As we get closer to a Presidential election, I want to remind you of the power of your voice.
Some of you very fervently recognize the power of casting a vote. And some of you hate the system so much, that you don’t care, and you don’t bother voting; you think it doesn’t matter.
I’m here to tell you that it does.
Now before you dismiss me, I want you to look at the bigger message that you’re telling your subconscious when you refuse to cast a vote. Essentially, you’re telling yourself that you have no say. That forces outside your control will decide things anyway, and you are powerless. You’re telling yourself that your voice doesn’t matter. That’s a dangerous message to affirm to your subconscious.
You may argue with me and say that no, it’s simply that you’re fed up, but look below that. Really recognize what you’re teaching yourself about your powerlessness by your inaction.
If you’re a woman, do you know what it took to get women the right to vote? If you truly don’t know the history, then you need to look it up. Women went through awful, awful circumstances to be able to gain that privilege. Do not turn your back on that. There are countries now in 2020 where women have no say. Don’t willing deny your voice.
If you feel apathetic, that apathy will spill into other areas of your life. If you’re mad that your candidate is not up there, it’s not a perfect system. However, you need to truly look in your heart to see who you think has the leadership qualities or the ability to match what you want in a leader. By your vote, you say what you do and do not stand for.
You are no victim. If you don’t like the way things are turning out, then speak up by casting a vote.
Own your empowerment. Your vote matters. Your voice counts.
Today I’m releasing a new grounding meditation. Why you might ask when I’ve done this before? Because we need to be grounded and present more than ever.
It’s not enough to do as I’ve said in the past and just see the grounding cord go into the earth. Now it's necessary to be extra specific and root into the inner core. Many are grounding on a more surface level and thus feeling the chaos in the world, versus the deep, earthy, gravitational healing energy.
In the meditation, I also help get you centered into yourself and disconnected, in a good way, from the amped up energies around you.
This is something you do daily. When you start your day this way each morning, you will respond to people/circumstances from a place of more empowerment. There’s a reason I’ve done this consistently each morning for over 25 years now. It doesn’t mean you won’t have issues come up, but when you’re grounded and present, you’ll be better equipped to handle what does arise.
- Disconnect your current grounding cord every morning, or before each time you create a new one. Life happens and situations may arise that knock you out of your body and in need of a new cord. I imagine my current one easily unhooking from each chakra and from my aura, and dropping away. Then I picture it exploding.
- You may need to create a shield more than once in a day if you take on someone else’s stuff or if you lose your space. Again, it’s not infallible, sometimes you need to re-create it. If you’re in a conversation with a difficult person, make sure part of you is aware that your shield is up. The more you become aware of it, the more you’ll feel the effects.
- I say "shield" versus "protection." Here’s why:
Right now, say, “I need protection.” How do you feel? Maybe a little scared?
Then say, “I need shielding.” Notice the difference in your body.
Saying you need protection weakens your system as if something external can infiltrate and overtake you. Shielding brings you to a state of empowerment within yourself. As if you’re a warrior.
The only other thing I’ll add, is make this personal for you: play with shield colors, grounding styles and colors- find what works best for you. Veer from my map if you desire and create something that resonates and that you’ll do consistently.
Happy grounding and may it help you feel much more present and empowered!
Music: "Cleanse and Uplift," by Marisa Imon
Are you reading these words or already skimming them to move on to the next thing?
You need to ground and be here.
Many of you have heard me say that I noticed a trend when the Covid lockdown started, that I needed to clear these odd cords of energy I was seeing in people’s spaces, tying them more deeply to the news and to the world. And not in a positive way. I was also seeing psychic smacks, for lack of a better way of saying it, in everyone’s space, where the news/social media, was smacking people out of their core, out of themselves, and into fear. You may not have felt fear per se, however maybe you felt anxious, or amped up, and had the need to check your phone/news/social media, more than ever.
Which leads to the other thing I’ve been clearing more continually in everyone: disconnection from self and from Source energy.
With everything going on with the upcoming election, the above is at a fever pitch.
