It’s time to talk about… The List!
Some of you are familiar with this technique as I’ve taught it to you, or you’ve heard variations from other people. This is one of my favorite tools when creating something new. Essentially, it’s a directive to the Universe, and your subconscious, for a creation you wish to manifest.
The most widely used topics for the list are a new relationship, a new career, or a new job, but really, you could write one for anything.
The fastest I’ve ever seen the list work is a couple of weeks; a client was already going in for interviews and the list made it very clear which job was his actual desire. And my client knew what to ask for once he was specific in his needs because of his list.
The longest I’ve seen is a couple years, but many pieces had to fall into place for that list to manifest. I think there’s something to be said for trusting the Divine timing which is why you create the list and then let it go.
Also, just because you’ve created your list, doesn’t mean you stop working on yourself, quite the opposite actually. You’ve made your list, now who do you need to be to receive your desires? You need to expand into the version of yourself that lives that list.
So, how do you do it?
You may want to make a rough draft first, I always do. Start thinking about the qualities that you desire in your creation. Make notes for a few days. Write everything in present time, as if you already have it.
If you were to meet your ideal partner, what attributes do they have? Think about what’s important to you, what you value, and go from there. Maybe you write, in whatever pronoun works best for you, “She/He/They treat me beautifully and always listen. We have lots of fun together. They are evolved and conscientious. We love to travel together and do so often. They are kind.”
There are some things on your list that you may keep more general such as the quality of being kind, and other things might be quite specific. For example, a client added, “He’s good to my kids and treats them like his own.”
If you’re super specific that your future mate must look a certain way and needs to have brown hair, that’s quite limiting. Go to the qualities versus the appearance.
My husband is my exact list, it’s crazy! And I was pushed into it by my girlfriends, lol. But I imagined what my ideal husband would be like, and I wrote it all out. Six months later, voila. Although I will say I had been working on myself for years to be in the space to have the partner I dreamt of.
As for a new career or job, again, list the attributes such as, “I wake up excited to go to work every day.” Then you can also add specifics such as, “I set my own hours” or “I work 9 to 5” – this is where what’s important to you comes through as everyone will be different. You could also say things such as “I love my coworkers” and “I have unlimited vacation time.” It’s up to you how much structure and how much freedom. Some people like a lot of structure, and some people want none.
If it’s for a job, I recommend adding, “I now make X amount of money, or better.” Always add the “or better,” because why not get more?
Regarding a new career, one of my favorite stories is of a client who during her job search, was willing to branch out into another field. She knew the job would entail writing, but beyond that she was open, so she focused on the qualities she’d love in a new job. Not only did she find an amazing job in a new field that greatly interested her, but her job took her writing skills to advanced levels and opened up a new career path. Because of that shift, years later when it was time to move on, after she made her new list, she found a job that has skyrocketed her career success. And all because she was open almost 10 years ago.
I have another client who’s made her list regarding jobs multiple times, always elevating her career and manifesting her list. It’s so successful for her, that she’s told prior coworkers to do it. She also knew that leaving her last job was taking longer than planned (by a couple years), so even though she had her new list, she realized she wasn’t done with whatever lesson the current job held. She knew she needed to learn the lesson to let go and manifest her new list. And she did.
As I said, do your internal work and trust the Divine timing.
So, how to do it:
-Take a blank piece of paper and hand write your desires to infuse your energy in.
-At the top of the list write, “My ideal _____”
-Then list the qualities/attributes, whatever is most important to you, in present time. Write as much or as little as you desire.
“My husband really listens to me and loves to spend quality time together.”
“Our values are aligned. We see the world the same way.”
"We communicate like adults and can be completely honest with each other."
“My job expands my confidence in my field.”
“I am now Director of Marketing.”
“My boss respects my opinion and implements my ideas.”
“I can work from home.”
"While my work is challenging in an exciting way, when my workday is done, it's done, and I have plenty of time for myself."
-At the end, sign it, date it, and write, “This or better now manifests for me, in the highest and best way, for my highest and best good, with harm to none.”
