There’s nothing wrong with slowing down and simply being. In fact, it’s necessary. 
 
You're not awful/selfish if you take care of yourself first before helping others. You are the priority and as such, you need to put the oxygen mask on first.
 
Your value does not lie in what you produce and achieve. Your value lies in who you are in your heart. Who you are as a soul.
 
Do not compare your path to that of others. Your timing is unique to you.
 
You are good enough, you are worthy, and you matter.
 
It’s necessary to have fun, it’s not frivolous. Do more of what feels good and makes you happy.

​
 

In today’s busy world, how often do you stop to just be? Stopping all doing and just… be; be present, be in the moment, be still, be. For most of us, the answer is rarely, for some, never. Yet there is immense power in being. For one thing, it brings you into present time, into the now. That’s where your power lies, as does your ability to manifest. It can also activate or enhance your imagination. All creation begins in your imagination. If you allow yourself to just be, this area can get stimulated, leading to greater clarity and wisdom for when you eventually do.
One of the greatest obstacles to being is the lack of value society has given to it. All value is placed on what you did, what you accomplished, how much you got done. But without the balance of being in all that doing, you can get overwhelmed or burnt out. Being is necessary for sanity and peace. It can be difficult for people to understand, who want to know how to do being; “ok, I’ll just be. But how do I do that?” We’re conditioned to go, go go.
If you are willing, stop for a moment and just breathe. Notice your body, notice your breath. Maybe go to the beach and stare at the waves or the sunset. Or sit outside and watch the trees move in the wind, or the hummingbird as it flits from flower to flower. If you want to get super crazy with it, spend hours just daydreaming; staring at the clouds or off into space, just imagining. Can you do that? Can you give yourself that gift of beingness? The rewards will be extraordinary if you can. Because in that state of being, you align yourself with the more of you, and with your dreams, desires, and wishes. It is from that yin state of being that you can more easily receive the answers you are looking for, as well as the way to move forward.
So the next time you’re stumped as to your next step or why something keeps occurring, and especially when you’re overloaded, stop, take a breath, disengage with the doing and enter the being. Allow your Soul that quiet space to speak to you. From here, once you’re ready, you’ll be able to re-engage the world with confidence, and clarity.