Time is an Illusion

Dr. Nicole LePera talked about the asset of aging on Instagram, and I want to address it as well for anybody who feels that they are behind or not matching with what their peers are doing.
 
When I was in college, I assumed I would be married with kids by the time I turned 30. That was the goal. In fact, all my girlfriends had that goal. I was the “old maid” of the group who said I wanted to wait until 29. That cracks me up to see it in print now because I still have a napkin we all wrote on. In my worldview and what I saw around me, that was my perception of what I most wanted.
 
But as we know, life happens, perspectives shift, and things don’t always go according to our plans.
 
In my 20's I had other priorities. Personal growth and a deeper connection to myself became where I put my energy.
 
I still wasn’t ready for the life I imagined in my 30's, yet I felt the pressure of time and societal norms. I’m so grateful that in spite of that, I didn’t succumb to outside pressure because I was in a terribly codependent relationship that I needed to leave, while learning how to love myself and find my personal power and truths.
 
I also recognized that I’m a late bloomer. My cadence and my timing is my own and I didn’t judge that. That doesn’t mean I wasn’t sad at times or didn’t have moments of comparison, but I kept coming back to my self-trust and self-love.
 
I met my husband after I turned 40. I wouldn't have been ready for this kind of love earlier in my life. I had to clear out the codependence, rage, and my own emotional issues. I had to expand into a greater version of myself who could be in a true partnership.
 
I started my business when I was 43. Again, I needed to build confidence in myself and my abilities to be able to branch out. Along the way, I had to release other dreams of how I had always imagined my life to be. But even though some of that release was extremely painful, I have total peace and acceptance at how things have unfolded.
 
With a burst of creativity, I wrote a first draft of a book at age 53 and now at age 55, I'm finishing editing to publish that book.
 
Time is an illusion. It's never too late. You are not behind. The only one with whom your timing matters is with your own Soul.
 
Don’t allow your own negative ego or your family or society tell you you’re less than or not good enough because your timeline is different than others.  Don’t do anything for the sake of outward appearances. Pursue what’s right for YOU.
 
That might mean marriage in your 20's, or maybe marriage in your 50's. Or not at all! That might mean career as a priority, or maybe family is your priority. There’s no right or wrong, as long as you’re true to yourself.
 
We can try to control our lives (which never works btw) and want things to turn out a certain way, but your Higher Self and Soul know your perfect timing. As hard as it can be, and I know personally that it is, the more you lean back and trust, and the more you're in the flow, the more things elegantly manifest for you.
 
Trust your timing. Do what makes you happy. Follow your dreams. It's never too late!