I spent the weekend on a news hiatus, zero social media (which isn’t totally unusual for me but nonetheless), only checking emails once a day, and only checking texts twice a day. I did a very specific grounding meditation in the mornings to make sure I was completely disconnected from the pull to see what was going on in the world. The fervor of news stories had really been knocking me off balance.
I spent the time being creative in a myriad of ways and reading books that I had been wanting to re-read, while actually doing the assignments they gave. I also took the time to simply be and follow the rhythm of the day. I became so present, so calm and very much at peace.
There’s a chapter in Untamed where Glennon Doyle talks about her son changing and not being his joyful, creative self anymore. It was his addiction to his phone that was the root cause.
Now, I don’t want to go on a rant about phones, but I do want you to begin to notice the energy that comes through them, pulling you into fear or rage etc., and out of peace. Getting you focused on all the bad, versus the positive of what you do want to see. Making you feel powerless, versus empowered. Notice if you feel crappy, or crabby, after looking at Facebook or Instagram. Find the places that make your energy drop, versus elevate, and consider looking at those less, or stopping them all together.
I’m not saying be uninformed, I’m saying, maybe you look at the news once a day. Some of you have to have your phones for work or family, but in your off time, do you still have notifications going off, always worried what about what “he’ll” say next, on edge with pandemic news, more engaged with friends or strangers on Facebook or Instagram than the people in front of you? If so, you've been ensnared. You need to disconnect from devices and the energy coming through them, and come back to you.
Some of you will balk at the idea of not looking at your phones for long periods of time, yet give it a try. The first step is to turn off notifications. That “ding” creates a Pavlovian response -they’ve done a myriad of studies on that.
Second, notice if when you're away from your phone you start feeling anxious or unsettled or ungrounded. If so, then there’s a cord from you to your phone. An energetic tie or link if you will. It doesn’t just come through your phone; it can come through your computer too. It’s a way to hook you to the news or social media etc.
The antidote to this is being grounded, disconnecting from externals and connecting deeply with yourself. Be creative. Be in nature. Take time for silence. Do something healing for you.
Next week I’ll be releasing a couple meditations to help you with this. In the meantime, I have other grounding meditations in previous blogs.
Take your power back this week and don’t allow yourself to be controlled by fear/the news/social media. Disconnect from all that makes you feel awful, and focus intently on what makes you happy and what you desire for the future. It starts with you!
The universe is always expanding, there’s always more.
You may think that Source/The Universe/God is punishing you by not giving you love or money, but Source is there with open arms. It’s about something blocked inside of you, versus something happening outside of you.
If you feel angry at the Universe for not giving to you, recognize that the Universe is not sitting there with some arbitrary stick judging who gets to receive and who doesn’t. You need to look at what beliefs, thoughts, ideas, etc. in you that are in resistance, or in opposition, to receiving.
Maybe you’re tied to a story of lack and limitation, or struggle and suffering. Maybe you don’t feel worthy to receive. Is there a part of you that believes there’s a fixed amount of anything, versus an abundance?
Many were raised to see God as a parental/authority figure versus an energy of love. When you personify the Universe to be like your parents or other authority figures were, then anywhere that they withheld love, affection, money, etc., you will subconsciously attribute to the Universe/Source/God. Remember, the old testament god was pretty vengeful. How much did that infiltrate your mind? And even if you’ve worked to overcome that programming, does it still subconsciously influence you?
This is the origin of worth issues that you can’t identify. Especially after you’ve cleared issues from childhood. What better way to control someone, then tell them that they’re not worthy of God’s love and need to spend their life trying to make up for that?
If that triggers you, then you know there’s issues to be cleared.
Really sit with the idea of a loving Universe/Goddess/God/Source that wants you to succeed, wants you to shine, wants you to have your deepest dreams and desires. Can you accept that, or do you dismiss it and go into resistance? Is any part of your body right now tight and shutting down, or are you feeling open and expansive? Your body won’t lie. It’ll tell you whether that’s true for you based on how you feel.
