe. Call your energy back to the now moment and back to you. Read last week’s blog if you need help with this.
-Honor where you’re at. Don’t try to rush into feeling better. If you’re angry, express that. Throw a tantrum. Go into a rage bubble & vent it out (technique on the “client” page)- honor where you are without judgment. Your feelings are valid, do not discount them nor try to ignore or dismiss them. If you are especially dark, give yourself 20 minutes, set a timer, and dive into the self-pity, rage, grief, etc., and vent it out fully.
-Balance your chakras. It will help you see and respond to the world more clearly, while releasing blockages in your space. I'll be releasing a technique soon, in the meantime, two that I highly recommend are on the "favorites" page.
-Be in nature. Nature has a way of calming your Soul and soothing your Spirit. It connects you to the elements and helps you be present. Plus beauty is a profound healer.
-Take time off, to just be. Stay in your pjs, disconnect from social media, watch a movie, read a book, just stop all doing for others and do for you. I know you Moms can’t accomplish this as easily as others but try to take some time for yourself. You’ll be better for it.
-Be creative. It’ll stimulate a different part of your brain and calm your nerves. Do whatever calls you. You aren’t trying to be Monet or Beethoven, just make art or even color in a coloring book.
-Take a social media hiatus. Studies have shown that social media can exacerbate feelings of depression, anxiety, and stress so instead of comparing your life to what you see on FB, step away. Or certainly limit your time there. Turn your focus back to you.
-Limit how much time you spend watching/reading the news. It is designed to instill “fear! panic! outrage!” Step back. You can’t be of assistance to the world if you are roiling in anger and fear.
-Stop multitasking. If you are, for example, scrolling your phone, while watching TV, you are creating anxiety in your space. Multitasking scatters your energy, causes your system stress, and knocks you out of alignment with yourself. Stop! Focus on one task at a time. Pull your energy into what’s in front of you.
-Exercise. It doesn't have to be big, it can be a simple walk, just move your body. You'll release all those pent up emotions and energies.
These are things that help tremendously. Anything can change in your reality, nothing is set in stone, life can turn on a dime. Honor what’s going on with you and remember you aren’t powerless to change it, but you do need to step away from life sometimes. Put yourself first because you matter and you won’t do anyone any good if you burn out in overwhelm and meltdown. Put the oxygen mask on for yourself, before helping others!!!
Me, Tina Germain, just sharing ways to make you the best you can be!