We all know those people who everyone gravitates towards. When they walk into a room, all eyes go to them. They are incredibly magnetic. Beyond charisma, part of that magnetism is them being present and in their body, radiating energy from their core with total confidence.
Recently I heard someone use the word, “embody” and it really sunk in in a deeper way for me what it means to embody say, beauty, feminine energy, grace, inner peace, or confidence. When you embody something, you own that frequency in your body. You are grounded in that vibration.
You all know I harp on you to get grounded and present, and it’s because there’s so much more available to you when you do. You’re on this planet to be on this planet, not to be flitting and floating around. The more you can be in body, the more you can embody different energies.
Have you been embodying vitality, or are you embodying fatigue? Are you embodying abundance, or have you been embodying lack? Are you embodying confidence, or self-doubt?
You can change that right now. Regardless of the beliefs or thoughts or anything that may be swirling around in your space, imagine the vibration of what you want and bring it into your body.
Let’s use an example of confidence. What would it look and feel like to embody confidence? How would your day go differently if you lived in that frequency? How would your posture change? Take a moment and get a clear image of that reality. Now, get yourself grounded and present by whatever method you most like. That could even be putting your attention on your feet, and moving your focus up through your body, to the top of your head, while breathing and centering yourself. Once you’re in your body and fully aware of it, imagine the energy of confidence flowing into you. Maybe it comes in your head, maybe your feet, maybe everywhere at once.
As it flows into you, imagine it eradicating, simply by its presence, any doubts you’re holding (if you’re bringing in i.e. inner peace, let it eradicate stress. What it eradicates will change depending on what you’re calling in). Let the confidence swirl and flow through your entire body, energizing (or calming) your whole system. If your mind or thoughts protest, see that frequency of confidence gently moving into those areas of discord, washing them away. See yourself filling to overflowing with confidence. Embody confidence. Stay in this vibration for as long as you desire, until you feel that you can carry that energy with you.
As I said, you can embody any energy. Pick one thing and stick with it until you really feel and see shifts in your reality. Until people respond to you differently. And they will. What is it you want to feel in your body?
If it helps you, pick someone who embodies what you most want and watch how they move about the world.
Play with this daily. It doesn’t need to take long. You can be in the energy for five minutes a day and it will begin to shift you. Obviously the more you’re aware and in it, the better, but start in increments you can commit to. This doesn't negate you doing the other inner work of clearing out faulty beliefs and processing through your issues, but it supports you in creating a vibrant new reality.
As you co-create the new world, create your new world in ways that bring you greater presence and joy. Be the embodiment of a higher frequency of energy and light.
This is a very interesting time right now; we live in a duality, so as the dark and constricting energy in the world seems to be ever increasing, at the same time, the light and expansive energies are growing exponentially. Chaos proceeds change: the greater the change, the greater the chaos.
Within that, I’m observing that access to assistance from the unseen realm is becoming more and more tangible, with quicker response time for many people. If you haven’t experienced this yet, that’s OK, that’s what we’re going to talk about today.
The key is to trust. To choose to trust in the flow of life regardless of whether you’ve been hurt or disappointed before. To choose that you are in alignment with the flow of the Universe and that everything is working out in your favor.
The opposite of trust is control. Control says, “I don’t believe this will work out for me, so I have to make it happen.” Control also says, “This situation/creation has to work/look exactly how I want or it’s a failure.” But the force behind the control brings forth resistance and blockages to the very thing you want. You can end up in struggle versus flow.
In my own reality, I like to plan things. Yes, it’s definitely a way to try to control a situation. Recently however, as I was trying to plan something, I could sense that if I would just let go, surrender, and trust that everything was working out for me, that it would all fall into place elegantly and gracefully. I also visualized exactly what I wanted as the end result, gave gratitude (ahead of time) for it coming to pass, then stepped out of the way and allowed myself to be in the energy of flow and trust.
