I recently saw a quote, the beginning of which said, “You are the master of your destiny.”
I’ve always heard and subscribed to the belief that “you create your reality,” so the phrasing above really stood out to me as a different way of saying the same thing.
You are the master of your destiny.
Sit with this.
I hear you, “I get it but -” But what? You are the master of your destiny- and then things happen to you? You are the master of your destiny- but you're not really in charge, other people are? You are the master of your destiny- sometimes?
It can be hard if you grew up with the mindset that you can be subjugated by others or at the mercy of the world. Which is another way of saying, victimized by. That can be insidious. Maybe you don't consider yourself a victim, but there are certain areas in life that trip you up and that you feel you have no power over. But if you have no power, you're powerless which puts you in victim mode. Not pleasant to acknowledge but don't judge it, it just is. Almost everyone has those areas. The “I create my reality, except when...”
Theory and practice are two different things. You may understand this in theory, but as far as practical application, you're still sorting that out.
Start by observing and noticing. Where do you still lose your power? Where do you not feel that you are the master of your destiny? From a place of neutrality, question why that is. By your observation you bring attention and by your attention you start to heal it.
Then take your power back and create your reality moment by moment in your beliefs, your perspective, your attitude, and your emotions. Live from a new and empowered place.
As the full quote says:
“You Are The Master of Your Destiny
* Quote from The NOW Massage.
Below, I remind you of all you’ve learned in 2021, with each highlighted word bringing you to a specific blog.
If I’ve done my job this year, you’re feeling more of your personal power and remembering that you have the ability to shift, and shape, your reality.
You know that as you release old dreams, you free up the space for new and beautiful ones that are more in alignment with where you’re headed, thus helping you author an incredible future.
You’re owning your crown chakra, your third chakra, and opening to the power of pleasure in your second chakra.
You’re hearing me and beginning to accept the truth that your light is more powerful than any dark.
You see yourself as able to be part of the solution, versus wallowing in the problems of the world.
You remember that you have techniques for making decisions, claiming a space, getting present, and being grounded.
You’re starting to understand the power of forgiveness and why I talk about it all the time.
You recognize that gratitude is key.
You’re letting in the truth that you are loved and that you can love yourself more fully.
You know that your classroom is your own and you can’t force anyone to learn the lessons you think they should. You see the arrogance in thinking you know better than someone else what they need. You trust that you are on your perfect path, and they’re on theirs.
You know how to prevent your negative ego from hijacking your imagination, as well as getting clear on what is important and moving towards that.
And you learned a phrase to help you release your emotions more elegantly.
Having the tools to cope with, and ultimately process through, anything life throws at you is in my opinion, invaluable. The more self-sufficient you feel and the more you know the answers are within, the more empowered you are. And that my friends, is why I write these blogs. To remind you of your power, your light, and that you matter!!
Even though there are a couple more weeks in 2021, let's send some energy for 2022 being a kick ass year! May you thrive!!
For some of you, what I’m going to talk about will make total sense, and for others, it’s a non-issue. It’s been coming up quite often in sessions, which is always a sign for me to write about it in case more of you are feeling this same way.
Some of you love social media; it helps you thrive and that’s great. If it’s your favorite, go for it! This blog is not for you. This is for those who feel worse after being on it. Who feel anxious, off center, can’t disconnect from their apps, and who start to go into the dark places within themselves.
I occasionally go on social media, but very rarely on Facebook. I noticed years ago that I would get severe anxiety if I was on Facebook for more than five minutes. I could feel the energy impacting my solar plexus (3rd chakra). What I started to observe, is that there’s something in the energetics of that particular platform that are designed to both hook into someone’s space, and knock out their grounding, so that they stay engaged. Some people are immune to it, and some people are affected without even realizing it.
If you do decide to go on social media (and especially those of you prone to anxiety), before you open that app, center your energy inside yourself and put a violet shield around your space to help you have boundaries. Once you’ve been on and are done, you’ll want your energy back/cleared and here’s what can help:
1: Separate out your energy from whatever platform you were on and call your energy back (see resources page). Do this with the overall platform as well as any individuals who triggered you. And if you were incredibly triggered or started down the rabbit hole of comparisons, take your power back from those individuals and remind yourself, “I am good enough. My path and my timing are my own.”
