I want to talk about forgiveness again. Even though it’s been a topic that I’ve brought up multiple times, its power is unmistakable.
I recently had a lightbulb moment when I realized that I was still victimizing myself from an issue I’d been dealing with for about seven years. I was giving my power to one part of a situation versus not only taking my power back, but ultimately, forgiving myself.
I started doing forgiveness work every morning. I needed to forgive myself for going through it, forgive myself for blaming parts of the event and thus surrendering my power to it, and forgive myself for the level of physical pain it caused.
I forgave every physical body issue that resulted from that experience. I forgave myself for choosing that experience; recognizing I was doing the best I could at that time. Then I forgave all the explosive and harmful emotions that were below the physical repercussions. At that point, I realized it was my own rage, fear, and pain that had caused the bodily harm, not the event itself.
I forgave myself for my emotional trauma and all the pockets of stored pain and hurt that were stuck in my physical body. I forgave everything I could think of in regard to that situation; both speaking all I forgave, and using the Ho’oponopono.
Most importantly, I forgave myself because I was keeping the pain alive. No one else was doing it to me. I was blaming and causing my own continued suffering. In my anger over the issue, I wasn’t allowing in the healing, nor the transcending, of that pain. The anger and righteousness were winning. And frankly, one can’t heal in that place.
After each forgiveness session, and it only took me less than five minutes a day, I would take a moment and let in and receive the energy of forgiveness. I would see it filling up all the places where the trauma and pain were released. I then chose what energy I wanted in its place, for example: love, healing, joy, etc.
The more I forgave, the more the remaining emotional pain lifted and became a non-issue. All the charge was gone. The more I forgave, the more the answers came for how to heal the physical ramifications of my emotional trauma.
I no longer blame myself or what I went through. Now my focus is solely on healing and finally laying the past to rest. I’m there emotionally, and almost fully there physically.
While this example was on a physical, and ultimately emotional, level, it can be applied to anything.
What in your life are you still allowing yourself to be victimized by? And can you take your power back and allow forgiveness in? You may not be able to forgive the actual event, especially if the event was horrific, but can you forgive yourself for going through it? Can you forgive where it’s held you down and prevented the fullest range of your light and sparkle? Can you forgive yourself for experiencing such pain and hurt?
If it’s difficult, have the compassion with yourself that you would give to a little child or a baby animal. You wouldn’t scold them for not knowing differently, why punish yourself?
Forgiveness sets you free. It doesn’t negate what happened, it’s not for any other parties involved, it’s for you. Your freedom. Your freedom from suffering and pain.
Give yourself that gift and release the past. It can be too heavy a burden to keep carrying. A brilliant future awaits.
Me, Tina Germain, just sharing ways to make you the best you can be!