Self-Forgiveness

Never underestimate the power of forgiveness; it’s a powerhouse!
 
The topic of forgiveness has been coming up more and more in sessions recently. Even though I've written about it a lot, there's always more to learn, and it's always a good reminder if you've forgotten; especially with both the holidays fast approaching, and the state of the world right now.
 
Forgiveness creates freedom for yourself. You can do it for your situation. You can do it for anything that's causing you distress and upset. You can do it to release and transcend the issue at hand.
 
There's nothing too small, nor too big that doesn't benefit from forgiveness.
 
It can be a simple, “I forgive and release myself for why ever I’m in this situation. I forgive and release myself for why ever I'm experiencing it.”
 
Or using the Ho'oponopono; which I love. As a reminder, it’s four lines that you can use in any order:
I love you,
I’m sorry,
Please forgive me,
Thank you.
 
You can detail it such as, “I love you self. I'm so sorry this is causing upset. Please forgive me for why ever we’re experiencing it. Thank you.”
 
You can change up the lines as well: “I'm so sorry we're going through this. Please forgive me for why ever we’re allowing it in our reality. I love you so much self. Thank you for helping me release it.”
 
Or just say the words without details, while thinking of whatever it is that's causing you distress, but saying it to yourself. (Read my previous blog with more information)

Here's an example of personal forgiveness from my own reality:
Recently while healing from Covid, I was frustrated that it was lingering and that I kept testing positive. So, one night before bed, I started doing deep forgiveness work. 
 
I started with, "I forgive myself for why ever I still have Covid in my space. I forgive myself for allowing it. I forgive myself for it continuing. I forgive myself for whatever I'm learning from it or haven't learned from it, that I'm still holding onto. I forgive myself for whatever benefit I'm getting from having Covid in my space. I forgive any negative payoffs I have regarding illness, or Covid itself. I forgive anywhere that it's getting me out of doing things. I forgive any old patterns of self-pity. I forgive whatever issues allowed me to be susceptible to it in the first place. I forgive Covid, and I forgive myself for getting it. I forgive and release anything and everything regarding Covid. I'm choosing radiant health instead.”
 
That’s a summary as I did a good 15 minutes of forgiving everything that came to mind. I meant it, I felt it, and I kept choosing wellness and healing. Lo and behold, the next morning I tested negative.
 
Now let me say, that I’ve been doing forgiveness work for years, so my response time is quick now. Don’t allow frustration if yours isn’t as fast as mine, keep at it.
 
Personal forgiveness can be used for any issue that’s negatively impacting you.
 
You can forgive yourself for anywhere that an old pattern is continuing, for holding onto a belief system, for still experiencing the world as unsafe. There’s no limit. At the end of forgiveness work, always add what you choose to see instead: peace, solutions, vitality, etc.
 
You have to be willing to take responsibility for, change, and release what no longer serves you.

​I recognize that for some of you it may start as just words, however if you can get feeling behind the words and feel the energy in your heart, it will expand the forgiveness even deeper. Words start the process of self-compassion and a willingness to let yourself off the hook for any “mistakes,” but if it stays just words, it’ll only take you so far.
 
You’re not perfect, you won’t do life perfectly. We all make mistakes, it’s part of being human. Can you forgive yourself for them and move forward, or are you choosing to stay in self-punishment and self-blame instead? Only YOU can free yourself.
 
Even if you’re doing forgiveness work because someone else is upsetting you or negatively impacting your reality, start with you; free yourself first. You’re not doing the forgiveness work for the other person, you’re do it for you. Because you want to set yourself free from the trauma.
 
Sometimes our greatest nemeses are our greatest teachers, so forgive yourself for bringing them into your reality. For whatever part of you drew them in; especially if it’s family. That requires consistency; it’s not a one and done.
 
When you add forgiveness as a regular healing tool, be prepared for miracles to occur. Give yourself that gift of freedom.
 
 
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(To learn more forgiveness tools and techniques, look at the "forgiveness" category to the right)

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