Perfection? Oh please.
Real life is messy. Emotions are messy. Instagram isn’t always real. What?! Yes, I’m sorry to say.
Where’s the fun in perfection? Well it’s fun for your negative ego. Telling you everyone is judging you and making you scared to make a mistake. Telling you if it’s not perfect you won’t be valued, you won’t be enough, or that you’ll be humiliated. That’s a way to keep you stuck and in fear of moving forward.
Are there any projects or goals you have that you’re too paralyzed to start? Or maybe you’re too distracted. Check the perfection idea. That kills plans before they start. It also blocks creativity.
Where did the idea come from? Can you challenge it? Can you allow messy? And real?
It might be scary at first, “Omg what if they laugh? What if they don’t like me?” What if they don’t? Is that true or is it your misperception? And what’s more, if they don’t, good riddance. You’ll find your tribe that values you, for you: messy and real.
It takes so much effort to be perfect, is it worth it?
Now let me be clear, I’m not saying turn in shoddy work or be lazy on the job- no, no, no. Nor am I saying don’t try your best to do a great job. I’m saying- perfection as in static energy. As in being rigid in your views, emotions, and the way you show yourself to others for fear of showing a flaw.
I’m saying needing those around you to act a certain way because they “reflect on you.” No they don’t, they reflect on them. Your ego would like you to add control to the perfection mix so that everything appears just so, but hello, that’s not life. Anytime you see someone who seems perfect and has it all together, remember, looks are deceiving. You have no clue what’s going on beneath the surface. They show what they want to be seen, not necessarily the truth. Before feeling badly about yourself, question your perception and why you’re allowing others to dictate your emotional wellbeing.
Go back to your own self-worth and self-love and stop feeding into your negative ego’s desire to compare you to others.
You need to live for yourself, not for what others might think of you. No one is watching you closely, seeing where your flaws are; people are too busy looking at themselves. So are you living for them, or for you? Because it’ll get exhausting living for others, not to mention killing your self-worth and self-esteem.
We are here to have fun. We are here to be messy and make mistakes and learn and grow. We’re here to love and laugh.
If you really want to push the bounds, be silly. Skip. Be joyful.
It’s your life. Let me repeat, it’s your life! No one else’s. Acknowledge your views of perfection and if willing, let them go, as much as you can.
It doesn’t mean you’ll be a disheveled mess, it means if you’re tired, you’ll give yourself down time. If you’re overwhelmed, you’ll say no instead of sacrificing yourself. You won’t smile when you feel like crying. You won’t push when you need to retreat. You’ll honor yourself and your needs and your truth, kindly, and with compassion.
There is freedom in the messy, there is beauty in the flaws. Do you have the courage to discover that? I think you do.
Me, Tina Germain, just sharing ways to make you the best you can be!