I’ll admit, it was a difficult couple days because I wanted to get into my old habit of making things happen, but when that arose, I would take a breath, and surrender. In the course of a few days, not only did I receive something close to what I wanted, I then went into trust that the end result would somehow come to pass. And it did. While sitting in my gratitude for receiving the outcome I desired, I asked if this was a wise course for me to pursue as something felt off. I surrendered again, trusted that the answer would come, and after a couple days, realized there was a different outcome that was even better. It felt like the right choice even though it was far from my original plan. I would not have gotten to that highest truth had I not surrendered and trusted all along.
Regardless of what happened to you in the past, I want you to affirm to yourself, “It’s safe for me to trust. It’s safe for me to be present in my reality. It’s safe for me to trust that all of the pieces I need are falling into place now, in the highest and best way, for my highest and best good, with harm to none. I trust that everything is working out in my favor.”
Make that new choice now. Choose to trust in the flow of life. Choose to surrender your fears and ask for and receive the help that is readily available right now.
Get still, listen, and follow your own inner guidance. It’s there, waiting. It may not make rational sense and that’s OK! It’s not supposed to be rational.
When you get an intuitive hit, follow it. That’s the way you start to build trust. If you rationally talk yourself out of it or you ignore it, you are breaking trust with yourself therefore making it harder to build that muscle.
If it feels right, or wrong, you have to honor that. The more you honor yourself and your intuitive knowing, the more clear it becomes, the louder it becomes, and the more available you are to receive the help that is there for you.
So, this week make a choice of something you’re looking to bring forth/create, ask for help from the Universe, and then trust that it will appear exactly as is in your highest and best good. Even if you can’t see how or the way through, surrender and stay in the energy of flow. Build your trust and be ready to receive the miraculous.
With everything upsetting going on in the world, this is a perfect time for everyone's favorite: Oracle cards!
Before that though, two comments on the last two blogs were especially poignant and I wanted to share them as reminders regarding Being the Solution, and Reclaiming Your Imagination from Your Negative Ego:
H. said- "Wouldn't it be fascinating if we all continually asked ourselves, 'What is the most beautiful reality I can imagine here?' and then focused on that? Or if we said, 'What perspective would I most like to be wrong about?' Wouldn't that free up the space we're giving to our negative egos?"
C. said- "My job is to dream the new future, the rest is distractions."
May those comments be helpful to you. And remember, if you feel overwhelmed, connect to your 1st chakra at your base of spine, and remind yourself, “I am safe.”
Now for some fun!
I asked what everyone who picked, i.e. Card Number One, needed to know right now.
As always, center yourself, breathe, ask your unseen team to guide you to the perfect card for you, get out of your head, trust your gut, then pick.
May you gain answers and clarity!
Card Number One
Card Number Two
Card Number Three
Card Number Four
Sending extra support and healing to those in the U.S. in New Orleans and Northern CA/Lake Tahoe.
With everything going on in the world right now, it’s easy to slip into despair, rage, and blame. You need to process through your pain underneath the emotions coming to the surface, because for a lot of us, those emotions are intense. Many of you have told me that your emotional responses lately aren’t rational. I know for myself, irrational levels of perfection energy fueled a rage response the other evening that was completely unwarranted to the actual situation at hand.
So, what to do? Recognize that you’re being impacted by the events in the world. Maybe it’s the fires, Covid, Afghanistan, Haiti, or elsewhere. Honor that you feel the pain from those situations, even if you're not consciously aware of it. That pain is triggering your own personal pain.
What about the issue that most upsets you, triggers you? If it’s Covid or the fires, maybe you feel fear which triggers a lack of safety. If it’s Afghanistan, maybe you acutely feel the loss of freedom for the people there, especially the women and girls, and the domination energy causes you rage.
Once you recognize what in you is being triggered, you can work on your personal issues so that you become part of the solution.
Take your power back and pull yourself out of blame. Remember that you matter and you’re on this planet at this time to add your voice and energy to a world becoming new. No, we didn’t know how intense this time would be when we signed up to come and be in a body, but you’re here so you agreed to it. You are not a victim. You agreed to bring your particular light and healing energies to the world the way only you can.
That might mean taking physical action by helping refugees or firefighters etc., or it might mean that you take a moment every morning to send healing light and support to the area that most draws you. It might seem minimal, but any way that you add your energy has impact. And that includes any negativity you put out.
