Perspective is an interesting thing. Sometimes we don’t gain it until after the fact and sometimes we need to have someone point out a different way of looking at a situation other than how we’d been seeing it. Regardless, a change in perspective can be a powerful thing.
I had two different clients one day recently who both had very specific perspectives on their parent’s behavior towards them and on what they thought their parent’s actions meant. Neither was true. And yet their stories were defining them and how they lived their lives.
Sometimes we tell ourselves a story because it’s the thing that helps life makes sense. Or it keeps us “safe.” But what are we protecting if we don’t show ourselves the truth? Maybe we’ve hidden the truth of our power, or the fact that we are loved underneath a lie we’ve told ourselves. Also, how much have we needed our parents to be perfect instead of seeing them as fallible human beings doing the best they could? Are we still blaming them versus taking a risk and creating a new way of being?
As an example, one client was adopted at birth and assumed they weren’t wanted. They built a life around the idea of not mattering. The truth was, their mom loved them so much, she was willing to have the child in her life for only 9 months before having to give them away to a better family as she lived in an impoverished country and couldn’t care for an infant. Her love was so powerful and the child mattered so much that she was willing to endure the pain of loss to have simply 9 months together.
Another person’s dad was always angry and they saw his anger to mean they weren’t good enough. They had a whole story attached to that when really, the dad felt profoundly inadequate that he couldn’t provide properly for his wife and children and since he felt like he was always failing, he lashed out. I’ll add by the way, I’m not condoning his behavior in any way, I’m simply pointing out that he was the one who didn’t feel good enough. My client took on his wounds subconsciously and made them their own.
Sometimes we learn the reason’s why and sometimes we don’t. When we don’t, we need to look at it from a different vantage point and contemplate what might’ve actually been going on versus the story we’ve told ourselves.
I bring this up now because your light is needed more than ever. It is no longer viable for you to pretend to be other than your luminous self. You came here to bring the light and in order to do that, you need to acknowledge yours first and foremost.
Maybe you’ve hidden from yourself the truth that either you truly are lovable, or that you are indeed good enough. Maybe it’s that you do matter or you are powerful. What faulty belief keeps circling your head or actions, obscuring the truth?
It’s so much easier to continue believing the lie and putting the blame outward versus having to truly look at what it is about you that makes you radiant. Discover the lie and own the opposite; when you do you become unstoppable. Then you can own the idea that maybe the Universe actually is on your side supporting you.
Can you be courageous enough today to start believing a new truth? Just experiment- for the next 30 days truly put everything into the new belief, including forgiving yourself, forgiving the past, and releasing all those involved. Then focus on what you do want to see. You may need to have a talk with your subconscious (click here to remember how), and truly be willing to see your light. In order to bring light to the world, you need to own yours first.
Now, on a different note but still on the same topic: in the last week many of you have asked me about some of the conspiracy theories out there. Here’s my perspective:
Some might well be true. I say "might" because who knows for certain. I will say for me personally, I've been choosing to feed the light versus delving into the darkness. I did a deep dark dive one evening weeks ago into all kinds of conspiracy theories and man it made me feel awful. I truly felt powerless and dark. That’s when I decided to choose the light. Yes the dark exists. We live in a duality so to think it’s all love and light is deceiving yourself, HOWEVER you can choose to be the light. I am choosing to bring more light and be part of the solution versus going deep into the darkness to fight it or feed it. The light is infinitely more powerful than the dark. The way to defeat the dark is simply to shine more light so it can’t hide, and ultimately dissipates.
Do I think that's possible? Absolutely. Remember, you see what you believe. I choose to see a world in which I have power. In which the Universe supports me versus bad guys always coming after me. Some will see the nightmare and some the beautiful dream. There’s room for everyone to co-exist. Which are you choosing?
To give you a perspective shift beyond what I wrote about 2 weeks ago, what if you see what’s happening now as the unconscious of the world falling apart? Where all the places people have been unconscious now coming to the light so we can become more conscious and thus, more powerful. Just think about it.
That perspective about the unconscious came from Matt Kahn as does this idea: “I help the world find peace faster by focusing on being at peace with myself.”
As I always remind you, it starts with you. Find what brings you peace and focus there. Open to new perspectives, release the grips of the past, and start a new story. The world is waiting.
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