Today I want you to sit with one thought:
“Let it be easy.”
Allow that idea, take it in. Notice where in your life you’re trying to control an issue/yourself or force an outcome. Breathe. Come back to your center. Then say, “I choose ease instead. I can let this be easy.”
Ease is an act of self-love and trust. Don’t make things harder than they need to be.
Just sit with this. See what it brings up in you. If you get triggered and feel i.e., angry, then you know something in you needs healing. See your reaction as an opportunity to shine a light on what’s blocked. Your awareness of the blockage begins to bring the shifts needed to change it. Then go back to that idea of ease until you can fully receive it.
The more you release the need to control and fight what is, the more you can be in acceptance and the flow of life.
Allow the flow, allow the ease. There’s magic there.
When I asked what you all most needed this week, this message channeled through me from the Universe so quickly and strongly, that it was all I could do to dictate it fast enough. Take a moment to receive the message:
This is just a reminder that you are loved more than you could ever imagine.
There’s nothing you have to do to earn that love. There’s nothing you have to be to earn that love.
Some of you may not believe this. Because growing up you had to earn your love. And some of you may actively disbelieve that there’s such a thing as a benevolent universe that actually has your back and wants you to succeed.
But that is the truth. And the sooner you accept that, the more elegant your life will be.
So this week, simply allow yourself the thought and possibility, that you are divinely supported and loved.
While you cannot control the timing of certain events in your life, you absolutely can control your preparation and the work you do on yourself, in order to augment and be ready for those events.
Meaning, let’s say you really want a relationship. Are you sitting around pining for one and lamenting what’s going wrong, or are you working on your self-worth, your self-esteem, and your value? Are you clearing old stories from childhood? Who shows up when meeting a new potential partner- is it your inner child just wanting to be loved? Is it your adolescent thriving on drama? Or are you in your inner adult, ready and able to communicate, even when it gets scary? The more you can become conscious of which part of you is creating the type of person you’re attracted to and attracting, as well as bringing yourself into a place of owning your value and worth, the more you’ll actively make the situation ripe for a healthy relationship.
Another example: say you’ve really been wanting more money, it’s all you think about. Are you doing the work to clear the money story you grew up with, or do you still believe creating money is a struggle and/or judge those who have money? Are you actively seeking out financial experts and coaches who can help you to grow and expand your ideas about money? Or are you just complaining that it’s not there?
Here’s why it’s also important to do your work: because let’s say tomorrow a financial windfall comes to you – if you haven’t done the inner work necessary, the old stories may come in around, i.e. lack of worth and guilt in regard to money, thus creating situations where you make unwise choices, having your windfall disappear quickly. However, when you work your money mentality and clear out faulty beliefs, feelings, and old stories, then you can be responsible for larger and larger amounts of money and know how to handle it wisely. The difference in those two scenarios is you having done the inner work necessary to hold that reality of being wealthy, while participating in the co-creation of money, versus just expecting it to come and miraculously solve everything, while not truly being ready to receive it.
That holds true for relationships as well. I did the work for years on myself to really own my value and worth in regard to love and the kind of relationship I was choosing to create when I met my husband. I did a lot of work healing my inner child and adolescent to clear old issues/beliefs. I don’t think I could’ve received this level of love had I not done that work.
If you wanted to be an Olympic athlete, you would train. If you wanted to be a piano virtuoso, you would train. It’s no different in your reality creation. Except the training is working internally on yourself to clear old beliefs, thoughts, attitudes, stories, and feelings, to be the most receptive and best you can be, to attract the best there is for you.
I’ve spoken a lot about forgiveness, and it’s come up quite often in sessions lately, because more than anything, forgiveness has the power to shift energy that otherwise seems completely unmovable.
If there’s ever anyone or anything in your life that you're in resistance to, or fighting, or it’s creating an intense emotional reaction – all of those things take away your energy. Take your power back and forgive. Forgive yourself for having that situation in your life, and forgive the situation and release it. You don’t even have to know the specifics, the fact that you’re experiencing it and it’s causing distress, is enough to use the power of forgiveness to cut through the blockages so you can gain freedom.
Recently I was asked to do something on a day off that I really didn’t want to do, but knew I needed to. My initial reaction was anger at even being asked. I took a moment, acknowledged why I was angry, and then chose to release the anger, and forgive the other person involved. I truly meant it. I forgave them, and myself. Then I asked for help from the Universe. And wouldn’t you know it, the issue resolved immediately as I was led to the very solution needed, without having to take away any of my down time. It was such a quick and elegant response and showed how beautifully forgiveness can shift an issue.