Play with these ideas, and allow yourself to shift perspective. Challenge yourself when you hear yourself spouting beliefs that may have come from your family, your religion, or society. Ask yourself, “Is this true?” And if you do believe it to be true, ask yourself, “Why?”
Truly observe through your words, feelings, and behaviors, if you see the world as finite, or infinite. If you see Source/Divinity/The Universe as withholding/punishing or accepting and loving.
You are incredibly worthy of joy, money, abundance, and love, simply because you exist.
Sit with that this week.
What you believe shapes your world; how about opening to a new set of beliefs around the Universe supporting you, cheering you on, giving to you freely, and your worthiness of love, money, and abundance. It's time to create a new world for yourself.
Right now, with many losing their minds, it’s important to remember to not engage crazy. There are those who thrive on drama, who want to sweep you into their mess, who want to amp up discord. However, as I’ve reminded you often lately, you don’t need to participate.
One of my favorite metaphors comes from my friend Linda Foley. She always told me to stay off the crazy playground. What is the crazy playground you ask?
The way I think of the crazy playground is as if imagining yourself stuck on a carousel, and you just keep circling around and around with either a person or an issue. It doesn’t stop moving, it’s up to you to step off.
How do you know you’re on the crazy playground? When you’re engaging in a battle. When a fight has escalated beyond what it’s even really about. When someone has no interest in looking at their part of their mess and simply wants to blame. When someone is sinking into their own story and refuses any bit of sane advice. When you’re arguing over and over and over and getting nowhere.
It’s anytime you can tell the other person doesn’t hear you, or you’re mired in an old pattern, or with somebody who’s stuck in their negative ego- and you just keep circling around and around and around, and refuse to take the highroad and walk away.
Here’s an example: a client of mine has a mother that always has a crisis going on, always needing something. The mother thrives on drama. She dumps it on my client and expects my client to fix it all. Eventually, through talking about this metaphor, my client realized that she’s constantly on the crazy playground with her mother. Always engaging the crazy by responding to it, and/or resisting it. Resistance still keeps you on the playground. It wasn’t until she took her power back one day and realized that:
A: she was not at her mother’s beck and call and could simply not answer the phone – to which to some of you might say, “well duh,” but to others who know what it’s like when somebody needs you and is continually looking to you for something, that’s not always easy.
And B: when her mom started dumping all of the issues on her, she simply said, “I cannot help you today. I hope you’re able to fix that problem. I have to go now, we’ll talk soon.”
She let her mom know that she would not be there to solve that particular problem, nor any other problems coming up. She held the boundary of her sanity being more important than being on that merry go round of crazy.
There’s not just a merry go round on the crazy playground, there’s also a teeter totter- where someone is always up and the other is always down- a swing set, the monkey bars – they can all be metaphors for however the crazy is playing out.
You won’t always recognize that you’re stuck there. Sometimes you simply think you’re engaging in dialogue or discussion. But notice if it keeps going in circles. Notice if there always has to be a winner and a loser. Notice if you’re so used to it that you don’t realize that you are worthy and deserving of peace and serenity.
Regardless of which vehicle you’re on in the playground, ultimately, sanity comes from disengaging and walking away. Do you want to be right, or do you want to be happy? Do you want tranquility, or do you want conflict?
You take your power back by not only stepping off the merry-go-round, but actually walking to the edge of the playground, opening the gate, and closing it behind you to completely detach and liberate yourself.
In my imagination, the land outside the gate of the crazy playground is serene, peaceful, and beautiful.
You deserve to be there. When you find yourself in the crazy playground, use the imagery of walking out, closing the gate, and then set the boundaries needed, cut the cords, and choose peace instead of chaos. Focus on being the best you that you can be, and don’t give your power away to anything/anyone that disrupts your calm.
If it helps, in your head say, “Not my circus, not my monkeys.”
The more you disengage from crazy, the more you teach your subconscious that you won't allow it in your reality, thereby creating more harmonious people/circumstances in your life.
You are worthy of contentment and well-being.
May you find peace and sanity this week!
