​Many of us (yes, I’m raising my hand too) have an issue with over-thinking: going into a mental spin and working ourselves up. 
 
Sometimes it’s with the overwhelm of all we need to accomplish, sometimes it’s because we’re taking things personally that aren’t personal (nothing is personal by the way), and sometimes, it’s because we’re taking on too much/doing too much/trying to control everything. 
 
These are just a few examples, the point is, we over-think things to death. We harp on issues of, “What did he mean when he said that to me?” or “Everything must be done perfectly, or it’ll be a disaster!” or “I have so much to do, I don’t have time!” 
 
(By the way- lack of anything- time, money, energy- is a huge precursor to the mental spin.)
 
We think, think, think, trying to find the solution, but what does all that thinking bring about? Stress. Nervous system overload. Feelings of powerlessness.
 
Because in that swirl of mental energy, we lift out of our body, and into the fast-moving chaos of the mind. We become ungrounded.
 
When we’re ungrounded, we’re more apt to be reactive, unfocused, scattered, anxious, and fearful.
 
Maybe we forget where we put our keys, or we snap at someone asking us a question. Maybe we can’t seem to complete a simple task without getting overwhelmed, or we’re frozen in indecision.
  
There is an elegant solution though. 
 
When you’re in a spin and can’t quiet your mind, focus on your feet. 
 
“What?” you may be saying. “How is focusing on my feet going to help?”
 
Here’s how- by focusing on your feet and really feeling them, you get out of your mind and back into your body. The feet are connected to the root or 1st chakra, which pertains to issues of safety and security. It’s the place from which we ground into the planet and anchor ourselves into our body. 
 
When we’re grounded, we can respond more truthfully and with wisdom to what we need to do. We become more clear-headed and decisive. We can let go of things that really don’t matter. We can be present to what’s in front of us, rather than being in old patterns of behavior or emotions, thereby making empowered choices. 
 
Slowing down and anchoring into the depth of your body brings the much-needed centered calm.
 
As a side note - if you’re used to moving fast, multitasking, and being out of your body, this may feel uncomfortable and off-putting at first, especially as you root into yourself. However, if you can stick with it and breathe through any discomfort, the benefits on every level are profound.

So, right now as you’re reading, pause, take some deep breaths, and drop your awareness into your feet.
 
Maybe you need to wiggle your toes to even sense them.
Feel them on the ground.
Don’t think about your feet, feel your feet.
 
Now, shift your focus between both feet, one at a time. 
Notice the temperature of each foot. 
Notice the width. 
Notice the weight of each foot.
 
Feel your big toes. Put your attention on each of your big toes. 
 
If you start feeling emotional, allow it, and keep focusing on your toes. 
 
Slowly move your attention to feeling your next toe, and the next, continuing until you reach the little toes.
 
Certain toes may be easier to sense than others. Don’t worry if you can’t quite feel some.
 
Now, feel the balls of your feet.
Feel the arches. 
Feel the heels. 
Feel the Earth below your feet. Not in theory, really feel gravity holding and supporting you.
 
Let your feet be heavy - as if they’re in sand or mud and it feels so good! 
 
Imagine roots growing downward from your arches, anchoring you to the planet - spreading wide and deep, steadying you like a tree, connecting you with the strength and calm of the Earth
 
Notice your breathing slows down. 
You begin to feel more settled. 
 
As you feel the soothing, healing, and calming frequency of the Earth- all the chaos releases, and inner quiet arises.
 
Because as you’re grounding your feet, you’re grounding any mental and emotional swirl you’re experiencing.
 
The more you’re settled in your body, the more you’re in your greatest place of empowerment, presence, and peace. 
 
Stay focused on your feet for as long as you need, and when you feel done, move forward bringing this grounded feeling with you into whatever comes next.

You can return to this meditation anytime you need to feel grounded and centered.
 
If you’d like to be guided through this practice, you can follow along with me here on YouTube.
 
Try this the next time you catch yourself spiraling and notice how different life feels when you’re rooted in your body, versus spinning in your head.
 
 
 

The existential crisis of the morning: whether or not to throw away bad fruit!
 
I joke, but seriously- cutting into some nectarines that were just bad brought back a childhood memory of being told not to waste food because of starving children in Africa. There’s so much pressure to follow through, to see things to completion, even when something no longer excites us.
 
It made me realize how often we put up with things simply because we should or because we don’t want to be wasteful.
 
And don’t get me wrong- I don’t like being wasteful. But I caught myself about to eat something that didn’t excite me, and why?
 
