The idea of turning your attention on yourself first has such a bad rap, as if sacrifice is so godly and good. We’ve been taught this idea since the time we were little. We’re made to feel guilty if, heaven forbid, we say no to someone because we need some down time to rest.
All this does is exhaust you and make you feel resentful.
While some men may hear this, women get pounded with the messages: “be a good girl, be a good person, give, give, give, don’t be selfish, it’s better to give than receive.” Basically, give until you have nothing left to give- then you are saintly.
But are you really? Personally, I think then you are depleted, bitter, and angry, and you have no inner serenity. Especially when you give out of a sense of duty and obligation.
I was talking to a client recently and helped her to shift perspective on the idea of being self-centered. What if instead of it being a bad thing, we view it as Self centered; meaning centered into your Self?
When you can pull your energy into your core, into the center of you, and respond to and move about your day from there, then you can be much more present and empowered. The opposite of that is feeling scattered and at the effect of everything/everyone around you.
To take it a step further, centering into yourSelf means self-care is your priority. You put the oxygen mask on first before helping others.
I was sharing this concept with my friend Holly who added that the capital “S” self is the more of you; meaning the greater, expansive, soul you, while the lower case “s” in self-centered is the ego self.
I find that if I take care of my needs first, then I am of better assistance/service to others. I’ve spent decades doing the opposite and it was not good for my health- emotional or physical- or for my peace of mind.
Because I’m human and not perfect, (Whaaaaat?!) sometimes I fall into old habits of accommodating. When that happens, the sooner I catch it, the more quickly I can rectify and change it. Forgiveness is key during those times, not self-judgment. That’s more lower case “s.”
Yes, some people may get mad at you. Some people may say you’re mean, uncaring, or the dreaded word - selfish - for not helping them/responding to them immediately. To that I say, too bad. That’s their perspective. You know the truth of yourSelf and what you need. Would you rather have boundaries and be healthy or have everyone think you’re so good and nice, and be completely depleted?
It’s OK not to be liked sometimes. It’s more than OK to say no. If you don’t put yourself first, who will?
Right now, put both hands over your heart, bring all your energy and awareness into that space, and say, “I love you Self. I love mySelf.” Feel into the space of Self-love. Center yourSelf into your heart. Then ask what you need in this moment, and give it to yourSelf.
The more you honor your wants and needs first, the more others will honor what you say as well because you’re in integrity with yourself. Do this daily and you will become unstoppable because you will be so rooted and strongly centered in your Self, that you’ll more fully embody your value, your confidence, and the fact that you really do matter. Because by the way, you most certainly do.
It takes courage to listen to your gut and act on it, even when your rational mind tells you otherwise.
It takes courage to voice your truth and the truth of who you are, even if you know you will be met with a lack of approval.
It takes courage to follow your dreams, even when you fear failing.
It takes courage to open your heart, especially when you’ve been hurt before.
It takes courage to say, “No, I will not allow this,” in relation to either your own personal boundaries, or something you see going on in the world. To put your foot down and take a stand is courageous.
It takes courage to leave your comfort zone and venture into the unknown. That can be with a new job, relationship, place to live, or simply expressing a different opinion than what you had always been taught.
It takes courage to differ from your family of origin and to know that they may be disappointed.
It takes courage to proclaim to yourself that you refuse to live a life defined by anyone else’s rules or expectations, and that you are going to follow your own path one step at a time, creating happiness each and every moment. Finding what brings you fulfillment versus what your family/society/religion tells you.
It takes courage to find the answers within, versus acquiescing to, or parroting, everyone else's opinions and thoughts.
It takes courage to be truthful with how we feel, versus people pleasing.
It takes courage to admit you were wrong, and do what you can to make it right.
It takes courage to think outside the box and look at things from a new perspective, or to create something that has never been imagined before.
It takes courage to silence the loud ego mind, and to listen to/act from the still quiet voice within.
It takes courage to stop defending against your actions/reactions, and really look at your part in a situation/conflict.
It takes courage to forgive, when you want to punish. For ultimately, that is the gift that will set you free.
Speaking of courage, I encourage you to seek out and read perspectives and information on racism and the subtle and insidious ways it shows itself in the collective consciousness. It’s not always overt, the subtle has done just as much damage.
It’s easy to say, "I’m not racist," and dismiss what I’m saying, yet I ask you to look at it from a place of humility versus defending against your position.