I want to remind you that many people are under incredible stress right now and just doing the best they can. Some are overwhelmed with the “simplest” of tasks. Now more than ever, compassion and understanding are needed- for yourself and others.
Everyone has a different reality, watch your judgments.
You don’t know who has a pre-existing condition and is very scared regarding Covid; for themselves or their family. You don’t know who’s lost their job or who still has a job but has taken a massive pay cut. You don’t know who’s trying to work from home while simultaneously helping their kids with zoom classes.
A little empathy goes a long way.
If you’re short tempered, don’t respond. There are many right now who are amping up arguments and negativity; don’t feed into it. Walk away. Read last week’s blog if you need ideas.
Don’t take things personally.
Own your reality and what you want to see. As I reminded you last week, take responsibility for your reality by how you respond. Feed the world, and yourself, your light, your love, your compassion, and your understanding. It starts with you.
For those on the West Coast, and anywhere that you're feeling the effects of the fires out here- which I've heard the smoke has moved across the US and into Europe - the stress, strain, and exhaustion is palpable. Sleep as much as needed, ground yourself when you can, and use a salt bath for your body, or simply your feet, to clear your feet chakras. The energy is thick out here. The smoke is affecting everyone’s ability to connect to the earth. Do what you can, and go easy on yourself and others.
Today I’m sharing a story to illustrate why I’m always telling you that you are responsible for your reality and your personal power:
This past week I was having a lovely Wednesday, everything was falling into place effortlessly and every errand was easy. Then I got to a grocery store that I hadn’t been to since the start of the pandemic. I was in a line for a bit, didn’t see any door monitor, and watched as a person would enter the store when someone else would come out. When it was my turn, as I was about to enter the store, the person who was supposed to be monitoring the door came running over and screamed at me because unbeknownst to me, the person who walked out was an employee dressed in regular street clothes. She did not say this nicely, she laid into me. It was shocking, and I calmly explained that how could I know the situation? She stormed off. Then I went into the store and asked an employee a question and the employee was phenomenally rude. At that point, I lost all neutrality; I was furious and just wanted out of there. I grabbed the few items I needed and left.
I knew I had to clear my space, as I remind all of you, as I could still feel the attack energy from the first person. I said the Archangel Michael prayer and separated out energy, but I still felt awful. I was grumbling and bitching to myself and to my husband via text, that they just ruined my day. And then it occurred to me, why was I giving them the power to ruin my day? It was MY day and it had been going wonderfully. I needed to take responsibility.
Now, am I saying I was responsible for her flying off the handle at me? No! Clearly, she and the other girl were going through something and taking it out on me. I could have continued to take it personally and let it ruin more of my day, but then I would be giving them the keys to my sanity. Uh, no thanks! Neither of them were worth it.
1: Started smacking them all out of my space- literally smacking their energy out, while saying authoritatively to, "Get out of my space!" Remember- own your crown chakra, own your authority. No one else can be in your space unless you let them.
I lobbed both their energies out of my space and back to them (I first cleared it nicely, sent it to the Universe, but that didn’t do it. Sometimes a person leaves their imprint on you and you need to send it back, like you’re playing tennis/baseball/golf).
I then imagined cutting all cords of energy between us- all communications, all energy exchange.
I started sucking my power back in, repeatedly, until I felt lighter.
(I wrote extensively about taking your power back in my previous blog. Read here to learn the technique.)
I started proclaiming that it was my day and therefore I was choosing that the rest of it would be easy and elegant.
After doing these, I completely shifted the remainder of my day; it was back to being wonderful. I owned/created my reality by my response. That’s what I mean by taking responsibility and taking your power back (which is being empowered).
I think this is important to remember because it’s not only in big ways that you give your power away, it’s the daily little things.
You choose how you react in circumstances and who you give the keys to your peace of mind. Choose wisely! If someone awful comes in and tries to take your peace, don’t let them! You are responsible for your reaction and your energy.
Same with the past: are you still letting someone/something in the past determine your reality now? Do the techniques listed; stop dragging the past forward.