You may also need to take your power back from your own negative ego and inner critic. Silence them and stand in the power pose to remember your worth.
2: Visualize removing the psychic hook between you and the app you were on. See/imagine that hook and literally use your hand to actively unhook yourself. As you hold the hook in your hand, away from your body, watch it dissolve. As it dissolves it breaks the connection between you and what you were attached to, freeing you.
3: Imagine closing and locking the door between you and that platform. You can close it gently or slam it shut; whatever will help you disengage. You can take it a step further and erase the door. That’s one of my favorite techniques to do in any situation where there’s been too much of an energy exchange. It gives a clear message to the subconscious.
4: Ground yourself. If you’re feeling especially out of sorts, run earth energy.
5: Fill yourself with your own sparkly life force energy or with Divine light.
Beyond social media, at the end of the day you can also disconnect from all devices. I take my imaginary scissors and cut the cords between me and both my phone and computer. I either run them up the front of my body or go specifically to where I feel the energy drain. If you’re on your device all day, that frequency can jack you up or deplete you. Run some earth energy, even just in your feet.
Don’t give your power away to your devices or to any platforms. Do the above to help and if you still feel off and it’s important/necessary to be on your devices and certain platforms, then train your subconscious, “I am immune to the negative energies and electromagnetics here.” State that over and over until you feel your boundaries getting stronger.
Your energy is precious; make sure it stays in you.
* Red highlighted words are linked to previous blogs
This has been coming up a lot in sessions lately, so I wanted to address it here: if you have to take some sort of antibiotic or drug, instead of worrying about how it’s going to destroy your body, shift it. Transform it into something positive. Nothing is inherently bad; it’s how you perceive it.
You have the power to do that. Make your subconscious mind your ally.
Let’s take chemo for example: there are those who see chemo as a horrible poison, yet I’ve had clients and relatives have miraculous success, with minimal negative impact, by visualizing the chemotherapy as the Liquid Light of God (Massive credit to Linda Foley for teaching me this; it's helped countless people). Before, and then during every treatment, this would be on repeat in their minds. They truly believed that they were being infused with Divine healing energy.
That’s the key, you need to believe it. You can’t just say it as words. You need to have feeling and emotion behind it. You need to truly have every part of yourself convinced that this pill or liquid is miraculous.
You can use this idea with any sort of drug or antibiotic, or even supplement, that you need to take. Hold it in your hand for a moment, holding your other hand above it, and infuse/imagine/tell that pill that it is pure source energy and tell your subconscious that as you take it, it’s coming in to heal you. Proclaim that your body thrives, and is compatible, with it. Tell your mind it’s bringing more light and vitality into your system. Use whatever words will get you really believing and feeling the joy of being healed.
Sure, you can argue it’s the placebo effect, but why do you think placebos are so powerful? Because of the belief of the person! So why not take the actual item and transform it in your mind?
Now, if you have to take something and you cannot get your mind around it, then either you need to do some more mental and belief work, or you need to change treatment options. Because if you think it’s going to damage or harm you, then it just might because that’s what you’re putting your energy and fear towards.
Don’t give your power to your fears. Work through them, release them, and then focus on the outcome and healing you desire. Believe things can be changed. The subconscious mind is phenomenally powerful, use it to transform your reality.
We all know those people who everyone gravitates towards. When they walk into a room, all eyes go to them. They are incredibly magnetic. Beyond charisma, part of that magnetism is them being present and in their body, radiating energy from their core with total confidence.
Recently I heard someone use the word, “embody” and it really sunk in in a deeper way for me what it means to embody say, beauty, feminine energy, grace, inner peace, or confidence. When you embody something, you own that frequency in your body. You are grounded in that vibration.
You all know I harp on you to get grounded and present, and it’s because there’s so much more available to you when you do. You’re on this planet to be on this planet, not to be flitting and floating around. The more you can be in body, the more you can embody different energies.
Have you been embodying vitality, or are you embodying fatigue? Are you embodying abundance, or have you been embodying lack? Are you embodying confidence, or self-doubt?
You can change that right now. Regardless of the beliefs or thoughts or anything that may be swirling around in your space, imagine the vibration of what you want and bring it into your body.
