I don’t know about you, but I have been triggered lately! Like, meltdown, panic attacks, triggered. Thankfully I just read the newest blog by Laurie Johnson, click here, that explains the intense energies going on.
I will say, before doing that, I really needed to practice what I tell you all and so, here’s what’s helped me tremendously. May it help you as well!
1: I took my favorite- Bach Flower Remedy Elm.
Those of you who've been following me since the beginning know I swear by it. It's for when you feel overwhelmed. 4 drops in water, chug, 4 more drops in a glass of water, sip. And I actually needed three doses back to back one day to get calm. It works brilliantly.
2: Ground yourself.
Yes, I will be that one person who is always bugging you about this, and I can’t stress it enough. When you’re ungrounded, everything gets amped up and you can’t think straight, nor can you respond appropriately to what’s in front of you. Ground, ground, ground!!
Here are some helpful reminders:
Meditation for Grounding
Meditation for Safety
The Power of Being Grounded
Really it should be number one but we forget sometimes don’t we? Breathe. Call your energy into your body. Call it back from the future. Call it out of your to-dos. Breathe. Feel into your feet. Feel yourself sitting on your chair/bed. Feel gravity. Breathe.
4: Mantra yourself.
I had a steady stream of, “I am safe. Everything is ok even if it’s not perfect. If I make a mistake, it can be fixed. I have more than enough time; there is no need to rush. Everything is falling into place in its Divine timing. Everything is working out in my favor. I am Divinely supported. I can trust that I am safe.”
5: Use EFT or tapping.
YouTube it, it’s fabulous. Literally just tap all the points while speaking your discomfort/panic/fears and keep going until you start to be able to say things like, “I’m willing to let this go. I’m willing to see this differently.” Email me if you need more detailed help.
6: Notice if it’s you in present time that is freaking out or if you are being triggered from an event in childhood/adolescence.
For me, I was totally in childhood. I found deep wounds that were churning up to be healed. I had to acknowledge my inner child and her fears etc., then talk to her, let her vent, and hold her to help her feel safe. I also had to consciously release a pattern of behavior I always thought was mine, but saw clearly that I took on from one of my parents. Their way of reacting was one I had adopted as my own because it was what I saw and experienced. A light bulb went off as I realized an emotional response and belief I had been living wasn’t mine at all!!! My 6 year old had taken it on as truth. So I needed to separate out from that, release that belief, build a new one, and have incredible compassion for myself: both in present time, and at age 6.
Which leads to:
7: Ho’oponopono yourself and the situation/person.
I needed to do this for me in present time, for my 6 year old self, and for the parent who triggered me. Not from a place of blame, they were doing the best they could and you might’ve been a sponge. But you’re not a victim, you learned something. Take your power back, and forgive. Now if we’re talking abuse, that’s a whole nother issue and not something I am addressing in this. I am talking about the beliefs and patterns of behavior we take on from our parents without even realizing how deeply we do it.
Taking Your Power Back
8: Make a new choice.
I needed to choose a different response in the moment versus what I had been trained/conditioned to do. And that takes conscious awareness. So you need to pause and ask how you want to respond in present time, without responding from a programmed habit of behavior.
9: Put on soothing music and talk to yourself.
Talk to your panic. Ask it what it needs to say or vent. Then listen. Let it be irrational with non sequiturs. Journal it, speak it- get it out of you.
And remember, you are not your body, you are not your panic and fear.
Yes, that’s right- just stop. Stop all doing, stop all planning. Stop and take a reprieve. Even if there’s so much to do, stop. That was my mistake last week. I didn’t stop. I kept pushing through it and guess what? It got worse. Until I stopped. Until I cleared time in my calendar for me. Until I demanded healing time for myself. No one was blocking me, I overscheduled myself. No blame, again, it’s on me. Boundaries!!! So I claimed some and stopped. Once I did, anytime the anxiety came up again, it was easier to move through.
11: Accept and allow.
If you try to make it go away or judge it as bad or wrong, it’s gonna stick like glue. Accept yourself fully, even when you’re an emotional mess.
12: Ask for help.
From your unseen team of helpers (Higher Self, guides, angels, etc.) and from people in the seen world. Build a support team you can rely on when you’re not neutral enough to help yourself. I know I needed that!
Now I won’t lie and say the anxiety is gone because it still pops up occasionally, just much less. Reading the blog I referenced at the beginning helped tons to understand the greater energetic shifts happening in the world. Also, I am taking my power back and being in present time as much as possible. I have the tools to more elegantly move through any more panic moments versus letting them control me. Until then, I am being extra gentle with, and not pushing, myself. I am good exactly as I am, as are you. This too shall pass.
Me, just sharing ways to make you the best you can be!