If Covid has you riled up, focus on the virus disappearing.
With the fires and hurricanes, focus on balanced elements and healing the planet.
With Afghanistan, focus on the freedom of the people.
Whether it's these issues or others, focus on the solution. On the highest outcome for the good of all. Don’t get stuck on it turning out the way you fear it might, or on the way you think is best- that’s control. Focus on the peace behind the issue. The healing. The freedom. Then ultimately, bring in the love. Be the conduit for luminous change.
Breathe out your pain, and breathe in the light. Do that consistently.
If you need extra help with personal issues surfacing, here are some previous blogs to assist you:
The Ladder of Emotions
A Map for Calm in the Face of Chaos
Anger Release Techniques
7 Techniques to Help You Transcend Your Fears
12 Ways to Alleviate Anxiety and Panic
As dark as it may feel sometimes, the hope isn’t gone, it just might be covered up. Be the light, be the hope for the world. The more you vibrate there, the more there is for others.
I talked about the importance of visualization and imagination last week, but what happens when your imagination has been hijacked by your negative ego? If all you can imagine is darkness, and worst-case scenarios, then your negative ego is controlling your imagination.
First thing first, take your power back from your negative ego. Recognize that there’s a part of you that, for whatever reason- most likely as a survival mechanism, started to give more attention and energy to things turning out badly. Maybe there’s a part of you that gets a sense of righteousness or power out of seeing the negative come to fruition. The, “See I was right, I knew X (something bad) would happen!” Or maybe negativity is all you experienced and knew as a child, so it’s easier to imagine the dark than the light.
Take your power back from the past, release self-judgement, and have empathy towards the part of you that didn’t have hope or optimism. Then view your past through a different lens: can you see the younger you and have compassion for what they went through? That the only way they could survive, was either by attaining some semblance of power and control through being right(eous), or by not expecting the positive and the light. As you have compassion for that little you who couldn’t think positively because it was too painful, also bring in the understanding that that you was doing the best they could. And hope could’ve been a dangerous thing, especially if your hopes were crushed over and over.
Maybe this didn’t start in early childhood, maybe it was adolescence, or young adulthood when it was too painful to think of positive things potentially happening. Discover what age it was when your beliefs were shattered that there could be light in your life, and in the world. That’s the where you need to send love and healing.
Through your imagination or through writing, talk to that part of you and let them vent. Let them talk about how it’s too hard to imagine anything positive. Let them speak out all of their pain. Then show them that you, as their future self, make it. That you are greater than any of the bad things that happened. Open to the possibility of believing in goodness and beauty. Say to yourself, “It’s safe for me to believe good things can come to me. It’s safe for me to see and experience a beautiful, healed world.”
As you remind yourself it’s safe to release the pain of the past and create a future very different than what you experienced, you release the stored trauma that holds the negative ego in charge.
Then move on to the what if ‘s: “What if I could transcend my pain and have a joyful future? What if I could truly let go of the hurt and live a reality unlike anything I’ve experienced up until now? What would that be like? What would that even look like? What if there could be hope? What if there could be love and laughter? What if I could thrive now?
Be open and willing. Bring your energy and power into this moment. Realize that you in present time can make a different choice. That only you have the power to declare that your negative ego is no longer allowed to rule your imagination. When you feel yourself thinking negative things and having a negative outlook, you can change that. You can choose to believe that good things happen. You can choose to believe in the goodness of humanity. You can choose to believe that the Universe really does have your back. Maybe you feel like that wasn’t true when you were young and maybe you couldn’t believe that before now. But never forget your personal power and the power of choice.
Ultimately, do you want to contribute more love or more pain to the world? If you’re reading this, I guarantee you’re in the love category. But even those of us in the love category sometimes get tripped up; it happens, we’re human. So as much as possible, don’t let your negative ego control your imagination. You’re too powerful to keep creating from a place of darkness and destruction. Create from a place of goodness and light and let your imagination flow from there.
I’ve spoken of authoring your reality, and as we currently have access to very expansive energies, now is a perfect time to visualize/claim/own what you’re wanting in your reality.