I ended up tossing four nectarines that morning and had to give up because they were just flavorless.
 
I think this is a perfect analogy for life. Rather than suffering through something that's just OK, what about holding out for what's fabulous? For what's exciting and pleasurable and flavorful? Releasing that old scarcity/guilt programming and giving yourself permission to have the thing that brings you joy? 
 
Life's too short for bad fruit. Let yourself hold out for the juiciness.🍑✨
 

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This popular piece was originally published here in 2023, but I tweaked it a little. It was calling to be revisited, as many others have been recently... 


​During my morning meditation recently, I found myself thinking about something I wanted to receive. As I thought about what I desired, I realized that nobody was holding me back, except for myself.
Without knowing the how’s or the details of manifesting what I wanted, I opened my heart and felt the energy of self-love, and then expanded the feeling to encompass me.

I sat in that resonance for a moment with the awareness that allowing the Universe to help me receive what I was desiring, was an act of incredible self-love.

Later that day, I was tired and started to create a flimsy energy shield for my space before doing client healing sessions. As my morning insight popped in mid-creation, I realized that the most self-loving thing I could do in that moment, would be to create really strong boundaries.
As I created strong boundaries, it felt like a beautiful gift to myself. This led me to ask the question repeatedly throughout my day, and listen to the response.

“The most self-loving thing I could do would be to (fill in the blank).”

The responses might be:
-Take a bath.
-Take a walk outside.
-Read a book.
-Exercise.
-Take a nap.
-Process my emotions.
-Bring the energy of enthusiasm to my workday.
-Motivate to do that creative project I’ve been wanting to do.
-Say no to that event. Or say yes.

It will change moment by moment. But notice how things shift when you honor your needs. Even if rational thought is telling you otherwise.
For example, the day after I began using this question, I felt very strongly that I needed to go outside for a walk and then take a bath. However, my to-do list was huge that day. I listened to my heart, and I took a walk because it was calling to me so loudly. It felt amazing and I was grateful I listened to myself.
When I came home though, I started thinking about everything that needed to be done, with the idea that I didn’t have time for a bath. And yet, I could feel deeply again that taking the bath would be the most self-loving thing I could do.

I had to silence the opposition voice, even though it was extremely loud, and go to the self-loving voice that wisely knew that in that moment, a bath could do more for me than starting in on my to-do list.
Sure enough, my to-do list was much easier to tackle after the bath because I had shifted my resonance after a morning of self-love.

If you want to take this a step further, look at the bigger things you’re desiring and make a list.

“The most self-loving thing I could do would be to …”

For example:
-Free myself from the past.
-Create better health.
-Forgive myself for…
-Take my power back from…
-Heal my relationship with…
-Release myself from the energy of struggle.
-Allow more ease.
-Create more joy.

Keep the list somewhere that you can read daily for a month to reaffirm to your subconscious that this is what you’re choosing to receive and create. Because you love yourself. Because you deserve what will augment that self-love.

Again, don’t worry about how it’ll manifest. Just sit in the frequency of self-love. Let it literally infuse every part of you. Feel your heart open and pour all that love that you’re capable of, into yourself.
If self-love has been a hurdle and you can’t quite connect to that feeling, think of anything that opens your heart — a baby, an animal, a sunset — and turn that feeling towards yourself.

Imagine what would change in your life if you asked yourself this question every day. Because the most loving you can do, for yourself, for your inner peace, for your life, and even for others, is to create self-love first.
 

 

As many of you have noticed, the energy in the world has felt amped up this past week. There’s a lot of noise, both energetically, and in our physical realities. 
 
Noise can show as literal sound and arguments/conflicts, or as over-active thoughts or emotions. 
 
Many of you have expressed feeling hyper-sensitive, raw, exhausted, and experiencing old wounds surfacing.
 
I definitely think something is going on beyond the scenes- meaning energy shifts in the ethers- and on a physical reality level, there are a couple things going on:
 
1-This is a time of transition for many. 
We’re shifting from summer to fall, from vacations to school schedules. A lot of people are kicking and screaming at that shift, wanting summer to last forever.
 
In that resistance, the energy of “lack” can get stirred up- feeling like there’s not enough time, time is moving too fast, or like you have to hustle to adjust to a new routine. All of that can leave you feeling irritable and ungrounded, even if it’s not happening directly in your personal reality.
 
2-The weather.
There’s been an increase recently in solar flares, heat waves, plus the hurricane that’s about to hit the Caribbean. All the extreme weather is stirring up intense amounts of electromagnetic energy, which can also be noisy in your energy field and knock you out. 
 
