​I want to talk about forgiveness again. Even though it’s been a topic that I’ve brought up multiple times, its power is unmistakable.
 
I recently had a lightbulb moment when I realized that I was still victimizing myself from an issue I’d been dealing with for about seven years. I was giving my power to one part of a situation versus not only taking my power back, but ultimately, forgiving myself. 

I started doing forgiveness work every morning. I needed to forgive myself for going through it, forgive myself for blaming parts of the event and thus surrendering my power to it, and forgive myself for the level of physical pain it caused.
 
I forgave every physical body issue that resulted from that experience. I forgave myself for choosing that experience; recognizing I was doing the best I could at that time. Then I forgave all the explosive and harmful emotions that were below the physical repercussions. At that point, I realized it was my own rage, fear, and pain that had caused the bodily harm, not the event itself.  
 
I forgave myself for my emotional trauma and all the pockets of stored pain and hurt that were stuck in my physical body. I forgave everything I could think of in regard to that situation; both speaking all I forgave, and using the Ho’oponopono.
 
Most importantly, I forgave myself because I was keeping the pain alive. No one else was doing it to me. I was blaming and causing my own continued suffering. In my anger over the issue, I wasn’t allowing in the healing, nor the transcending, of that pain. The anger and righteousness were winning. And frankly, one can’t heal in that place.
 
After each forgiveness session, and it only took me less than five minutes a day, I would take a moment and let in and receive the energy of forgiveness. I would see it filling up all the places where the trauma and pain were released. I then chose what energy I wanted in its place, for example: love, healing, joy, etc.
 
The more I forgave, the more the remaining emotional pain lifted and became a non-issue. All the charge was gone. The more I forgave, the more the answers came for how to heal the physical ramifications of my emotional trauma. 
 
I no longer blame myself or what I went through. Now my focus is solely on healing and finally laying the past to rest. I’m there emotionally, and almost fully there physically.
 
While this example was on a physical, and ultimately emotional, level, it can be applied to anything.
 
What in your life are you still allowing yourself to be victimized by? And can you take your power back and allow forgiveness in? You may not be able to forgive the actual event, especially if the event was horrific, but can you forgive yourself for going through it? Can you forgive where it’s held you down and prevented the fullest range of your light and sparkle? Can you forgive yourself for experiencing such pain and hurt? 
 
If it’s difficult, have the compassion with yourself that you would give to a little child or a baby animal. You wouldn’t scold them for not knowing differently, why punish yourself?
 
Forgiveness sets you free. It doesn’t negate what happened, it’s not for any other parties involved, it’s for you. Your freedom. Your freedom from suffering and pain. 
 
Give yourself that gift and release the past. It can be too heavy a burden to keep carrying. A brilliant future awaits.


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I had a neighbor who always said, “we’ll travel once we’re retired.” And not just travel- there was always a future date for any pleasure. He was a lovely man but unfortunately, injuries kept cropping up as soon as he had time, and then he passed away unexpectedly in his sleep on New Year’s Eve. He lived by delayed gratification and never gave himself joy in the now. 
 
He got me thinking, if the world were to end tomorrow, would I have any regrets? 
 
Not regrets regarding something I wished I had done differently, because that’s holding the past alive and the past is past. You can drag it forward, or you can forgive and release what holds you in a pain pattern. 
 
I’m talking regrets about actions untaken. Something I can alter now. And I did have one. One thing that would augment my life. Recognizing its value to me, I immediately took steps to remedy it. I already knew it was a priority this year, and now I recognized the depth of it. 
 
This blog is not to be morose- it’s to get you thinking about the present. About what you can change and do. Yes, we’re under Covid restrictions still so if travel is your thing, obviously that’ll have to wait. And there may be other restrictions due to the pandemic, but beyond that, what calls your heart? 
 
If the world ended tomorrow, is there anything in your control now that you would wish you could’ve done/said/experienced?
 
It may not be grandiose; it may be spending more time with a loved one, allowing yourself to slow down and relax, not trying to do it all perfectly. Or it could be something concrete that inspires you: learning to play guitar, preparing your body to climb Mt. Fuji, writing your memoir.
 
It’s not about being a famous such and such because that’s out of your control. What, in your control, would you regret not pursuing, fixing, accomplishing, or doing? 
 
Once you have your answer, you know your priority. Now it’s up to you to take consistent action and bring it into fruition. And if you don’t know how to do it, ask someone who does.
 
No excuses by the way. If it would be a regret, then no, “I’m too old, I don’t know how, they may not respond to my desire to reconcile…” If it’s dependent on another, you can’t control them, but you can do the healing you need to clear your side of the street, including forgiving yourself and the other. 
 
Face your fears and act in spite of them. 
 
After all, the time is now. Give yourself the gift of what calls to your heart in this moment. Joy awaits.


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Welcome to 2022!!
 
I wish for you a spectacular year that exceeds your wildest, positive expectations!!
 
So, to start the year in a fun way, it’s Oracle Card time!
 
