Resistance: we all have it at times. Sometimes it’s subtle, gently pushing you away from that which you desire to accomplish. Like when you’re finally starting that creative project or exercise routine and a distraction comes up that pulls your focus elsewhere; you tell yourself you’ll start tomorrow. Or the to-do list that takes precedence over your down time or meditative time. It’s all the little (which really aren’t little) ways that you’re stopped from achieving your goals.
Sometimes resistance is overt and temper tantrum throwing, blocking you from your good, even when you want it. Actively looking for distractions to avoid doing what you need, not practicing your dance/words/instrument etc. before an event, feeling rebellious as if others can’t tell you what to do, even if you hired them or they have great ideas.
You most certainly know your negative ego is involved anytime you feel resistance. It’s trying to prevent any breakthroughs, creative expression, or your ability to have greater freedom in your life.
Being in resistance is like slogging through the mud to get where you’re going; the path becomes filled with struggle and blockages.
Resistance comes when the outcome of whatever you’re about to do will bring you greater love, a greater sense of accomplishment, and more empowerment. That’s when it’s loudest.
Remember that: resistance is strongest before a breakthrough. So keep going, don’t give in to it.
You need to create an inner coach, one who’s words are stronger than those of your negative ego. One who will gently keep you on track, having you silence your phone, tell others you’re not to be disturbed, while also helping you to stay present and in your body to accomplish your desires. A coach who encourages you to keep going, even when it’s hard. Who tells you supportive words and lifts you up.
It’s up to you to create that coach. To let its voice be stronger than the resistance, stronger than any fears. A coach who lovingly helps you succeed. Start imaging that coach, see her/him as a supportive cheerleader, reminding you of your worth and value. Feed that coach power by connecting to it every day. The more power it has, the less your negative ego will control you.
Even with that coach, sometimes you might need a visual to show your subconscious your desire to release resistance. Something to help all parts of you get the message.
Here’s a visualization that I use, based on a Lazaris technique. It works wonderfully when resistance is loud:
Close your eyes and imagine yourself in a beautiful and serene place in nature with a river in front of you. The river is flowing gently. Walk into the river and feel its warmth. Move easily towards the middle, the water getting deeper and deeper until it’s neck high. Stand there and let the river wash through you, moving through your skin and body, clearing out any resistance, anything that’s not yours. As you stand there, affirm, “I am in the flow of life, and I release all resistance to that flow and to my good.”
Sometimes if I have too many thoughts swirling around my head, I’ll imagine the ground goes slightly deeper and I’ll step down until my head is submerged. I always tell myself I can easily breathe while under this magical water.
When your resistance is strong, you may want to imagine yourself staying in the river and letting the water flow through you. You can keep that image going as you move about your day. Other times if you feel complete after your cleanse, don’t go back the way you came, exit the opposite side of the river. You want to show your subconscious that you’re walking into a new reality, one in which you're accepting the flow of life.
Create your coach, use the visualization, and may both help you release resistance easily and elegantly. Greater joy awaits.
Two people in my life recently had cancer. Relative A, upon hearing his diagnosis, immediately went into the mindset that he was going to die. Relative B immediately went into the mindset that it was a temporary blip and something that he could easily overcome.
Fast forward to the outcomes: both were exactly as the person predicted/believed it would be.
When hearing the news of Relative A’s death over the weekend, I had a moment of sadness that they didn’t allow in healing or a different experience. Then I immediately realized what an arrogant thought that was for me to have. Who am I to say that he didn’t have the exact experience that his Soul desired? Maybe he was really ready for death, and this was his most elegant way of vacating his body. Maybe through the dying process, he learned a lot about himself and received more love from his family than he ever thought possible.
I completely honor when people choose to die, and yet here I was with some judgment that I didn’t even realize I had.
No one can truly know the reasons why someone chooses to go through the experiences that they do. Notice if you assign judgment or blame, or even worse, shame. Making someone else, or even yourself, feel badly that they/you got a certain disease, or they/you need a certain surgery. Sometimes the very things we deem terrible are the perfect catalyst for tremendous spiritual growth. Relative B isn’t any better than Relative A because he beat cancer, he just had a different path.
When I checked on him, Relative A was in the light and filled with joy and freedom. And he received incredible gifts in the way he chose to die.
So again, notice your thoughts and even if difficult, change them to honor what another needs and is going through. You don’t know better how another’s life should go, just like they don’t know better than you how yours should go.
Be the love and hold space for another the way they need, even if it’s the opposite of what you would do.
I’ve heard from so many of you that last week was intense and emotions were high. Not only for you personally, but from what you were witnessing in others.