I’ll admit, I don’t always do these types of exercises when people tell me to because there always seems to be so much pressure to do it “perfectly.” That’s why, doing it the way I’m going to describe, takes the pressure off and makes it fun and imaginative.
Start simply- just daydream and imagine: “If I had a magic wand, what would I create in my reality? What would bring me joy?” Think about the things you desire for yourself.
If you like to write, write it out; there's power in the written word. Imagine that your pen is magical and as you write, you manifest. Write it in present time.
Radiant health is a wonderful thing to claim, and maybe you stop there, but how about getting even more specific with what that looks like: “I wake up joyous and filled with energy, vitality and motivation. I feel happy and at peace in my body. My whole body is radiantly healthy with minimal signs of aging. In fact, I look decades younger than I am. And I feel so fantastic physically!”
Can you feel how the specificity gets you excited and energized? Suddenly the idea of radiant health is something you can get behind because of the many details.
As you dream about your future, ask yourself, “What does my house look like? What do I do in the morning? What am I looking at when I have my cup of coffee/tea?” These small details begin to weave the bigger picture and bring life to your imaginings.
Release all pressure of having to accomplish these things and them being on a to-do list, and just play with your ideas!
If you get stuck, Gabby Bernstein suggests people create from the idea of, “What if…” For example, “What if I landed my dream job (describe it) and then tripled my current salary? Then with that salary, I bought a home in (fill in the blank) that was in my favorite style. And then, what if I was able to travel more and…and...” As you ask the "what ifs," again, you can feel your joy elevating you as you entertain better and better possibilities.
Delving into the details helps heighten your creations, bringing them life and substance so they can actually manifest versus just being ideas floating in the ether. Once you start with the pieces you desire, ask your Higher Self for help in designing a life beyond what you can imagine.
Let it be fun, and Happy Authoring!
I’ve taught this to many of you over the years, but lately it’s been coming up more often, so I figured I would put it out there for everyone.
This is a technique to help you own a new space- house, apartment, or temporary living situation- by infusing it your energy. When you claim a space as yours, it helps you to feel more grounded and safe within that space. It will also help you settle in much more quickly. And even though I said it's for a "new" space, you can use it for your current one, especially if you've never felt settled there.
I once had a client use this technique in a theatre where she was performing. It helped her be more present and comfortable on stage. So while it's usually used for a living situation, feel free to get creative as you need.
Here’s how you do it:
First, walk around the space and notice the layout: all the corners in all rooms and each room’s general shape. When you can visualize that clearly, then either literally or figuratively, depending on if it's possible, stand wherever the center of the house or apartment etc. is.
Starting in whichever room you want, begin to imagine golden cords of light, like a rope, streaming towards you from each upper corner of that room, down and into your dominant hand. Then imagine ropes/cords of light coming from every bottom corner of that same room, and into your dominant hand. When you’ve finished one room, move on to the next, all the while staying stationary in the approximate center of the house. As you gather the cords, it should look as if you’re holding strings from a huge bunch of balloons.
As you practice and get better at this technique, it becomes easier to stand in the center of the house and imagine these cords coming to you. However, if you’re in a space with many odd shaped rooms and the way I described seems too hard, you can also do the technique in one room at a time, gathering your cords, while walking from room to room. For some, this is a preferred method in that as you walk the space, you really see the outline of the house/apartment and are able to inhabit it more fully. After you've been in every room, while holding your bunch of cords, then move to the center of the overall space.
Once you have all the cords gathered in your hand, with complete authority and ownership claim, “my space!” and lift your hand and slam those cords down into the center of the planet. Imagine them going all the way down to the core of the planet and rooting/anchoring in. Let go of the cords.
Now imagine/visualize a golden light emanating from each corner of the whole house/apartment, expanding out to create a ball of light around the outside of the overall space.
Your energy is now able to fill the rooms and the entire space. If you’re in an apartment building, only do this for your apartment, not the whole building. Let the ball surrounding the space only surround your apartment.