And if the four steps above aren’t enough, go into a rage bubble, journal it, scream it in a safe way or beat your bed with a pillow. Get it out of you.
Remind yourself – “I create my reality."
Own your personal power now.
Let’s have fun this week!
This was a packed summer excavating your light and dark shadows, remembering your worth, owning that you’re enough, transcending loneliness, giving yourself permission, recognizing your courage, creating greater freedom, as well as owning your authority. (click on any of those topics to read the blogs if you missed them)
So today- oracle card time!
You have 4 choices. Close your eyes, ask for guidance from your Higher Self, center into yourself, breathe, and then pick the number from 1-4 that most calls to you. Trust that you’ll get the right card for you right now.
If your card doesn’t resonate, dig deeper. There’s a reason you pulled it, don’t just dismiss it. Why did you pick that one? What part of you has a message there? It’s easy to say it doesn’t mean anything, but you picked it; so why?
And if it does resonate, great!
So have fun and choose:
Card number 1
Card number 2
Card number 3
Card number 4
And do something else fun this week. Labor Day is almost here (What?!!! Where did summer go?? Oh right- it wasn’t a typical summer- lol), so what’s fun that you can do for yourself this week??
Fun is a great precursor to creativity, not to mention love and joy.
So go have fun!!
Some of these you will have heard before because they’ve been the themes of other blogs. But even if you know these concepts, have humility (be open) when reading them because you may hear things on a deeper level, or you may be reminded of something you had forgotten.
The top 5 misconceptions about spiritual (personal) growth:
1: It’s all rainbows and unicorns.
There’s a large misconception that if you’re truly spiritual, you have to be positive all the time, you can’t think a negative thought or you’ll create it, and everything is love and light. That’s simply not true.
You’ve read my other blogs, you know you have to deal with your shadow, your ego, your negative patterns and beliefs. You can’t just “poof” them away with fairy dust. While that would be wonderful, you have to take responsibility for, and work through, your dark to truly be more of your light. You can’t just ignore your dark or pretend it doesn’t exist- like a little kid scrunching their eyes shut and covering their ears saying, “La la la, I can’t see you, I can’t hear you.” The point is to call it out and actively bring it to the light.
You’re going to hit days when you’re in pity or rage or judgment. That’s OK, it’s part of the process here on this planet. The goal is to work through those emotions and get yourself back to a centered, grounded, and empowered place. You cannot be positive when you’re furious inside. You have to be honest with your emotions, and yourself, and work through what’s infuriating you. (see previous blog on the ladder of emotions)
So while rainbows and unicorns are fabulous, it’s not what growth is all about.
2: If you’re spiritual, you will be/must be perfect.
Being human is messy, as noted above. You can be super conscious, super present, and still have a day where you’re an absolute mess. You will still have heartache, you will still have traumas. Why? Because you’re human! It doesn’t mean that you’re not spiritual enough, it means that you are spiritual being having a human experience and the human experience goes from the lightest light to the darkest dark. From love and joy, to pain and loneliness. Perfection is a concept of the negative ego, stop trying to attain it and let yourself be the full range of you. With responsibility!
You don’t have to dive bomb into fear that you aren’t doing it “right.”
The negative ego will tell you that you’ll be “fixed,” and nothing bad will happen to you when you’re on a spiritual path. And if it does, you did something wrong, such as your thoughts weren’t pure enough, your chakras weren’t cleaned enough, you didn’t meditate enough- etc etc. These are lies, pure and simple.
You’re worthy, even when you aren’t doing it “right.”
3: Everyone in the spiritual growth community is conscious and doing their work.
I still get surprised by this one every so often; stunned by spiritual "leaders" who spout platitudes and can’t recognize when they’re melting down in their own negative ego.
Everyone is learning lessons the way they need, but it doesn’t mean they’re doing the work necessary to grow. (See previous blog here)
Own your power and trust your instincts. Not everyone has integrity.
“Be careful not to wear your spiritualism as a badge to decorate your ego.” -Author unknown.
There are no better thans. Beware anyone who says otherwise.