Since you cannot change others, sometimes you need to just walk away and breathe. Don’t engage crazy (see previous blog); take the high road. And when it comes to you, be cognizant of your own emotions.
The only way through an emotion is to feel it. Fully. Don’t judge it, nor try to bury or deny it. Sink into the feeling of it, no matter how uncomfortable, and express it. Ideally to yourself through speaking it or journaling it, or simply being with it. You will release it by allowing it.
Whatever you do, don’t take it out on others by venting or dumping it on them; be responsible with your feelings. If you need to talk it out with another, then do so to understand the emotion, not to simply purge it into another’s space.
Recognize that the emotion may not feel rational because it may not be in present time; maybe it’s been repressed and is now coming to the surface to be released. If it feels that way, ask the emotion where it comes from and then sit quietly and be open to any images or flashes of insight from your subconscious. A full memory may surface, or snippets of awareness.
If it’s from a painful time, again, don’t try to shove it back down and repress it. If you really don’t want to keep feeling it, you need to accept it. For example, while breathing it out say, “I accept I feel incredible fury because of X. I honor this fury and release it now with every exhale. I choose my freedom and inner peace in its place.”
Imagine the emotion as a color that you exhale out from your whole body, specifically the places it’s been trapped, and then see the energies you want in its place- in the example above, freedom and inner peace- as a color and breath those in. If you don’t know where it sits in your body, that’s fine. Don’t get in your head with it, just accept and release it. If you resist it, it’ll be like glue in your space.
You may need to repeat that multiple times until the emotion dissipates and transforms.
Also be aware that there’s a difference between, for example, anger, rage, fury, and hostility, just like there’s a difference between sadness, grief, disappointment, and despair etc. Sometimes anger is simply anger and sometimes it’s really i.e., vengeance. The more you can call out the exact truth of the emotion versus just blanket words such as anger and sadness, the easier it is to release it down to its core.
If you need, look up synonyms for the main feeling and see which resonates as the real emotion.
Remember as well, grounding yourself is key when emotions and chaos are high. Yes I’m a broken record, but earth energy and connecting to the planet can transmute emotional intensity. Think of the energies right now like a tornado; it’s easy to get swept up in them. You can either be flying around, feeling out of sorts, crabby and tired, or you could be grounded, in your body, and feeling the tornado as simply a light breeze blowing past. Grounding will help prevent you from short circuiting due to emotional overload.
The more you can honor the truth of your experience, the easier it’ll be to transform it into something lighter. Remember, feeling the emotion is key. You don’t need to stay with it or wallow in it, but do feel it fully in order to move through to the other side, where freedom and beauty awaits.
As it’s a magical day, 2-2-22, and yesterday was the start of Chinese New Year, let’s take a moment to dream and send those dreams out into the world.
3 dreams: something to manifest for yourself, something for someone you love, and something for the world.
If you could wave a magic wand and it would miraculously happen, what would you desire?
Before you begin, put yourself in a state of expansion, of happiness. Let this be fun, not serious and heavy. Think of something that makes you smile and bring that uplifted energy into your creations.
Think of your dreams and put them in 3 separate bubbles. See/imagine them floating in front of you. The bubbles can be iridescent, or maybe they each have a specific color. If you know the details of what each creation looks like, add those. If you don’t, then add the qualities you desire from each dream- i.e.- greater freedom, radiant health, joyful accomplishment, peace, etc.
For example, let’s say you know you want radiant health, but you don’t know the specifics beyond greater vitality and energy. Into your bubble, put the image of yourself doing something physical, while having greater energy and vitality. If you can’t imagine that, then just put the energies in. Don’t worry about “how” to do that, just imagine that those energies infuse your bubble. Or see them as a color and fill the bubble with that color.
Now let’s say you know the specifics of a dream; it’s very detailed. Great, flow all those specifics into your bubble.
Make sure you also see the desired outcome and the joy and happiness at receiving it. When it comes to your dreams for another or for the world, you can see the one you love sharing great news with you, and maybe for the world, you see a news headline saying that what you wanted has come to pass.
When you’ve added all the above, imagine golden sparkles of celebration flowing into each bubble.
Then say, “These dreams or better, now manifest for me, for X, and for the world, in the highest and best way, for each of our individual highest and best good, with harm to none.”
Now release those bubbles and watch/imagine them floating up and into the ethers, landing right into a stream of pure Source energy, where they’ll flow to the perfect place in space/time to pop open and rain miracles down for you, for the other, and for the world.
This is the perfect time for you to be the visionary and help incredible new dreams to manifest. A magnificent future awaits.
Me, Tina Germain, just sharing ways to make you the best you can be!