-Then tuck it away into a safe place- only you are meant to see the list- and TRUST in the process. Let go of control, do the work necessary, and trust.
And share your success stories; I love them and will happily celebrate your wins!!
We all have belief boundaries; you can either be defined by them or expand beyond them, continuing to push the boundaries of what you believe is possible.
It’s like I talked about last week- stretching yourself. You need to do the belief work and expansion necessary within yourself to accommodate big dreams and goals. And this happens in increments.
Like a person who sets a goal to earn a million dollars. They have to do the belief work to truly believe that it’s possible for them. They need to energetically stretch beyond where they currently are to hold more income, success, and if they want to hold onto the money, then release any guilt or resistance that would make it disappear. They need to feel into and match the frequency of that much money. Once they achieve their goal and can handle and own it, they set a higher goal, expanding into more allowing, more willingness, more belief work, and more releasing resistance, as well as increased receiving, so they can now imagine themselves as a multimillionaire.
An intern doesn’t become a CEO overnight. A pilot doesn’t go from training to being Captain of flying huge planes. It’s a process.
One of my favorite stories is of a girlfriend who started as a Production Assistant on commercials. She did her job to the best of her ability and learned everything she could. At a certain point she knew she was ready for more, so she learned all she could about the next level of her career and then claimed to herself, “I’m a Production Coordinator now.”
When companies would come to hire her as a P.A., she’d say, “I’m not a Production Assistant anymore, I’m a Production Coordinator.”
Was that scary for her to claim to people? Absolutely! Did she lose out on work? Totally. But she kept believing it, while saying it to herself and to everyone who tried to hire her. And lo and behold, somebody did. Because they knew how good she had been as a P.A., and they wanted her on the job.
She continued to do that, slowly but consistently over time, up leveling herself whenever she was ready to take those leaps, ultimately becoming an Executive Producer.
Was it easy at times? No! Did that stop her? No! She kept expanding the image of herself to hold more of how she saw herself in the world and the jobs she knew she could do, as well as keeping that end goal in mind of where she was headed. It wasn’t comfortable, it wasn’t easy to turn down work, but she kept doing it every time she was ready for an expansion. She would learn all she could about her next step, and she kept expanding her beliefs to believe it was possible for her.
If there’s any part of you that says, “well she could do it, but I can't,” that’s a lie. She wasn’t superhuman, she didn’t have an in in the industry; she did the internal work.
This holds true for any goals and dreams you have from career to finances to health to relationships.
Every action and expansion, no matter how small, leads towards your end dream. But you have to participate by believing it’s possible and you have to keep stretching your imagination beyond your comfort zone.
See yourself having the end dream and feel what that feels like. You got this; I believe in you!
Sometimes after manifesting the creation of big dreams, there can be kickback from our negative ego and other lesser aspects of self. This happened to me last week.
I was able to create something huge I’d been working on for 7 years in my personal healing process. It was amazing! And yes, while it took 7 years, I don’t go into self-judgment.
If you’re working to heal a major issue that may even have aspects from past lives, it takes time.
Which is a reminder to those of you who want a quick fix or want to heal immediately. That doesn’t always happen, especially when there are layers.
It doesn’t mean I wasn’t impatient or angry at times; I certainly was. And I kept doing the emotional, mental, spiritual, and physical work necessary to achieve my goal.
The key is to focus on the end goal and how you’ll feel once you have the thing you desire. And never give up, even if things seem impossible. There’s always a way.
I found the next successive way each time I was ready to heal on a deeper level. Whenever I’d take a step up in receiving, a new way would open. Plus, I worked the layers and layers of shame that questioned why the issue was still happening and what was wrong with me that I wasn’t healing. Shame and judgment must be released because they’re roadblocks to recovery.
So back to my original premise - I achieved my goal; it was spectacular. And the next day, I got slammed with a physical infection. It knocked me out and at first, depressed the hell out of me and made me feel like a failure. There was that shame again. I achieved my goal so why did this happen?
Interestingly, two people, one being an Urgent Care Doctor, reflected back to me that it was just a blip, just old stuff releasing. It didn’t mean I was back to square one. Not at all.