Let’s use an example of confidence. What would it look and feel like to embody confidence? How would your day go differently if you lived in that frequency? How would your posture change? Take a moment and get a clear image of that reality. Now, get yourself grounded and present by whatever method you most like. That could even be putting your attention on your feet, and moving your focus up through your body, to the top of your head, while breathing and centering yourself. Once you’re in your body and fully aware of it, imagine the energy of confidence flowing into you. Maybe it comes in your head, maybe your feet, maybe everywhere at once.
As it flows into you, imagine it eradicating, simply by its presence, any doubts you’re holding (if you’re bringing in i.e. inner peace, let it eradicate stress. What it eradicates will change depending on what you’re calling in). Let the confidence swirl and flow through your entire body, energizing (or calming) your whole system. If your mind or thoughts protest, see that frequency of confidence gently moving into those areas of discord, washing them away. See yourself filling to overflowing with confidence. Embody confidence. Stay in this vibration for as long as you desire, until you feel that you can carry that energy with you.
As I said, you can embody any energy. Pick one thing and stick with it until you really feel and see shifts in your reality. Until people respond to you differently. And they will. What is it you want to feel in your body?
If it helps you, pick someone who embodies what you most want and watch how they move about the world.
Play with this daily. It doesn’t need to take long. You can be in the energy for five minutes a day and it will begin to shift you. Obviously the more you’re aware and in it, the better, but start in increments you can commit to. This doesn't negate you doing the other inner work of clearing out faulty beliefs and processing through your issues, but it supports you in creating a vibrant new reality.
As you co-create the new world, create your new world in ways that bring you greater presence and joy. Be the embodiment of a higher frequency of energy and light.
I had a blog that I wrote for this week considering what went down last Wednesday here in the U.S., but I can tell that so many of you are just fried and need some gentle love this week. So, these are nothing new, they’re simply reminders that you might need right now:
The light is more powerful than the dark. Your light is more powerful than your dark.
The world is changing, and the patriarchy and young souls are acting up and screaming, terrified of the changes. Don’t feed into the fear and the anger. Heal the places in you that are fearful and angry; wrap them in love and compassion. The more compassion you give to yourself, the more you send that frequency into the world.
Forgiveness on all levels is the most profound healer. In your personal reality, forgive yourself and anyone or anything that you feel is blocking/inhibiting you. You have the power to set yourself free.
On that vein, there are no victims. Call your power back from wherever you’re sending it.
Yes the exhaustion is real right now. I feel it, and I know many of you do as well. There could be a myriad of reasons, but the energy is intense and it’s knocking a lot of people out. It’s not only what went down in Washington, as well as increased fears/fatigue around Covid, but it’s also the intensity of light streaming in to help us grow and evolve. Take good care of you as you detox your pain and the pain in the world, and as your body adapts to higher frequencies of light.
Boundaries are necessary. Remove any energy vampires out of your reality if you can. Say no to any added burdens.
Grounding is not a luxury, it’s a necessity. It helps you process and release both the chaos in the world, and it helps you to accept the higher frequencies coming in. Cutting cords is also necessary, not only with the news and with social media, but with others. Also remove any psychic hooks that attach you to your phone/news/social media. You don’t need to know exactly where they are, just ask your Higher Self to gently remove them and send them to the light to be transmuted and transformed.
Breathe. We will get through this. You chose to be born during this time. Lead from your light as much as you can, and work through your own rage etc. The more you heal you, the more you heal the world.
For those of you who are new to some of these topics, the highlighted words above will provide links to prior blogs to better explain the subject. You can also read more in the categories to the right.
I spoke of the battlefield a few weeks ago but I’m bringing this up again now because A: it’s been coming up in so many of your sessions recently, and B: as we move more fully into the age of Aquarius, which is all about cooperation and unity, it’s time to set down the battles that you’ve been waging so that you can create a new reality for yourself.
The idea of a battlefield was originally introduced to me by Lazaris 12 years ago, but recently, it began appearing to me in my personal growth work and in sessions in a very specific way that's quite different than how they taught it.
The best way for me to explain the battlefield, is that there’s a part of you on a figurative, yet very real, battlefield, sword in hand, engaging with the enemy. The battle can be draining you energetically and physically, yet still you persist in fighting.
The main way to know you’re on the battlefield is if there’s an issue that keeps coming back again, over and over. It’s accompanied by the frustration that no matter what you do, the issue won’t seem to budge.