An issue arose a week after that where I lost my iPad and after looking everywhere, again I took a moment to truly forgive myself for misplacing it. Then I released it and surrendered it to the Universe. A few minutes later, as I was ready to walk away, my eyes went to a bag I hadn’t checked. There inside was my pad.
I’ve told you forgiveness has the power to shift big issues and relationships, but these stories illustrate that even the smallest of issues can be transformed.
Certain big issues may be harder to forgive than others, but you don’t always have to forgive what happened, because truly sometimes the “what” is unforgivable, just forgive the energy behind it. Forgive yourself for allowing it in your reality or for wanting to learn something by going through that experience. Forgive yourself for attracting it into your life.
We may never know why bad things happen, sometimes its an issue coming from the unconscious or other lifetimes that needs resolving. So instead of beating yourself up, forgive yourself and choose differently.
As an aside: I get that if it was an absolutely horrific event, then what I’m saying may not make sense or seem do-able. That’s a much deeper conversation than this blog post.
I’ve told many of you this story, but for those who don’t know, there was a time in my life that somebody came in that was just awful to me. And I don’t attract awful people. But this person was going to be around for the long-haul and I was determined to change the energy. I refused to have that sort of negative energy in my reality.
Every day, I would take a moment to think of them and forgive myself for attracting them into my reality and forgive the pain etc. they were in that was causing their behavior. I wasn’t forgiving their actual behavior, I was forgiving what was behind it, causing them to lash out. I also forgave the energy between us.
To be clear, this was not a saintly act. I wasn’t condoning their behavior by forgiving them. I did this for me; it was totally self-serving because I didn’t want animosity in my life. I set myself free by forgiving myself and them.
I did this consistently for years, every morning, taking maybe 2- or 3-minutes max. The relationship shifted so dramatically, that now it’s wonderfully lovely. Complete night and day to how it was. And I totally credit it with the forgiveness work.
You cannot think in a linear way when you’re doing forgiveness work. Nor when you’re choosing to take responsibility for your reality. Because there are certain things that won’t make rational sense to you. And you could say, “Well I didn’t attract this person into my reality or allow them, they came with a marriage, or they’re a friend of a friend, or they came with a new job.” But it’s still your reality. And they’re in your reality for a reason.
So you can either rail against them/the situation and go into more resistance, more righteousness, and more anger, or you could start a forgiveness process. Forgiving anything and everything as to why you would allow this type of energy into your reality.
Just because it took me a couple years, doesn’t mean it has to take you that long. The energy on the planet is speeding up, things won’t take as long as they needed to before.
It might feel like just words at first, but the more you can say the words and truly get into the feeling of forgiveness, the more powerful it will be.
As for self-forgiveness, you can forgive yourself for having a pattern of anger in your life, you can forgive yourself for divebombing into self-pity when things don’t go your way, you can forgive yourself for needing to control everything – the list is endless. You can go into forgiveness for anything. Truly mean it though and be willing to release the destructive habits and patterns. If you do this and then fall into that same habit/pattern, forgive again and choose to receive the healing necessary to move forward.
Anything can be transformed by the power of forgiveness. You hold the key to that power.
If you can believe it, it was a year ago this week that all the lockdowns started for Covid. At least here in Los Angeles. A whole year!
I for one, was completely incorrect and assumed that it would be gone by May or June at the latest. Clearly there’s a continuing bigger lesson that humanity needs to learn.
It has absolutely been a practice in surrender and accepting what is.
There are so many things that have changed during this time, and some things that may never return to the way they were.
For some, this past year has been truly horrific, and for others, it has been a beautiful gift. Most people fall between those two extremes.
Today, I want you to take a moment and acknowledge how much you’ve changed this past year. Even if you had moments of melting down and fighting against the lockdowns and limitations and hating it, and/or not ever wanting it to end – wherever you are in the spectrum – I want you to take a moment and think about the things that you appreciate from this past year.
Even if it was phenomenally hard on you, can you find five things that you’re grateful for and that you appreciate about what this forced global time-out has shown you?
Next, think about the things that you now recognize matter most to you, that you may not have put strong focus on before. For example, maybe you’ve always known your family matters, but this past year you’ve really realized how much value you put on family. Or maybe it’s having your freedoms, or travel, maybe it's your health, or human connection. What did this past year show you about what matters?
So, five things you’re grateful for and/or appreciate, and three places that you realize matter to you incredibly.
As you vibrate in gratitude, you bring more of what you’re grateful for into your life. As you focus on appreciation, you open your heart and again, attract more to appreciate. And as you identify what really matters, you know how to structure your time, energy and focus.