The antidote to all of it is grounding yourself in present time. Either do the deep grounding meditation I have on YouTube (here) if you want something meditative, or be outside, sitting on the Earth, hugging a tree, walking in nature. Something very rooting.
 
If you’re feeling the effects of the electromagnetic energy, make sure you correct your electromagnetic point (here), and grounding will help. You can also release fear that’s trapped in the body (here).
 
Gentleness with yourself goes a long way. Pause, recalibrate, and do some deep breathing or chanting to soothe your vagus nerve and any fight, flight, or freeze that’s activated (Nervous system technique here).
 
Ultimately, this too shall pass, and in the meantime, stay rooted in your truth and your body, not the noise. That’s where your power is.
 

​After an eye doctor appointment recently, my eyes were so dilated that going outside and being in the light was painful. Full body painful. 
 
It reminded me of when I go into the dark place (previous blog) to help pull out a Soul fragment or do a Soul retrieval. In that place, I have to open the Soul very gently to the light, in micro increments. Too much light right away is extremely painful.
 
It’s the same when you shift out of a really low frequency into a lighter one. Meaning, if you’ve been living in despair or grief or rage, you can't jump right into happiness. It's too much of a leap for your system. It could even cause shame (pain) if you tried because it would be inauthentic and impossible to maintain. 
 
In 2020, I wrote about The Ladder of Emotions and how to truthfully move from constricting emotions, into expansive ones.
 
Since it’s been coming up a lot lately in sessions, the blog asked to be revisited. If you're looking for a technique to support emotional processing and vibrational healing, click here to read.
 
Because sometimes, the most loving thing we can do for ourselves, is to climb slowly.
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Lately, this theme keeps coming up—in sessions, in the membership, even in my own life: how do you show up when you walk into a space?
 
Are you showing up as the version of you shaped by old beliefs and self-talk that leads to shrinking or timidity? Or as the version you’re becoming—the one who walks in empowered and fully owning their worth?
 
I know it may sound like semantics, but I don't think it's a matter of fake it till you make it. Because the “fake” part will be felt by others. It’s like putting on airs versus being in a new truth. There's a subtle difference between showing up in more of your personal power, rather than pretending.
 
Sometimes the pretending works, however, the body doesn’t lie. Energy doesn’t lie. You want to embody the empowerment first. 
 
So, how does one do that? 
 
There’s a brilliant TED talk from Anne Cuddy that I originally posted in 2019 (Link Here). Her research showed that if you stand in the Wonder Woman/Superman pose regularly, you begin to alter how you show up in the world. 
 
We usually work inside out- beliefs to body- but this is a case for working from the outside in, with phenomenal impact. Because it physiologically and psychologically creates a change.
 
Try it, stand in the Wonder Woman/Superman pose for a minute. 30 seconds starts the shift, at the minute mark, you can feel the difference taking root. Stay there for as long as you need to walk confidently into whatever it is you need to do. 
 
Your power isn’t in the proving, it’s in the presence. Stand in it and watch your world transform.


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Over the weekend, I was in the bath, and around 10 minutes in, I started to get super antsy. I couldn't settle down, and I wanted to get out. But I had the wherewithal to recognize that something was being triggered in my body as I started to relax, and I needed to breathe through it. 
 
Within the next five minutes, I suddenly went over that hurdle and was able to settle into incredible calm and peace.
 
It reminded me of how many times in our lives that just before we're about to have the breakthrough, the physical discomfort, distraction, and antsiness comes up to pull us away so that we're not able to get over that hump.
 
But if we just stick with it and ground and breathe and stay present to what's happening, rather than trying to escape, we can turn the corner. We can change the paradigm. 
 
Not always easy, believe me, I was jumping out of my skin at first, but I was grateful for the wise part of me that knew to stay with what is, versus running away from it.
 
This week, catch yourself if you find you’re distracting yourself or you’re super amped up to get out of your body, and instead, signal safety to your nervous system by putting your hand on your heart, focusing on your breathing, and feeling the earth below your feet. Go outside and breathe fresh air. Hug a tree. Walk barefoot in the grass. If you can’t get outside or you need more physical release- shake or hug your body or even jump around or dance it out. Allow the feeling to move through you, rather than trying to suppress or escape it.

Because the only way to release what’s activated is to allow it flow like a wave, instead of stopping it up with a dam. Because when a dam gets too full, it breaks. Take care of your feelings as they arise to ultimately create being more settled and peaceful in your body, and in your reality.

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