It takes courage to say, "Wow, where have I unconsciously contributed to, or even been unaware of, the situation? Where can I learn and uncover my issues to do better and be better?"
It starts with you.
I’ve been listening to many of you and I know the pain of loneliness is immense right now. So for those of you experiencing this, I’ve recorded a guided meditation to release the pain, to bring you back to a state of oneness, and to help you to see who you really are.
Part of transcending loneliness involves a greater depth of connection with yourself because as you see the truth of who you are, you realize you're never alone.
This meditation is also for those feeling disconnected in any way, or for those experiencing any isolating feelings such as grief or pain - anything that causes you to feel that no one is there for you.
May it help tremendously.
Music by J. Jessup
I have a bunch of blogs waiting to be “born,” yet nothing felt right this week. I think because it’s time to listen versus talk.
I think we need to listen to the pain, to listen to the experiences that aren’t ours. To acknowledge and hold space for those whose voices have been diminished or ignored.
Yes, it may be uncomfortable. You may want to fix it or make it better. Maybe you even feel guilt or shame.
Allow all of it. Don’t deny it by rushing past it. Give it space so you heal on a deep level, to ultimately be a stronger light for those in need. You can’t be a powerful light if you refuse to look at your own shadow. The old needs to crumble.
So this week, listen to those in the black community speaking their pain. Hold space for them. And listen to your own deep pain. Give it a voice as well. Heal your deep wounds so together, we can all create a world of incredible unity and equality.
It seems that the worst of humanity is coming out right now. I’m watching friends get attacked for posts that are very calm and loving, people taking advantage of the protests by rioting, lots of shaming of others for trying to be supportive, and incredible righteousness over who’s right/wrong; it’s enough to make you lose faith…
I know many of you are overwhelmed. The energy is remarkably intense and destructive.
And yet, in the depths of darkness, in the dimness of the cocoon, the caterpillar is being dissolved to allow it to become the butterfly.
Do not give your power to impotence, to thinking there’s nothing you can do.
It may seem fluff, but the vision has to start with you; each of us individually owning the reality we want to see and then creating it, one step at a time, one election at a time, to create a revolutionary change at a core level.
Each of us healing ourselves and our own violent anger, rage, and pain so that there’s less of those energies in the world.
It starts with our individual hearts and minds choosing to see a reality of equality and inclusiveness.
Now more then ever, it’s important to use your voice. Your voice matters, you deserve to be heard. Speak for those who cannot speak. Use for your voice for those who have no voice or whose voices have been silenced.
You may not literally go out and speak, you can voice it through your art, through your acts of kindness, through the people and companies you support. Through the products you buy and the things you listen to. Through the love you send to the world. And through the declaration to the world, even if done in the privacy of your home, of saying:
“Enough! I refuse a reality of exclusiveness. I refuse a reality of domination. I refuse a reality of inequality.”
You may feel powerless but you’re not.
Never underestimate the power of the imagination. If you can see it in your imagination, you can believe it, and then you can create it and live it. If you don’t create it in your world, how will you see it in the world?
I wrote a blog that I posted on Instagram on Sunday and in it, I said that what I do doesn’t feel like enough. I recognized the next morning that I gave my power away to a false idea. My form of voice and power may not look like the way others express theirs, and that’s OK. We need a contrast of strengths to lift each other up.
So dream. Dream big. Be powerful in your dreams. Own your visions. Join me and together we can dream into being a world more phenomenal than we can even imagine.
Let’s be the visionaries for a new world. I’m holding the light of hope for you, will you accept it?
To listen to the audio version of this blog, click here.
In 2005, Lazaris (a channeled entity) gave us a map for healing emotions called, "The Tiers of Emotion." It’s a process by which you climb the ladder of emotions from the most constrictive and heavy, to the most light and freeing. It’s a tool for acknowledging and healing what you’re feeling in order to raise your emotional vibration. Some of you may be familiar with the Abraham-Hicks Emotional Guidance scale. It’s very similar to the Lazaris one: slight differences, same concept.
The Tiers of Emotion©
Happiness & Wonder
Passion & Compassion
Trust & Hope
Boredom & Impatience
Frustration & Confusion
Worry & Doubt
Guilt & Sadness
How to use:
Whenever you’re in the throes of an emotion, look at the scale and determine where you are. Name the feeling. Naming it helps you to own it.
