Fear is up hard core right now for those across my state of California and for those in the world.
Fear serves both the positive purposes of keeping you safe and giving you messages, and it can also become negative and spiral you into panic, knocking you out of your body and into darkness.
As hard as it can be when fear is high, the more present you are and the more you can ground yourself, the better you’ll respond to what’s happening. Now I understand that’s not always possible. Sometimes fight or flight is absolutely necessary. I’m talking here about the times that you can do something other than meltdown and feed the panic.
Here are seven techniques to help:
1: Take your power back.
Do not give it to your fear; do not feed your fears. As a present time example that you can apply to anything in your life, I have chosen to glance at the news only a couple times throughout the day to get my fire updates, and then I ignore it and take my power back and re-write the headlines as I choose to see them. I am not being ignorant; I am deliberately choosing to stay empowered in the face of hysteria and rising dread. I literally call my power back and own what I do want versus what I don’t. I become even more determined in my end goal when I do this.
To read a previous blog on how to take your power back, click here.
2: Transform fear.
This is based on a Lazaris technique.
Close your eyes and ask your Higher Self to join you and to help you, even if you have no concept of them. Now imagine that you can take your fear out of your body and place it in front of you. See what it looks like: see its shape and color. Really get into seeing it, imagine it fully; maybe it has a texture, maybe it has a sound. Notice this. Now ask your Higher Self to help you transform your fear. Imagine all the color and the shape being pulled apart and suctioned up into the light of Divinity. Don’t get stuck on how to do it, simply watch it breaking apart, watch the threads being dismantled as it goes into the light.
Now imagine your Higher Self reaching into the light and bringing down raw, shapeless, colorless energy. The raw power that was once your fear, is now able to be transformed into new energy. See it transforming into its new shape and new color. See it growing and become aware if it has sound and texture. Allow the new shape and color to be one that opens your heart and helps you feel strong. When it is complete, bring the new shape into your space and feel yourself standing tall and empowered as you embody all that raw beautiful love and light.
3: Ground yourself.
Your personal fear and panic will knock you out of your body. If you’re in an area with collective rising panic and terror, that will knock you out as well. If you have the wherewithal and are not directly impacted, then the more grounded you are, the more you can help ground the fear and panic in the area. Listen to last week’s meditation and add in a part where you literally ground the panic in your area. Imagine a grounding cord under the areas of trauma and ground all of that panic and fear floating in the air. Imagine the white light raining into those places, soothing and calming people. You be the one to do it when others can’t. You be the change. For those who are empathic, you especially need to be grounded.
4: Hold the vision of the reality you are choosing.
Yes you are part of the collective, but you are also an individual. Use your will and your determination to stay strong in the outcome that you are choosing. Even in the face of obstacles and people that tell you otherwise, keep owning what you do want regardless of how many people are panicking and telling you it’s not possible. Everything is possible. Do not get swept up in adding your voice to the fear chorus. Own a different reality even if you are the only one holding that vision. There is tremendous power in taking a stand for the light.
5: Face your fears:
What’s the worst that could happen? Go there. Imagine it in detail. Confront it. Play it out. When you get down to the deepest, worst bottom that could happen, look around and notice that you’re still there, you’re still standing, you aren’t destroyed, you are more than that imagined outcome. In that core of destruction, find the kernel of your light hidden amongst the ruins. It’s there, look for it. Find it. Grab it. Own it. Allow it to expand. It’s the truth of you. Feel it fill you with power, fill you with light, fill you with the truth of who you really are. You are not this body, you are not this reality. You are infinite. When you step into that truth, you are unstoppable. Feel into that. Own yourself as an expansive being of light and move forward from there, imagining what you do want to create for your reality.
6: Breathe into your solar plexus
This is a technique that Dr. Sue Morter teaches. Solar plexus breathing helps stabilize the mind and is very effective when you’re afraid something big is coming your way and when you feel overwhelmed. It helps you transcend your fears.
First, do the deep belly breathing I had you do in last week’s meditation. That’ll calm the emotional body. Next, I want you to focus on the area of your body above the naval where the ribs splay apart. You are going to isolate your breath to this area. It takes practice. You will not want any movement in either your upper body, nor in your belly.
In that solar plexus area, as you inhale, imagine that area expanding to the size of a grapefruit, and as you exhale, imagine the area becoming the size of a baseball. Continue breathing this way until you notice a calm come over you.
If it’s hard to isolate that area, you can pull your shoulder blades together and down and contract your pecs, like you’re going to do a push-up.
Again, there should be zero movement in the shoulders or lower abdomen.
Keep practicing until you get it, it’s extremely effective.
7: Be in the present moment.
My kinesiologist taught me this years ago, it’s a way to physically anchor a statement into the subconscious and the body. The statement we’re going to use is, “I choose present moment, present time.” You’ll say that at least three times in a row and up to ten times if need be, tapping around your left ear. You can say it as often as needed. I made a video to help explain it, watch it here.
I wrote this blog because of the palpable panic in Los Angeles, but these techniques can apply to any situations of natural disasters or personal illnesses and fears. Again, sometimes if you are directly impacted you will not have the wherewithal to do these things, which is why it’s important to always reach out for help when you know that you’re swept up in terror and can’t step into a place of power.