On the battlefield you can be fighting anything: maybe you’re at war with yourself; refusing love, refusing ease, living in lack, punishing yourself, or denying yourself happiness etc. Maybe you’re fighting life; not trusting that you can receive what you want and being stuck in self-pity or victimhood, believing that you’re powerless. Maybe you’re fighting childhood demons, still living as if they can control you now. You could be battling a specific person from the past or present, still trying to create justice. Or maybe you battle your body and its limitations or perceived flaws.
Regardless of what you’re battling, battles take a lot of energy to keep the hatred, resistance or anger etc. alive. Battles can be rage filled or sad or any other emotion. They steal your attention and drain you of joy, peace, and harmony.
A lot of what we fight is in our own minds; wounds and traumas or patterns of negative behavior that the negative ego perpetuates, and we keep living.
Maybe you think you need to keep fighting because it’s just the way it is, and nothing/no one can help you. Not only is that a faulty belief, but it also keeps you engaged with the darkness within you.
Maybe you fight because there’s a righteous part of you that wants the other to get their comeuppance. You want to be the victor at all costs. Unfortunately the cost is you.
When you go to these places emotionally, not only are you feeding the very thing you say you want to release, but it also drops you very low energetically. You cannot find solutions in that place.
Sometimes you need to process through a myriad of emotions to really excavate what’s going on, while working through layers of anger and rage etc. before you can truly put your sword down. And sometimes, you’ve done everything and now it’s time to let it go.
There’s another huge battle that I’m seeing play out which is fighting evil. Many of you came in from lifetimes of actively fighting the dark. It’s in your bones to battle with dark forces of any nature. I get it, that was me for most of my life. Now, I’m not saying it’s bad to want things to be better, what I’m saying is that a consistent battle with the dark not only drains your life force, it keeps the battle going. It keeps the dark present and draws it to you. Anything you in engage in, gives it energy.
The solution to all of this is to lay down your sword and step off the battlefield. In my mind, the battlefield is muddy and dark, yet immediately to the side of the battlefield is beautiful lush green grass. When you set down your sword and walk onto the grass, you keep walking into a magnificent meadow, filled with an abundance of wildflowers, a warm beautiful sun, and the feeling of total calm.
The subconscious understands symbols and feelings even better than words. I’ve written a detailed guided imagery at the bottom of the blog to help you leave the battlefield.
When you step off into the meadow, you allow love and light into the issue you’ve been battling and resisting. You stop feeding it negativity and you feed it love. And I don’t mean just this airy-fairy idea of love, I mean actually infusing that area of your life with the Divine essence of love: yourself, your body, your psyche, your relationships. Inviting in and actively visualizing that love enter that space. Forgiving yourself for anything that has kept you engaged in battle.
Now, I hear some of your protests and questions so let me clarify: I am absolutely horrified by some of the stuff going on in our country and in the world. I do not accept injustice. I completely rail and vent and process through all of my rage etc. and then I take my power back and I start visualizing and putting all of my energy into the solution I choose to see. Into the reality I choose to see. Into the light and the justice. I step off the battlefield so that I’m not engaged and actively fighting over and over with the darkness. I refuse to give the perpetrators more energy. By my disengaging I become more powerful than them. I stand over in the meadow bathed in light. I send that light of healing from a place of empowerment. I become a giant of the light versus sinking into the mud of animosity and darkness.
When you’re stuck in battle, you can’t be your greater self. And your greater self is what’s needed to heal both your personal reality, and the world.
Be willing to set down your sword, and expand your inner light.
Here’s a more detailed visualization for you to set you free:
See yourself on your battlefield. You may know what you’re battling, or you may not. See yourself standing in the thick mud and notice the battle going on around you. Maybe you see many versions of you fighting the enemy, maybe you just hear the clang of swords, or maybe you see yourself bloodied and beaten down while the enemy waits for you to start fighting again. Use your imagination.
Look over and see the clear line of delineation between the mud and the grass. Walk over to line, still on the side of the battlefield, and state that you are willing to stop this battle. Proclaim that you forgive and release yourself and what/who you’re fighting. State that you choose love and freedom instead of this, that you choose peace and harmony.
