I’ve spoken a lot about forgiveness, and it’s come up quite often in sessions lately, because more than anything, forgiveness has the power to shift energy that otherwise seems completely unmovable.
If there’s ever anyone or anything in your life that you're in resistance to, or fighting, or it’s creating an intense emotional reaction – all of those things take away your energy. Take your power back and forgive. Forgive yourself for having that situation in your life, and forgive the situation and release it. You don’t even have to know the specifics, the fact that you’re experiencing it and it’s causing distress, is enough to use the power of forgiveness to cut through the blockages so you can gain freedom.
Recently I was asked to do something on a day off that I really didn’t want to do, but knew I needed to. My initial reaction was anger at even being asked. I took a moment, acknowledged why I was angry, and then chose to release the anger, and forgive the other person involved. I truly meant it. I forgave them, and myself. Then I asked for help from the Universe. And wouldn’t you know it, the issue resolved immediately as I was led to the very solution needed, without having to take away any of my down time. It was such a quick and elegant response and showed how beautifully forgiveness can shift an issue.
An issue arose a week after that where I lost my iPad and after looking everywhere, again I took a moment to truly forgive myself for misplacing it. Then I released it and surrendered it to the Universe. A few minutes later, as I was ready to walk away, my eyes went to a bag I hadn’t checked. There inside was my pad.
I’ve told you forgiveness has the power to shift big issues and relationships, but these stories illustrate that even the smallest of issues can be transformed.
Certain big issues may be harder to forgive than others, but you don’t always have to forgive what happened, because truly sometimes the “what” is unforgivable, just forgive the energy behind it. Forgive yourself for allowing it in your reality or for wanting to learn something by going through that experience. Forgive yourself for attracting it into your life.
We may never know why bad things happen, sometimes its an issue coming from the unconscious or other lifetimes that needs resolving. So instead of beating yourself up, forgive yourself and choose differently.
As an aside: I get that if it was an absolutely horrific event, then what I’m saying may not make sense or seem do-able. That’s a much deeper conversation than this blog post.
I’ve told many of you this story, but for those who don’t know, there was a time in my life that somebody came in that was just awful to me. And I don’t attract awful people. But this person was going to be around for the long-haul and I was determined to change the energy. I refused to have that sort of negative energy in my reality.
Every day, I would take a moment to think of them and forgive myself for attracting them into my reality and forgive the pain etc. they were in that was causing their behavior. I wasn’t forgiving their actual behavior, I was forgiving what was behind it, causing them to lash out. I also forgave the energy between us.
To be clear, this was not a saintly act. I wasn’t condoning their behavior by forgiving them. I did this for me; it was totally self-serving because I didn’t want animosity in my life. I set myself free by forgiving myself and them.
I did this consistently for years, every morning, taking maybe 2- or 3-minutes max. The relationship shifted so dramatically, that now it’s wonderfully lovely. Complete night and day to how it was. And I totally credit it with the forgiveness work.
You cannot think in a linear way when you’re doing forgiveness work. Nor when you’re choosing to take responsibility for your reality. Because there are certain things that won’t make rational sense to you. And you could say, “Well I didn’t attract this person into my reality or allow them, they came with a marriage, or they’re a friend of a friend, or they came with a new job.” But it’s still your reality. And they’re in your reality for a reason.
So you can either rail against them/the situation and go into more resistance, more righteousness, and more anger, or you could start a forgiveness process. Forgiving anything and everything as to why you would allow this type of energy into your reality.
Just because it took me a couple years, doesn’t mean it has to take you that long. The energy on the planet is speeding up, things won’t take as long as they needed to before.
It might feel like just words at first, but the more you can say the words and truly get into the feeling of forgiveness, the more powerful it will be.
As for self-forgiveness, you can forgive yourself for having a pattern of anger in your life, you can forgive yourself for divebombing into self-pity when things don’t go your way, you can forgive yourself for needing to control everything – the list is endless. You can go into forgiveness for anything. Truly mean it though and be willing to release the destructive habits and patterns. If you do this and then fall into that same habit/pattern, forgive again and choose to receive the healing necessary to move forward.
Anything can be transformed by the power of forgiveness. You hold the key to that power.
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