As I took that in, I realized this was kickback. Kickback is when you create something fantastic and the next day or soon after, something negative happens. It can feel like 2 steps forward, one step back. But kickback can be cleared so that it’s full steam ahead.
Kickback occurs because you’ve stretched into becoming more. Think of yourself like a rubber band- you’re so used to being a certain shape that when you do something amazing and expand by leaps and bounds, your shape snaps back to close to where it was before as that’s your normal.
You’re not bad and wrong, you’re simply used to a specific frequency of being, one that your negative ego, inner child, or inner adolescent etc. are used to. When I became more of my light and my love in achieving my goal, parts of me couldn’t hold that expansion, they snapped back.
The next morning, as I grounded myself, which is super important to be IN your body, I expanded my space. I acknowledged the kickback, took my power back from it, forgave and released all the energies involved, and visualized and imagined expanding my space- my energy field and the energy in my body- to hold this new success. I saw myself stretching my boundaries and I even used my hands to push out more space around me. To hold my success and allow it to grow. To allow for more success- greater and grander success. Since I was rooted to the earth, I could help my body safely feel the expansiveness I was choosing to create. And it felt wonderful.
Illness wasn’t there to stop me, simply to remind me to release what no longer serves me and be more of my light. To forgive on a deeper level and own the reality I was choosing to create.
I will add a side note: I know some of you are beating yourselves up for getting sick; illness happens. It may not always be kickback, maybe it’s the need to stop and be for a while. Maybe it gives you space to focus on yourself versus others. Maybe there’s a deeper healing message that you need to receive. As I said above, let go of judgment and surrender to the self-love required.
As for me, I took time off last week and let myself rest and heal. I gently continued to visualize that I was expanding into more, while giving myself the time necessary to integrate my new change.
Whenever you create a fabulous personal healing or success, stretch your space immediately to help you hold that new reality, before kickback can happen. And if it does happen anyway, take it as a sign that you’ve really grown way beyond who you were before, which is a wonderful thing.
A little gentleness goes a long way when healing yourself. Give yourself that gift as you stretch and grow into more of your truer self.
It’s the peak of summer which means, create time to relax and enjoy the season.
You’ll always have a myriad of things to-do, but remember when you were a kid, and a summer day could last forever? That’s because you were so present and in the moment with what sounded like fun. There were games to play, things to imagine, and the joy of simply being outdoors. You’re never too old or too busy to create a magical summertime experience. Even if only for a day.
I just came back from the Midwest and had the pleasure of watching a couple of rainstorms during the day, and in the evenings, smiling at the fireflies.
Take some time off and be. Read a book, daydream, find a hammock to take a nap; slow down.
The more you slow down, the more you catch up to yourself energetically, while also experiencing the healing frequencies of the earth; something bodies love.
“I am valuable, even if I’m not doing anything.”
“It’s safe for me to slow down, relax, and be unproductive.”
“My worth is not based on my productivity. My worth is based on who I am.”
“It’s good for me to have fun!”
Summertime joy awaits, create it now.
That’s a doozy, isn’t it?!
Sometimes it’s the absolute hardest thing to do, and yet, it’s the thing that will release you.
Ask yourself what you can actually be responsible for changing in yourself and your reality, and where you need to accept a person or situation for exactly as it is, versus fighting to change/fix it.
Like the serenity prayer:
(Substitute “God” for Universe, Source, Divinity, Goddess- whatever speaks to you)
God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
The courage to change the things I can,
And wisdom to know the difference.
When you stop fighting what is, and you accept it for what it is, you can find your freedom.
Not what you hope it will be, not what you wish it would be, simply acceptance of what is.
Yeah, I get it- easier said than done sometimes! And I’m not saying roll over in apathy or don’t work to create a different outcome. You need the discernment to know what you need to accept and what you need to change.
Ask yourself what color you think acceptance is. There are no wrong answers. Right now, think of what color you think acceptance is.
Think of a situation or person in your personal life that you’re having a really hard time accepting.