Acknowledge how far you’ve come, as you turn your gaze to a beautiful new future.
This topic has been coming up a lot, so I need to remind you of something: YOU have the power in your space. YOU. No one else. If someone is invading your energy field or body, kick them out. If you can't feel your boundaries, imagine and feed them energy by your focus, and then work on yourself consistently to call your energy into your center, anchoring into yourself.
Most importantly, own your crown chakra.
The crown chakra is at the top of your head and its color is violet. Sometimes people abdicate their crown to follow a guru or to surrender their will to another. Don’t do that. You know best what’s right for you; don’t apologize for listening to your inner guidance.
In addition, don’t look to another to give you permission to do what you want/need. You need to give yourself permission. You are your best authority on everything related to you.
Something I recommend doing, is taking back your crown chakra.
While imagining your energy focused at the top of your head, see/feel/be in that violet light, and own, out loud or in your head, in your most powerful voice:
“I have sovereignty in my space. I have seniority. I am the authority in my space.”
You can also add: “No one has permission to be in my space, except me!”
Claim it, command it, and kick out any squatters in the form of parents, teachers, or anyone else.
Don’t go into fear or resistance when you do that because those'll hold in the negative energies. Simply be in empowerment.
I say the above daily to own my space, as well as if I ever feel someone trying to get into my space or impose their will on mine.
If you’ve ever felt too spun out or light-headed (notice the truth of those phrases), spun out means you’re spread too thin energy wise, while light-headed means there’s not enough energy anchoring you into yourself and your crown is too wide. With both, you need to ground into the earth and call your energy close, back into the center of you. Imagine your central channel running from the top of your head to the base of your spine, directly in the center of you. Call your energy there. Activate that area.
Then claim your space as I said above.
You may still need to clear your space as I’ve taught before, however the above is an added step in ownership of you and your energy field.
You can also ask your Higher Self to help your crown chakra be the perfect size for you, especially if it’s too wide and you’re taking in everyone else’s stuff.
It’s your space, so own it as such and treat it with the reverence it deserves.
You always have a choice as to how you see a situation that doesn’t go well or is harder or more difficult than you imagined, and when your best laid plans don’t turn out the way you’d hoped. You can either beat yourself up, or you can say, “I didn’t know what I didn’t know.”
I’m in the middle of a project in my personal reality and that is my current mantra when things don’t go as I thought they would.
You really can’t know what you don’t know until you’re going through it. There are things that won’t be perfect. There are things you’ll screw up. It doesn’t mean you’re bad and wrong, nor is it wise to use it as an excuse to let your negative ego beat the crap out of you and tell you how awful and stupid you are.
The most empowered way to handle missteps and “mistakes” is to forgive yourself, and to recognize that there’s a lot out there you don’t know, and you can only do the best you can with the knowledge and information you currently have. You will always learn more and have more insight the next time.
And let me tell you, not only is forgiveness the most self-loving response, it also helps you to find solutions to difficult issues.
The alternative is to dive bomb into the blame and regret of, “I should’ve...” And how does that help you move forward?
Forgiveness, lots of deep breaths, and grounding help. Because truly, you don’t know, what you don’t know.
You’ve heard me say that you create your reality, but for some of you, those are just words that have no meaning. So what does it actually mean?
To simplify it, it’s both the beliefs you’re thinking and the thoughts you’re putting out, as well as the emotions you’re emanating. You could be saying something very nice, but if you both don’t believe it, and simultaneously you’re vibrating in the energy of, for example, despair or anger, those emotions are going to override the words.
This is why emotional healing and emotional literacy are so important. Most people didn’t grow up learning how to identify and process through their emotions. The more you can own and acknowledge what you’re feeling, without judgment, the more you can work through everything attached to that feeling. Then as you heal it, you can raise up into an emotion that feels better. (See previous blog on “The Ladder of Emotions.”)
There are no good or bad emotions because even some “dark” emotions serve a purpose: anger might motivate you or give you boundaries. Frustration might cause you to innovate a new way of doing things. Granted some emotions are more difficult to see what their purpose is, but the less you judge them as bad and wrong, the freer you become, because acceptance can change everything.
Even though there are no bad emotions, you don’t want to sit in the lower frequencies all the time because you’ll attract more of that lower energy back at you. It’s like if you’re in a really bad mood, and then you start having an even more bad day where everything keeps going wrong, that’s a prime example of what I’m talking about.
Thus, by your emotions and the vibrations you’re putting out, you create your reality.