Set down your sword, and you may even need to line up all the yous from different lifetimes of battling and have every you set their sword down simultaneously. It’s a powerful message of disengaging and empowerment to show your subconscious. Then with purpose, step over the line onto the grass, and watch as that the battle begins to evaporate and disappear.
Once it’s gone, walk deeper into the meadow. Stand in the meadow with your arms outstretched. Notice a golden ball of light above you opening up and raining into your space all of your power and energy that was wrapped up in battle. Then feel the pure energy of love raining in, filling the very spaces where you’d battled. Feel it coming back into you, revitalizing you, filling you, healing and transforming you. The more you fill yourself, the more you remember you have the power to change anything. You remember that love is the greatest healer. And you remember who you really are.
Do this as often as needed to disengage from battle. If it’s been a stubborn issue, you may need to repeat this process a few times until your subconscious gets the message.
May it bring you phenomenal peace.
As we get closer to a Presidential election, I want to remind you of the power of your voice.
Some of you very fervently recognize the power of casting a vote. And some of you hate the system so much, that you don’t care, and you don’t bother voting; you think it doesn’t matter.
I’m here to tell you that it does.
Now before you dismiss me, I want you to look at the bigger message that you’re telling your subconscious when you refuse to cast a vote. Essentially, you’re telling yourself that you have no say. That forces outside your control will decide things anyway, and you are powerless. You’re telling yourself that your voice doesn’t matter. That’s a dangerous message to affirm to your subconscious.
You may argue with me and say that no, it’s simply that you’re fed up, but look below that. Really recognize what you’re teaching yourself about your powerlessness by your inaction.
If you’re a woman, do you know what it took to get women the right to vote? If you truly don’t know the history, then you need to look it up. Women went through awful, awful circumstances to be able to gain that privilege. Do not turn your back on that. There are countries now in 2020 where women have no say. Don’t willing deny your voice.
If you feel apathetic, that apathy will spill into other areas of your life. If you’re mad that your candidate is not up there, it’s not a perfect system. However, you need to truly look in your heart to see who you think has the leadership qualities or the ability to match what you want in a leader. By your vote, you say what you do and do not stand for.
You are no victim. If you don’t like the way things are turning out, then speak up by casting a vote.
Own your empowerment. Your vote matters. Your voice counts.
Right now, with many losing their minds, it’s important to remember to not engage crazy. There are those who thrive on drama, who want to sweep you into their mess, who want to amp up discord. However, as I’ve reminded you often lately, you don’t need to participate.
One of my favorite metaphors comes from my friend Linda Foley. She always told me to stay off the crazy playground. What is the crazy playground you ask?
The way I think of the crazy playground is as if imagining yourself stuck on a carousel, and you just keep circling around and around with either a person or an issue. It doesn’t stop moving, it’s up to you to step off.
How do you know you’re on the crazy playground? When you’re engaging in a battle. When a fight has escalated beyond what it’s even really about. When someone has no interest in looking at their part of their mess and simply wants to blame. When someone is sinking into their own story and refuses any bit of sane advice. When you’re arguing over and over and over and getting nowhere.
It’s anytime you can tell the other person doesn’t hear you, or you’re mired in an old pattern, or with somebody who’s stuck in their negative ego- and you just keep circling around and around and around, and refuse to take the highroad and walk away.
Here’s an example: a client of mine has a mother that always has a crisis going on, always needing something. The mother thrives on drama. She dumps it on my client and expects my client to fix it all. Eventually, through talking about this metaphor, my client realized that she’s constantly on the crazy playground with her mother. Always engaging the crazy by responding to it, and/or resisting it. Resistance still keeps you on the playground. It wasn’t until she took her power back one day and realized that:
A: she was not at her mother’s beck and call and could simply not answer the phone – to which to some of you might say, “well duh,” but to others who know what it’s like when somebody needs you and is continually looking to you for something, that’s not always easy.
And B: when her mom started dumping all of the issues on her, she simply said, “I cannot help you today. I hope you’re able to fix that problem. I have to go now, we’ll talk soon.”
She let her mom know that she would not be there to solve that particular problem, nor any other problems coming up. She held the boundary of her sanity being more important than being on that merry go round of crazy.
There’s not just a merry go round on the crazy playground, there’s also a teeter totter- where someone is always up and the other is always down- a swing set, the monkey bars – they can all be metaphors for however the crazy is playing out.
