As long as you believe that something outside of you is causing your issues, it will continue to have power over you.
Nothing is outside of you, nothing. They are not doing anything to you. They are not the root of your problems. Your beliefs are. Your attitudes are. Your thoughts are. Your negative feelings are.
I have spoken about this before, it’s not new. And yet, sometimes, we all look outside ourselves for answers, or we blame circumstances outside. It’s all inside: the truths, the faulty beliefs, the recurring issues, and the pain. The pain that you may project as outward and caused by them; “If only they would change, then I could ...”
This is never true. It is never up to them, it is never outside of you. And once you realize this and take responsibility for everything inside of you and in your reality, then you can change, then you can heal. Until then, you are powerless to the lie that it is outside of your abilities to do anything about it.
You have the power, do not give that away. Look deep inside, see what stories you tell. Question why you believe certain things as true. Do you really believe that or did you get that belief from someone else? And if you really believe it, why? Are you willing to see things differently? Could you be wrong in your perception? “It always happens this way,” you may say to me. Might it always happen that way because you believe it so strongly? I say yes, consider this. You can argue with me but would you rather be right, or would you rather be happy?
Once you see your stories and faulty beliefs, you can change them and write new ones. “Easier said than done,” you may say. Ok, well are you going to focus on how hard it is or shift to allowing a new reality? You’re right, it isn’t always easy, but it is do-able. It does take focus though, and willingness. It may not happen overnight. And here’s the thing, I’m not saying just be positive. That doesn’t work. There are too many factors involved in any creation and a myriad of ways to work things. You have to own your full humanity. Within that, change is absolutely possible, when you recognize the answers and power are within.
Me, just sharing ways to make you the best you can be!