Overcoming Resistance

​Resistance: we all have it at times. Sometimes it’s subtle, gently pushing you away from that which you desire to accomplish. Like when you’re finally starting that creative project or exercise routine and a distraction comes up that pulls your focus elsewhere; you tell yourself you’ll start tomorrow. Or the to-do list that takes precedence over your down time or meditative time. It’s all the little (which really aren’t little) ways that you’re stopped from achieving your goals.
 
Sometimes resistance is overt and temper tantrum throwing, blocking you from your good, even when you want it. Actively looking for distractions to avoid doing what you need, not practicing your dance/words/instrument etc. before an event, feeling rebellious as if others can’t tell you what to do, even if you hired them or they have great ideas.
 
You most certainly know your negative ego is involved anytime you feel resistance. It’s trying to prevent any breakthroughs, creative expression, or your ability to have greater freedom in your life. 
 
Being in resistance is like slogging through the mud to get where you’re going; the path becomes filled with struggle and blockages.
 
Resistance comes when the outcome of whatever you’re about to do will bring you greater love, a greater sense of accomplishment, and more empowerment. That’s when it’s loudest. 
 
Remember that: resistance is strongest before a breakthrough. So keep going, don’t give in to it.
 
You need to create an inner coach, one who’s words are stronger than those of your negative ego. One who will gently keep you on track, having you silence your phone, tell others you’re not to be disturbed, while also helping you to stay present and in your body to accomplish your desires. A coach who encourages you to keep going, even when it’s hard. Who tells you supportive words and lifts you up.
 
It’s up to you to create that coach. To let its voice be stronger than the resistance, stronger than any fears. A coach who lovingly helps you succeed. Start imaging that coach, see her/him as a supportive cheerleader, reminding you of your worth and value. Feed that coach power by connecting to it every day. The more power it has, the less your negative ego will control you.
 
Even with that coach, sometimes you might need a visual to show your subconscious your desire to release resistance. Something to help all parts of you get the message.
 
Here’s a visualization that I use, based on a Lazaris technique. It works wonderfully when resistance is loud:
 
Close your eyes and imagine yourself in a beautiful and serene place in nature with a river in front of you. The river is flowing gently. Walk into the river and feel its warmth. Move easily towards the middle, the water getting deeper and deeper until it’s neck high. Stand there and let the river wash through you, moving through your skin and body, clearing out any resistance, anything that’s not yours. As you stand there, affirm, “I am in the flow of life, and I release all resistance to that flow and to my good.” 
 
Sometimes if I have too many thoughts swirling around my head, I’ll imagine the ground goes slightly deeper and I’ll step down until my head is submerged. I always tell myself I can easily breathe while under this magical water. 
 
When your resistance is strong, you may want to imagine yourself staying in the river and letting the water flow through you. You can keep that image going as you move about your day. Other times if you feel complete after your cleanse, don’t go back the way you came, exit the opposite side of the river. You want to show your subconscious that you’re walking into a new reality, one in which you're accepting the flow of life. 

 
Create your coach, use the visualization, and may both help you release resistance easily and elegantly. Greater joy awaits.

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