If you live with others, when it comes time to claim the space, claim it in the name of each of you. Even though you’re doing the visualizing, before grounding those cords say, “I claim this space in my name and the name(s) of…” If you don’t add them in, generally it’s not an issue, but sometimes your energy can become so dominant in the space, that the others who live there will feel squished and irritable without knowing why. So be respectful.
May this bring increased harmony to your living situation!
Today I’m sharing a technique for those occasions when you’re undecided between two options. I know I recently wrote a blog about what could be underneath indecision (see here), and truly we always know the answer inside, but sometimes stuff gets in the way of us accessing that knowing. When faced with choices that seemingly could be good for different reasons, here’s a way to gain clarity. This will help you feel your intuition’s wisdom.
You can use this for a job, a move, - really anything.
Here’s what you do:
Set aside two chairs, side by side with a good amount of space between them. Grab two small pieces of paper and a pen.
On one piece of paper, write the name of one option. Keep it simple, just the title you want to give it. While you’re holding that paper, think about all the different aspects of that particular option. For example, if it’s a job, infuse it with the location, the people who’ve met so far, your title- anything you know already. Think about all of that and imagine that energy flowing into the paper. When you’ve really infused it with every aspect of that option, set it down on a chair.
Then pick up the other piece of paper and do the same thing with the second option. Put it on a different chair.
Now, close your eyes and while standing or sitting on a chair without any paper on it, feel your feet on the floor. Imagine roots growing from your feet down into the center of the planet and imagine a strong root/cord/tree trunk growing from your tailbone down to the center of the planet. Hook those roots from both areas in. Bring your attention back to your body. Pull all of your energy tightly into the center of your body with every inhale.* Put your hand over your stomach and sink your awareness there. We want your gut wisdom engaged, not your conscious mind. Take a few deep breaths. When you’re ready, open your eyes, pick up your papers, shuffle them without looking, and then place them face down on each chair. This will prevent any pre-conceived ideas about which choice is “right,” as well as any negative ego interference.
Once you have both pieces of paper on different chairs, sit down on one of the chairs, and notice either overt, or subtle things, that you start feeling. Does your body feel lighter? Heavier? Do you feel happy? Angry? Do you want to stay seated or are you wanting to get up quickly? Notice everything that comes up, even the very faint sensations.
Nothing happening can be a sign too. Or it can mean you’re over-thinking and not feeling. You’ll know which it is when you move on to chair two.
When you’ve gotten some awareness, stand up, and literally shake off that energy. Move your whole body: shake out your arms and legs and even jump a couple times.
Then ask yourself to come back to neutral. Briefly ground again, breath, center, then tap your heart area and drink some water.
When you’re neutral, sit on the next chair and do the same thing; notice what comes up.
If on both chairs you feel nothing, then you’re not in your body. You need to root in and open your gut intuition to receive your answers. Ground more deeply or do something physical to anchor into yourself. Then try again. Be patient, maybe you’re out of body more than you realize. That itself is a good message to receive.
Even if it’s subtle, you should be able to tell which chair you prefer to sit on. That will be your answer. Your gut intuition will not lie when it comes to sitting on the energy. Your innate intelligence knows the answer, let it speak.
When you’ve chosen which chair you prefer, turn the papers over and see the answer.
By the way, sometimes you might be bummed with the answer. What a clue! You knew all along what you wanted. But your body isn’t lying so either you misinterpreted something, or your need to explore one option is stronger than what your gut says. In those cases, just know that going in.
As you work with this, let me know if you have any questions.
May this bring you incredible clarity and insights.
* See previous blogs on grounding if you're unfamiliar with how to do what I'm describing.
It's a perfect time to talk about freedom today since here in the U.S., we just celebrated our Independence Day. I know I’ve written about it before, but it’s something that many forget to acknowledge: how lucky we are to have the freedoms that people in other countries, and sometimes even other U.S. States, don’t have. We’re only as free as those around us. If there are oppressed peoples in the world, then we don’t have as much freedom as we could because we're impacted by that resonance.
Take for instance Afghanistan- the Taliban just outlawed music. Music! They say it’s associated with sin and anybody caught playing it will be put to death. Death! If you put on music and danced around the room recently, can you imagine that that could cause death in another country?