4: You’ll be healthy all the time.
I hear this one a lot: “If they’re so spiritual, why’d they get sick?” Or, “How come they can’t cure themselves?” Hello- remember? Human, not God. Being spiritual doesn’t equal perfect health. There may be pain and illness, and that could be part of one’s transformation or the way they’ll best learn and grow. Do not judge them, or yourself, for any illness. You’re not perfect (see number 2). Bodies are dense and yes, they get sick.
5: You work through something once and then you’re done.
There is no end date; this is a lifelong pursuit. You will always be learning and growing because that’s what you came here for! Yes it’d be nice to hit a core issue and think that’s it, you’re forever whole/healed/transformed, but there’s always more.
Before you get discouraged, think of it this way: The Universe is always expanding which means you are too. When I say there’s always more, how about looking at that more as more positive growth versus dealing with more self-pity etc. How about more love you could let into your life, more joy, more creativity? Why not let the more be something fabulous? It doesn’t mean you won’t need to ever deal with i.e. self-pity again, it means you focus on what you want to create once you’ve done your work and released the blockages etc.
Spirituality is having a personal relationship between you and the Universe/God/Goddess/Source. It’s not needing to like tarot cards, crystals, or wear only white. You don’t have to do yoga or do juice cleanses. You don’t have to use certain ways of speaking. You can love all these things or none of them, and it doesn’t change the core of what spirituality is. No one can be more spiritual than another person, that’s simply the negative ego speaking.
Remember, spiritual growth doesn’t mean everything is always easy for you; it means as you do your work, you’ll be able to create much more ease and elegance in your life. And when it’s hard, you’ll be able to recognize why and work through the issues. It doesn’t mean you’ll never get stuck again, it simply means you'll be able to figure a way out.
As August is winding down, I want you to notice how much permission you give yourself.
You are allowed to:
Sleep in late.
Stay up late.
Read all day.
Have zero agenda for the day and just see how it unfolds.
Say no, when you usually say yes.
Say yes, when you usually say no.
Not be productive.
Release your to-dos and just stare at the flowers/ocean/trees.
For some of you, that list will trigger resistance. Your inner critic will not like those ideas. It prefers you to be in control. I know that when things externally feel out of control, you want to control what you can even more. But it’s safe to stop trying to control yourself/everything and allow yourself to be.
Control can be overt, or it can be subtle: the to-dos, the order of them, what you allow yourself to have. You’re not here to reach some intangible goal of being the best through suffering or righteous limitation. You’re here to participate in, and savor life. To have fun. To find freedom and joy in your physicality. To engage your senses.
You’re here for ease, not struggle.
No matter how serious it might seem in the world, that’s when you need to give yourself permission even more for the things you deny yourself: that bowl of ice cream, that glass of wine, cancelling your day for self-care, savoring a juicy piece of fruit or a pastry, lingering in bed after you wake up.
Now obviously, there’s a difference between over-indulgence and what I’m talking about. I’m talking to those of you who control yourselves so thoroughly that you don’t even realize how narrow your definition of what’s acceptable has become. Those who feel “good” when they restrict themselves. Those who’s inner critic is brutal and always beating them up to accomplish/do/achieve/deny.
To those of you, I encourage you to say, “Not today, thank you.”
Many people tend to drive themselves- I know I can. And yet, part of the spiritual lesson right now is to pause. Yes there’s global work to be done, yes the world needs your attention and light, but if you aren’t giving yourself permission to take the time to pause, to be, to disengage and care for yourself, you’ll burn out.
Pause doesn’t mean you don’t care, quite the opposite: you care about what’s happening and you recognize that you’ll be more effective when replenished.
Stop placing limits on yourself and give yourself permission to do the things that would augment your life: hug a tree, walk barefoot in the grass, listen to really good music, color, savor the feel of the sun on your face or a cool breeze on a hot day, bask in the smell of freshly baked bread or fresh brewed coffee- engage all your senses. Give yourself permission to experience life.
Me, just sharing ways to make you the best you can be!