Now before you choose, have a question or topic in mind. Then sit silently for a moment, breathe, and connect inward as to which card can answer your question, numbers 1-5.

Yes, a fifth card wanted to make an appearance this time, normally there are only four choices. Be open as to what number is best for you today.
 
I asked two questions:
What do you need to know as you enter this new year?
What needs healing or awareness in regards to what you need to know?
 
Both cards are together on the same page.

I find it fascinating that double numbers (22, 33, 44, 55) appeared somewhere on every page. Clearly magic is afoot behind the scenes!
 
Happy picking and may your card give you insight or enthusiasm about 2022.


Card Number One

Card Number Two

Card Number Three

Card Number Four

Card Number Five

Below, I remind you of all you’ve learned in 2021, with each highlighted word bringing you to a specific blog. 
 
 
If I’ve done my job this year, you’re feeling more of your personal power and remembering that you have the ability to shift, and shape, your reality.
 
You know that as you release old dreams, you free up the space for new and beautiful ones that are more in alignment with where you’re headed, thus helping you author an incredible future. 
 
You’re owning your crown chakra, your third chakra, and opening to the power of pleasure in your second chakra.
 
You’re hearing me and beginning to accept the truth that your light is more powerful than any dark. 
 
You see yourself as able to be part of the solution, versus wallowing in the problems of the world. 
 
You remember that you have techniques for making decisions, claiming a space, getting present, and being grounded. 
 
You’re starting to understand the power of forgiveness and why I talk about it all the time.
 
You recognize that gratitude is key.
 
You’re letting in the truth that you are loved and that you can love yourself more fully.
 
You know that your classroom is your own and you can’t force anyone to learn the lessons you think they should. You see the arrogance in thinking you know better than someone else what they need. You trust that you are on your perfect path, and they’re on theirs.
 
You know how to prevent your negative ego from hijacking your imagination, as well as getting clear on what is important and moving towards that.

And you learned a phrase to help you release your emotions more elegantly. 

Having the tools to cope with, and ultimately process through, anything life throws at you is in my opinion, invaluable. The more self-sufficient you feel and the more you know the answers are within, the more empowered you are. And that my friends, is why I write these blogs. To remind you of your power, your light, and that you matter!! 

Even though there are a couple more weeks in 2021, let's send some energy for 2022 being a kick ass year! May you thrive!!

It’s that time of year again; it’s time to find your word for 2022!
 
For those of you who are newer to my blogs, this is based on a John Gordon blog I read, maybe five years ago. In it, he suggested picking one word for the upcoming year, versus creating resolutions that only make you feel badly if you can’t fulfill them. In his words, “just one word that gives meaning, mission, passion and purpose. One word that will help me be my best.”

I love this idea and I’ve been using it ever since. There are no wrong answers regarding your word; it’s very personal. Sometimes you’ll choose it, and sometimes it chooses you. Either way, you’ll know. You’ll feel it in your gut that that word is the word for you.
 
Your word can be anything that you’re wanting to infuse into 2022: freedom, forgiveness, compassion, play, expansion, fun, self-love, wisdom, ease, peace, joy - the list is endless.
 
Once you have your word, write it in big letters somewhere that you’ll read it each day. And not just a passing glance, but truly, “how can I bring this word into action today?” 
 
Now, see that word infused throughout next year. Look at a calendar of 2022 and imagine your word woven throughout the days and months. Imagine that word opening you up to possibilities, insights, changes, and personal growth. 

As you focus on it daily, you’ll find that you may be led to experiences, books, and talks etc., that are exactly what you need to learn/hear to help you grow and have more of that word in your reality. 
 
If you want, share your word with me and I’ll support you in your expansion for 2022. 
 
Happy choosing and may your word help you thrive!!!
 
 
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For some of you, what I’m going to talk about will make total sense, and for others, it’s a non-issue. It’s been coming up quite often in sessions, which is always a sign for me to write about it in case more of you are feeling this same way.
 
Some of you love social media; it helps you thrive and that’s great. If it’s your favorite, go for it! This blog is not for you. This is for those who feel worse after being on it. Who feel anxious, off center, can’t disconnect from their apps, and who start to go into the dark places within themselves.

I occasionally go on social media, but very rarely on Facebook. I noticed years ago that I would get severe anxiety if I was on Facebook for more than five minutes. I could feel the energy impacting my solar plexus (3rd chakra). What I started to observe, is that there’s something in the energetics of that particular platform that are designed to both hook into someone’s space, and knock out their grounding, so that they stay engaged. Some people are immune to it, and some people are affected without even realizing it. 
 
If you do decide to go on social media (and especially those of you prone to anxiety), before you open that app, center your energy inside yourself and put a violet shield around your space to help you have boundaries. Once you’ve been on and are done, you’ll want your energy back/cleared and here’s what can help:
 
1: Separate out your energy from whatever platform you were on and call your energy back (see resources page). Do this with the overall platform as well as any individuals who triggered you. And if you were incredibly triggered or started down the rabbit hole of comparisons, take your power back from those individuals and remind yourself, “I am good enough. My path and my timing are my own.” 

