Self-Care for the Holidays

With Thanksgiving coming tomorrow, whether you are with or without family, whether that makes you happy or sad, this is a time for self-love. Holidays can easily trigger old wounds so it is vitality important to give yourself what you need to cope.
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Earlier this year a question came to me and I use it almost daily to dictate my actions, or lack there of. I want you to use it this weekend:
 
“How can I best love and support myself today?”
 
Ask this question each morning and be open to the response that comes. For this weekend specifically, maybe allowing yourself to step away from the table during a highly charged political debate is the best self-care, maybe smiling with a simple, “why do you ask?” when you don’t want to respond to a personal question, or even saying “no” to something that you really don’t want to do. You might need to step away and meditate more often, or even cut a visit short that becomes uncomfortable. However you can best love and support yourself is your assignment for the week. And if someone doesn’t like the boundaries of self-care that you set, that’s their issue, not yours. It is not your job to fix and make things better for everyone else while sacrificing yourself. You can set boundaries gently and with kindness, there’s no need to be mean, but you have a right to have a love filled weekend that involves doing nice things for yourself.
 
So have a very Happy Thanksgiving filled with incredible self-nurturing and self-love. You deserve it.


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