Do not make fear your enemy, befriend it, because sometimes its lessons are very important, and sometimes, you must take your power back from it.
Today I’m giving you a meditation for grounding. It’s based on a technique I learned in my early 20s at the Marin Psychic Institute. Over time I've refined it and added components from both Lazaris and Dr. Sue Morter. I do this each and every morning.
It is imperative that you ground. Earth energy calms anxieties, as well as the frenetic energy of society, and all the craziness of computers and EMFs.
I have been noticing for the past few months that my 8th chakra has become integral to my grounding practice, and wonderfully, I heard a FB live this past weekend from Belinda Davidson, a psychic with whom I have taken classes, and she said the very same thing. So clearly something is going on that we need a deeper level of anchoring given all the chaos on the planet.
So here is an introduction to get you grounded and into your body. You need to be in your body to both create your reality, and to experience the fullness of life.
I have more I can teach you and add over time, but for now, master this and your days will completely change.
Move at your own pace; life is not a sprint, it’s not even a marathon, it’s a long distance journey. On that journey, sometimes you will take side paths to explore. None of those paths are bad or wrong, regardless of what you might think. You will always ultimately reach your final destination, and along the way, each path of exploration teaches you more things you need to know.
Back to the beginning statement: there’s talk out there of having to do this to grow and do that expand - do,do,do. None of that leaves room for exploration, imagination, and simply being. Sometimes we’re made to feel ashamed if we haven’t fulfilled certain goals or done things in a timely manner. But whose definition of time is that? There are certain courses and books that will tell you that you have to do all the exercises in X amount of time, and if you don’t, you are meant to feel inadequate or shameful. But doesn’t that defeat the purpose?
There’s enough social shaming going on right now without you shaming yourself.
I spoke of this once before – the idea that you have to journal, meditate, work on yourself here, work on yourself there, fix this, heal that, more, more, more. That feeds your negative ego with the justification that you’re not enough. Yes, absolutely strive to be more, absolutely strive to be a best version of yourself, and make it doable. Pick one or two things that feed your soul and move forward with them first and foremost.
This does not give you a hall pass to slack or be lazy, sometimes it’s good to push yourself and go at a pace that’s faster than you would prefer. You can’t lie to yourself; if you know that the pace that is being set will push you out of your comfort zone, then accept that and rise to the challenge, even if you have to kick and scream at first. Other times recognize that someone else’s pace just doesn’t jive with your rhythm and only harms you, so find a way to do it that best serves you.
It’s your journey, no one else’s. As Marie Forleo says, “Progress, not perfection.”
You’ve heard me say be gentle with yourself but do you?
Sometimes we get mad if we don’t have the energy or stamina to do this or that. That’s not being gentle, that’s being demanding. And our awesome bodies keep up with those demands, until they no longer can and they collapse in exhaustion or illness.
Truly stop for a moment right now, tune into your body, and if it’s saying it needs rest or downtime, would you honor that, or would you push through it and ignore it? What if it said it needed a bath or a gentle walk versus a vigorous cardio/weight routine? Could you do that or would you let your mind tell you to keep going and not slow down? Your mind, which is really the ego here, would love you to be a slave driver to your body and tell you that gentleness is weak and that you’ll fall behind if you don’t do, do, do.
Be aware when you push through fatigue, stay awake longer than you should, and not honor what your body is telling you. You might eat crappy food and then get mad when it can’t digest it. You might get mad at it for not being able to exercise the way you want. How about instead, you value your body and all it does for you? Your body has limits; honor those without getting angry and nasty towards it when it can’t do what you want it to do.
Even if you tell me you eat healthy and listen to your body, how about what you feed your mind? Do you allow negative self-talk? And how about the stress you put yourself through?
There’s a book by David Zerfoss called, Stress is a Choice. Think about that - stress is a choice. It may take a moment to take that in. It may even anger you: what about bills needing paid or having to work or, or, or. Yes, what about them? How do you react to them? They are just things, everything is a choice as to how you react. Nothing is in your control except your thoughts and how you react.
We spend in inordinate amount of time being unhappy about situations and then do nothing to change them. And when we do try to change them, if it doesn’t happen immediately or the way we want, we stress more and take it out on ourselves, out on our bodies, by over indulging or pushing ourselves even harder.
We come into bodies to learn and grow. When you hit pockets of pain on any level, instead of trying to hurt or punish yourself, have love and compassion for what you’re going through. Make friends with your body. It’s supporting you in your growth. It’s not bad. It hurts sometimes and needs rest but that doesn’t mean you should punish it. As you love it and heal it, it can do more of what you ask of it.
I’m not saying it’s easy, I’m saying it’s a mindset shift. Don’t wait for illness or loss to make you slow down and be gentle, take the time and space now that you need for your health. Don’t wait for the catastrophe to get your attention. Focus on your wellness now.
And that starts with what you feed your mind and how you honor your body and it’s needs.
Fall is here- naturally bodies start to slow down, getting ready for winter. Even if you live in a sunny environment, you can still honor the rhythms of life and go within more.
You are valuable regardless of what stories you tell yourself or what anyone else has ever said to you. So value yourself, value your life, and value your body.
Me, just sharing ways to make you the best you can be!