Imagine flowing that color into that situation or person.
You’re not flowing it to change them, because they may not change. You’re flowing it to change your perception of them and where the lack of acceptance is holding you prisoner in your reality.
Once that’s complete, ask yourself what you most need, beyond acceptance. Maybe it’s rest, maybe it’s creative time, maybe it’s being out in nature or exercising, or maybe, it’s the strength and courage to take action to heal the situation or relationship.
After all, nothing changes until you do. Accept that.
Freedom… it’s certainly been up for debate recently, hasn’t it?
And yet, in this country, we have the freedom to debate freedom. That’s a gift. Many in the world don’t have that luxury.
As I’ve reminded you before, you’re both only as free as you allow yourself to be, and as those around you are.
What do I mean by that?
We each create our own individual reality, and simultaneously, we’re part of the whole. If you take away the freedom of some, it negatively impacts and diminishes the energy of freedom for the whole.
When external freedom and choice is limited or taken away, internal freedom of choice becomes even more necessary and powerful.
If you want to see more freedom in the world for everyone, start with yourself. Release yourself from your limiting beliefs, thoughts, and feelings. Notice where you constrict yourself and choose greater freedom instead. Ask yourself, “Does this belief/thought serve my highest freedom or not?” If not, make a new choice.
You have the freedom in every minute as to how you respond, how you act, and what you focus on. You’re free to choose if you show up in love, or in hate. In compassion, or in judgment. In acceptance, or in rejection.
To be truly free, you need to free yourself from your internal prisons so that you can bring more of your light into the world.
The world needs the ever-lifting energy of freedom. Together, let’s imagine that expansive energy sweeping through our personal realities and the world as a whole, transforming darkness into light.
In sessions if I’m doing a Soul retrieval, I need to go to a very dark place, a dark place where the pain has gotten stuck. It can be easy to get stuck in that dark place, a place of perpetual pain, hurt, and despair.
When I begin to pull someone out of the dark place, when the light touches them, it’s painful. That high level frequency of pure love and light is too much for the intense darkness. It doesn’t want to be in the light, and yet, it’s the very thing that can bring profound healing.
In a frequency of incredible love, I always witness as the person’s Higher Self and The Goddess herself, take over to pull that Soul aspect out of the dark place and into the light.
While there’s the initial pain and resistance, once that aspect of Soul is held in the light again, it completely transforms. It becomes powerful and radiant. It simply forgot what it was like to be an aspect of the light. Once transformed, once integrated back into the whole, it won’t go back to that illusion and dark place of separateness.
On a greater level, always feel your feelings fully and excavate them so they cannot control you, but don’t get stuck in them. Especially the dark ones. Because the longer you stay in the dark, the more you forget there’s a possibility of light. And not only does the world need your light, but you need to remember your light.
Within that light is your love, your happiness, your joy, and your ability to be stronger and more powerful than any darkness going on in the world.
Imagine a world in which we all did that, in which the energy of love was so strong it eradicated the darkness by its very presence.
Open the door wider to the light. Welcome it, accept it into your heart. And then let it be bigger than the darkness.
Happy official start to Summer!
Color Oracle choices won the vote from last week’s blog by a landslide. Thank you to everyone who voted!
This time, I heard very clearly that the colors do not correspond to the chakras like last time. The colors are simply the highest healing frequency for you at this moment and whichever you choose has the message you most need during this time of Summer Solstice (or Winter if you’re South of the equator).
While I have an obscene amount of oracle decks (yes, I am obsessed), usually the same ones like to show up when pulling for everyone. But today, some of the more quiet ones wanted to talk to some of you.
There's an overall hopeful feel to the messages which bodes well for the Summer.
Before choosing: breathe, center yourself, get out of your head, open to your gut intuition, then ask yourself which color has your message.
Note: some of the colors were very specific what shade they are this time. Green is forest green, blue is turquoise blue, and rose pink decided to join the group. And she was specifically rose pink, which is a deeper pink.
Have fun and happy picking!!
