Never underestimate the power of forgiveness to shift your reality when things are stuck. On some level, you created it, so you need to take responsibility for it. It is an illusion that “they” are doing it to you. There is no “they,” there is only you. Only you control how you act and respond in any given situation. Therefore, once you take full responsibility, the next step is forgiveness.
You can forgive yourself for why ever you allowed this person/situation in your reality, you can forgive the situation itself, and you can forgive the other person. Ultimately though, you need to be able to forgive yourself. To recognize and acknowledge why you brought this in in the first place. It’s not always necessary to know the specific whys, it could be a faulty belief, a negative thought pattern, or something stuck deep in the unconscious – the point is to truly take responsibility, and forgive yourself, for why ever you are experiencing this pain or trauma.
A brilliant way to do this is to use the Ho’oponopono. The Ho’oponopono consists of four lines:
I love you, I’m sorry, please forgive me, thank you.
You say these things to yourself, while visualizing or picturing the person or situation that’s causing you stress, or you can say it to the other person.
I love you: everything starts with love. You have to start from a place of love to shift the energy, as love is the most powerful force there is.
I’m sorry: yes, forgive yourself for why this is in your reality. And genuinely feel sorry that you’ve allowed it.
Please forgive me: ask for, and be willing to receive, that forgiveness. It’s yours.
Thank you: gratitude is a powerful energy for change. Truly be grateful that the energy can now transform.
I have seen the Ho’oponopono completely transform negative situations and relationships. I use it myself regularly, and sometimes, I go into detail with it. For example, let’s say you’re having financial difficulties. You could say, “I love you self. I’m so sorry we are stuck in this pattern of struggle and lack. Please forgive me for everything keeping me in this trauma. Thank you for helping me with this.”
Or with sickness: “I love you body. I’m so sorry I keep creating this illness. Please forgive me for what I’m putting you through. Thank you.”
It is not necessary to detail it, but sometimes I like to start that way, to give my whole being a very specific message of what we are healing.
You can change up the order of the lines too, especially when wanting to shift the energy with another person. For example, while visualizing them you could say (if you were detailing it):
“Please forgive me, I have absolutely judged and blamed you. I’m so sorry for that and for your pain. Thank you for accepting my apology. I love you.”
You may be thinking, “but what if I don’t love them?!” Well, what if you don’t? Can you find the wounded part of them and accept that they aren’t perfect? That they’re doing the best they can too? That rather than sending more anger their way, love can actually heal the rift? I did this once with someone who was causing me great rage and pain. While I didn’t love their actions, I could send love to the truth of them, beyond their body. And you know what, it completely transformed our interactions. What was once acrimonious became harmonious. I didn’t stop once things started to shift, I still continue with it regularly to augment and continue the healing. After all, I allowed this person in my reality, so I can take responsibility for healing the relationship.
It starts with you. There is no one outside of you. You need to be the change. Take responsibility, and allow the forgiveness. Freedom awaits.
Me, just sharing ways to make you the best you can be!