The key is not to judge where you are emotionally, but to accept it: don’t see the emotion as bad or wrong. When you can accept and own what you’re feeling, then you’re able to give it a voice in order to more easily move through it. Plus, in owning it, you release your resistance to feeling it.
Simply state for example, “Right now I feel despair.”
Now you have to feel the emotion; let yourself go there fully. You can only heal emotions by diving into them completely. What is the despair about? Feel it, experience it, vent it. You can talk about it to yourself or write about it; go fully in. This doesn’t have to take long, but you do need to honor what it’s trying to express.
When you’ve released the despair thoroughly, you can climb the ladder to either loneliness or rage. As you climb, you can only do so one or two steps at a time; never more than two. Why? Because you wouldn’t be able to authentically jump vibrations faster. If you tried, you’d be denying the truth of what each step is trying to show you. Plus, if you’re truly in a rage, there is no way you could jump immediately to optimism. That is why the statement, “Just be positive!” can be discounting of what you’re experiencing.
Back to our example: let’s say loneliness really doesn’t resonate with you but oh, rage does. And remember, rage isn't always loud, sometimes it can be silent; a rage that’s so powerful there are no words. That rage can play out in apathy or exhaustion.
So now at rage, vent it. What about this situation/experience causes rage? Feel it fully.
When it’s complete, climb to the next emotion, and maybe it’s blame. Within blame is sense of powerlessness- "it’s their fault." This is also where you may find your victim story, your feelings of righteousness against others, or maybe self-blame. Whatever comes up, delve into it.
Now be aware that as you excavate emotions, you may hear a voice saying for example, that blame isn’t enlightened or whatever other excuses it comes up with. Do not listen. That is the ego mind trying to stop you from diving deep into the feeling to clear it. This scale is designed to heal the emotions. Get out of your head and into your feelings.
In the lower tier, blame is a numbing agent. We sometimes stay stuck there to not feel our other emotions, especially the rage, loneliness and despair below it. Just be conscious that if you start there, make sure you aren’t denying a deeper emotion.
As you climb, once you’ve released hurt or fear, you can leap to the middle tier, into anger. Even though anger may feel heavy, it’s a much lighter vibration than rage or jealousy etc. If you’re not feeling anger and you cleared fear, you can go to pessimism. Honor what’s true for you; again, one or two steps at a time.
In the 2nd tier, self-pity is the numbing agent. Similar to blame, it’s a place where powerlessness and your victim story can thrive. If you feel self-pity first, check if you’re avoiding what’s below it. And maybe you’re not, maybe self-pity truly is what you feel. If so, go into the “poor me” feelings you have. Self-denial, and the, “it’s fine” when it’s really not, hides here as does overwhelm, refusing to receive, and self-punishment.
In the 2nd tier, some of the emotions have two names; see which is most true for you in the moment. Maybe you’re not feeling sadness but you sure feel guilt. Or maybe worry is what you can tap into versus doubt. It’ll change depending on the situation so honor the truth of the moment.
As you climb into the upper tier, you need to stop at well-being first. Now, that might be as far as you can go on a certain day. That’s fantastic, at least you raised your resonance high enough to get up there. If you can keep going, wonderful, if you can’t, feel into well-being/contentment and just let that live in you.
On a side note, apropos to right now, if you’re feeling anxiety that could mean you have too much energy in the future, or it could also be the denial of an emotion. For today’s discussion, let’s excavate the emotion: most likely it’s fear. What fear are you not acknowledging? Go to fear on the tier, and dive into it. When you’re done, climb up to anger and see if maybe what you’re really angry at is that you don’t feel safe, or that your safety is being threatened.
It may not always be fear, but the majority of the time that's what’s below the anxiety. It could also be worry, or anger: it could be the denial of a myriad of emotions. Feel into the anxiety and see what it wants to say. And if you get no response, start with fear.
Back to the Tiers, there is one addition I would add that while not in the Lazaris version, it is in Abraham-Hicks one: on the upper tier, along with love are the emotions of joy and appreciation. While there are subtle differences in those energies, ultimately joy and appreciation open the heart the way love does. They are incredibly high resonances. So if you can’t tap into love, tap into joy or appreciation.
The more you use this ladder to climb from wherever you are on the bottom to the top, the more elegantly you'll process and move through your emotions. Some days it may take awhile to climb, and other days you’ll be able to climb up quite quickly. Allow this to be a powerful tool you can add to your tool belt to help you release the constricting emotions holding you down so that you can raise your energy and vibration to experience a more joyful reality.
