You Can't Please Everyone

​Not everyone is going to like you. This is a hard thing to swallow for the people pleasers out there, but it’s true. You are not everyone’s cup of tea, nor do you want to be. Just like you don’t vibe with everyone, they may not vibe with you. And that’s OK! That is safe. It’s safe to have people out there who just don’t like you. You can’t please everyone so don’t even try. You will lose yourself in the process if you do. 
 
The goal is to be the best version of yourself without the constraints, programming, and patterning from childhood, your family, your community, and your environment. The goal this lifetime is to become more authentically you, the true you. And that may mean that some people don’t like you or they judge you. You know what, they are going to judge you anyway so why not be true to who you are? It’s not fun to live a life defined by others. The world wants to see you, the real you. What makes you sparkle? What makes you unique? 
 
I’m a dork, I don’t hide it. I snort, I like super hero movies, I get jazzed by books that take place in other realms and worlds, I’m goofy, and I talk to myself. I’ve very airy and metaphysical. Simultaneously, I’m a firecracker and a Momma Bear. Don’t mess with anyone I love. I know my rage, and work with it safely, and responsibly. Those three areas are seemingly very different, and yet, they are all me: Momma Bear, magician, and dork. If I tried to fit in a nice little box to make others comfortable, I’d lose my mind. I allow the full range of colors in me. And that’s the aim, to be all versions of you without limiting yourself, without having a rigid view of who you must be in the world. Because in order to see the world through the eyes of continual joy, you have to be your real self, not the version that is acceptable to your parents, or friends, or partner. 
 
The world is so filled with people pretending to be someone they’re not, take a risk and feel safe being you. People will not recoil in horror, as your negative ego wants you to believe, nor will they abandon you. And let me tell you, if they do, good friggin riddance. You are so beautiful, don’t hide your authenticity. Own all the various parts of you with glee, proudly proclaiming your truth.
 
For fun, write me back and share with me what makes you, you. I will support you and be your cheerleader in that. We all need someone who accepts us fully as we are, let me be that for you.
Own your light, own your truth. It’s so much more fun when you do.