You may also need to take your power back from your own negative ego and inner critic. Silence them and stand in the power pose to remember your worth.
 
2: Visualize removing the psychic hook between you and the app you were on. See/imagine that hook and literally use your hand to actively unhook yourself. As you hold the hook in your hand, away from your body, watch it dissolve. As it dissolves it breaks the connection between you and what you were attached to, freeing you. 
 
3: Imagine closing and locking the door between you and that platform. You can close it gently or slam it shut; whatever will help you disengage. You can take it a step further and erase the door. That’s one of my favorite techniques to do in any situation where there’s been too much of an energy exchange. It gives a clear message to the subconscious.

 4: Ground yourself. If you’re feeling especially out of sorts, run earth energy. 
 
5: Fill yourself with your own sparkly life force energy or with Divine light. 
 
 
Beyond social media, at the end of the day you can also disconnect from all devices. I take my imaginary scissors and cut the cords between me and both my phone and computer. I either run them up the front of my body or go specifically to where I feel the energy drain. If you’re on your device all day, that frequency can jack you up or deplete you. Run some earth energy, even just in your feet.
 
Don’t give your power away to your devices or to any platforms. Do the above to help and if you still feel off and it’s important/necessary to be on your devices and certain platforms, then train your subconscious, “I am immune to the negative energies and electromagnetics here.”  State that over and over until you feel your boundaries getting stronger. 
 
Your energy is precious; make sure it stays in you. 

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* Red highlighted words are linked to previous blogs

In the spirit of tomorrow, let’s talk about gratitude.

It can be easy to say what you’re grateful for, and that’s a great start, however, to make it even more effective, add feeling to your gratitude list. Let it open your heart. Expand upon that opening and move into appreciation. Allow yourself to name what in that person/experience you appreciate greatly. 
 
Gratitude is an expansive energy; the more you focus on it, the more of it there is to be grateful for.
 
Appreciation brings in the heart. The more you open your heart and flow that energy, the more appreciation returns to you.
 
Both are abundant energies, and both bring forth more abundance. We’re now in Sagittarius season (Yay!) which is all about aiming for the stars and feeling abundance in the world around you.
 
So, take a moment to do the exercise in the first paragraph and let that open you to new and amazing things.
 
And as the topic is gratitude, I wanted to take a moment and say how grateful I am to you all for showing up, for reading my blog posts, for what you write to me personally, and what you post. I value and appreciate you greatly!!!

                                                                                                           ~
 
It’s my birthday Saturday, I love birthdays! Huge shout out to all my clients who share my birthday week with me, there are one or two of you everyday from Nov. 23rd to Dec 1st.

​My birthday wish for everyone reading this, is that you find peace in your heart, in your mind, and in your life regardless of whatever chaos is going on outside of you and in the world.
 
Happy Thanksgiving everyone!!

I finally got my full set of Oracle Cards back so naturally, decks that had been quiet all year were chomping at the bit to be used! 
 
Sometimes when I do the Oracle pulls, there’s a theme running through the cards. And sometimes, like this week, they are completely different from each other. So really take the time to ask your question or what you need guidance on, before you choose.
 
If you always go to a specific number, don’t just automatically go there. Center yourself, breathe, get out of your head, trust your gut, then pick.
 
Happy picking and may your number bring you clarity and insight!


Card Number One

Card Number Two

Card Number Three

Card Number Four

Our bodies are made up of 60% water. If you’ve ever seen the images Dr. Masaru Emoto took of water, you know that what you say to water changes it. So, what are you saying to the water within yourself? *
 
If you’ve spent a lifetime saying you’re not good enough or you don’t matter, you need to filter that water through a new sieve, one that says, “I am good enough and I do matter!” 
 
This needs to be a concerted effort; how you speak to yourself affects every molecule. Water is a building material for the cells, it flushes toxins, it lubricates joints, and it’s a shock absorber for the brain and spinal cord. Take a moment and feel gratitude for every water molecule in your body.
 
This week, take that a step further and start speaking to the water inside of you. Send that water love. Send it appreciation. Even if you can’t quite love or appreciate yourself fully, send those energies to your internal water and all it does for you. As you do so, those blessings begin to change your whole system for the better, bringing you greater radiance.

​Transform yourself through the water within.
 
 
 
*Credit to Eileen McKusick for sharing this idea.

​Reprieve, respite, relaxation…
 
When the chaos gets crazy or when you’ve had an extended period of doing, you need to give yourself permission to pull back and rest. Give yourself permission to stop, even if there’s a lot to do. 
 
Only in the respite can you regroup and re-center. 
 
Only in the relaxation can you refill your energy and your capacity to think clearly.
 
Only in the reprieve can you pause and be.
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Allow yourself these energies to bring about greater presence and well-being.