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I’ve had to really take my power back lately: from externals- such as the global crisis and Covid restrictions, to internals- my inner child, adolescent, and negative ego. I've also had to pull my power and energy back from wanting to future trip and think about something farther off in my day/week, and worry about it. It’s been more obvious to me lately when I do this, and thus, when I do and take my power back, I am so much more present, centered, calm, and empowered.
Which leads me to today's topic: I want to address something that has been coming up a lot lately: the idea that an issue you have can’t be fixed or that nothing can help you.
These are beliefs. They are only as true as the energy that you give them. They do not need to be true. Repetitive thought makes them true. Then the universe shows you the very thing that you keep repeating to yourself.
You can argue with me that truly nothing you do seems to shift an issue. Let’s break that apart then:
First, you believe it. You believe it fully. The universe is complying with that belief and making sure that nothing you do works.
Let’s just play with the idea that that belief could be faulty. I get it, I really do. I hear the angst in your voice; I know the frustration. You’re at your wits end. Things don’t seem to shift. So humor me for a moment. Are you willing to own that your thought could be a lie? Just open to it.
Do you know for certain that the universe has not been trying to help you only to have it be rebounded back? You don’t, so let’s say that’s the case. You may not be receiving/allowing the help you need because of the paradigm in which you grew up where when you asked for help, either you didn’t receive what you wanted, bad things happened, or you were hurt etc. Have you personified the universe to be exactly like the authority figures when you were growing up? Is the universe benevolent and generous or withholding and limiting?
Next step: where have you given away your power to believe that your statement is true?
That is the core of it, that is the frustration of it: the idea that you keep doing everything and nothing is working. You are essentially powerless.
That my friends is an enormous lie. I think probably the biggest one out there. What better way to control somebody than to make them think they’re powerless?
Yes, you were powerless as a child. As an adolescent too. You had to follow the rules or the consequences could be severe. Especially as a little child.
However, those parts of you are no longer allowed to run the show. They may have colored your current worldview based on the past, and are still getting something by keeping the pattern going. You can talk to those aspects and let them know you’re creating a new reality. You may need to do deeper work with them, but ultimately you the adult makes the conscious present moment choice. You have the power in the now to choose differently.
You may also have given your power away to your negative ego. The negative ego seduces you with fear, worry, and anxiety. It wants you scared and afraid of everything. It will convince you that they’re doing it to you. Or even that there are dark forces looming over you, just waiting to attack. Both of these perpetuate the idea of powerlessness.
I get that when you feel so powerless it makes sense that it’s external. However, when you do a deep dive into your own negative ego and shadow, you uncover the truth; that the answer is within. That’s where the lie of powerlessness festers.
As you look to these areas, the more aware you become, the more you can take your power back.
And to deepen what I’m saying, as I said above, your power is in your choice. Even if you’re in an unpleasant situation and it seems that your options aren’t great, you still have the power to choose how to respond. You can respond from your child, negative ego or adolescent, or you the adult can choose a higher response. You have the power to change any situation by your thoughts and attitudes about it. That’s power. To not give anything external, or even the internal monkey mind, the ability to ruin your serenity. Personal power is taking the tools at your disposal and making the best of them.
The universe actually is on your side, so stop fighting for your limitations.
You have to be the light first and that entails owning your personal power so call it back. You’re not your mind, not your body, not your thoughts, not your ego. You are a powerful infinite being of light, never forget this.
(For further help in taking your power back, click here.)
Perspective is an interesting thing. Sometimes we don’t gain it until after the fact and sometimes we need to have someone point out a different way of looking at a situation other than how we’d been seeing it. Regardless, a change in perspective can be a powerful thing.
I had two different clients one day recently who both had very specific perspectives on their parent’s behavior towards them and on what they thought their parent’s actions meant. Neither was true. And yet their stories were defining them and how they lived their lives.
Sometimes we tell ourselves a story because it’s the thing that helps life makes sense. Or it keeps us “safe.” But what are we protecting if we don’t show ourselves the truth? Maybe we’ve hidden the truth of our power, or the fact that we are loved underneath a lie we’ve told ourselves. Also, how much have we needed our parents to be perfect instead of seeing them as fallible human beings doing the best they could? Are we still blaming them versus taking a risk and creating a new way of being?
