Since I alluded to this in last week’s blog, let’s talk about the power of forgiveness and why it’s so important.
You can’t change anything in your reality unless you are willing to take responsibility for it. On some level you created it, so you need to own that; “I acknowledge my part in this.” Yes, it could be something deeply buried in the subconscious or unconscious- it doesn’t matter, what matters is that you own it. Once you own it, you can actually change it. But first, forgiveness is in order.
Forgiveness is the final step before making a change, and the most powerful one at that; forgiving yourself for why ever you allowed/created the situation in the first place. And that may not be clear, you may have no idea why it’s in your reality. That’s ok, just forgive it. Forgive yourself, and forgive the situation. If you have an understanding, all the better, then you can be specific in your forgiveness.
Let’s say you’re dealing with a health issue. You could say, “I forgive myself for why ever I created or allowed this health scare. I forgive any blocked emotions that got stuck in my body. I forgive and release past traumas that allowed this in. I forgive where I didn’t take care of my body or treat it kindly. I forgive you body, and I forgive me for what I shoved into you. I forgive and release the pain I feel.”
Same with a situation that causes you distress. Remember, you cannot change anyone else; all you can do is take ownership for your part. Start with forgiveness: “I forgive myself for this creation, I forgive myself for allowing this person/situation into my life. I forgive myself for keeping myself stuck in this pain and inhibiting my freedom. I forgive whatever part of me is getting something from keeping this upset alive. I forgive anywhere that I feel I deserve this. I forgive my fears and where this is keeping me from greater love in my life. I forgive my attachment to this.” Etc.
You can forgive any and all aspects of yourself, and any and all emotions involved. “I acknowledge and own that my rage contributed to this. I forgive myself for that, I forgive my rage. I forgive where I have refused to let it go. I forgive myself for harboring resentments over this. I forgive myself for staying stuck.”
Then, most importantly, “As I forgive all of this, I am willing to be different now. I am willing to allow in love and healing. I am willing to see things differently. I am willing to let this go and be new.”
The forgiveness cannot be hollow, nor can it be just words. Really feel the energy of release. It might take repeated focus. It could have taken years, decades, or lifetimes to have this issue explode out, so don’t judge yourself if it takes time to heal it. But start by forgiving it and forgiving yourself. It’ll set you free from your prison.
Lately, every time it seems that we’re finally over some hurtles, more crazy energies appear, knocking us into more crisis and chaos. I’m certainly feeling it, and I know many of you are. So what’s the best way to cope when you feel like you can’t keep up and it’s all so overwhelming? Take your power back.
You’ve heard me say it over and over; I am always reminding you to take your power back from wherever you gave it. So what does that mean? Well, anytime you think something/someone has control over you or your situation, you gave your power to it. You allowed it/them to determine your mood/outcome/thoughts, instead of you creating your reality. It’s an illusion that they have the power and authority over you. The illusion can truly feel real, it can feel like they have the power, but they don’t. You always have a say. You can change your outlook, work through why you created/allowed the situation, forgive everything possible, and take your power back.
One place many people give their power to is the government, especially where taxes are concerned. And because they are the “authority” it seems like you just have to submit. But that’s false.
Over a decade ago I was audited. I made one error and they came after me, guns blazing. But I refused to allow them my power. I took my power back before every meeting and every phone call. I owned the outcome I knew I wanted and met them head on. And I won, because I wouldn’t give in. I owned my power.
There are so many places where we tend to surrender our power: the court system, bosses, your ex, bills, money, illnesses, doctors, family, religious institutions- the list is endless. You can also surrender your power to curses, or to someone you believe wishes you harm- anything you deem more powerful than you. However, they are only as powerful as the power you give them. Without your consent, on whatever level, the energy dies. You are the ultimate authority in your life, remember that.
Your power is precious, don’t surrender it.
So how do you call it back? Quite easily. This is a method my friend Elizabeth Hyer-Rose taught me a very long time ago: picture whomever/whatever in front of you that you feel has power over you. Say, “I take my power back from (fill in the blank), I take my power back!”