Red Oracle Card
Rose Pink Oracle Card
Orange Oracle Card
Yellow Oracle Card
Forest Green Oracle Card
Turquoise Blue Oracle Card
Purple Oracle Card
I was at a very loud and overly crowded event the other night that didn’t have food I could eat, which wasn’t a good thing when I was already hangry.
It made me think: remember when you were little, and you’d have a meltdown if you were overly tired, hungry, or stimulated? The same happens now to our nervous systems but we ignore them or push ourselves harder, sometimes subbing caffeine or sugar for sustenance and sleep. We think our bodies should be able to handle it. But all that behavior does, is separate us from ourselves and rev up our bodies, sending them into consistent fight or flight. No wonder many people deal with adrenal fatigue or burnt-out energy systems.
So, how to help your nervous system when it’s overstimulated? Well, if you realize you’re somewhere that’s too much, do what I did and leave. Get yourself proper nourishment and then do some energy clearing:
1st- Breathe. Come back to yourself. Spending time deep breathing and connecting to your body will instantly start the calm.
2nd- Clear the energy. You know I love the Archangel Michael prayer (here) and definitely separate out energy. Make sure you call your energy back to your body, give back what you took on, and energetically disconnect from the night. Either imagine closing the door on it or visualize unhooking from it, seeing yourself drop the hook out of your space. Do something to signify the evening is done
3rd- Ground yourself. You need to be in your body so that your nervous system stops panicking that you’ve left it. Sit on a chair/couch. Put your attention on and feel your feet on the ground. Breathe with your focus on your feet. Slowly move your attention up and feel the backs of your legs on the chair, being supported by the chair. Breathe and sink into your legs. When you're ready, slowly move your attention higher and feel your back resting against the chair/couch. Let your whole body relax, being held and supported by that chair/couch. Allow the energy of gravity to pull your personal energy lower, thus enveloping you in a slower frequency in which you can commune with yourself and release any frenetic energy. Imagine it dropping out of your body and energy field.
Creating a grounding cord thus connecting to the core of earth, and running earth energy will take it a step further if you desire (reminder here).
4th- Imagine a beautiful blue, like the ocean or a waterfall, pouring down your spine, calming all your nerves and your entire nervous system. Allow this peaceful blue to continue streaming in while grounding and breathing. You can even imagine that blue sweeping out anything that’s not yours, sending it down that grounding cord and into the planet to be neutralized. Expand the blue to move throughout your whole body, not just your nervous system. Then imagine the blue filling your aura as well. Be cocooned in soothing blue energy.
Do this until you settle down, feel present, and at peace. Then imagine above your head, a gentle rain of warm golden light coming in to fill, balance, and heal you.
Once everything is complete, make sure you don’t pick up any devices or go online; that could knock you out again. Stay in quiet peace, reading a book, taking a bath or a shower, or going to bed.
Know when you’ve hit your limit and nurture your body versus chastise or push it. Treat it with compassion. The more you do, the more your body and subconscious understand that your body is your ally, thus the more self-love that’s generated.
Since the subject of being enough came up last week as well as in April, to augment it further, just like we did a few weeks ago with mattering, take a moment and repeat the following statements out loud until you feel them land in your gut:
I am good enough.
What I do is enough. Who I am is enough.
My enoughness is not based on anything external or anything I achieve. It comes from within.
It's safe for me to release my fears and doubts and choose to feel enough.
There will always be more to do, learn, experience, AND simultaneously I am enough in this moment, even as I expand into more.
What I give is enough. What I give of my self, my time, and my energy is enough.
Perfection is an illusion; I don’t have to be perfect to be good enough. I can make a mistake and I am still good enough.
What I do for the world is enough. I’m not alone. It's not all on my shoulders to “fix” what I perceive as broken. In my enoughness, I can pause and rejuvenate as needed.
I deserve to actualize my dreams, I am good enough to receive them.
I release all need to prove my enoughness and simply own it as truth. As I do, I show up more empowered and more in my light.
The more I own that I am enough, the more others are lifted into their own enoughness.
I am enough and I am good enough.
Me, Tina Germain, just sharing ways to make you the best you can be!