As an example, one client was adopted at birth and assumed they weren’t wanted. They built a life around the idea of not mattering. The truth was, their mom loved them so much, she was willing to have the child in her life for only 9 months before having to give them away to a better family as she lived in an impoverished country and couldn’t care for an infant. Her love was so powerful and the child mattered so much that she was willing to endure the pain of loss to have simply 9 months together.
Another person’s dad was always angry and they saw his anger to mean they weren’t good enough. They had a whole story attached to that when really, the dad felt profoundly inadequate that he couldn’t provide properly for his wife and children and since he felt like he was always failing, he lashed out. I’ll add by the way, I’m not condoning his behavior in any way, I’m simply pointing out that he was the one who didn’t feel good enough. My client took on his wounds subconsciously and made them their own.
Sometimes we learn the reason’s why and sometimes we don’t. When we don’t, we need to look at it from a different vantage point and contemplate what might’ve actually been going on versus the story we’ve told ourselves.
I bring this up now because your light is needed more than ever. It is no longer viable for you to pretend to be other than your luminous self. You came here to bring the light and in order to do that, you need to acknowledge yours first and foremost.
Maybe you’ve hidden from yourself the truth that either you truly are lovable, or that you are indeed good enough. Maybe it’s that you do matter or you are powerful. What faulty belief keeps circling your head or actions, obscuring the truth?
It’s so much easier to continue believing the lie and putting the blame outward versus having to truly look at what it is about you that makes you radiant. Discover the lie and own the opposite; when you do you become unstoppable. Then you can own the idea that maybe the Universe actually is on your side supporting you.
Can you be courageous enough today to start believing a new truth? Just experiment- for the next 30 days truly put everything into the new belief, including forgiving yourself, forgiving the past, and releasing all those involved. Then focus on what you do want to see. You may need to have a talk with your subconscious (click here to remember how), and truly be willing to see your light. In order to bring light to the world, you need to own yours first.
Now, on a different note but still on the same topic: in the last week many of you have asked me about some of the conspiracy theories out there. Here’s my perspective:
Some might well be true. I say "might" because who knows for certain. I will say for me personally, I've been choosing to feed the light versus delving into the darkness. I did a deep dark dive one evening weeks ago into all kinds of conspiracy theories and man it made me feel awful. I truly felt powerless and dark. That’s when I decided to choose the light. Yes the dark exists. We live in a duality so to think it’s all love and light is deceiving yourself, HOWEVER you can choose to be the light. I am choosing to bring more light and be part of the solution versus going deep into the darkness to fight it or feed it. The light is infinitely more powerful than the dark. The way to defeat the dark is simply to shine more light so it can’t hide, and ultimately dissipates.
Do I think that's possible? Absolutely. Remember, you see what you believe. I choose to see a world in which I have power. In which the Universe supports me versus bad guys always coming after me. Some will see the nightmare and some the beautiful dream. There’s room for everyone to co-exist. Which are you choosing?
To give you a perspective shift beyond what I wrote about 2 weeks ago, what if you see what’s happening now as the unconscious of the world falling apart? Where all the places people have been unconscious now coming to the light so we can become more conscious and thus, more powerful. Just think about it.
That perspective about the unconscious came from Matt Kahn as does this idea: “I help the world find peace faster by focusing on being at peace with myself.”
As I always remind you, it starts with you. Find what brings you peace and focus there. Open to new perspectives, release the grips of the past, and start a new story. The world is waiting.
Deep fear has been coming up a lot lately in sessions so if you’re one of the people dealing with it, as much as you can, try to observe the thoughts without making them personal: “Oh, there goes that fear thought again. I’m not this fear, this fear isn’t real. I can release it, I can let it go and choose what I want to see instead.”
Recognize the fear is trying to get you out of your body, out of present time, and projecting a scary future at you. It’s your negative ego wanting to make you feel powerless.
Take your power back from it and then focus on something that brings you happiness. If it gets too intense, focus on your hands or feet. Bring your awareness into your body. The more you deeply pay attention to what your i.e.: hands feel like, the more the spin with stop. (Eckhart Tolle says hands, I personally like feet because it grounds me. I have a guided meditation you can listen to to help.)
Here are some things you can say to yourself out loud or in your head when the fear/anxiety gets high:
I am safe. I am willing to experience safety in my reality now.
I am safe and protected when I go out into the world.