Sound is incredibly uplifting and has the power to transform darkness into light. It doesn’t surprise me that that’s the last thing that those in power want in that area; they want to be entrenched in the dark.
Let's take a moment right now and collectively, everyone reading this, send light to an area of the world in which the freedoms are phenomenally repressed. Maybe Afghanistan is where your heart is drawn to helping, or maybe there are other areas in which the freedoms are horribly restricted that move you on a soul level. Send some support now to those who are trapped in the darkness and would like freedom. Imagine embers of light filling their hearts and minds, helping create transformation.
This is how you make a difference in the world; you send light/love/energy to those who don’t have what you have freely.
Turning the attention back on you, because nothing changes until you do, where can you be freer in your own life? Where do you restrict yourself to the point of rigid control instead of allowing flow and joy? Send light to those places in you as well.
Next, give gratitude for the freedoms you do have: the freedom to love who you want to love, marry who you want to marry, live where you want to live, wear the clothes you want to wear, to drive, to protest and speak your mind, etc. Don’t take those freedoms for granted. You even have the freedom to think what you want and create your life based on your beliefs. That’s huge! This is a planet of free will- own yours and never surrender it.
The more you value freedom and appreciate it, the more the energy of freedom can increase in the world. Let’s bring more light and more freedom into being through our focus and appreciation. Together, we can move mountains.
I was listening to a discussion recently, and the sound healer I sometimes quote, Eileen McKusick, pointed out something that some of us know, but maybe hadn’t really thought about. There’s a phrasing in the romance languages where you have something versus be it. For example, “I am having hunger,” instead of, "I am hungry." Taking that premise, what would happen if we applied that principle to our emotions?
The wording, “I am” is an incredibly strong and powerful statement that we throw around all the time. When we use it, we claim ownership of whatever follows. Which is why you should be judicious with your words and thoughts. Now to the topic at hand: when you're feeling an emotion, instead of claiming it with an “I am,” what if you shift your thinking and you have it instead? Having something is temporary and transitory; it can pass through you quickly. Owning something is harder to shed and makes it more ingrained.
Here’s an example: I woke up in a mood recently and found myself saying, “I am so crabby!” Then I started looking for the reasons why I was so crabby. As I was doing that, I realized I was beginning to create a story about the crabbiness, as well as an association – i.e., it was the food I ate or it must be a certain supplement, etc. Now maybe neither of those were the case and yet I was about to tell myself a whole story with negative associations and dig that crabbiness in even further.
Thankfully I caught myself and with a swift, “cancel clear!”- my favorite way of deleting whatever negative thought I say/think- I decided to shift my experience. I started by saying, “I am having crabbiness.” I repeated it a few times. What that did first of all, was help me to acknowledge the crabbiness with nothing attached to it. It was simply what I was experiencing in that moment. A temporary feeling that I accepted and let myself express. The more I owned it as a temporary state, the more it began to dissipate.
Every time I wanted to blame something or someone for my mood, I pulled myself out of victim, took my power back, and simply stated again that I was having the crabbiness. Without attachment.
The next step was to choose what I wanted instead; remember the power of choice. I chose to feel calm and at peace.
As I continued to do this, eventually, the crabbiness completely disappeared. This wasn’t immediate, nor did I feel completely calm right away, but I kept choosing it and I kept releasing waves of crabbiness when they would come up. Acknowledge, and release.
I also had to remind myself who was in charge in my reality: my conscious aware self, or my emotions. I chose my conscious aware self.
Now listen, all that being said, sometimes you’re straight up angry or sad for a very specific reason and you need to process that. In those cases, allow yourself to feel the emotion fully and vent everything going on in a responsible way, so that ultimately you can release the pain below the emotion. (See previous blogs on emotional healing)
Why I write a lot about things like this, is because I want you to be more empowered throughout your day, not just when you’re sitting down to ground yourself. I want you to feel like you have the power to shift whatever is going on in your reality, because you do!
So, if it appeals to you, play with this concept this week. Allow anything negative to be fleeting, so that you can focus on and create, more of what you desire.
Me, Tina Germain, just sharing ways to make you the best you can be!