Now listen, sometimes you need to process through your grief, anger, pain etc. so I’m not saying ignore those and just feel better. You have to take responsibility for your feelings and work through the issues/circumstances you’re in, and sometimes healing those emotions will take time. This blog is about the day to day emotions that you may visit often.
Back to the topic: when you’re desiring to create something, get into the feeling first.
For example, last week I was stressing about something that I didn’t have an answer for, and I realized that that wasn’t helping the situation. I changed my thoughts to, “The Universe is always supporting me. The Universe has my back. The solution is now appearing.”
However, I didn’t just say those things, I imagined that as I was repeating them, the energy of peace was infusing my body. I took deep breaths and allowed the feelings of calm and trust to wash through me. I then got the image from my unseen team, as if I had been in the water flailing around, smacking the water, and they told me to just ride the waves. The more I said that I was being supported and taken care of, the calmer I felt, and the more I could just ride the waves.
Later on, a brilliant solution came to me to help with what was stressing me out.
I needed to create my reality differently than the swirling stress thoughts. It’s not always easy to do, but it’s the most empowering thing you can do. And the more I did it, the easier everything became, and help appeared from unexpected places.
Remember, own and process your emotions to shift your reality. You have the power to do so.
Back by popular demand- Oracle Cards!! I’m so happy I get such fantastic responses after doing these! I’m glad they speak to you all.
So today, pre-Chinese New Year, I asked what you needed to know.
I will say this, each card, after being pulled, switched positions. Meaning for example, the original number one is no longer in the number one spot. All of them switched it up. So if you always go for a certain number, sit with it and see what feels right. The energy in the switch was about shaking you out of your comfort zone, and getting you to really sit with which number feels correct for you today, versus the number you always gravitate to.
That being said: center yourself, breathe, ask your unseen team what you most need to know, and again, feel into each number, then pick.
Here are your choices:
Card Number 1
Card Number 2
Card Number 3
We often think of self-love simply as nurturing ourselves and thinking loving thoughts about ourselves, but what if we expand the definition?
Letting things be easy is an act of self-love. When you force an issue, you’re controlling it and that usually create stress. That’s not loving to you, or the people around you. Instead if you allow things to be easy, meaning you consciously choose and then receive ease, there’s more flow and more time for you to put your energy elsewhere. It also creates more calm, versus chaos, in your reality.
Trusting things will work out in your favor is an act of self-love. Why? Because it says that you know you’re taken care of and you know the Universe has your back. It also says that regardless of what happens, you’ll be able to handle it. That’s self-trust, which then augments more self-love.
How about letting yourself relax and recharge? It seems obvious that downtime is an expression of self-love and yet, do you give it to yourself or do you validate your existence through doing and busyness? Allowing yourself time to just be is self-loving.
Creativity is an act of self-love because you’re connecting with your soul and expressing more of who you are.
Putting yourself first and making sure that all your needs are taken care of before taking care of others is an act of self-love. If this causes guilt, you have work to do. You cannot help others if you’re depleted or resentful. You need to put the oxygen mask on first.
Grounding yourself and meditating are acts of self-love. Why? Because in taking the time for either, you’re saying you value your sanity and peace of mind above all else. That’s incredibly self-loving.
Boundaries are an act of self-love as is saying “no” when you really need the time for yourself. Both show that you matter to yourself and that you value your time and your energy. The more you can release the ideas that you’re supposed to sacrifice yourself for others, the more you can fill yourself with love.
Walking away from the phone/computer and stopping the spin of comparing yourself to others and what you see they’re doing, is an act of self-love. Remember, people are very deliberate in what they show on social media, it’s not always the truth. Know that you will find your way, your timing, and your path as you need for you, versus how anyone else did it.
Self-love doesn’t need to just be taking a bath when you want or reciting positive affirmations; if you expand the definition, you notice that your actions throughout the day all answer the question of how much love you give to yourself. If you continually put yourself in a situation that makes you miserable, that’s not self-loving, that’s self-punishing. Isn’t it time to stop the punishment? Who does it serve? No one. Least of all you. Stop trying to make amends for something you did, or for carrying on a pattern that got set from when you were little. Forgive yourself (another act of self-love), for the past and move forward with a new outlook on your reality, one that says you’re worthy and deserving of love towards yourself.
You came to this planet to learn and grow and expand yourself as a soul. Not for hardship and struggle and to beat yourself up. Love yourself now the way you would a tiny kitten or a puppy or a baby. You are as deserving of that gentle love and consideration as anything/anyone else. Treat yourself as such.
Me, just sharing ways to make you the best you can be!