Say it with authority, say it with command, and then inhale that power back into you. I always give a literal intake of breath to suck it in and really show my subconscious that I’m serious about pulling it back into me; it’s mine, it has to come back to it’s source. Now you may need to do this multiple times until you start to feel more energized and empowered. Do it as many times as is necessary. You can also picture the person/situation in front of you shrinking and disappearing every time you call your power back. They will eventually, “poof,” disappear once all your power is back to you. Simple, yet profoundly effective.
Worried about money, take your power back from it. Facing an ex in court, take your power back from him/her. Feeling threatened by your boss, take your power back. There is no limit to where you may have surrendered your power so call it back as you need.
Again, nothing has power over you except the power you give it. Let me repeat that, nothing has power over you, except the power you give it!!!
So stop giving it, and claim and create the outcome you desire. You’re not powerless. As long as you can choose and think and imagine, you can change your reality. So start now. It’s time to live an empowered life!
This past weekend I was in a workshop, and one of the most profound aspects was looking at everything that was light and good about ourselves. It was a lot to take in. We spend so much time focusing on what’s wrong, on what needs fixing, that to stop and receive information to the contrary can be overwhelming, even if we say we want it. It can be much harder to own all of our expanse than our limitations.
Our limitations have kept us safe; we can define ourselves by them. Our stories have been told so many times that they have added weight from that focused attention. But they are just that- stories. And since you are the author of your reality, you can write a new one.
Notice your story this week. Is it one of always being the victim, of things never turning out for you, of everyone being against you, of not mattering because so & so told you that you didn’t? Maybe there’s even nobility in your story; you hold your traumas as a badge of honor, because you have suffered more, been through more. See if you have a nobility in your struggle, and if so, if you feel a righteousness in keeping that alive.
What do you hold onto? What keeps you safe? Rage can be a hiding place, as can martyr, self-pity, or even fear. You see, defining yourself by your limitations, even if you don’t like them, has created a web of safety for you. But to drop that and say, “So & so was wrong, I do matter!” requires courage and a willingness to step beyond the bounds of what has helped your life make sense up until now. It takes much more courage to let go and step into your light, than to keep the old patterns alive. To say, “Hey wait, I define me, not something my parents/teachers/friends did/said to me.”
To step beyond the bounds of safety requires courage and a willingness because what lies beyond your parameters is incredible love. You may say, “Yes, bring it on,” but truly, if it were so easy, you would have done it by now. We are always stretching and growing, reaching to become more so start simply and notice one story, one hiding place of habit or compulsion, that keeps you in the past and out of the present. Choose to be done with that chapter. Start a fresh one. Write the story you want to tell about your life. Be the hero in your journey versus a supporting player. It’s time to author your masterpiece!
As this Abraham quote points out, what do you have to fear, you are literally Divine energy:
"The power is within you. You are extensions of this powerful Source Energy. You are literally God expressing in this physical body."
“Fear is the absence of love.”
I love this quote. This is from Marianne Williamson and I find it to be incredibly true.
Everywhere that you’re in fear, you have disconnected from the truth of love, from the truth of oneness. Your fear put you into the ego mind of separateness. And in that place of separateness, the light can’t enter.
When you feel tremendous fear, in whatever area, and it won’t seem to budge, notice if there’s a way you could allow more love. For example, if you’re fearful about something that’s coming up, and the fears get overwhelming, decide to bring love in – meaning, if love was leading the way, you would trust that everything was working out in your highest and best good, you would know that you are always divinely taken care of and supported, you would allow peace to envelop you versus trying to control or manipulate or force something. That would be bringing love into a situation.
Remember my recent blog, you’re not your body, nor are you your mind. You are infinite consciousness: beautiful, radiant, love. And the more you can identify with that truth of yourself, that expanse, the more you’ll be able to let go of your fear stories.
Just play with this this week- notice if you go into fear, remind yourself there’s an absence of love in that interaction/situation/circumstance, take your power back from it, remember who you really are, center yourself, and invite and allow the energy of love to come in. Love conquers all fear.
Me, just sharing ways to make you the best you can be!