I can be safe in the world even in the chaos, even in the unknown.
I am more powerful than my fears.
My light is infinitely more powerful than any dark.
I now choose to see the unknown as an exciting place versus a scary place.
I create my reality.
I am powerful. I now take my power back from _____ (fill in the blank- anything/anyone you gave your power to.)
It is safe for me to have strong boundaries.
I no longer have to take on the chaos in the world.
I can create my reality in the unknown moment by moment.
I am not my body, I am not my fears.
It’s safe for me to release control and simply be in the moment.
I always have a choice.
I choose to see peace instead of this.
I have the power to create a reality of peace.
I will triumph over all challenges. I can overcome any obstacles.
I am ready, willing, and open to receiving positive things in my life.
Good things now come to me.
My inner strength is invincible.
I am Divinely supported.
The Universe is on my side.
Have an empowered week!
Lately my introverted self has needed extra quiet, extra down time, and simultaneously, extra order; cleaning out closets, cupboards, the pantry- anything to bring order to the chaos I feel in the world and in my nervous system.
I’m a hermit by nature, you’d think I’d love this pause. But I value and love my freedom most and do not like it restricted at all. That being said, I'm getting much better at acceptance (see #11 below).
Ultimately do I think things will work out for the best?
Do I have a positive vision for the future?
Do I know this is the growing pains of a new world?
I also know- we all chose to be born for this: this monumental time in history where we are writing a new script: initiating new ways of being, rising to new levels of consciousness. It hasn’t been done before, thus no Mayan calendar, no predictions; it’s new. And together we are creating it. Exciting? Very. And sometimes not so fun to go through with all the necessary destruction of what we know, both good and bad, to make way for the new.
It’s not about the virus- it’s about clearing out the old. Giving the earth a much needed reprieve. Re-setting priorities. Shifting our relationships with each other and the world. Can we do that? Yes. Can it be elegant? I sure hope so. I don’t want a new reality of extreme caution, limited mobility, and staying away from each other. That to me would be a nightmare. If you believe in past lives, we chose the nightmare in Atlantis and it was destroyed. We don’t need to create that again.
So together, let’s dream this new world the way we want it to be: people communicating respectfully and engaging in dialogue versus dogma. The end of racism and vast economic disparity. People honoring Mother Earth by being conscious of their impact with more recycling, the oceans being cleaned up, and forests being expanded versus destroyed. Women being respected and treated as equals, the end of fathers forcing their daughters into marriage at an early age, and readily accessible education for all children. These are just some of my dreams for the world, I have many!
And in the meantime, if some days are super rough because you feel all the intensity and chaos acutely, then disconnect and do something nurturing to heal. Here are some of the things that work best for me, hopefully they inspire you!
1: Grounding myself. Yes that’s my normal anyway, but when I’m spinning, if I can ground and connect deeply to the planet, I can breathe again.
2: Speaking of breathing- deep belly breaths. Deep, in your abdomen, full breaths. It calms the nervous system.
3: Being in the moment. Not in the future or the past. Looking around and noticing present time and really taking it in.
4: Solitude. Turning off the phone and just disconnecting from the world.
5: Epsom Salt Baths. They’re a godsend to clear your space and calm your system.
6: Appreciation. Being in appreciation is key to raising your energy. Plus it feels so good to focus on what you appreciate.
I have a guided meditation from a previous blog here if you want to be in that energy more.
7: Being creative. In whatever form it takes: coloring, cooking, gardening, even re-organizing your closet can be creative. The possibilities are endless.
8: Going on walks. It’s been imperative to be outside and be in nature.
9: Reading a book. I’m doing very limited social media, very limited news, not even binging much TV. Reading can be very calming.
10: Chanting. The word “Om” really calms your system when you’re overloaded.
11: Surrender and Patience. Perhaps the most difficult but I remind myself that I can’t control this. I can’t fight it either, although sometimes I do. And when I do, I release my frustrations in healthy ways without judgment, so that ultimately I can accept it and allow it to teach me what I most need. It's necessary to surrender my need for answers and outcomes and have patience with what is. There's tremendous power in the unknown; some days I simply need to remind myself that. After all, it’s not about me. It’s not about you. It’s about creating a new world and that takes time.
We’re all in this together and together we’re going succeed this time. Let’s choose that now!
As Chani Nicholas says, “You were born for this!”
Me, just sharing ways to make you the best you can be!