You won’t always recognize that you’re stuck there. Sometimes you simply think you’re engaging in dialogue or discussion. But notice if it keeps going in circles. Notice if there always has to be a winner and a loser. Notice if you’re so used to it that you don’t realize that you are worthy and deserving of peace and serenity.
Regardless of which vehicle you’re on in the playground, ultimately, sanity comes from disengaging and walking away. Do you want to be right, or do you want to be happy? Do you want tranquility, or do you want conflict?
You take your power back by not only stepping off the merry-go-round, but actually walking to the edge of the playground, opening the gate, and closing it behind you to completely detach and liberate yourself.
In my imagination, the land outside the gate of the crazy playground is serene, peaceful, and beautiful.
You deserve to be there. When you find yourself in the crazy playground, use the imagery of walking out, closing the gate, and then set the boundaries needed, cut the cords, and choose peace instead of chaos. Focus on being the best you that you can be, and don’t give your power away to anything/anyone that disrupts your calm.
If it helps, in your head say, “Not my circus, not my monkeys.”
The more you disengage from crazy, the more you teach your subconscious that you won't allow it in your reality, thereby creating more harmonious people/circumstances in your life.
You are worthy of contentment and well-being.
May you find peace and sanity this week!
Today I’m sharing a story to illustrate why I’m always telling you that you are responsible for your reality and your personal power:
This past week I was having a lovely Wednesday, everything was falling into place effortlessly and every errand was easy. Then I got to a grocery store that I hadn’t been to since the start of the pandemic. I was in a line for a bit, didn’t see any door monitor, and watched as a person would enter the store when someone else would come out. When it was my turn, as I was about to enter the store, the person who was supposed to be monitoring the door came running over and screamed at me because unbeknownst to me, the person who walked out was an employee dressed in regular street clothes. She did not say this nicely, she laid into me. It was shocking, and I calmly explained that how could I know the situation? She stormed off. Then I went into the store and asked an employee a question and the employee was phenomenally rude. At that point, I lost all neutrality; I was furious and just wanted out of there. I grabbed the few items I needed and left.
I knew I had to clear my space, as I remind all of you, as I could still feel the attack energy from the first person. I said the Archangel Michael prayer and separated out energy, but I still felt awful. I was grumbling and bitching to myself and to my husband via text, that they just ruined my day. And then it occurred to me, why was I giving them the power to ruin my day? It was MY day and it had been going wonderfully. I needed to take responsibility.
Now, am I saying I was responsible for her flying off the handle at me? No! Clearly, she and the other girl were going through something and taking it out on me. I could have continued to take it personally and let it ruin more of my day, but then I would be giving them the keys to my sanity. Uh, no thanks! Neither of them were worth it.
1: Started smacking them all out of my space- literally smacking their energy out, while saying authoritatively to, "Get out of my space!" Remember- own your crown chakra, own your authority. No one else can be in your space unless you let them.
I lobbed both their energies out of my space and back to them (I first cleared it nicely, sent it to the Universe, but that didn’t do it. Sometimes a person leaves their imprint on you and you need to send it back, like you’re playing tennis/baseball/golf).
I then imagined cutting all cords of energy between us- all communications, all energy exchange.
I started sucking my power back in, repeatedly, until I felt lighter.
(I wrote extensively about taking your power back in my previous blog. Read here to learn the technique.)
I started proclaiming that it was my day and therefore I was choosing that the rest of it would be easy and elegant.
After doing these, I completely shifted the remainder of my day; it was back to being wonderful. I owned/created my reality by my response. That’s what I mean by taking responsibility and taking your power back (which is being empowered).
I think this is important to remember because it’s not only in big ways that you give your power away, it’s the daily little things.
You choose how you react in circumstances and who you give the keys to your peace of mind. Choose wisely! If someone awful comes in and tries to take your peace, don’t let them! You are responsible for your reaction and your energy.
Same with the past: are you still letting someone/something in the past determine your reality now? Do the techniques listed; stop dragging the past forward.
And if the four steps above aren’t enough, go into a rage bubble, journal it, scream it in a safe way or beat your bed with a pillow. Get it out of you.
Remind yourself – “I create my reality."
Own your personal power now.
Me, Tina Germain, just sharing ways to make you the best you can be!